Dating and Relationship Advice – 10 Tips On How To Prevent Cheating In A Relationship

Cheating on your partner, it would seem, has become an accepted part of having a relationship, but it shouldn’t be. Cheating hurts and it betrays a trust, and there really is no excuse for it. But, cheating is often a symptom of a deeper problem in a relationship, so here we explore some of the things that can be done to prevent cheating in a relationship:

1. Understand and agree on the boundaries

What constitutes cheating can vary from person to person. Is it OK to dance with another person, kiss a person or give them a hug? Or, to your partner, does this mean that you have cheated? There needs to be a clear understanding of what cheating means to each of you, and then there can be no mistakes.

2. Be best friends, as well as starry-eyed lovers

It’s important to be good friends, as well as lovers. You need to be able to talk to one another openly or you will find that some things are being kept a secret.

3. Learn to grow and change together

Couples need to be able to grow, in their right, and together. Everyone needs new challenges and new opportunities, so pursue those together and no one will feel the need to go elsewhere to broaden their horizons.

4. Make staying faithful a no brainer

The best defence against cheating is to make the relationship so great, that your partner has too much to lose by cheating. Communication is the key here, talk to each other about what you want, and make sure that you take account of each other’s needs.

5. Keep things interesting and try new things together

Boredom is often cited as a reason for cheating, so keep things interesting and try different things. This is not just restricted to being adventurous in the bedroom! It also means going out to different places, taking up new hobbies and even changing the channel you watch on TV.

6. Be there for each other and listen

You’ve heard it before: ‘My wife / husband / boyfriend /girlfriend doesn’t understand me’. That is as much a symptom of not listening, as it is about not understanding. Listen, when your partner says ‘let’s do something different this weekend’, or they could be doing something different next weekend with someone else.

7. Don’t take your relationship for granted or you can find yourself surprised, and alone!

Don’t assume that your partner is happy and never assume that nobody else would put with them! Just because you would never consider living apart doesn’t mean that they feel the same way. Taking someone for granted is a sure way to finding yourself surprised, and alone.

8. Don’t be too controlling

Complaining, nagging and criticising can all add up to an unhappy relationship. You are in a sharing partnership and no one of you should be controlling the other. If you are trying to control your partner, you might find that they suffer in silence, until one day, they go elsewhere for solace.

9. Be sure to let your partner know that they are appreciated and loved

You may well love your partner, care about them and would never want to be apart from them. But, when did you last tell them that? It’s about taking things for granted again, so don’t assume that your partner feels loved, tell them that they are.

10. Don’t cheat on your partner!

Cheating means different things to different people, as we have already said. Men, in particular, are very sensitive to what they might see as cheating and, even if it’s only emotional, their way of hitting back can often be cheating in revenge. In the long run, no one wins by cheating. It is far better to just be honest.

Do you have some other relationship advice and tips on how to prevent cheating in a relationship?

 

 

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Tales of Rock – Abba

Abba, the most popular group in the world in 1977, has a palindrome for a name. The group’s name was actually adapted from the first letters of the group’s members.

Agatha Ulvaeulus, Bjorn Ulvaeulus, Benny Andersson, Annifrid Andersson

When Abba first began singing English lyrics, they had to learn the words phonetically since none of them spoke English.

As of 1978 the group became the largest grossing export of Sweden. Volvo was number two!

ABBA’s record sales figure is uncertain and various estimates range from over 140 to over 500 million sold records. This makes them one of the best-selling music artists. ABBA were the first group from a non-English-speaking country to achieve consistent success in the charts of English-speaking countries, including the UK, Ireland, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, South Africa, and on a lesser scale, the US. They have a joint record eight consecutive number-one albums in the UK. The group also enjoyed significant success in Hispanic American markets, and recorded a collection of their hit songs in Spanish.

During the band’s active years, Fältskog & Ulvaeus and Lyngstad & Andersson were married. At the height of their popularity, both relationships were suffering strain which ultimately resulted in the collapse of the Ulvaeus–Fältskog marriage in 1979 and the Andersson–Lyngstad marriage in 1981. These relationship changes were reflected in the group’s music, with later compositions featuring more introspective and dark lyrics in contrast to their usual pure-pop sound.

After ABBA disbanded in December 1982, Andersson and Ulvaeus achieved success writing music for the stage, while Lyngstad and Fältskog pursued solo careers with mixed success. ABBA’s music declined in popularity until the purchase of ABBA’s catalogue and record company Polar by Polygram in 1989 enabled the groundwork to be laid for an international re-issue of all their original material and a new Greatest Hits (ABBA Gold) collection in September 1992 which became a worldwide smash. Several films, notably Muriel’s Wedding (1994) and The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert (1994), further revived public interest in the group and the spawning of several tribute bands. In 1999, ABBA’s music was adapted into the successful musical Mamma Mia! that toured worldwide. A film of the same name, released in 2008, became the highest-grossing film in the United Kingdom that year.

ABBA were honored at the 50th anniversary celebration of the Eurovision Song Contest in 2005, when their hit “Waterloo” was chosen as the best song in the competition’s history. The group was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in 2010. In 2015, their song “Dancing Queen” was inducted into the Recording Academy‘s Grammy Hall of Fame.

In 2016, the members of ABBA announced an upcoming project in 2017.

I never really liked this group but my father loved them after seeing a woman he liked dancing to the song, Dancing Queen at a corporate party. He had the hots for her and ended up having an affair with her. The fucked up thing was he always told my older sister Janice that the song made him think of her because she liked to dance. (Bold faced lie) But I knew the dark truth behind his love of the band ABBA. Janice loved my dad and she was his favorite out of all of us because of her absolute blind adoration for him. So they bought their albums and listened to that shit all the time. But I know when my dad was loving the song, I Am The Tiger, he was thinking about his mad desire for this woman he worked with and sleeping with at the time in the wake of his last affair.

I never liked this group but I kind of liked Frida’s solo song here. Seems appropriate.

 

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