Marriage is a beautiful relationship between two individuals and its dissolution leading to a divorce can be painful for anyone.
However, it is all the more harder on women because of the cultural conditioning we have been brought up with.
It can invoke feelings of failure and loss, fear of unknown and discomfort of dealing with collective societal judgments.
These are all the more reasons that prove that women who decide to exit a bad marriage in spite of all these fears are extremely strong, capable and self respecting.
It also shows a very high level of self dependence and personal power explains Helen Fisher in her avant-garde book “Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage and Why We Stray”.
“This correlation between economic independence and divorce rate is seen in a host of cultures, where men and women are not dependent on each other to survive economically, bad marriages can end— and often do.”, states Fisher.
Writer/director Mark Radcliffe also has stated several compelling reasons that display that divorced women are much stronger and attractive than their counterparts in his articles. For reasons ranging from having the balls to walk away from something that isn’t fulfilling to having a deep knowledge of what works and what doesn’t work for them individually.
So ladies, if you have taken a bold step of exiting a marriage that hasn’t been fulfilling, know that you are far more courageous than you know.
Here, we have compiled a list of 10 awesome reasons that prove that you are the strongest and you deserve all the happiness in the world:
1) Having experienced loss and rebounding from it makes you a badass
Moving out of a marriage even if it was loveless and not right for you can still be extremely painful and disheartening.
It can sometimes happen that women think that it’s better to stay in a loveless marriage due to fear of society or other conditions but you are strong enough to move past that fear because you cherish your freedom and right to be happy over what other people would think.
This displays your resilience, courage and self sufficiency .All these traits make you extremely badass.
2) You had the guts to take a swing at love
A lot of people shrink away from the idea of marriage due to the fear of getting hurt. But you, at least had the courage to give your love a shot by taking a plunge into marriage.
It’s ok if it dint work out, at least you had the guts to go for something your heart wanted in the first place. That’s a very brave and courageous move.
3) You have the courage to be alone for the right reasons than to be with anyone for the wrong reasons.
You know that it’s better to be on your own, doing your own thing than being in a lifeless and loveless relationship. You have the strength to be happy on your own and you do not stay in a relationship just to have anybody stand next to you.
4) You know that a fulfilling relationship takes work
You also know that love takes team work and requires both partners to invest in making the relationship work instead of believing in some fairytale idea that everything takes care of itself in a relationship.
You know that successful marriage requires two mature and independent individuals who come together to support each other grow instead of being codependent and stifling each other’s growth.
You have a more mature and practical approach to love and marriage instead of having a childish candy floss idea of romance.
5) You have the courage to walk from something that isn’t wholesome and fulfilling
Your guts to walk away from something that wasn’t fulfilling and wholesome display the kind of standards and principles you have.
You had the balls to stand up and say that this isn’t what I want and moved on and faced the world alone. That takes a lot of incredible power, girl!
6) You’ve humbled by recognizing and learning from your experience
Every experience in life teaches us valuable lessons about who we are and what we want from life. This kind of self awareness is extremely important as it bestows a person with a humble and yet a very confident self esteem.
Infact most of our failed relationships are great platforms that have provided us with this extremely useful knowledge of what our needs and non negotiable are in our relationships.
And this knowledge can help us to choose our future partners wisely.
7) You have a deep knowledge of what satisfies you emotionally and sexually
Break ups always leave you in an introspective mode where you try to find out what went wrong and what the learning from your experience is.
The result of this activity is that it opens up a doorway for profound insights into your own likes and dislikes, preferences, desires and non negotiable.
Going through a divorce (as painful as it might feel), also means that the entire process has helped you immensely to be more self aware.
So, now you have a deep knowledge of what satisfies you emotionally and sexually and that’s a very rare trait for both men and women, because a lot of people don’t take out the time for this kind of introspection and self awareness.
8) You know what losing love feels like
You have experienced what losing love feels like and you would also make every effort to keep it from happening again.
You would be more willing and open to have tough conversations that are part and parcel of every relationship.
Infact most of the relationships fall apart because people avoid these tough conversations. But you wouldn’t run away from this and actually encourage your partner to have those tough conversations that can strengthen the relationship.
9) You live your life to the fullest
Your choosing to invest in yourself than investing in a lifeless relationship shows the kind of love and respect you have for yourself. You always deserved the self-love you were sacred to provide yourself.
10) Your scars area sign of your wisdom and make you all the more attractive
You have experienced a very wide range of human emotions from pain and loss to love and euphoria, which gives you a certain depth and ability to appreciate all that life has to offer.
A few kinks in your armor or few scars are only a sign of your warrior strength and have made you more attractive and inspiring for people.
So, if you’re worried about your future, don’t be. There are a lot of people out there who find all these traits way more attractive than superficial stuff and you would find someone incredible walking your path pretty soon.
And even if you don’t you would still be kickass girl!
One separation cannot stop the fierce spirit that you are.
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