Cheating is the eternal pain for many people who want to experience a sincere form of love and some people feel completely destroyed after being cheated on. The truth is, cheating is not limited to men only – everybody does it.
However, most commonly, the label ‘cheater’ falls onto men (for whatever reason) and you can often hear the saying “All men are the same.” But are they? Thank God not.
While there are men who simply don’t know how to remain faithful (and while the reasons for cheating can be many) – one thing is certain: not all men cheat. And those who don’t are indeed different in many ways from those who tend to cheat and scour for excuses afterward.
Here’s how they differ.
1. Evolved way beyond their primal urges
Sexual attraction, the subconscious desire to reproduce, and so on, are primal urges that have been programmed in our brains for the continuation of the human race. And you might even hear that monogamy is not a natural thing for humans.
Whatever the case though, these men have evolved beyond all that and know that sex is basic, while the connection they can create with one person is much, much better. For these men, monogamy is a choice they gladly make.
2. Grown past the need to count their sex encounters
The insecurity that is booming from the men who cheat is the same that makes them think that conquering another girl’s bed will make them manlier. This is childish, though, and men who don’t like cheating know this. They have all the self-esteem they need and they don’t need trivial sex encounters to boost it.
3. Valuing their reputation
While cheaters build their reputation on being the ‘bad boy’ and the “object of desire” of many women, this is actually quite repelling and a thing that good men see as a complete destruction of one’s reputation.
The thing is, integrity is one of the most important traits a person should possess, and these men wouldn’t ruin theirs even if they could get away with it. They will either be with the person they love, or they would openly tell them that it’s not working out.
4. Never taking the easy way out
Men can be real cowards when it comes to simply stating if a relationship is not working or that they have fallen out of love. And some choose to cheat as an easy way out. That way, the other person will have the final say in it, and they will be free to roam.
However, good men will never choose this way – they will try to find a way to discuss the issues that trouble the relationship or simply confess that they don’t feel in love anymore and that it would be better if they went their separate ways. They don’t string their partners and they don’t act single while they’re still in a relationship.
5. Appreciating what they have
Many men take their relationships for granted. Well, not these guys – they appreciate the connection and the person they are with (otherwise, they wouldn’t waste their time on it). Good men know what it means to be with a person who is ready to give their best, and they like to reciprocate.
6. Respecting themselves and their relationship
Cheating on a partner means a lack of respect not only for the partner but for the relationship as a whole. And that, in turn, means a lack of respect for oneself. I mean, why would you get into a thing you are ready to degrade?
Men who don’t like cheating know that cheating is disrespectful to every element of the relationship they chose to be in and shows just how little they appreciate their choice.
7. Valuing love over carnal pleasures
Love is the highest form of connection, and good men know that there is nothing more important than love. Some fleeting experiences that can easily turn into bitter regret for nothing? Why waste your time on trying to feel good with a stranger when you have someone who you can be most comfortable with?
Men who don’t like to cheat will never feel satisfied with a quick and easily forgettable experience, especially if that means sacrificing all the feelings they have for that one special person in their life.
8. Cheating is a waste of time
There are so many ways to spend your time, and these men don’t see cheating as one of the options. The truth is, we are all so very busy – so why waste precious moments of your time doing things that bring no lasting enjoyment?
Good men like to spend their free time with the person they learned to love and share every experience with. Time is a treasure that we need to spend wisely, not on some pointless activities that lead to nowhere.
And if you have a man like this, know that you should NEVER think of cheating on him. Not only will this break his trust in you, but he’ll start perceiving you as something he’d never like to turn into (even if he forgave you).
If there is something that’s troubling you, these men are ready to work things out and discuss the issue. These men are mature and sensible, so it’s better that you learn to communicate with them on that level.
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