Want to add some spice to your existing relationship, then go on a mystery date and get ready to reap the benefits. Women love surprises, they like mystery, and they like it when their man cares enough to plan a day dedicated to them. Now I am like you, I am lazy, and after I have been in an established relationship with a girl and I already know the sex is there when I want it, why do I need to go to the trouble of having a mystery date? You do this to keep her interested in you and make her fall in love with you all over again. Why am I talking like you need to already be in an established relationship to have a mystery date? Well you don’t have to be, but it’s a little more difficult to pull off on the first date or two then it is after a few months.
Let’s explain what a mystery date is. It consists of a date where you say, “Babe, I’m taking you out friday.” She may ask, “Where are we going?” To which you respond, “Not telling, this is a mystery date.” And this is about all the details you will give her. You plan out the evening and she spends the rest of the week dreaming up what you possibly have in store for her. Too easy.
Now there are 2 levels of mystery dates you can take your girl on, let’s examine each one. You will soon see why you won’t do a mystery date at the beginning of a relationship.
This is the only time you can get away with a mystery date on a first, second, or third date. It’s simple, “Hey I’m taking you out on Friday,” she gets excited because you don’t tell her anything else, you plan the evening, it can be dinner, trip to the zoo, picnic at the lake. Any basic date. The only thing about this is you don’t tell her. Maybe mention what kind of clothes she should wear, but you could leave it up to her and then pack a sweatshirt if your plan is to have dinner under the stars.
This level of mystery date involves a bit more planning, but it will be a lot more fun for your girl. This has you planning out every detail of your date and usually involves two or more places of interest. Start off by telling her to block off an entire day, such as Saturday. It’s best to come up with a location that is a little out-of-the-way, so you can build up the suspense of the drive. Tell her nothing, in fact if you have access to her clothes, pick out the clothes for her to wear. Everything from casual wear for if you are going to hang out down town or at the zoo, something fancy if your date will take the two of you out at night, or even some sexy lingerie if you plan on staying the night together. The point is to have everything ready for her, so that she will feel comfortable with letting you take charge. This is where the details are important. Say you plan on taking her to the city, going to the local zoo, then to the hotel to change and go out on the town. If you pack her bags for her and she forgets her hair straightener, she will not feel sexy when going out because her hair, “Isn’t perfect.” And it can really bring down the evening. The point of all of this is to show that you care because you dedicated your time and effort to plan a day just for her. It really does not matter what you do or the amount you spend, just that you took the time for her.
Like any good plan, the success of a mystery date lies in the execution. It all starts with planning. You must decide where and when you’re going. You must call ahead to get tickets and reservations. If you need access to her clothing, you need to plan ahead to either have her roommate let you rummage through her items before your date, or steal a piece of clothing or two from her each time she sleeps over. This is not something you should plan the night before.
All your planning would be for not if she is not excited by your idea of the mystery date, so we are going to make it fun for her and make it feel as though she is in control. We can create the element of surprise through predetermined courses of action and a little simple magic. Let’s say you have decided that you will be taking your girl to the local concert at 1 pm. At 4 pm you will take her back to the hotel room where you will shower and change, out to dinner at 6pm, and then night life and dancing, before heading back to the room to end the night.
To spice things up, we are going to create three scenarios for your girl to choose from. Have her pick from three envelopes, inside each envelope have, “City Date” written inside of each. City date refers to your plans to go downtown. Just make sure she does not see the other envelope. What you have done is create an idea that you have planned three separate dates for her, building her interest in you, when really you just had the one date planned.
Another idea is to lay out three outfits for her to choose. I would lay out a casual sun dress, something she would wear when clubbing, and lingerie. Based on what she chose, that would be the date. This way at most you would only have to plan two dates. If she chose the lingerie you know you won’t be going anywhere that night.
The key in all of this is to plan ahead. If you have to make reservations or buy tickets then ensure you make her pick the right date, or don’t give her an option, just take her. If you’re flexible then plan a couple different scenarios, it can turn into a mystery date for yourself as well.
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