Although it is one of the hardest things for everyone to admit, the people we deeply love and care and the people closest to us can also sometimes be evil. One of those people can be your significant other. You try to fight it and you are constantly justifying him and his behavior, but deep down, you know he is not a good person.

It is hard to define someone as evil, but there are some warning signs and characteristics all evil people have in common, and here are some of them.

He is jealous and envious

One of the first things that can show you someone’s true face is the way they behave when someone around them is happy and successful. If you are involved with an evil guy, he won’t ever be happy because of something good that is happening to you. Instead, it will appear that he enjoys when you are going through some kind of misfortune. When I say he is jealous, I am not talking about jealousy of other guys- he is jealous and envious about everything you achieve. This guy will never support you nor will he believe in you, because he doesn’t want you to move forward and improve. Of course, this is something he won’t ever admit, but you’ll just see that disappointment in his eyes every time you accomplish something.

He is controlling

Most evil people have control issues. They know that they can’t be trusted and therefore, consider everyone to be the same. Therefore, they can’t entrust any part of their lives to another person, even if that person is their life partner. If you are in a relationship with an evil guy, he will have deep trust issues and instead of working on them, he will try to control every aspect of your life and personality. He is very much aware of his personality traits and considers for you to be the same, deep down.

He is dishonest

Although we all lie sometimes, what differs evil people from the rest of us is that dishonesty is their life style. Everything around them is a lie and they wouldn’t know how to function if they tried being completely honest. They are constantly trying to hide their true face and therefore lie habitually and pathologically. So, if you have caught your boyfriend telling you white lies once in a long period of time, this doesn’t have to mean anything. But, if he is always lying and sometimes does it even without realizing it, he probably has some deeper issues that cause him to behave this way.

He is never remorseful

The first thing that makes an evil person is evil is their lack of consciences. None of us is perfect and we all do some things we shouldn’t have done, but what makes us human is the fact that we are aware that something was wrong and we regret doing it. But, evil people rarely feel remorse. If the guy you are involved with rarely takes responsibility for his actions and words and never shows remorse, it is time you think about whether this is a person you really want to be with. For him, it is very important to keep a positive image of himself and apologizing and taking responsibility would make him less perfect and he simply couldn’t handle that.

He plays the victim

Instead of doing the mature thing and taking responsibility, evil people usually play the victim. It is quite hard sharing your life with someone who behaves like this, because everything is always your fault. This guy won’t admit that he is to blame about anything that has happened in your relationship. Even when it’s clear that some things are his mistake, he will do whatever it takes to try to convince you that you were the one that led him to behaving in this manner. Consequently, a relationship with this type of man leads you to numerous insecurities and self-esteem issues which is exactly what he wants.

He is manipulative

Evil people can appear to be the nicest and the kindest people on the planet at first. But, their goodness comes with a price. So, if you happen to be involved with a guy who constantly plays mind games and acts like he has multiple personalities, it is probable that he is trying to manipulate you into getting what he wants- that being sex, attention, money or just keeping you around for his ego. Of course, while doing this, he won’t have any scruples. This man will gas light you, will lie to you and will deceive you in all possible ways. When you are with this type of guy for a longer period of time, you start to wonder if you are losing your mind, because he manages to distort your perception of reality.


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Abby – The First 30 Minutes

In the first five minutes I learn that she’s actually interested in becoming an actress, loves dogs, and really wants to save anal for “real relationships” from here on out.

After Annabelle dumped me, I got talked in to online dating to get me out of my funk. (See:Annabelle – Guy Walks Into a Bar) Instead of bitching and moaning, I decided to just embrace it, and go out and meet women. I didn’t really lead people on. A couple of times at the end of the date I looked at them and flat-out said “We’re just not right for each other.” The first time I was blown away when she let out a sigh of relief and said, “Yeah. You’re right, we’re just moving in different directions. But huge thanks for being cool about it.” A fair number of random dates, fun fooling around, and general dating fun. Because I was really in it just to meet people and not hunker down at home and get depressed, I also had some utterly bizarre dates.

I spoke to Abby a couple of times online, but decided to meet and have dinner pretty quickly. She was funny, and sounded like fun. I got to the bar first, grabbed a drink and talked to the bartender. I actually let them know what was happening. Had enough time to drink half my drink, when she walked in. Happily, she looked better than her pic. Got up, introduced ourselves, nice hug, she sat down and belted down the rest of my drink. Okay… admittedly, not the strangest thing that happened to me that week. No big deal. The bartender comes over, and I ask her if she wants another. “Sure, but make it a double, but no coke. Just rum. Well, no rum. Just whiskey.” she says.

Interesting…. In the first five minutes I learn that she’s actually interested in becoming an actress, loves dogs, and really wants to save anal for “real relationships” from here on out. Oh, and she doesn’t like to do cocaine anymore because it really leads to her making bad decisions. Cool….. I’m now looking around the restaurant for hidden cameras. Another ten minutes, and we’ve talked a little about work, the crappy commutes, coolest client stories I’ve ever had.

Suddenly she looks me dead in the eye (bartender is within arms reach), and says “I’m going to the bathroom. You want a blow job?”

Thirty minutes in to the date. I check the bartender for an ear bud or body camera. Nope. Still no sign of hidden cameras or anything, the chick is just bizarre. The bartender is shaking his head “no” at me. I’m not against some fun freaky time on the first date, but in the first 30 minutes?? I decline. I order two more drinks (signal to slow it down). She disappears, comes back, and we talk for five more minutes before she slams her drink, leans over French kisses me and says “This has been fun! I hope to see you again!”. And bounces out.

The bartender comes over, and we just start laughing. It was SO FREAKING bizarre. I grab a menu, order some dinner. As I’m finishing my dinner drink, the bartender comes over and points at the door. Abby is sneaking back in the restaurant, and heading upstairs (split level place). I take my time finishing my drink, to see if I get any more bizarre tidbits to add to the story, but nothing happens. The bartender even went upstairs to check on things, only to find her doing a rail of coke by herself.

Bizarre blind date. Anal might have happened after the cocaine, but the blow job was offered in the first 30 minutes or so.


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