Being in a relationship with a married man is something you can easily get pulled into given the undeniable charm and the maturity he possesses. He may say that you are the only woman he loves and that he is only married because of the kids. You too, feel that he is “the one” and justify that what you have is real. The world seems a great place when he tells you that this affair is a huge risk but he is willing to take it for you. And there, you are weaving dreams of a happily ever after.
The man is using you to fill the emotional and, possibly, the sexual void of his marriage while you are in love with him. Makes a disaster recipe for sure.
Boom! Sorry to break your fantasy.
The fact is that you are not in an actual relationship; he is having an affair with you. The man is using you to fill the emotional and, possibly, the sexual void of his marriage while you are in love with him. Makes a disaster recipe for sure.
Why do women get involved with married men?
Married men are more experienced than single men and know how to satisfy all aspects of a woman’s needs. Their maturity and experience in relationships attract women towards them. They have a way with words that will lure you towards them. Many women do not even know that their lover is married before they get into a relationship. On the other hand, a secret relationship with a married man unknowingly triggers your dark fantasy because of the thrill and the rush in it.
But there is a time when you need to wake up and the sooner it is, the better you will feel.
15 tips to stop dating a married man
It could have been some time since you have been trying to get out of this toxic relationship but your love for him and the thought of a happy ending is preventing you from doing so. Moreover, every time you take a stand, he comes with his huge list of excuses and somehow manipulates you to stay in. He woos you with his puppy eyes and begs you to forgive him. He may make a few promises too.
But that won’t last long, moreover, it would not change anything.
Remember, he is not the victim here, just pretending to be one. In the end he will choose his family over you. It may be painful to let him go, because you love him, but the fact remains that he is another woman’s husband. Here are 15 tips that will help you finally end the affair and let go of a married man.
1. Do a reality check
Come out of the world of extramarital affairs and come back to reality. Think about how bad an influence this relationship is. Think about what your life was and what it has become. Are you happy from within? Is this what you want, claiming your right on someone who is actually married to some other woman?
If necessary, make a pros and cons list. Don’t let this relationship ruin all the good things in your life.
2. Believe in yourself
Many women get into relationships with married men thinking that it is what they deserve. They subconsciously think that they are not going to find someone else and try to adjust with the situation. Such women convince themselves that they are in love while they could just be in love with the idea of being in a relationship. Believe in yourself. Tell yourself that the best is yet to come and you do not need to compromise.
Your future will be brighter than you think – you just need to be ready for it.
3. Think about your future
You are in a relationship that is doomed. Your future is at a standstill. Your youth is coming to an end and you are still unsure who you are going to spend the rest of your life with. Your let go of suitable men because you are hanging onto this relationship.
Future can only happen if you give it a chance. Think about it.
4. Look for the void
At times people get into relationships to fill up some other void. Identify the void that is eating your life up. Is it attention? Money? Or love? Do you really need to endure the pain of being the other woman to fill the void?
Think about how those voids can be filled without a married man in the picture.
5. Figure why you are always lonely
Holidays are the times you spend with your loved ones. It is a time of joy and happiness and is cherished for life. Did your lover spend his holidays with you or his family? When the world was going around publicly celebrating, you were left alone, even though you had your lover to celebrate it with.
6. Face it: You are like a mistress to him
Reality check – you are his mistress. You are the other woman in a married couple’s life. You can never take the place of his wife. He will never have kids with you. All you are doing is unwillingly breaking a family when actually the man is at fault.
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