Baby, it’s cold outside! And, if you have no one to keep you warm at night, the winter can be a lonely time. If you are looking for a mate, no season is particularly fun to be single but winter is worst of all. With the cold and dreariness in many places and the holidays with all the super helpful questions from your family like, “when are you going to find someone?”, being single all winter is no good.
The good news is, the winter is a great time to get out there and find someone to keep you warm, make your holidays merrier, and be the one you smooch into the new year. Here are the best tricks to stop being single this winter.
Download A Dating/Networking App
It is 2019, soon to be 2020. If you are single and not on a dating app or multiple dating apps, what are you waiting for!? Even if you are on a dating app but it keeps hooking you up with the same old bad news dates, this winter is time to change your luck and download a new dating or networking app.
Cool Things Chicago has a great list of the best dating list of the year. This comprehensive list covers the best dating apps in a number of categories to find a fresh one for you no matter who you are or what you are looking for.
The list includes the best new dating app of 2019, the best casual dating app, the best dating app for females, the best dating app for men seeking men, and the best up-and-coming-dating app of the year. With a new one of these dating tools at your disposal, the winter will be full of really fun dates that will hopefully turn into something more.
Try New Things
There is a saying that goes, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”. This is also a good way to explain why some people stay single for a long period of time.
If you use the same dating apps (see above), go to the same places, engage in the same activities, and hang out with the same people, it is no wonder that your relationship status never changes either. This winter, try some new, indoor activities, where you may meet someone new.
There are plenty of great options in the winter to find an interesting new person to spend time with. You can try skiing, snowboarding, ice skating, or any number of winter sports that will introduce you to a whole new set of potential mates.
A site like MeetUp.com is perfect to find people in your area who are trying to do the same thing. Also, indoor winter activities can be fruitful too, Try a new bar trivia night, hitting the gym, or hanging out in a coffee shop or bookstore.
Be Less… Whatever
In most cases, if you are single this winter, you probably have an idea, at least deep down, as to why. Maybe you are too picky, too clingy, too desperate, too high-maintenance, or you spend too much time at work. Whatever the reason, this winter is a great time to try and work on yourself.
When you try to get better as a person, that comes across and is more attractive to potential partners. While they are notoriously unsuccessful for many, there is something to be said about creating a New Year’s resolution and trying to stick to it.
Whatever it is that you would like to improve about yourself to make yourself a better relationship candidate, January 1, 2020, is a great time to start. Yes, more than half of all resolutions fail but, with a few helpful tips, you can be one of the other half who improves your situation and finds a way to stop being single in the early part of the new year.
Make A List, Check It Twice
Hey, it works for Santa! If you are just dating with no real plan in mind, that may be a big reason why you are still single this winter. You may just need to get more serious about being in a relationship. One of the best ways to start is to make a list of what you are looking for in a partner.
You can include everything from personality to looks to job to family and more. Putting this together will allow you to start looking at people more seriously as a potential partner. When you keep a list like this of what you really want in a person who you settle down with, you will also be less likely to waste time with people who do not fit enough of the criteria on your list.
Just beware, the list should be a living document that changes as you do. It should also just be a set of guidelines, not the absolute rule. You want to look for the person who fits most of the criteria on the list, not hold out for someone who checks every single box.
Don’t Think Of Yourself As Single
The easiest way to stop being “single” right this second is to just stop thinking of yourself that way. Sure, your Aunt Rita will still call you single after a few glasses of wine but who cares? Think about all the freedom you have, all the choices and options, all the money you’ll save on holiday gifts!
In all seriousness though, even with the social stigma that sometimes comes with being single, it does not have to be a bad thing. There are plenty of ways to feel better about your relationship status and celebrate not having a partner this winter. Doing this and finding other, like-minded, uncoupled individuals will make your winter much happier.
It is the season to turn your winter blues into a winter wonderland. By following these tricks, you will have a great chance to stop being single this winter and start living your best life. And the best part is, even if none of these work this winter, you have taken steps to improve your situation and, as they say, Spring is right around the corner.
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