How to Hug a Guy to Turn Him On: 12 Secrets to Make Him Want More

With a few enhancements to your typical hug, learning how to hug a guy to turn him on will bring just the reaction from that special man that you desire.

If there’s one thing that ladies need to know, it’s how to hug a guy to turn him on. Men love to be touched as much as they love to touch. And hugging tops the list. Not only for its comforting nature, but also for the maximum surface area of physical contact.

How to hug a guy to turn him on and want more

To turn your hugs into weapons of mass seduction, and learn the art of hugging, I’m here to coach you on the various types of hugs – the initial approach, the key physical areas to exploit, and other physical gestures that would make your hug effective in turning a man on.

#1 Show lots of initiative. Showing initiative means that you let him know how badly you want to hug him. This includes initiating the hug, hugging him often, and “taking the lead” during the hug itself. These will make him feel wanted and encourage him to appreciate physical contact from you in a different kind of way.

#2 Invite more surface contact. Hugs with the most body surface contact will be the most appreciated. Ditch the friend-safe upper body hug that women usually give their male friends and throw your whole person over him. The more of your body he gets to feel, the easier for him to get turned on.

#3 Use the boob press. If it’s straightforward you’re looking for and want to know how to hug a guy to turn him on instantly, the boob press is the most reliable trick in the book. It never fails to catch a man’s attention. Apply this to any type of hug you know. Even the shortest one will be the most memorable hug for your man.

#4 Wrap both your hands around his neck. There’s this unexplainable kink that men get when girls place both their hands around their neck during a hug. Maybe it’s the sheer intimacy of it, the gesture being a reminder of the moments preceding a kiss, or the subtle act of ownership that it implies.

Whatever it is, trust me, men love it when you wrap your hands around their neck during a hug. It’s a complete turn on!

#5 Nuzzle your face close to his face and neck. A man’s neck is pretty sensitive, so it’s a good spot to exploit during a hug if you want to turn him on. Wrap your arms around his neck and place the side of your face on the area between his jaw and neck where you can easily access his ear. This alone will give him a bout of goose bumps along with lots of naughty thoughts in mind.

#6 Show him that you’re comfortable within his hug. Understand that even if a girl initiates the hug, men are still somewhat careful and stiff during a hug to avoid doing anything that might give the girl the wrong idea. Be the first one to show him that you’re comfortable with physical contact to help him ease up.

Initiate further touching by squeezing him towards your body, rubbing his back or his hair, or talking to him while hugging. After, he’ll reciprocate to the hug in a manner that you want him to.

#7 Explore the hug. Try shifting positions and initiating touch. Exploring the hug maximizes the effect of physical contact in a way that will surely turn the man on. By shifting your positions and introducing other forms of touching while still in the hug, you show your assertiveness and ease on being touched.

Wiggle around, run your hands on his back, press your face on his chest or cheek, and even guide his hands to certain areas of your body. If this doesn’t get him in the right mood, we don’t know what will.

#8 Let him know that you enjoy being inside his hug. If touching and gestures don’t get through, verbally inform him that you enjoy being locked in a hug with him. A little whisper of appreciation will surely get his imagination and pulses running towards naughty.

#9 Wait for him to ease out of the hug. Letting him be the one to ease out of the hug will send him the message that you’re so into him. Show initiative! Linger all over him and wait until he relaxes to break the hug off.

#10 Maintain eye contact and smile after breaking out of the hug. Once all the hugging is complete, top off the whole affair with sweet eye contact partnered with a smile. This gesture will seal the deal. Who knows? He might just jump right in for another round and take the lead.

#11 Try to give hugs from different angles. While the normal face-to-face hug captures the intimacy and romantic quality that would make for the best hug, other types also provide their own unique benefits. Not all situations call for a hug would make the both of you appear to slow dance. That is where these other hugs would be useful:

**Hug from the back. A spooning hug may not be as intimate as the front hug. But it gives you complete control to caress the front part of his body.

**The midsection hug. The midsection hug is usually done when you’re seated and your man is standing. The angle from where you place your hug can be quite suggestive. Plus, your hands have the opportunity to explore his rear end.

**The jump hug. Jump hugs are playful as well as provocative. Catch him unaware, jump onto him, cling on his frame, and get those assets of yours near his face to effectively turn him on.

**Straddle hug. Feeling extra flirty? Come up to him while he’s seated and straddle his lap before wrapping your arms around his neck. Then, pull him close. He’ll automatically reciprocate by wrapping his arms around your waist.

#12 Other useful tips to make your hug more sensual. Wear clothes that will encourage skin-to-skin contact. Backless, sleeveless, and off-shoulder tops that show a lot of skin will allow him to feel you in a more intimate way. The more skin-to-skin contact involved in the hug, the wilder his imagination will be.

Be your best-smelling self. You might possess the smoothest skin or the sexiest figure, but your smell may make or break a hug. Remember that you’ll be in close proximity. Smelling good will help you get any man in the right mood.

Everybody loves a good hug, especially if it’s a man getting one from a woman. If you’re looking to make a hug more than just a gesture of friendship, try these moves and see the difference it makes!

 

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The Reasons Why Married Women Cheat on Their Husbands

It’s not something most people want to face, let alone talk about or even consider. But the truth is, even in the happiest marriages, affairs can happen. Maybe a close relationship with a colleague goes too far during a long night at the office. Or an unexpected dalliance occurs on a vacation with friends. Or maybe, it’s a longer-running situation, where a husband or wife turns to someone to fill a physical or emotional void left unfilled by their spouses. The fact of the matter is that infidelity is not surprising. What is surprising, however, is who’s doing the cheating.

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“We have this idea socially that men are cheaters, all men are susceptible to cheating, men are dogs, right?” says Alicia M. Walker, an associate professor of sociology at Missouri State University. But the data tells a very different story”

Walker is the author of The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife: Power, Pragmatism, and Pleasure in Women’s Infidelity. She was inspired to write the book after coming across a number of stories on infidelity. “I saw a study that said some 90 percent of people who cheat never leave their spouse,” she says. “And I feel like, that’s not what we hear about. We hear about people cheating and then the marriage breaking up. Then I saw another study that some high 80 percent of folks never get caught cheating and that number is even higher if you’re a woman. So that really got me thinking like, ‘Something is going on here besides what I think is going on here.’ Because we sort of have this social idea that if you’re cheating you’re always going to get caught eventually.”

“Something that some of the women in my study brought up that I never thought about was that when they were searching for an affair partner, they were having these candid, frank discussions about sexual compatibility and sexual preferences.”

After reading a study that said most women are vulnerable to infidelity in their 40s, the idea became lodged in her mind. “Those three pieces of information together kind of got me thinking,” Walker says. “And, over the course of the next few months, it seemed like every movie I saw, every conversation I had, this topic just kept coming up. So, in looking to answer my own questions about this, I realized there was really not much research out there about infidelity. We just kind of act like it doesn’t happen.”

What she noticed from her work, is that women are cheating at at least the same rates as men. And, depending on the age group you’re looking at and the behavior that you’re looking at, sometimes they’re outpacing men.

“Way more women are cheating than we think,” she says. “We just don’t like to talk about it and we don’t like to think about it. You don’t want to think that your neighbor, your Sunday school teacher, or your friend is doing this. But the reality is, you know a woman who’s cheating, you just don’t know that she is.”

Now, Walker makes clear, there’s no one specific reason for infidelity. Some women cheat to avoid boredom; other women cheat because they feel neglected. Still others say it’s because they f**king want to.

“A lot of the time the reasons are physical, sometimes they’re emotional, and, sometimes, as much as we don’t want to admit this or know this, sometimes it’s just a matter of somebody having an opportunity,” says Walker. “There’s a lot of data showing that a woman will have an affair with a coworker and are more likely to report that ‘My marriage is great and I’m super satisfied. I literally saw an opportunity and took advantage of it.’ ”

“You should really start looking at your own behavior in the bedroom and really make sure that you’re holding up your end of the table. Because, if you’re not, there’s somebody out there who’s more than willing to do that.”

The notion of the cheating wife is something that tends to be swept under the rug, per Walker, mostly because it goes against everything that we as a culture have been conditioned to think about women.

“We want to think of women as not particularly sexual unless they’re deeply in love or they’re married or in some monogamous relationship of some kind. We just don’t want to think that women are just as sexual and just as interested in having sex with multiple partners or a variety of partners or they get bored with marital sex.”

However, if we want things to change, it’s time to not only start thinking about the idea of female infidelity, but also to figure out what we can do to improve things. Walker says that begins with having honest conversations about sex, preferably before marriage.

“Something that some of the women in my study brought up that I never thought about was that when they were searching for an affair partner, they were having these candid, frank discussions about sexual compatibility and sexual preferences,” says Walker. “When I got married, I never had any of these conversations, and I started thinking, ‘You know, that’s true, we don’t have those conversations.’ We kind of wander into these romantic pairings and we fall in love and we kind of think that the sex is going to take care of itself. But, according to the data, that’s not true.”

Part of those frank discussions is being open to what your spouse is interested in. A lot of the women Walker interviewed said that when they talked openly about their fantasies or desires to their husbands, they were met with disgust and made to feel ashamed.

“It was really pretty sobering, to be honest with you,” Walker says. “This is a person who’s pledged to love you for all time and you say to them, ‘Hey, I want to try role-playing,’ or whatever it is, and then think about having the person that you love and trust the most say, ‘That’s disgusting. What’s wrong with you?’ If you listen to that for years, and then in walks somebody who’s not only like, ‘That’s not disgusting,’ but they’re into it, you can see how attractive that would be.”

A lot of the women Walker interviewed said that when they talked openly about their fantasies or desires to their husbands, they were met with disgust and made to feel ashamed.

In conducting her research, Walker was surprised to learn that a lot of the women that she interviewed were interested in the prospect of an open marriage.

“They don’t want to leave their husband, they love their husband, they’ve got a great life, but what they really want is variety in their sexual partners,” she says. “It’s not just, ‘Oh, I want my husband, and I want this one affair.’ It’s, ‘I want my husband and I want to taste all the parts of the menu!’ ”

Additionally, she discovered that women who cheat see it as an exercise in power. The socially accepted norm when it comes to coupling is that the man asks the woman out, the man pays for dinner, the man proposes marriage. While the ideas behind these traditions may be chivalrous, Walker says that the women she spoke to eventually felt confined by them.

“They always felt like they had been chosen, rather than choosing themselves,” she says. “And then they go online to Ashley Madison, or any other site, and there’s all these men, and now they’re choosing rather than being chosen.”

In the end, attentiveness is the key. When you’re with your spouse, Walker says it’s vital to make sure you’re thinking of her needs as well as your own.

“Any man who is concerned about this,” she says, “you should really start looking at your own behavior in the bedroom and really make sure that you’re holding up your end of the table. Because, if you’re not, there’s somebody out there who’s more than willing to do that.”

 

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Sun Stories: Amelia – Chapter 2 – Finally

So I wasn’t sure about Amelia at first. She came through one of the trainers at our gym and was an Achilles hire the morning before I got Eileen. So I had some concerns.

Amelia came in and we made our acquaintance.

She’s 24, new to Philly. I thought she was gay. Works at a gym in Midtown. She’s about to be certified as a personal trainer. Which is awesome because she could bring her clients to our gym and train people and pay us.

She’s blonde and cute. Irish Catholic and from a family of 10. She’s number 8. Wow. What the fuck is that college bill like? I told Achilles and he was like, “That many fuckin’ kids and you can never get divorced.” (He is absolutely correct in his answer)

I don’t know anything about Amelia, but once I met her I liked her.

Solid citizen. Air Force Reserve, and fit. Seems nice and personable. I like the military aspect. Maybe she’ll actually be on point unlike all of the other knuckleheads that have worked here.

First night is always the same. Here’s where to hang your coat. Here’s the bathroom. Just clean the beds when they get dirty.

I’ve got her Monday through Wednesday. The days are busy. I give her the skinny on all of the characters. We build report. I love getting in the heads of everyone I know. Young people are easy. I need to get to know her.

I show Amelia what to do with the basic functions of the salon and she immediately adapts like a good soldier.

I’m happy at my good fortune. Initially I was cross at Achilles for hiring someone I didn’t know. He told me to hire who I wanted. I really wanted Eileen. I wanted her to have all of the shifts. I couldn’t believe my good fortune. But now I have the Achilles hire I have to deal with.

But Amelia is so good on night one I start to question my own choices.

In the three days she’s here, Amelia is really on top of the cleaning and the laundry. I notice at 24 she’s taking the initiative with everything.

Her military training has taught her to think ahead and be preemptive. I love that.

My buddy Church stops in and we’re going to grab dinner after work, and I introduce them. They hit it off because he’s Navy and she’s Air Force. That’s a good connection and he needs practice talking to women in general. Amelia’s a lovely girl.

She’s a natural beauty new to Philly, that lives on her own with a cat which in everybody’s opinion isn’t good. (But she’s young and stop it you y’all.) Amelia’s great and does a great job cleaning.

It’s early in the training and she really takes to the vacuum. I like that. We’re all about the cleaning at our salon. She loves our new cordless vac so much she says she wants to get one for her own apartment.

I really like Amelia.

She’s so good I start to question the Eileen decision.

Could we have finally found not one but two girls that are absolutely amazing for our salon?

We have as a team waded through oceans of shit for so long, could we have finally found a couple of seasonal girls that will actually be good?

I loved Summer, and Haley, but could we have actually found good people that would stick around and work hard for us?

Amelia has a solid week and actually stays ahead of the laundry. The towels can make or break your night. It’s all about service and timing.

But I ask Amelia about it and she tells be they’re in the dryer or coming out in 20 minutes.

I like her!

I’ve been dreaming of good staff for our salon.

I think we’ve finally hit it.

Achilles is oblivious because he’s so wrapped up in the daily grind and the gym now, but I see it.

I’ll train these girls. Not just to clean beds, but to perform every aspect of this business to make them more valuable to us and themselves.

Eileen is Criminal Justice at Drexel. Her dad is a professor, so education is free, but she’ll have to deal with law school later.

These are great girls we have wiping down our beds at the salon this season.

I love them both. I’m happy we finally found good staff!

 

Oh, one side note: I had to tell Amelia about Eileen. I didn’t want to and I wanted to keep them separate, but since Amelia works here she gets free tanning. She said she was going to come in on Thursday and I knew Eileen was working so I told her about how Achilles hired her in the morning and I hired Eileen that night. She was cool with it, but when she came in it was a moment.

“Hey, Amelia.”

“Hey Charles. I’m ready to tan.”

“Yea. It’s been two months, I need to do that too so I can look like I work here.”

“Oh yea…Totally.”

“This is Eileen. Achilles hired you the same day I hired her.”

(Eileen, beautiful with a firm handshake) “Nice to meet you!”

So, worlds collide but my girls have to eat it.

They do and are fine because women are awesome.

“I like your make up it looks awesome.” (Amelia to Eileen)

“Thank you.”

“Maybe I should do more.”

(Me being the dick I always am) “Yea maybe you should. I point to Eileen) “My hire.”

I know I’ve made a joke here. They both like and respect me. But I’ve divided them and I like it.

Amelia’s great, but she has to stop biting her nails. (I’ll help her) I want to.

We all chat and I find out that Eileen likes to drink. She’s not any good at it but I like that she likes to drink.

I thought Amelia was the bad one but I love that Eileen likes to party.

All I think of is how I can take these girls for free drinks at all of my hookups around town.

Not to bed them of course, but I know these girls are my saving grace. It’s so busy at the salon. I’m so happy that I’ve met these women. They can’t even fathom how valuable they are to us right now.

Entering our most busy season. We can’t live with out them.

I’m just happy I’ve had the great fortune to meet two girls who are absolutely amazing. Normally, we get the crazies at $9 an hour under the table. But for some reason I’ve met two girls who are amazing and really work hard and get the system.

I just need to train them right so they don’t lose their shit on a Saturday.

I think we finally have a couple of winners and I’m betting on both of them!

 

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