Dating and Relationship Advice – 8 Things Insecure Guys Would Tolerate And 8 Things A Secure Guy Would Never – Part 2

An Insecure Man Could Be Manipulated And Choose Not To See It
In the beginning, it can be hard to see when you’re being manipulated. But as time goes on, you should find that things don’t add up, are getting worse rather than better, and the people who truly support you in your life are questioning what’s going on. At that point, someone who’s confident and sure of themselves would perhaps do some investigating and try to put a stop to what’s happening. An insecure person, on the other hand, would find it easier to stay in the dark.
Generally speaking, people who are confident are harder to manipulate because they tend to question things more. They say something if things don’t seem right, and don’t just believe what they want to believe, even if it’s the easiest thing to do.

Refusing To Pull Your Weight In The Relationship Would Annoy Anyone Who Has Some Self-Respect
For both people to be happy in a relationship, both people need to pull their weight. That goes for actual effort toward making the relationship work—including planning dates, making times to catch up, buying gifts etc.—but it also goes for life as partners. A self-respecting man probably won’t be cool with his partner not contributing in some way and letting him do all the work.
It’s up to each couple how they like to divvy up the responsibilities. Traditionally, women have taken care of the household and men have brought home the money. Some relationships prefer it the other way round, and many like to split the household chores because they split bringing home an income. An insecure person might be okay with taking care of the house, the bank account, the kids and everything else while the other lazes around, but a confident person wouldn’t.

An Insecure Guy Would Be Okay With Always Taking The Blame And Saying Sorry, Even When He’s Right
Someone who always has to be right might find it hard to settle into a relationship unless of course, they’re with someone who’s a little bit insecure, and a little bit scared of them. When you love someone, you should want the fighting to be over as soon as possible and should admit you’re wrong when you are and forgive them when they are. But an overbearing person can never admit when they’re wrong, and usually, an insecure person lets them get away with it.
If he always says sorry first even when he’s right, it could be because he’s too afraid to stay in an argument. If he accepts the blame for things he didn’t do wrong, it might be a sign that he doesn’t want to make you mad, and doesn’t know how to stand up for himself.

Threats And Games Have No Space In The Life Of A Secure Man
It’s never fun to be tangled up in mind games with someone you love. A partner who plays games with you on the regular, making you question them and yourself probably doesn’t have your best interests at heart, and might be dealing with a few of their own issues relating to insecurity. It’s easier to play those games with someone who doesn’t know how to stand up for themselves and demand better treatment because a confident person would put a stop to it sooner rather than later.
Threats shouldn’t be part of a loving relationship, and those who believe in their own self-worth know that. Generally, they won’t stand for being threatened, blackmailed or on the receiving end of any manipulative and unacceptable behavior like that.

If He’s Insecure, He Might Not Call You Out When You Constantly Belittle Him
Frequently belittling a person and making them feel inferior constitutes emotional manipulation and bullying, and has no place in a relationship. While a confident person who knows what they deserve is aware of this, and probably wouldn’t stand for it, someone who’s less confident could brush it off as a joke and put up with it for a long time.
Ironically, this kind of behavior can end up shattering the little confidence that a person once had, and reducing them to feeling insecure and vulnerable. It’s hard to put a stop to emotional manipulation like this after a while because it’s hard to build up your confidence one someone has hacked away at it for long enough. And although this behavior is often passed off as a joke, it isn’t funny and can cause serious problems to a person’s self-esteem.

A Secure Guy Wouldn’t Criticize Your Appearance And Would Expect You Not To Do It To Him
A person who is confident doesn’t do the whole body-shaming thing. If they accept the way they look and are proud of it, they’re not likely to sit back and let somebody else attack that part of them. If you tried to do this with a person who knows his own self-worth and the way he deserves to be treated, he would probably call you out on it quickly and let you know that it’s not cool.
In the same way, a person who’s secure with the way they look doesn’t usually feel the need to tear down other people so they have company down at their sad and insecure level. So if a guy is confident, he shouldn’t be picking on your body and trying to make you feel ashamed of it either (unless he’s just a jerk).

An Insecure Guy Might Let You Use Him For His Money Because He Thinks He Has Nothing Else To Offer
It’s fine to spoil your significant other if you’re in the financial position to do so. But spoiling and being bled dry are two very different things, and a confident man wouldn’t stand for the latter. It’s fairly easy to tell whether somebody is just sticking around for your money or not, and if they are, anybody with a little self-respect would put a stop to it.
But an insecure guy might be less inclined to do so because again, he thinks that he won’t be able to find anybody who doesn’t treat him that way. Having money doesn’t necessarily translate to confidence, so he might believe that his money is all he has to offer, and he can’t expect potential love interests to want anything more from him.

If He Has Self-Confidence, He Won’t Be Okay With You Denying The Relationship In Public
There are a few reasons why somebody might not want to take their relationship public. As long as that’s a mutual decision that both parties have discussed and are okay with, that’s fair enough. But it isn’t fair if one person is kept in the dark about it, and the reasons behind the decision are purely selfish.
If you refuse to acknowledge your partner in public because you want to give the illusion that you’re still single, or you’re embarrassed by him, he won’t take it well if he has any self-respect or confidence. Nobody deserves to be treated that way, and he would know that if he has those qualities. By comparison, an insecure guy would just be grateful that he has a partner, even if he can’t show it in public.

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3 thoughts on “Dating and Relationship Advice – 8 Things Insecure Guys Would Tolerate And 8 Things A Secure Guy Would Never – Part 2”

  1. I know you said “guy” but this can go both ways. I’ve seen it too many times and endured it in my relationships. My kids couldn’t understand why I left their dad, but my first two husbands were “psychological bullies” and I was too insecure at the time to stand up to them. I wasted a good many years in those relationships. Now that my children are grown, they understand I left because I knew I didn’t have the skills to “fight” back. I’ve since learned them. My third husband on the other hand is very secure. He “taught” me how to stick up for myself by inviting discussion. He never demeans me by criticizing. If he has something to say, he says it and invites me to do the same. Communication is a skill and self assurance can be learned. Very good post.

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