I stood at the grave of my parents with my sisters and my daughter.
Yes. I have something to say.
I read the Eulogy I had written.
I knew my sister Janice thought I wouldn’t deliver based on my track record.
Hello all. Thank you for coming.
To quote an artist I love: “Your bodies may be gone but we’re going to carry you in. In our minds, and in our hearts, and our souls. And maybe we’ll get lucky and we’ll all meet again.”
Over the last few weeks our hearts and minds have been filled with visions of you both.
Although your vessels are gone, you are both so much alive in us all. In our thoughts, our words and our deeds. You’ve achieved immortality in your children… and their children.
And we all have the wonderful children to prove it.
Just like all of the home movies we still have. We can watch them anytime we want. I watched some the other night. You were both so alive that I could almost touch you both.
But only almost. And I won’t be able to anymore.
I want you both to know that every time we did anything, we saw you both in front of us. Your appreciation and love accompanied us every step down the road, and our lives were always shaped by your teachings and values.
Others greater than I will eulogize you both, but none of them will ever have the sweet pleasure that my sisters and I have had to feel the gentle touch of your hands in ours.
To merit your words and warm embrace that was reserved… only for us.
To see your smiles and hear your laughter, told us so much.
But those are no longer. Only in our memories.
There is so much to say about this wonderful family that has come to Earth through both of you. We will share our stories as long as we all can draw breath.
I once asked you both, “What was the key to a happy life?”
Mother you said, “Do everything in moderation. Moderation is the key to a happy life.”
I turned to my father and said, “Dad?”
He replied, “Anything worth doing is worth overdoing.”
Well, we always went big, and our family is rich in history… and most of all… love.
Anyway, rather than go into every wonderful Christmas we ever had, or the summers at the shore, or how my mother was the greatest person I ever met, or how my Dad taught me how to ride a bicycle, or drive a car, or taught me how to read, or taught me how to catch a fish, or how to talk to girls, or art, or music or everything that is essential to living in this world and being a better person, and moving us all forward as a family.
You’ve both done all of that and so much more.
More than any words can ever describe.
I’m not done yet…
My sisters and I are left with no alternative.
Janice. April. Gabrielle.
And my only daughter… Lorelei.
We will say goodbye to you, Mother and Father. And we will ask that you rest in peace.
I know you will think about us all down here and miss us.
We will always love you both so very much, and we will never, ever forget you.
You both are all of us.
And we are you…
Until the white wings of death scatter our days.
I will leave you all with this:
“Life is fleeting and fragile.
That’s it. That’s the eulogy I wrote for my parents.
I read that at their burial.
I always felt like I failed them both my entire life. But I always loved them.
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