7. Give him a pregnancy scare
He is going to tell you to abort the child because he cannot leave his family. His reaction will determine where you stand in his life. And once he does so, you should not think twice before walking out of this hell. You are the one who will have to make the sacrifice because of a situation he put you in.
8. Ask him to file for divorce
Do not threaten to leave him. He has prepared himself for this long time before it popped into your mind. He will talk you out of it. Ask him to file for a divorce. Tell him you can’t continue going on like this. He is never going to do it, though he may keep on asking you time.
You’d know this better, because you might have already given him enough time.
9. Stop lying to yourself and everyone else
Going behind a man’s wife and kids for your affair isn’t worth it. You have to constantly lie to yourself and to your near and dear ones to keep this relationship going. And you cannot declare your relationship in public it has to be a hush-hush affair.
There are so many secrets you have to keep and for what? A relationship that has no future. You cannot go out in public, cannot introduce him to your friends.
He will never acknowledge you as his girlfriend.
10. Think about the kids
Think about what impact this news will have on the kids. They are not prepared for such a situation. Would they not hate you? Can you take hatred of kids, so to say? They cannot handle the trauma of having divorced parents and custody issues.
11. Tell the wife
The wife has the right to know who she married. Telling her will put you in a bad light but you cannot expect anything else. She needs to know, because her ignorance can encourage the man to do it again with someone else. Telling her will lift a heavy weight off your chest. He will probably not pull you in his life and will perhaps even bad mouth you. But the plus point is that you will no more be tied to that man.
12. Sever all ties
Free yourself from this affair. Tell him to never contact you again. Block his number and delete his contact. Block him from your social media accounts and you’re your common friends not to have you both together. Threaten to inform the wife if he tries to reach you.
13. Contact an ex
Having a friendly conversation with your ex reminds you how a real relationship felt like. It may not have ended on good terms but it was real. You will remember your old self again. Contacting your ex is just an attempt you save bits of yourself and not rekindle any old romance.
14. Tell your best friend
Don’t think about all the judging looks she will give you. In the end, she will support you and hold you together when all of this is over. You will need her the most when it all comes down crashing.
15. Get back to your old life
You have been leading a secretive life and must have lost contact with your old friends. Reconnect with lost ones and get your life back. He is not going to like this because it will expose your relationships’ vulnerability.
Go on dates and meet new people. Who knows where you find someone.
Tips to survive a breakup with a married man
You are blaming yourself. A part of you feels ashamed and guilty, but mostly you are in pain. You thought that you will have a happy ending but instead, you are left with a big hole in your heart. You feel exposed. It is because you were emotionally involved in the relationship. You need to pull yourself together. Here are ways to let go of a married man:
- Have your share of mourning. Let yourself grieve and take it all out once and for all
- Make sure it is completely over. Go to all extremes to ensure that he doesn’t come back
- Don’t blame yourself. Blaming yourself will only justify that you were the cause
- Have a friend as a shield. Your friend will ensure that you don’t do anything stupid
- Revive yourself. Bring back your old self that got lost when you met him
- Embrace your freedom. Focus on your life goals. Live your life on your terms. Breathe
It may sound painful at first, but it is totally not worth investing your time and life on someone who is already taken. Unless you are also in it for the fun part, it is best to end this affair as soon as you can.
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