Dating and Relationship Advice – Is Your Relationship Failing? Here’s Why.

You Hold Grudges

Is Your Relationship Failing? Here's Why

It is important in relationships, of every kind, to learn how to let things go. If you continue to hold grudges with things that have happened and were discussed, your partner is not going to feel like they are supported or cared about. Let things go, it is the only way to move on.


You’re Being Too Needy

Is Your Relationship Failing? Here's Why

Loving to spend time with someone is one thing, needing them to be around you all the time in order for you to be happy is another. Neediness is not an attractive quality. The best kind of relationships occur when both people have a sense of independence.


You Prioritize Poorly

Is Your Relationship Failing? Here's Why

While it is important to have a life that is your own while also being in a relationship. You also need to make sure you are prioritizing your life to make sure that the other person feels the love and affection that they deserve. Make your life your own, but make them a priority.


You’re Paranoid

Is Your Relationship Failing? Here's Why

If you tend to be the type of person who always thinks that the worst is going to happen. Make sure that does not follow you into your relationships. If you constantly think that you partner is cheating or lying to you without any sort of proof, your relationship is destined to end.


You’re Trying Too Hard

Is Your Relationship Failing? Here's Why

The best kind of advice for any sort of life and relationship type of situation is to “be yourself.” If you try too hard and try to be someone who you’re not, but that maybe you think the other person wants you to be, you fake identity will show through.


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Renegade – 1978 to 1979 – Chapter 4 – Draw the Line

“Me? But I don’t know how to play guitar.”

“Yet. You don’t know how to play guitar… yet.”

(That is not a Sears Silvertone guitar. That is a semi-hollow body Kay guitar borrowed from a friend. But that is me at around 16 years old.)

One day we were in the basement working on some new tracks. One of the songs we really wanted to do was Draw The Line from Aerosmith’s latest self-titled album. I was a huge fan of Aerosmith and had gotten that album for Christmas.

We started working on the song, which wasn’t that hard. The only difficulty I faced was the last verse. The lyrics aren’t written down anywhere and it’s mostly just Steven Tyler screaming a bunch of nonsensical rhyming phrases. It’s incredibly hard to decipher what he’s saying, so I had to keep playing it over and over and listening very carefully to Mr. Tyler scream the final lyrics.

But eventually, a couple of my friends and I figured it out. The lyrics are here:

Checkmate, don’t be late
Take another pull
That’s right, impossible
When you got to be yourself
You’re the boss, the toss
The price, the dice
Grab yourself a slice
Know where to draw the line

You can hear the whole mess at the 3:16 point of the video below.

So that problem was solved. Now trying to sing it. I could sing, but I’m no Steven Tyler. Not by any stretch.

As we continued to work out the song, we came upon another problem. There is a point in the song where they do a musical break before that final onslaught of lyrics. While guitarist Brad Whitford keeps the rhythm going along with bassist Tom Hamilton, Joe Perry does a solo using a slide.

Jerry addresses the problem with Larry and me.

“Larry can carry the riff on bass, but I can’t play the rhythm guitar part and play the solo.”

“So what do we do?”

“I need another guitarist to play those three notes over and over until the solo is done and then I can pick it back up again. That’s when you sing that last bit.”

“Well, we can’t bring in another guy to play three notes in one song!”

“We already have the guy.”



“Me? But I don’t know how to play guitar.”

“Yet. You don’t know how to play guitar… yet.

(Smiling from ear to ear) Okay, Jer. I’m down. How do we do this?”

I still have my first electric guitar before I bought the Strat. It’s a Sears Silvertone. You can use that and I’ll show you how to play it. I’ll bring it with me tomorrow.”

“Okay… okay.

Oh my God! It’s a brand new world. I’m the lead singer of a rock and roll band and now I’m going to learn how to play guitar!

All my dreams are coming true!



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