Lies Women Tell Themselves

Yes, there are plenty of lies women tell themselves. The worst part is when we start believing these lies and deceiving ourselves. Sometimes you just need a wake up call and I’m hoping this post will be yours. So here are some common lies women tell themselves. If you find your personal lie here, I hope you can snap back to reality and stop lying to yourself because you deserve better…

1.”SEX WILL MAKE IT OKAY”

Do you find yourself using sex to make your relationship problems go away? Are you the sort who’d rather have sex with your partner to end a fight than talk things through? The thing is, while sex may temporarily sweep your issues under the carpet (or should I say bed), the same problems will keep popping up until you actually solve them. I know confrontation is hard but you need to stop using sex as a weapon, face your issues like a woman, resolve fights and then have make up sex! So much better!↓

2.”HE’S NOT JEALOUS. HE DOES IT BECAUSE HE CARES”

I was in a relationship with a jealous boyfriend who hated it if I even so much as spoke to other guys in my class. I was 17 and naive enough to believe that his jealousy meant that he cared. It came to a point where there was both physical and emotional abuse and it took me a while and lots of tears to realize that it wasn’t okay for him to treat me the way he did. My point being, do not justify his unreasonable actions by thinking that’s how he’s proving his love for you. A little jealousy is natural, but acting like a mad man is not normal! It’s not okay and you need to stop lying to yourself and get out NOW.

3.”WE SPEND ALL OUR TIME TOGETHER BECAUSE WE LOVE EACH OTHER”

The thing with this lie women tell themselves is who doesn’t want to spend time with their partners, right? But if you find yourself spending every waking hour with your significant other, it’s time to get some space. Remember that you are an individual first and love doesn’t mean having to always be by his side or knowing what he’s always up to. Do things alone, go out with your girlfriends, watch a movie with your other friends… in short, have a separate life! Believe it or not, it is important! Besides, absence makes the heart fonder remember?↓

4.”I NEED A MAN IN MY LIFE”

Honey, relationships are great and all, but you don’t NEED a man! Being single and having all that freedom and time is just as much fun if not more. Besides, you’ll never discover your inner self if you’re never single. Point being, if a great guy comes along, yay! If not, who cares. Never settle for anything just because you think you NEED to be with someone. Love is supposed to be magical, not mediocre and you’re better off being single than in a “meh” relationship.

5.”I NEED THAT DRESS/SHOES/ANYTHING ELSE YOU CAN THINK OF”

One of the more popular lies women tell themselves and a personal favorite, this lie can end up being rather heavy on your pocket. Whenever I look at shiny new shoes or a pretty dress, the line between “want” and “need” gets blurry and I invariably end up giving in to temptation. The result? A wardrobe full of dresses and shoes that I hardly ever wear. Lately, I have been allocating myself a bi-monthly shopping budget and every time I go shopping, I stick to say three things that I absolutely need and one bonus “want” item. Let me tell you, it has been working!

 

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2 thoughts on “Lies Women Tell Themselves”

  1. I know things aren’t perfect in my relationship, but one thing my husband did when we were dating, was tell me, after I’d said, ” I need you”, is “I don’t want you to need me, I want you to want me”. I had to think about that. Because of that, I came close to not marrying him at all as I realized I could function without a man.
    Prior to that, I’d been guilty of #1 & 4. Not good. Space. I’m a big advocate for space. If I don’t get it, I’ll run.

    1. I agree, Jolie. I too need my space and am a big advocate for not feeling needy when it comes to relationships and even friendships. It’s not always easy to do because we live the company of certain people in our lives.

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