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When it comes to matters of the heart, we always want to make sure that we’re made to feel special. We’ve all been exposed to the wonders of love in some way, shape, or form. We’ve seen it depicted in those blockbuster movies about the boy doing whatever he can to sweep the girl off her feet.
We’ve read about it in those romance novels about how she’s torn with choosing between her best friend and the guy she’s just met. We’re all familiar with these amazing narratives that revolve around love and we are led to believe that we’re all destined for the same kind of special narrative in our lives as well.
We dream of someday meeting that one special person who’s going to turn our worlds upside down (in a good way). We want to be able to meet that person who just happens to right every little wrong in our lives. But unfortunately, the search isn’t always going to be so easy for the vast majority of us.
Some people go years and even decades having to endure a series of heart breaks before they finally get things right with the right person. It really takes a perfect combination of two distinct individuals who love each other and who are compatible enough to make that love work. That’s a lot easier said than done.
So if you’re lucky and privileged enough to stumble onto this kind of relationship, you have to make sure that you don’t let it go. You never want to waste the opportunity of making a perfectly good love last a lifetime. You don’t want to end up regretting having lost your one chance at finding true love with someone.
And at the end of the day, one of the major keys to sustaining a lifelong love with someone is intimacy. What is intimacy? It’s essentially the emotional, mental, and physical closeness between two people in a relationship. The more intimate you are with one another, the more that you bridge the distance between the two of you. Love was never designed to be simple and easy.
Relationships are never meant to be so relaxed. You’re going to encounter your fair share of hurdles and problems. You’re going to have a few challenges along the way. But the closer and more in-sync you are with one another, the easier it’ll be for you to overcome whatever challenges you face in your relationship.
So how can you tell if you’re in a deeply intimate relationship with someone? Well, here are a few signs that you could look out for:
1. Neither of you try to change one another.
You love each other unconditionally. You don’t put filters around yourselves. You don’t wear masks. You don’t try to be anyone other than who you really are. And you’re still loved. You don’t really feel compelled to be or act a certain way – because your partner is always making you feel like you are more than enough.
Your partner is always assuring you that your genuine self is as lovable as can be. You don’t try to treat each other like science experiments that you can alter and manipulate to your liking. You love one another without reservations. You see each other’s flaws – and you are accepting of them.
2. You make each other better human beings overall.
You really push one another to be better. You really inspire the best out of each other. You know that you’re both better people overall just because you are in a relationship together. It’s as if your love for one another somehow drastically improves your class as a human being.
3. You share similar worldviews and principles.
Of course, a lot of compatibility lies in being able to see the world through similar lenses. The less that you disagree about fundamental principles and moral convictions, the less friction there will be in your relationship as a whole.
4. You consistently have deep and meaningful conversations.
You both know that the real key to being able to connect to one another is by having open and honest communication. And you’re not just talking about the kind of communication that centers around gossip or shallow social commentary. You get really deep about the stuff that you talk about. You tap into your feelings and emotions and you bring all of them out into the open. You lay yourselves bare with one another.
5. You are both incredibly independent.
You aren’t co-dependent and that’s absolutely key in developing an intimate relationship. A lot of people will falsely believe that intimacy means constant attachment and reliance. But that’s not true.
If you stay too reliant on your partner, you place a lot of unnecessary pressure on your relationship by not giving it the space to breathe. Real intimacy is built when two people are independently in love with one another.
I hope this was helpful. I’d love to hear your feedback on this subject.
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