Dating and Relationship Advice – 7 Actions It’s Better to Avoid When Fighting With a Loved One

It’s so easy to hurt a person with a word or an action during a fight. The resentment can linger for much longer after the fight is over, ruining the relationship.

We chose 7 things you should never ever do while fighting with your loved ones.

7. Don’t include other family members in your fights.

7 Actions It’s Better to Avoid When Fighting With a Loved One

Your fight concerns only the 2 of you and no one else. By drawing your parents into the conflict you risk turning a regular fallout into a real family mess. Even if harmony returns to your relationship, the other members of the family will most likely remember everything and will use that against you or your partner when given a chance.

 

6. Avoid violence.

7 Actions It’s Better to Avoid When Fighting With a Loved One

While fighting, people tend to show the worst sides of their character. Some, trying to prove themselves right, resort to violence. Don’t allow yourself or your partner to use violence, no matter how angry you might be with each other. The physical pain caused by a loved one will kill all the feelings that once bound you.

 

5. Don’t mix it all up.

7 Actions It’s Better to Avoid When Fighting With a Loved One

If the main cause of the fight is a pile of unwashed dishes, then let it stay that way. Do not remind your partner of all their prior wrongdoings — this is a way to turn a minor domestic issue into a big ugly conflict. In addition, your partner may have a logical question: do I need to continue a relationship in which there are so many demands?

 

4. Never ever talk about a divorce.

7 Actions It’s Better to Avoid When Fighting With a Loved One

When you say “Let’s divorce” during a fight, this can become the biggest insult ever. These words may hurt the feelings of your partner really badly. And the more often you say them, the faster the divorce will actually occur. If you love each other, never talk about parting.

 

3. Never leave the house in the middle of a fight.

7 Actions It’s Better to Avoid When Fighting With a Loved One

Simply leaving the house during a fight will only show how uncomfortable you feel staying under the same roof as your partner. Slamming the doors, running into the darkness, leaving the conflict unresolved — this all will make your partner think twice about your level of maturity. It’s way better to wait until you both calm down, and then you can discuss everything as adults.

 

2. Do not go to bed separately.

7 Actions It’s Better to Avoid When Fighting With a Loved One

By going to sleep separately, you show that you are not ready to make up. The daily routine, such as going to bed together, will ease the atmosphere and quickly resolve the conflict. You may end up lying back to back at first, but in the morning you will wake up in each other’s arms without the tiniest hint of last night’s fight.

 

1. Never fight in public.

7 Actions It’s Better to Avoid When Fighting With a Loved One

If you allow yourself and your partner to fight in a public place then, most likely, you do not respect each other or the surrounding people. Do not take skeletons out of your closet in public. It’s way better to talk about your issues at home.

 

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Tales of Rock – Chicago

The original band membership consisted of saxophonist Walter Parazaider, guitarist Terry Kath, drummer Danny Seraphine, trombonist James Pankow, trumpet player Lee Loughnane, and keyboardist/singer Robert Lamm. Parazaider, Kath, Seraphine, Pankow and Loughnane met in 1967 while students at DePaul University. Lamm was recruited from Roosevelt University. The group of six called themselves “The Big Thing”, and continued playing top 40 hits. Realizing the need for both a tenor to complement baritones Lamm and Kath, and a bass player because Lamm’s use of organ bass pedals did not provide “adequate bass sound,” they added local tenor and bassist Peter Cetera.

While gaining some success as a cover band, the group began working on original songs. In June 1968, at manager James William Guercio‘s request, The Big Thing moved to Los Angeles, California, and signed with Columbia Records. The band changed its name to “Chicago Transit Authority”. It was while performing on a regular basis at the Whisky a Go Go nightclub in West Hollywood that the band got exposure to more famous musical artists of the time. Subsequently, they were the opening act for Janis Joplin and Jimi HendrixAs related to William James Ruhlmann by Walt Parazaider, Jimi Hendrix once told Parazaider, ” ‘ “Jeez, your horn players are like one set of lungs and your guitar player is better than me.” 

Their first record (April 1969), the eponymous Chicago Transit Authority, is a double album, which is rare for a band’s first release. It sold over one million copies by 1970, and was awarded a platinum discThe album included a number of pop-rock songs – “Does Anybody Really Know What Time It Is?“, “Beginnings“, “Questions 67 and 68“, and “I’m a Man” – which were later released as singles.

Random Facts:

The members of Chicago made and appearance in the 1973 TV movie Electra Glide in Blue, starring Robert Blake.

The band Chicago were sued by The Chicago Transit Authority because that is exactly what the group originally called themselves prior to shortening their name to Chicago.

Chicago is the only band to make their record debut with a double album. Titled Chicago Transit Authority, it was released in 1969.

In April 1971 Chicago became the first rock group ever to play at New York City’s Carnegie Hall.

Chicago saw their first four record albums on the record charts at the same time in 1971. Unbelievable!

On a sad note, on January 23 of 1978, guitarist Terry Kath (known for his phenomenal solo on 25 or six to four) died of an accidental, self-inflicted gunshot wound from a gun he thought was unloaded.

He actually put the gun to his head and said, “It’s not loaded.” and pulled the trigger.

Sounds like suicide to me. Why did he have a gun on him anyway?

 

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