There are a ton of things you obviously shouldn’t‘do, like cheating or ghosting. But there are also some things you may feel bad about doing that shouldn’t make you feel that way.
1. Defining Your Relationship
Defining your relationship is a pretty terrifying thing, but you deserve to know if you and your partner are on the same page. If they make you feel bad about doing this at any point in your relationship, you need to kick them to the curb. It‘s not only fair to you, but to them, that you determine where this is going before you realize you‘re both on very different pages when it comes to your relationship.
2. Not Constantly Texting Your S.O.
There‘s this weird unspoken rule that if someone isn‘t texting you 24/7, they‘re completely uninterested. But that definitely isn‘t the case. Sometimes you get busy or the conversation just dies on its own, so you shouldn‘t feel the need to constantly force a text exchange with your S.O. all the time. If you forget to text them back a couple of hours later or don‘t hit them up for a few days, that‘s fine. You don‘t need to smother them with messages. They aren‘t going to assume you‘re suddenly done with them. And if they do, be honest with them about your texting style.
3. Spending Way More Time With Your Friends
Your friends were there for you before your S.O., and if the day comes, they‘ll be there for you after. Spending more time with your besties rather than your S.O. is not at all a bad thing. You still need to make time for your BFFs when you‘re in a relationship. More than likely, your S.O. will understand because they‘ll want to hang with their friends, too. But if they make you feel bad, tell them how it is.
4. Not Posting About Your Relationship on Social Media
Your relationship is your business and that‘s that. If you don‘t feel comfortable posting tons of snaps with your S.O. on Insta or raving about them on Twitter, you don‘t need to do it. Your S.O. can see this as you not wanting to tell anyone about them, but assure them this isn‘t the case. As long as they‘ve met your friends or family, they‘ll know that you‘re serious about this.
5. Disagreeing With Your S.O. About Anything
Arguments with your S.O. are bound to happen. As a matter of fact, a few minor squabbles are actually healthy for your relationship. It forces you to see each other‘s perspectives and find a solution that isn‘t breaking up. So if you ever disagree with your partner about anything, don‘t be scared to speak up for yourself. The two of you will learn a lot about each other by doing just that. Your opinions about a topic are just as valid as theirs, so don‘t feel like you need to hide your sentiments if you disagree.
6. Expressing Your Feelings
It can be tough to express your feelings in a relationship, no matter what stage you‘re in. You don‘t want to come off a certain way, so you often think it‘s best to hide them from your partner. You should never, ever feel bad about voicing your concerns about your relationship or how much you‘re in love with your S.O. However you‘re feeling, express that to your partner. We promise this will only strengthen your relationship, as the two of you learn to better communicate with one another.
7. Putting Yourself First
At the end of the day, you are your No. 1 priority. Yes, you want to always be there for your S.O., but your needs always come first. You should never feel bad for doing something that solely benefits your overall well-being, so long as it‘s not at the expense of hurting your S.O. Your happiness is the most important thing, so don‘t you ever forget that.
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