It’s no secret that dating apps like Tinder have made meeting new people easier than ever.
But every right swipe comes with the potential for something to go seriously wrong-particularly since it’s not uncommon to hear about a match made in online dating heaven become a first date from hell.
On the app?
Because going by these Tinder nightmare stories from these six Singaporean women, it’s possible to hit it off with a guy over text but find yourself in a really uncomfortable situation when meeting him IRL.
1. WHEN HE WAS A CHEAPSKATE
He was late for half an hour, and long story short, he ended up ordering a tower of beer-which is crazy for two people on a weekday night.
When it came to settling the bill, the bar staff charged it all on my card because I had it on tab… and he didn’t offer to pay.
The bill came up to more than $200.
He still had the gall to try to get me to go back to his place after.
He later offered to pay his share of the bill when I asked the next morning, but the process of getting the money back took more than a month.
Apparently, he had issues with his bank account and what not, so we had to meet up again for him to pass me back in cash.
Needless to say, we never had a second date.
2. WHEN HE KEPT TALKING ABOUT HIS EX
We actually hit it off pretty well at first.
After a couple of beers, we started talking about our past relationships, which is quite normal, but thereafter he just wouldn’t stop talking about his ex.
I tried to change the subject a couple of times but he somehow find a way to continue talking about her even though I was clearly uninterested.
It became clear that he wasn’t over her and I started feeling really awkward.
I’m not sure if he knew what he did wrong; but when I didn’t reply his text the day after, he didn’t bother following up either.
3. WHEN HE WAS NOT WHAT HE SEEMED
He seemed like my type, worked for Google then burnt out and became a digital nomad.
He had a hippy style, curly hair and loves surfing. Best part he was literally 1km distance away from me so I was super excited to meet.
He also swiped right, so we started chatting.
He invited me to a beach park for a sunset picnic – how romantic, right?
So I went, and discovered he has been living in a tent for one month on the beach.
The beach picnic was pretty much how he ate all the time.
We had interesting conversations about his journey, but of course when he offered to get hot and heavy in his tent, I said KTHXBYE.
Squeezing into a tent? It’s a no for me.
4. WHEN HE WAS JUST BAD NEWS
I met this guy at a bar.
It was a disaster from the beginning.
He was very rude and demanding to the server at our table, which was immediately a red flag.
And boy was he handsy.
When I asked him about the martial arts photo I saw on his profile, he proceeded to show me how he would block my attacker … by demonstrating it on me.
Then, as the date progressed, he put his hand on my knee.
And his arm around my shoulders.
I kept trying to gently pull away, but he didn’t seem to get the hint.
Eventually, I just said I was tired (thankfully it was a work day) and wanted to leave.
That’s when he offered that I come to his house-which was just across the road.
Obviously he always had the intention of inviting me back after the date.
Bonus? I was chatting with a friend about said bad date and it turns out, she went out with him once before!
And he made the exact same moves on us – at the same bar!
5. WHEN HE WAS MORE INTO SOCIAL MEDIA
There was a live band playing so we couldn’t talk much.
What’s worse, he started a Facebook Live video to film the band playing (apparently they were playing his favorite Metallica songs) which I thought was pretty rude.
He also checked in at the location, and when his friends came to the same place, he just left me behind to say hi to them.
I was so tempted to just pay and leave!
Needless to say, it wasn’t a very pleasant experience and I didn’t reply his messages after that.
6. WHEN HE WAS NOT AN ANIMAL LOVER
We were out on a date and I told him about my new rescue dog, which I had only just adopted at the time.
I told him all about her, such as how she had been abused and was still very skittish.
I also told him that she sleeps with me in the same room, sometimes on the same bed, and it provides us both comfort.
His response? That he cannot date a girl who does that, and that I should kick the dog out of the room.
His defense is that it was unhygienic.
I thought it was a really cocky thing to say on a first date and I was so annoyed.
That was a deal-breaker for me.
Never spoke to him again.
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