Number of Men Under 30 Not Having Sex Has Tripled in the Past Decade, Many Millennials Aren’t Interested in Sex

Despite it being the easiest time in history for men and women to connect through social media, dating apps, and relationship websites, Americans are having less sex. This is especially true for men, who are experiencing an alarming drought when it comes to sex. Guys, what is going on?

A sociological survey finds that the number of American men under 30 not having sex has nearly tripled between 2008 and 2018. In 2008, about 10 percent of males aged 18-30 were not having sex. In 2018, that number rose to 28 percent — the highest number since the study started in 1989. However, women don’t seem to suffer from the dry spell as much as men. In 2008, eight percent of women weren’t banging and in 2018 that number rose to 18 percent.

Stunning chart: the share of men under 30 who aren’t having sex has nearly tripled in the past decade

The number of male virgins has exploded in the past decade, skyrocketing from eight percent in 2008 to 27 percent in 2018.

Final datapoint: the share of young men reporting no female sex partners since they turned 18 — a rough a proxy for virginity — more than tripled since 2008. I say rough proxy bc 1) some had sex in their teens and 2) some exclusively have male partners.

This eye-opening data comes from the General Social Survey, “biennial, nationally representative survey that has been conducted by NORC at the University of Chicago since 1972 to monitor societal change and study the growing complexity of American society.”

Before you blame married people for the lack of sex in this study, they are actually having more sex. Married people are having more sex than they’ve had in the last 20 years according to the study. In 2018, only 11 percent of married people didn’t get it in compared to 34 percent of single Americans.

I see a lot of jokes along these lines BUT: married people are way more likely to have sex. For instance only 11 percent of the married didn’t have sex last year, compared to 34 percent of the unmarried

Older Gen Z members and millennials are being-outf*cked by every other age group under 60-years-old and it’s not even close.

Oh also: 18-30 year olds are nearly *twice* as likely to report past-year celibacy as 50-somethings, which is frankly amazing

Overall, there were 23 percent of American adults who were celibate in 2018. A good deal of that lack of the old in-and-out was due to the increase of the 60+ population from 18 percent in 1996 to 26 percent in 2018. About 50 percent of old folks don’t engage in sexual intercourse.


Those numbers are helping drive a big shift in American sex-having habits: the number not getting laid is at a record high. Conversely, the number reporting sex weekly or more is on the decline.

So what’s up with this worrying dry spell? Incels? Is it the Mee Too movement? Is it Post-Trump Traumatic Sex Disorder? Access to spank movies at any times and anywhere?

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Neuroscience of Cannabis & Sex – Part 2

Cannabis and sex

By combining what we know about the contribution of different brain regions in behavior, and the endocannabinoid system upon them, support for the sex-rage propaganda from the 1930s utterly dissolves. Here’s what we know:

  • The endocannabinoid system is one of the most abundantly expressed systems in the brain. CB1 receptors are found on brain cells in most brain regions.
  • The net effect of THC is to reduce brain activity. However, because of complex networks of brain cells, this may lead to elevated mood states and heightened sensory experiences.
  • Low to moderate doses of THC reduce the activity of brain regions involved in stress and aggression, leading to a calming effect. In cases when the THC dose is too high, it can enhance the communication coming from the brain’s amygdala, a critical region in the fear circuit. This is what contributes to the anxiety and paranoia when you’re “too high”. However, these doses are also generally sedating, so they wouldn’t lead to aggression or “sex-crazed lunacy”.
  • Additional cannabinoids found in the cannabis plant (there are over 100!), such as cannabidiol (CBD), act on numerous targets beyond the endocannabinoid system to have anxiety-reducing and other therapeutic benefits.

Beyond dispelling the myths of the last century, how does our current understanding of cannabis’ action in the brain inform how it can be used for healthy sex life? For one, we now recognize that there’s far more to cannabis than just THC, and there’s an extensive array of targets in the brain and body that the cannabinoids act upon to convey their therapeutic and wellness benefits.

CBD’s ability to activate serotonin receptors, which is the same brain chemical system targeted by the well-known anti-anxiety drugs like Prozac, can reduce anxiety to break down the barriers to an intimate relationship. CBD also weakly activates CB2 receptors (the second endogenous cannabinoid receptor to be discovered), which is associated with increased resiliency to life stress.

THC activation of CB1 receptors increases the brain chemical, dopamine, which is involved in reward processing and the feeling of “pleasure”. However, repeated high doses of THC can actually lead to a general reduction in dopamine levels, which could hinder the sexual experience. CBD can be used to combat this negative effect of THC, as well as other adverse effects, by blocking some of THC’s actions at CB1 receptors.

Here are some quick tips for introducing and integrating cannabis in your sex life:
  1. Don’t eat it unless you are aware of the specific dosage of the edible and how you react to it before introducing a partner. When you eat THC, a large portion gets processed by the liver before it ever makes its way to the brain. The problem is, some of this THC gets converted to the metabolite, 11-hydroxy-THC, which has stronger effects on your CB1 receptors than THC does. This leads to a stronger high, which isn’t desirable if you’re trying to share an intimate experience with your partner. If you become too stoned, you’re more likely to focus internally (not to mention, sedated!) as opposed to focusing on the needs of your sexual partner(s).
  2. Consider using multiple products with different cannabinoid compositions. CBD could be a good pre-game tool to help relieve stress and anxiety, and when you’re more relaxed, you’re likely to be more open to your partner and engage fully. Once relaxed, a THC-rich product can help heighten the senses (but don’t overdo it!) and increase pleasure. Orgasm can also be enhanced by elevating brain dopamine levels.
  3. If you’re concerned about sexual dysfunction from cannabis use, stick to balanced THC: CBD or CBD-rich products. A recent study from Stanford University of over 50,000 people found that cannabis users had more sex than non-users, but this didn’t address performance quality or dysfunction issues. So regarding cannabis’ long-term effects on sexual dysfunction, let’s just say, the jury is…hung.
The Future

Universities across the world are ramping up their cannabis research programs, and the number of federal research dollars going toward medicinal cannabis is also on the rise. Some of this momentum stems from amassing evidence in support of the wide therapeutic spectrum of the plant, particularly for traditionally treatment-resistant disorders such as certain forms of epilepsy, multiple sclerosis, and depression.

The remarkable tolerability of CBD and balanced THC: CBD products, especially compared to many of the available pharmaceuticals, promote further investigation into how we can maximize the plant’s therapeutic potential. This process has shed light, beyond just clinical disorders, on how cannabis can be used to improve wellness in otherwise healthy individuals. If enhanced, more intimate sex falls into that category, then the benefits of the plant can impact us all.



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