Dating and Relationship Advice – If a woman has THESE 14 qualities you should never let her go

EVERYONE gets to an age where finding a long-lasting relationship feels more important than flings and holiday romances.

Now, scientists have pinpointed the qualities that men should look for in a woman they want to spend the rest of their lives with.

Compiling years worth of studies on love and relationships, Business Insider has narrowed down the 14 most appealing qualities of women that men should look out for. How many do you check off?

She’s smarter than you

It’s always good to have someone that can challenge you intellectually, but studies find an intelligent partner can be so much more than that: it could protect you from dementia in later life.

Lawrence Whalley, professor emeritus of the University of Aberdeen, researches dementia. He says: “The thing a boy is never told he needs to do if he wants to live a longer life — but what he should do — is marry an intelligent woman. There is no better buffer than intelligence.”

She’s honest

This one is hardly surprising: honesty is the foundation of any strong relationship. And studies have confirmed that men want to have an honest woman by their side when they look for a long term committed relationship.

She has a positive outlook

Being around positive people is good for our mental health, and negative people will rub off on us. So it’s no wonder studies have found being with a positive partner is better for men’s health. Remember: the glass is half full.

She compromises with you

Psychologists of the UCLA studied 172 married couples for 11 years and came to a simple thesis – it’s all to do with compromising.

“It’s easy to be committed to your relationship when it’s going well,” said senior study author Thomas Bradbury. “As a relationship changes, however, shouldn’t you say at some point something like, ‘I’m committed to this relationship, but it’s not going very well — I need to have some resolve, make some sacrifices and take the steps I need to take to keep this relationship moving forward.”

The study found those willing to compromise more lead a happier relationship.

She laughs at your jokes

A big part of a relationship is having a similar sense of humour. When we know our partner finds us funny (i.e. they laugh at our jokes) we feel confident and positive in the relationship. But studies find it’s more important for men.

In 2006 a study by psychologists of Westfield State University, confirmed this suggesting that having a partner who thinks they are funny is more important for men than for women.

She has an open heart

A study by the University of Westminster suggests that women who are open, loving and able to talk about their feelings are seen as more attractive.

She supports your goals and pursues her own

It’s all well and good supporting your partner’s goals and motivating them, but studies find men prefer women who have their own goals and who aren’t dependent.

She has a good relationship with her parents

It’s commonly said that if you want to know what your partner will look like in 30 years, look at their parents. And studies show a good relationship with her parents can mean good things for yours.

Researchers of the University of Alberta studied 2970 people of all ages and saw a clear correlation between the relationship to the parents in their teen years and how their love life was going later on in life.

She’s kind

Science says that the keys to a long and happy relationship are kindness and generosity. In an interview with Atlantic, Psychologist John Gottman said a characteristic of a happy partner is that: “They are scanning social environment for things they can appreciate and say thank you for. They are building this culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully.”

She remains calm in fights and calms you down too

Everyone has arguments in relationships, but two hotheads competing against one another can blow things out of proportion.

Researchers of the University of California Berkeley and Northwest University followed 80 couples for 13 years and found that relationships last longest if the woman can calm herself during a fight and then calm the man down. Interestingly, the effect is not the same if the man is the one to calm down first.

She does foolish things with you

Studies find relationships last longer if the couple has the same idea of fun. So essentially: if she’ll party with you, go to festivals with you and loves the same comedians as you, you’re on to a winner.

She has a life of her own

Space apart is important for any relationship, and it’s been proven by a long term study of the University of Michigan. “When individuals have their own friends, their own set of interests, when they are able to define themselves not by their spouse or relationship, that makes them happier and less bored,” author of the study, Terry Orbuch, said in an interview with The Wall Street Journal.

 

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Tales of Rock – Jimi Hendrix’s Guitar Got Him Kicked Out of the Army

In a lot of ways, Jimi Hendrix’s 13 month long stint in the Army in the early 60’s was a lot like his later music career, by which we mean he spent most of it playing guitar, taking drugs and sleeping till noon. You may notice that all three of those things, while undeniably rock and roll, are generally things the Army frowns upon, which is why Hendrix was eventually discharged for, among other things, masturbating in a toilet.

Before we talking about anything else we feel it’s important to reiterate that nothing in that opening paragraph was made up and that yes, Jimi Hendrix was once busted jacking it something fierce in a dank-ass porta-potty by a man in military fatigues. While most normal places of employment would consider catching an employee stroking the sausage on the shitter a fairly understandable reason to fire that person, the U.S. Army apparently felt differently and forgave this transgression and dozens others during Hendrix’s short military career.

Along with overlooking him going to town on his dick while he was supposed to be on duty, Hendrix’s commanding officer didn’t seem to mind all the time she regularly found him sleeping on the job or sneaking out to go drink in bars.

While Hendrix was certainly punished for his thousands of mistakes, reports from his time in the Army note that virtually nothing seemed to deter his behavior and that he seemed thoroughly disinterested in serving his country. Which isn’t all that surprising when you consider the only reason Hendrix joined the Army in the first place is because he was given a choice at 19 of going to prison or dicking around in the Army for 3 years when he was caught stealing cars. In fact, when you think of it like that, it almost seems like Hendrix was intentionally acting out in the hope he’d get kicked out of the Army early, kind of like the plot of Police Academy with more guitar solos.

According to his official Army file, while it was a culmination of his dozens of antics that eventually resulted in his honorable discharge from the Army, yes the guy who polished his penis in a toilet was discharged from the military honorably, his commanding officers cited his constant guitar playing as a major contributing factor.

In fact, Hendrix’s obsession with playing guitar was such that one senior officer, Captain Gilbert Batchman, wrote in his official discharge letter that he genuinely suspected that Hendrix simply couldn’t function properly while thinking about his guitar. Which we’re wholly inclined to agree with considering how Hendrix literally carried a guitar with him wherever he went and once carried a broom around for a year as a child pretending it was a guitar when his family couldn’t afford to buy him one.

In the end, after just 13 months of what was supposed to be a 3 year stint in the military, Hendrix was discharged because it was agreed by everyone that they guy who slept on the job, frequently wandered off without permission and slapped his junk around at inopportune moments probably wasn’t “Army material”.

 

 

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