Dating and Relationship Advice: 3 Types Of Infidelity You Never Knew Existed

For most people in a monogamous relationship, making love to or kissing someone who isn’t your partner definitely counts as cheating. But what about fantasizing about a friend or acquaintance? Or lying about how much money you spend?

In some people’s eyes, doing those things would make someone an unfaithful partner. So, we talked to relationship experts to break down different types of “cheating,” and what to do if you think your partner is being unfaithful.

1. Emotional Infidelity

Think of emotional infidelity as the grown-up version of the awful micro-cheating trend that recently riled up the internet. Emotional cheating isn’t about calling your partner out every time they confide in a friend. It’s about getting your emotional needs met by someone who isn’t your partner.

3 Types Of Infidelity You Never Knew Existed

People often develop close emotional bonds with coworkers or friends they see all the time, because they have shared experiences that a partner won’t understand. Sometimes, your partner might not even realize they’re having an emotional affair.

Many people in relationships are specifically guarding against intimate infidelity, so emotional infidelity catches them off guard.

If you feel that your partner might be having an emotional affair, Stewart suggests talking to them about it kindly, without being accusing or mean. Say something like, “Hey honey, is something up with you? Things have felt a little off recently.” Approaching the conversation that way is more likely to get your partner to open up. Then you can work out why your partner feels more comfortable opening up to someone else and maybe move past it.

2. Boundary Crossing

For people in kink or non-monogamous communities, especially, breaking rules or boundaries set up by the partnership can count as a kind of infidelity. Rules can be something like: no kink scenes with men, no using toys with other partners, or no unprotected love-making with outside partners.

If one of the partners in a non-monogamous group chooses to break a pre-set rule, then that comes down to a violation of trust. Infidelity, at its core, is about violating the trust romantic partners have for each other — whether it’s between two people in a monogamous couple or several people in a non-monogamous partnership.

Like with any type of infidelity, the first step toward a solution is to talk to your partner. In the case of rule-breaking, I suggest being direct. Often if you ask someone directly, they will fess up because it’s too hard to lie in response to such a direct question.

3. Financial Infidelity

Financial infidelity might just be the only kind that doesn’t involve another person. It happens when one partner lies about how much money they have or how they’ve been spending it.

3 Types Of Infidelity You Never Knew Existed

That sometimes can involve another person — like if one partner has been paying for an apartment in another city because they’re seeing someone there — but doesn’t have to. It’s about the deception… the betrayal! When you commit finance infidelity, you’re being untrue about your finances with your partner. And you break the contract you had set up to be honest with each other.

WHICH ONE OF THESE HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED?

 

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