The 7 Best Places To Meet Someone & Flirt, According To Dating Experts

Dating apps have made it easy to strike up a conversation and flirt with anyone you find attractive. At least if you match with someone online, there’s a comfort in knowing they’re open to talking to you. But if you’re looking to meet someone offline, knowing when and where to get your flirt on can be a little challenging. According to dating experts, you can pretty much flirt anytime, anywhere. But to increase your chances of finding success, some places are better for flirting than others.

“We encourage all of our clients to be open to love no matter where they are,” Rachel Federoff, dating and relationship coach with Love and Matchmaking, tells Bustle. “Riding an elevator, taking a carpool Uber, going to jury duty, sitting in traffic, or simply being in line at a store can work, if you know how to work it.”

Whether you’re looking for love online or off, being good at flirting really starts with confidence. As Federoff says, “Confidence creates charisma. If you have that, then you’re already one step in the right direction. How you flirt depends on the situation.”

So here are some of the best places to flirt and the best way to go about it, according to dating experts.

1. Bar Or Coffee Shop

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Bars, restaurants, and coffee shops are some of the most popular places to find other singles. When you’re trying to approach someone, there are obvious right ways and wrong ways to go about it. “Cheap one-liners and raunchy innuendos [likely won’t work]” Federoff says. How you flirt really depends on the situation. For instance, if you’re in a more intimate setting like a bar, Federoff recommends going for the “Gentle Jab.” “The Gentle Jab brings it back to grade school,” she says. “You like somebody, you poke them e.g. ‘Hi, the 90’s called, and they want their shirt back.’ This humorous interaction opens the door for playful conversation.” Keep in mind, there is a difference between playful teasing and negging. Teasing is light, fun, and good natured. Negging is none of that. If you can find a way to playfully catch their attention, it can be a great way to start things off.

2. The Grocery Store

“You may not think of flirting in a grocery store, but there are a lot of potential catches here,” Celia Schweyer, dating and relationship expert at Dating Scout, tells Bustle. In fact, Match’s 2017 Singles in America survey found that over 30% of people have flirted with someone at their local grocery store. Surprisingly, it’s about the same amount of people who say they flirt at bars. “We don’t think we might meet someone while we’re shopping for produce, but there are hundreds of grocery shoppers every single day and not all of them are in a relationship,” Schweyer says. “So the next time you do grocery shopping, be ready to give a one-liner about fruits or produce.” Be open to the people around you and the possibility that someone may be available.

3. Parks

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Again, single people are everywhere. You don’t really need to look extra hard to find someone. You don’t even need to fit it into your busy schedule. If going to a particular place is part of your routine, be open to who you might meet. For instance, if you regularly jog or walk your dog, parks are great places to flirt. “Leave your house with the mindset of ‘I’m open, approachable, and ready to connect,’ get those airpods out of your ears, and keep your eyes up, make eye contact, and initiate a ‘hello’,” Evin Rose, dating and love life coach, tells Bustle. “Make this a practice, and it will become a lot less scary and awkward than you think.”

4. The Gym

The gym is another common place to find someone to flirt with. In addition to getting a good workout in, Schweyer says, “A lot of singles go to the gym because they have some free time and no commitment to anyone at the moment.” If you go regularly and you’re interested in someone you see all the time, you already have something in common. If you’re trying to flirt at the gym, Schweyer suggests keeping it simple. “Don’t be a show-off. Just be who you are,” she says. Unless you always go to the gym with full makeup on, there’s no need to start doing it just to impress someone.

5. Weddings

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A 2017 Plenty of Fish survey found that 44% of singles say weddings are a great place to meet someone. Over half say it’s just easier to start a conversation. If you want to flirt with someone at a wedding, Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, tells Bustle, “Lean in and whisper to them an inside joke. This will create your own intimate moment that you can share.” Light touching and flirty glances will also up your game. According to Trombetti, smiling and eye contact shows a “positive presence” that will always attract people to you.

6. A Class Or A Workshop You’re In

One of the best things to do if you’re looking to flirt and meet someone to possibly date, is create a list of places where your dream partner would spend time. If you’re looking for someone who’s compatible with your lifestyle, chances are, this dream person has similar interests and hangs around the same places as you. It’s why classes or workshops you take are great places to meet people. “I’ll never give someone the five best spots to meet singles in your city, because we’re all looking for different things,” Rose says. “The clearer you get on what priorities and qualities in a partner are most important to you, the more you can hone in on where to show up and do some scouting.”

7. A Friend’s Event Or Party

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The next time your friend invites you over, say yes and follow through. “The best thing about saying ‘yes’ to these invites is you get to meet common friends,” Schweyer says. “You won’t be totally meeting strangers since you can just pull your mutual friend aside and ask for some inside scoop.” That way you can have a good idea about how someone is and whether or not they’re single before you make your approach. You can even ask your friend to make introductions. “Be sincere and don’t overthink too much. If everything works out fine, then good for you. If not, then better luck next time.”

It takes a little bit of practice to be good at flirting. But the more you do it, the more comfortable you’ll be. These are some of the best places to try flirting. So be confident and go for it. You never know where it could lead to.

 

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California Dreamin’ – 1982 to 1984 – The Night We Opened For Y & T

Clothes start coming off, and it is a glorious tangle of sex and desire.

Warning! This post is not safe for work! NSFW!

This hot waitress Melanie comes up to me at the kitchen at Merlin McFlys in Santa Monica. I’m working as a cook, while trying to make it as a metal god in L.A. I’m a total loser and struggling, but loving life because I’m surrounded by moist women and nothing else but California sunshine.

Merlin McFly’s was a cool place to work. The people who owned them had a chain of them and each one had a different theme. The great part about this one is it was all about magic. (See: California Dreamin’ – 1982 to 1984 – Merlin McFly’s)

It was a crazy time but when I look back on it an incredibly eye-opening and exhilarating.

This cute waifish blonde waitress Melanie approached me one night. I was balls deep in chicken fingers and zucchini sticks .

“Hey, I like your band and you like my band Glider, right?”

“Oh course. You guys are so good.” ( A bold faced lie) I fucking hated her Blondie rip off piece of shit band. I love her, because she is a buttery sweet blonde, and I hate her boyfriend because I made $500 putting a floor into a furniture store in Hollywood with this prick and he’s a beat up call.

But it was extra money so I did it but he’s an asshole and I’m sure he’s a bully to this sweetie.

“We have a chance to open for Y&T at the Troubadour on Friday but we need a little harder band to go on after us to open for them.

“Mel… is that my band? Because if that’s true I’m rock hard right mow.”

“Yea. That’s the gig despite your hard on.”

“Stop it. we’re in.”

I go home that night and tell the band. They’re ecstatic. It seems like the rest of the week takes forever but Friday finally arrives and we’re ready to do load in.

The band gets there and I’m a little nervous.

Frank: “How are you feeling there, Chaz?”

Me: “I’m a little scared.”

Frank: “I’d rather be scared, than bored…. Let’s go.”

And off we went. We played the Troubadour. Glyder came out and they did their sweet Blondie set. Who cares. We came out and killed it in a club that John Lennon was thrown out of for heckling the Smothers Brothers.

We crushed our set and Y&T comes out and is so much louder and more powerful than our little band. I feel that. I feel that what we did was solid and the audience liked it but we’re no one. They’re here to see Y&T. I don’t even give a shit who these fuckers are other that my friend Melanie got us here and we’re nobody.

The people are here to see Y&T play Lipstick and Leather.

I’m hanging at the bar getting free 151 and cokes with Frank and the boys and this girl walks up to me.

She’s wearing a beautiful white dress. She looks like Christie Brinkley with a voice like Marilyn Monroe. WTF?

This is a mixed crowd but mostly hair metal. It’s 1983 and we are in full swing. This little girl seems out of place. She comes up to me and immediately starts hitting on me. That was a luxury back then. It was easy when you were a musician in L.A. and pretty.

“Hey. I’m Chaz what’s your deal?”

“I’m Patty. I just wanted to meet you. I work at a restaurant and I came with some co-workers. One of the busboys likes me and I’m not into him. I’m into you.”

I’m taken by this pure beauty. Oh, the ease of the power of rock back then…

“You’re a lovely girl, Patty.”

“Come home with me, Chaz.”

It was that easy. I had gone from a pimple faced loser in middle school with braces and glasses to a guy that just had to show up and the ladies flocked. I still didn’t know who the hell I was or what I was doing but loved the attention.

I talked to my buddy Tim who came with us to the show without his wife Donna. (See: California Dreamin’ – Tim’s Wife Donna) He said we should pull a train on her but I told her it wasn’t like that this time and I wanted to be with this sweet baby alone.

We got back to her apartment in West Hollywood and we fall to the floor through the transom. Her record collection comes out and it’s scattered across the floor. We’re on the floor amidst her records rolling around and making out.

Clothes start coming off, and it’s a glorious tangle of sex and desire.

We end up in her bedroom, and she starts asking me about a girlfriend and/or a wife. I tell her I have neither. In this moment I’m telling the truth.

She lets it go. We’re getting into it and we’re both pretty drunk. I don’t know why I used to drink 151 and cokes back then. But like any stupid kid I guess you just want what’s strong and fast.

I almost don’t know how to describe what happens next with out being too graphic. It was over 35 years ago so just know that it was a one time thing. Even as jaded as I had become being in a band and living in L.A., this blew my mind.

She asks me to get her started with my digits. Okay, seems a little juvenile but I’ll do whatever she wants at this point. One, two, then three… then four. That seems a bit much and I’m surprised about this. I ask her if she’s okay and she says she loves it. She tell me to keep going.

Okay at this point I remember removing my fingers from her and then and taking off my  LED watch and dropping it into my shoe so I wouldn’t lose it or forget it.

Patty tells me to go in with my whole hand. I’m super turned on at this point because I’ve never experienced anything like this and didn’t know a woman could accommodate this sort of thing.

But she did. I was wrist deep in this girl. She was in her twenties. How was she able to do this? She liked it. I’m a little freaked out but in my drunken mind I can handle it.

This is called fisting. I never thought I’d ever be engaged in this sort of situation. As crazy as our adventures have been out here this seems over the top. I actually thought child birth for this woman may not even hurt. But it was still bizarre.

If someone told me my night after opening for Y&T would end like this. I would have just looked at them in mute protest.

Then she asks me to open the top drawer of her dresser. I do as I’m told and that’s when I see the biggest dildo I’ve ever seen on Earth. I’m still a little wet behind the ears and it’s all a new world to me.

She asks me to give it to her with this monster dildo. At this point I’m having a little fuselage envy. How can my little band go on after Fist and Hammer of the Gods? If I have intercourse with her after this episode, it’ll be like throwing a hotdog down a hallway, right?

But Patty’s loving it and is happy she’s opened toyland to me. I never expected this.

After the crazy monster insertion play she wants me to go on stage. Surprisingly it went well. I always carried condoms with me in those days because I was deathly afraid of catching an STD. Like… terrified. Scared of drugs and venereal disease.

We get it on and it’s fire. She was so beautiful I would never have known she was such a sexual dynamo when I met this waitress.

I tell her I’m going home and she gets back on the, “You’ve got a girlfriend or a wife.” I tell her no but she doesn’t believe me.

I walk out onto Hollywood Boulevard. I don’t even know what time it is. I hail a taxi and he takes me back to Santa Monica. At the time I think it was expensive. Funny how it was only $11 and a tip.

I’m happy to be back to the apartment and in my own bed.

She calls me the next day and tells me she wants to have a threesome with me and her girlfriend.

I tell her I’ll think about it.

 

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