Another Life – Chapter 34

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The Truth About Getting A Date

You don’t attract what you want. You attract who you are.

Are you failing to get your perfect date?

Most guys have it backwards.

They think that when they get a girlfriend, they will finally be happy.

Sorry to piss on your cornflakes but that’s not how it works.

If only someone explained this to me back in the day, I would’ve had less frustrations in my dating life.

To prove my point, let me ask you a question.

Have you ever met someone who became very “busy” after going on a few dates with you?

This happened to me A LOT and I couldn’t figure out why.Insanity is doing the same things over and over again expecting a different result.

So I took a step back to asses what’s going on.

Let me share with you what I discovered.

When a woman meets you for the first time, she’s assessing subconsciously what type of life she’s gonna have with you.

Is it going to be exciting and spontaneous OR is it going to be lame and predictable?

It’s a bit of a tough pill to swallow, isn’t it?

Here’s the ugly truth about getting a girlfriend. You may not like it but I’ll tell you anyway.

You don’t attract what you want. You attract who you are. The moment you’re happy on your own is when the right relationship enters your life. I know this from experience.

Back in the day, I had nothing going for me. I had no hobbies, was out of shape and barely had friends.

Whenever I’d meet a girl, I would be OBSESSED with them. My sense of self-worth was based on whether they like me or not. Of course, none of them would want to go out with me.

Looking back now, I really couldn’t blame them. Who would want to date someone who lived such a boring life?

That’s when I took a break from dating and decided to focus on myself.

I started going to the gym, reading interesting books and taking up new hobbies. Overtime, I started to really like my own company. I valued my opinion more and did more things that I enjoyed.

And then something strange happened. Women were suddenly more interested in me.

If I go on a bad date or someone didn’t text me back right away, I was less reactive. I knew that I had better things to do than worry about something so petty.

Funny how that works, huh?

The better you become as a man, the higher quality relationships you’ll attract in your life. Whoever says otherwise is selling you hype.

 

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Lovely Lauren – The Most Beautiful Bartender I’ve Ever Met – Part 2 – The Interview

I’ve gotten the opportunity to interview the hottest bartender in the city for a publication I worked for back in 2013. The client paid us to be in our publication but our editor rejected it. Said our readers wouldn’t relate.

Lauren was incredibly disappointed. I felt sad that I’d wasted her time and failed her due to another person’s decision.

 

But…. for the first time I finally have the platform to showcase this lovely woman’s images and her words.

 

Here’s her story…

 

Our girl Lauren worked at Pietro’s at the age of 18. She had no experience . She called every day and finally got the job. She trained for two weeks and got the job!

She did some work in an art initiative. She did fashion merchandising for a while but that wasn’t a match. It just didn’t work out.

 

Here I am at the BNY Mellon Center on the 27th floor and lovely Lauren arrives.

She’s wearing a light silky black top. It clings to her breasts as they swing and bounce to welcome the day. What a beauty she is. She’s lovely. Her top pushes her breast forward to welcome her guests.

She’s sweet to me. but I’m the interviewer. My manager hovers about her taking photos..

I like this because I want him to capture this rare bird.

So lovely and simple.

He leaves the room, and I have my first moment with my client. This sweet lady I’ve been dying to interview.

 

Phicklephilly: What do you like most about your profession?

Lauren: I get to go into work everyday and no matter what kind of day my clients are having I can make them their favorite drink. I can even introduce them to a new drink and lift their spirits. I also get to hear so many stories and meet so many interesting people. I get to see a side of them that maybe most people don’t get to see.

 

Phicklephilly: What do you like the least about your job?

 

Lauren: The exact same thing I just told you. The side I see when I feel like I’m babysitting 100 drunk adults.

 

Phicklephilly: How long have you been doing this?

 

Lauren: I’m 22 so I’ve been bartending for 5 years.

 

Phicklephilly: Any heroes?”

 

Lauren: Lucille Ball.

 

Phicklephilly: Good one. She was amazing. What do you like to do in your spare time?”

 

Lauren: I’m a low key person compared to most industry people that are a bunch of drunken idiots. I like good music, laid back time. Morgan’s Pier with friends. I don’t do after hours bars. When I’m off I like a chill time in a low key bar.

 

Phicklephilly: Why should we go to stratus?

 

Luaren: Who doesn’t want to drink an extraordinary cocktail  on a beautiful rooftop bar?

 

Phicklephilly: Good point. What’s your best bar experience?

 

Lauren: I guess my best bar experience has been at Stratus. It was me and two other trainees. Saturday night. I was sure it was going to be a disaster. (Like the scene from the Tom Cruise film, Cocktail) But it turned out to be amazing. But I think the most important day was when we did Spring Awakening. I was working my own station. They pulled me out of my station. I was needed behind the bar. I was slammed, but I knew in that moment I had stepped up to the next level in the bartending scene in Philadelphia.

 

Phicklephilly: Thank you for that, Lauren. That was great and heartfelt answer. What was your worst experience?

 

Lauren: My first night bartending a guy came in and started chatting to me. He’s talking about his wife, and family and it all seemed normal. Then at some point during the night he passed me a piece of paper. It was a not about terms of him taking care of me financially if I took care of him.

 

Phicklephilly: How did that make you feel?

 

Lauren: I excused myself and went into the walk in (freezer) and cried. Today I would have dealt with it differently. But I was 18. Today I would have laughed in his face and tossed the note back in his face.

 

Phicklephilly: Well done, Lauren. Sadly, any other horror stories. I’m sure the readers will love it.

 

Lauren: Ummm… wait, there wa this one lady that woud come in on a regular basis. She would order a few drinks and some food. I would bring out the food and she would cry hysterically  and yell at me and tell me to take it away.  This went on like once or twice a year for years!

 

Phicklephilly: That’ also awful. What happened to her?

 

Lauren: No idea. One day he just stopped coming in. Maybe she died. lol.

 

Phicklephilly” What’s your favorite sports team?

 

Lauren: The Flyers!

 

Phicklephilly: Cool. What’s your poison and your end of shift drink?

 

Lauren: I’m a typical vodka and tonic or soda girl. I have a weakness for margaritas though, but my favorite end of shift drink is a huge bottle of water!

 

Phicklephilly: What’s your favorite food and your most hated food?

 

Lauren: I love sushi and hate tuna fish from a can. I’m a pescitarian but that’s the two.

 

Phicklephilly: What about music, Lauren?

 

Lauren: A lot. I like Phish. But I also like weird funky dance music to jam bands. I also like Alternative. You won’t see me listening to top 40. Music is a huge part of my life. You’ll never see me at Made in America, but at more low key festivals. I like Jam on the River.

 

To be continued….

 

 

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