Dating and Relationship Advice – 25 Things That Matter To Her (Even If You Don’t Think They Do)

“It’s the little things in life that count most!”

There are a few things that women care about that men sometimes don’t understand, or miss altogether. These may be things that men do that they don’t realize mean the world, or things that men don’t do and don’t realize that they should have. So, even if you don’t think these things matter, it’s more likely than not that a woman is paying attention to what you do (or don’t do!).

HERE ARE 25 THINGS THAT MATTER TO HER, EVEN IF YOU THINK OTHERWISE

1. PAYING HER COMPLIMENTS

This could be a compliment on a new haircut, her nail color, or her clothing. “Compliments work best when they are forthright and not incidental… they must be genuine. The more specific they are, the better,” explains Psychology Today. Women keep track of all those little compliments, and often think about them when they’re having a bad day.

2. WHEN YOU TELL HER SOMETHING REMINDS YOU OF HER

This could be a book or a song. Women will remember when something you’ve seen or heard reminds you of them.

3. WHEN YOU BRING HOME HER FAVORITE FOOD

No matter what kind of food it is, women are always pleased that men remember their favorite meals and then go out of their way to bring some home.

4. SENDING HER WAKE UP TEXTS

A good morning text first thing in the morning means the world to her, because she knows that she’s the first thing on your mind when you wake up. It may not seem like a big deal to you, but it’ll have her smiling all day.

5. SHARING HOUSEHOLD CHORES

Pop-culture and sitcom television often shows men not doing their share of the household chores. When that’s all she’s been surrounded by, it’s a nice change of pace to know that men actually do take responsibility and help out around the house. Psychotherapist and life coach, Neeta V Shetty adds, “Doing household chores is a way of showing that you care for your partner. It is also an activity, which can help you spend time with each other in this fast-paced life.”

6. WHEN YOU TAKE A GENUINE INTEREST IN HER LIFE

Marriage coach Lesli Doares explains, “Taking at least twenty minutes per day to deeply focus on your partner (and their day) makes them feel so important and like you really do still care.” It’s important to a woman that her partner be interested in who she is as a person. When a woman finds a man who is willing to listen to her talk and take an interest in her life, it means a lot.

7. LETTING HER CONTROL THE RADIO ON LONG CAR RIDES

It’s such a silly, simple thing, but women will always remember when men let them take control of the radio, especially if your music tastes differ.

8. WHEN YOU DON’T HIDE THINGS FROM HER

Women take note of all the things that men hide about themselves, whether those things be large or small. So, when a man opens up and let’s a woman into his life, she’s going to remember every little thing he shares and cherishes his honesty and trust.

9. MAKING COMPROMISES WHEN YOU CAN

Relationship expert April Masini explains, “Lots of happy couples have differences in relationships — the trick is to learn which ones are more important to you than the relationship.” Women always remember when men make compromises and don’t stay headstrong in a discussion or an argument. Even when you don’t want to compromise, women always appreciate it when you do so.

10. WHEN YOU HAVE KEEPSAKES

Maybe you save all your ticket stubs from movies, or maybe you keep all of her lost hair from bobby pins. Women always notice when a man keeps something that reminds him of her, and it makes her feel so good.

11. WHEN YOU CONSULT HER BEFORE LIFE-CHANGING DECISIONS

Whether this decision be quitting your job or starting a new career, women always notice and appreciate when men consult them first.

12. WHEN YOU POST PICTURES ON SOCIAL MEDIA

Even if you aren’t really into using Facebook or Instagram, it really means a lot to women when you post pictures of the two of you together. It shows her that she’s worth showing off.

13. WHEN YOU MAKE SURE TO PLEASURE HER IN BED

Sex expert Coleen Singer says, “First and foremost, it means that you are giving her the kind of sexual pleasure she desires. It also indicates that she appreciates you taking the time and focus to do the things that you know drive her wild in bed.” Some men don’t know how to make a woman feel good in bed, so it’s important to her when you make sure that she feels good, too.

14. WHEN YOU HOLD HER HAND

A lot of men don’t like public displays of affection, so it matters to a woman when you hold her hand in public, or just while you’re walking down the street.

15. WHEN YOU ENGAGE IN A CONVERSATION SHE’S INTERESTED IN

Women always note when a man stays engaged in a topic that they don’t know much about. When you show interest in the things she likes, it matters to her a whole lot.

16. WHEN YOU’RE THERE FOR HER DURING TIMES SHE FEELS VULNERABLE

You may not know the right things to say to make it all better, but it matters to her that you’re there for her anyway.

17. WHEN YOU BRAG ABOUT HER TO YOUR FRIENDS

Women love to know that you’re proud of them. Bragging to all your friends that you’ve got the best girl around will be sure to make her pleased.

18. WHEN YOU APOLOGIZE TO HER WITH SINCERITY

A lot of men refuse to apologize even when they mess up. Women will always take note when you apologize and appreciate your humility.

19. OPENING UP TO HER ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS

When you open up about your day and your feelings, it can make a woman feel like you’re really connecting with her. She’ll appreciate that you trust her enough to be vulnerable.

20. COOKING BREAKFAST FOR HER

Even if you’re not very good at it, it means a lot that you’ll give it a shot and cook breakfast for her so she doesn’t have to.

21. LETTING HER BORROW YOUR CLOTHES

You know that you’re not ever going to get that T-Shirt back. You know it, she knows it, and you let her borrow it anyway.

22. WHEN YOU SING TO HER AND MAKE YOURSELF LOOK SILLY

Even if you have the worst singing voice imaginable, women love when men act silly with them and will appreciate even the worst-sung love song.

23. WHEN YOU GIVE HER SURPRISE HUGS

If you just can’t stand not being connected with her, you can show this through giving her a much-needed surprise hug. She’ll notice and appreciate the affection.

24. WHEN YOU TREAT HER PETS LIKE YOUR OWN

Even if she owns a snobby cat or a yappy dog, women appreciate that you treat her pets with the same love and care that you would treat your own.

25. TELLING HER ‘I LOVE YOU’ AS OFTEN AS YOU CAN

This one goes without explanation.

 

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Alicia – Bar Owner

After the 3 part Cherie series last week, I wanted to give everyone a little break from me and my girlfriend. So here’s a story from my past to entertain you until my next encounter with Cherie.

I had recently gotten divorced back in 2001 and one of my friends decided to hook me up with Alicia who was about 10 years younger than me and “Owned a bar”. (Love her already!) She drove a super nice car and wore clothes much nicer than mine, so I figured she was a little high maintenance or just a successful bar owner.

We meet at a party and she’s awesome, super pretty, fun, and says she LOVES TO PLAY POKER in Atlantic City. This is great because I said we should go play some time. We hit it off great and make plans to go the next weekend.

The next weekend rolls around and I meet her at her house (Borderline mansion), and I drive us down to AC. It’s about 45 minutes/miles to AC. We chat and have a great time the entire way. We also make the agreement that whatever we both win we split. If I win $500 and she wins $700 it’s $600 for the both of us.

We get there and I pull out $600 from the ATM to sit and play cash, strangely she doesn’t pull out anything so I assume she brought cash. Before we even make it to the poker pit she says “Let’s play some slots”…. Now I HATE slots and think they’re for suckers but I’m not above dropping a bill for fun so we sit down and I open my wallet. She snatches a bill…. $500 left… which after a couple of max bets is GONE… I say, “Lets go” and she says “Let me try one more time” and I go to check my wallet for anything less than a $100 bill…. she snatches another…. Now I’m down to $400.

Now I know damn well looking back I should have called bullshit right then and there but I was young and she was hot. I’ve always had a weakness for beauty.

She drains the hundred and we proceed to the poker pit. Right at the entrance I pull out my wallet to get my $400 to sit and like a fucking ninja she snatches $200 and says, “I’m gonna play slots while you play poker” and is gone before I can say anything!!!

I am seething mad but also a pretty good poker player.  I sit with the table minimum of $200 and quickly make back the $400 she took plus $200. She comes back like an hour later and says, “look what I won with that $200 and has a slip for $700!! I snatch it as soon as she shows me. I cash out my $800 and head to the cashier with $800 in chips and the $700 ticket from her. $1500 isn’t looking bad.

I cash everything and hand her $450… half of the $900 after I recoup my $600 that I withdrew. I’m met with “Whoa, Whoa, Whoa! Where’s my $750?!?!”

There was no explaining that we were splitting everything we WON and that I recouped my $600 and split the $900 that remained. Alicia’s screaming mad and keeps telling me that it’s not fair and I’m screwing her etc.

I have no clue what to do…. we’re in Atla,ntic City 45 minutes from home and she’s coming undone at the seams in front of god and everybody. This is the point I decide to nut up and just start walking to my car with her SCREAMING in tow.

We get to the car and it’s the longest most awkward drive home. 45 minutes of dead silence (which wasn’t that bad considering her yelling before!) and we reach her place. I stop and she looks at me and says “I hope you weren’t planning on coming in and getting fucked.”

Deadpanned, I reply “You’ve been fucking me all night, I think I’ve had enough.”

Come to find out, mommy and daddy owned the house, car and bar. Alicia was a part-time bar-back while going to school.

I hate my friends.

 

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