Find Out How Often You Should Communicate to your Partner while Dating

How frequent should communication be with one’s significant other?

Find out how often you should communicate to your partner while dating

How frequent should communication be with one’s significant other? Should you speak with them everyday? Would it be better if it was done more than once in a day or is there a more relaxed rule in deciding what is ideal in situations as this?

To speak of communication, or any other thing in a relationship, it is important to remember yet again that what works for one does not work for all, and that every different relationship is special and distinct in its working.

Take for example a long distance relationship; communication in such would logically need to be daily, and in as many intimate manners as possible because of the distance barrier and the need to stay linked in spite of distance. So one would expect a couple in this instance to be on phone calls, video calls, voice notes and every other type.

That kind of relationship necessitates such regular communication, right?

Not exactly.

We’re talking about relationships here: logic does not always apply.

And in the instance where both partners are cool and in their logic, then it’s all fine and good!

So as for communication or any other relationship thing for that matter, whatever works for you and your partner is what you should stick to.

As a general rule though, consensus seems to sort of stipulates that you reach out to your partner daily, no matter how brief it may be. This is based on the belief that speaking with each other helps preserve the bond between you. That line of thought is actually has merits,

That being said, it’s also OK fine to be unconventional and to do your thing how you like and how you deem fit. You don’t have to contact your partner everyday if you both do not subscribe to that life.

The caveat here, and a very humongous one it is, being that you should look for someone who has no qualms with this.

If you are both cool with this and it won’t cause rifts, you are in a good place. It is you and her after all, and outside rules do not apply except you decide to adopt them.

To the question of how frequently you should communicate with your partner, consensus says daily but if you and your partner say some more relaxed routine is what suits you and paves way to the happiness you’ve always sought, then you’d be doing just as great, too.


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Sun Stories: Aishah – The Wages of Fear – Chapter 1

The tale of one woman’s paralyzing fear and how it became the greatest Sun Story ever told.

A new client came in recently. She goes to Temple University. We have so many Temple girls that come here. Aishah told me that she’s studying pre law. I’m pretty sure she’s a freshman, because she’s only 18 years of age.

She’s absolutely beautiful. Tall and slender. Model pretty with dark eyes, raven tresses and caramel skin. She tells me her father’s white, and her mother’s black and Pakistani. Apparently that’s a winning combination, because this child hit the genetic lottery.

She’s very sweet to chat with and I like her immediately. She buys a 5 pack of tanning sessions and I also sell her a bottle of bronzing lotion and a pair of protective eyewear. So she’s got everything she need to get tan!

She tells me that she just wants to get a little darker for her vacation to Costa Rica in a couple of weeks. She says despite her genealogy, she can still burn. I agree with her and ask her if she wants a stand up or a horizontal bed.

She strongly rejects the stand up and I show her to one of the lay down beds. I show her back to room 7 and explain the different aspects of the bed.

“400 watts in the face tanners, more UV A light than B to brown the face not burn it. 160 watts in the tubes. More UV B rays. The fan button’s here. You’ve got great melanin do you want to do the full 12 minute session?”

“Yes, please.”

“Okay, I put 5 minutes on the room for you to get ready and prepare and if you’re ready sooner, just hit the Start button and pull this hood down.”

Aishah grimaces slightly at the formidable machine before her. I step out of the room. “Okay, go to it Aishah. Thank you for choosing Sun Tanning Studios.”

I go back up to the counter and activate the timer for the bed.

I just go about my business around the salon. Five minutes later I hear the bed light and the fans running.

Then about half way through her session I see an abundant amount of UV light coming from her room. (They have 7 foot high walls but no ceilings. It’s to better circulate the air around the salon and cool the beds faster. So any difference in brightness you can see more light shining up out of the room than usual. (Normally means the hood of the bed has been opened mid session.)

I walk down the hall to room 7. I look up. Tons of light coming out of the room. I don’t know why the bed is opened because she’s only about half way through her session. I don’t care what the clients do in the rooms as long as they don’t break anything, but if you want really good results you keep the lid closed for the entire session.

I’m not going to say anything, and besides I’m busy doing other things in the salon to worry about it. Doing laundry, waiting on other clients, and cleaning.

When the 12 minutes are up, Aishah emerges from the room. She gives me a smile and thanks me. “See you soon!” Then off she goes.

Of course I google her and stalk her Facebook and Instagram. They are both pretty much private, but I can tell from a pic on her Facebook she’s done some modeling. She’s built perfect for modeling. I see she’s currently in a relationship. (boo hoo! Yea, like I have a chance!)

Next time she comes in I’ll have to ask her about why she’s not closing the beds properly  during her tanning session.


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