Why showing vulnerability might be the #1 superpower of the 21st Century

Today, we believe that showing vulnerability = weakness. At least, that’s when we believe mainstream media, or when we watch too many comic book movies.

When you dig a level deeper you’ll discover that showing vulnerability actually does something more profound.

You might have been lucky enough to have had a leader, that was able to show their vulnerability. It might be they said, “I don’t know, what do you think?”. It might be they actually asked for your help, or perhaps they shared their personal story of adversity.

The 7 words, “I don’t know, what do you think?”… are probably one of most powerful words that you as a leader can have in your arsenal.

Consciously you might not have picked up on it, but the vulnerability they shared, wasn’t meant to but them in the spotlight.

It was meant for you. It was meant to open you up. To connect. It was meant for you to join the game of connection.

Why is showing vulnerability so powerful?

  • It shows you are open to put other people first
  • It shows you are willing to admit you don’t have all the answer
  • It shows you trust other people
  • It shows you care more about the group than about yourself

Next time when you are in a situation that you don’t know the answer. Admit it to yourself. Then share it with others.

Showing vulnerability is an invitation to play, to build mighty things, and to create meaningful relationships with one another.


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5 thoughts on “Why showing vulnerability might be the #1 superpower of the 21st Century”

  1. I think that saying, “I don’t know; what do you think?” is not showing vulnerability, but showing that you are a thinking person who does not pretend to be a “know-it-all.” It shows confidence in your own intellectual abilities, as well as respect for the other’s intellectual abilities. I think vulnerability has to do with absolute trust in personal matters, i.e. emotional trust, rather than intellectual/thinking discussions. Trusting someone unconditionally means making yourself vulnerable to emotional injuries, don’t you think?

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