Couple With 45-Year Age Gap Defend Their Relationship Despite Backlash From Family

A husband and wife with a 45-year age gap have defended their relationship, asking the world why they should have to hide their love.

Stefani Walper, 25, and her 70-year-old husband Don have been together for five years, and even have a two-year-old son called Lachlan together.

The couple met at the bar Stefani works at, when Don came in to drink with friends.

Speaking to The Mirror, Stefani – from Armstrong in British Columbia, Canada – recalled: “I loved him like the second I saw his face. It was super weird because everyone was like, ‘Oh my God, this guy’s like, at least 30 years older’.

“I just thought he was so handsome and he was charming and super flirty. And, I don’t know, it just made me happy every time he came in.”

 

Stef, 25, and Don, 70. Credit: Jiri Bakala/Barcroft Media via Getty Images
Stef, 25, and Don, 70. Credit: Jiri Bakala/Barcroft Media via Getty Images

Don eventually asked her out for drinks, and the rest is history – although that’s not to say it’s been plain-sailing ever since.

Stefani, who was just 20 when she first met Don, who is the same age as her late father, said most of her family have been unhappy about the unusual match.

She explained: “My mom was not a fan at all, my dad was not a fan, my brother was absolutely not a fan as well. So nobody was really on Don’s team.

“I had just turned 20, like just. So I think for my side of the family, they were a little bit like, ‘Whoa, what are you doing?’ They thought I was making a mistake, I got myself into a situation.”

By the time the two married a year and a half ago, Stefani’s family had thankfully warmed to Don, but the couple admitted they still get odd looks when in public.

Don said: “People on the street, they do that second take or third take or whatever it is or make a comment if I have Lachlan out for a walk or something and someone says, ‘oh, grandpa’s got the little boy today’, I don’t even correct them.”

 

Stef, 25, and Don, 70. Credit: Jiri Bakala/Barcroft Media via Getty Images
Stef, 25, and Don, 70. Credit: Jiri Bakala/Barcroft Media via Getty Images

But they refuse to let strangers’ judgement hold them back, with Stefani adding: “We choose, I guess, not to hide our relationship because why would you hide yours? Would anybody hide their relationship?”

She continued: “People always told me: ‘I’ll pray for you, like you’re in a really scary situation, he’s gaslighting you, he’s grooming you, you need to talk to somebody and get help and get out; like you’re in a really toxic relationship’.

“And I was like, all right, so here’s a guy who puts gas in my car when he’s got it, puts gas in our car, he brings me home flowers, he puts cute little sticky notes on my mirror, he rubs my feet or my back every night after work.”

It’s a sentiment Don shares, saying he doesn’t think they should worry about anything other than each other and their son.

He added: “I don’t think we have to prove it, we just show them by living your life the best you can and raise our son the best we can.”

 

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30 Clever Instagram Captions To Use After A Breakup

After a breakup, only you can decide if and when you’re ready to share your newly-single status with the world. You can keep a breakup private, of course. But if you want to make it clear to everyone at once that bae will no longer be making any appearances on your feed, you can rip off the Band-Aid with a telling Instagram post. What you’ll need: a friend with portrait mode, a fire solo shot, and — most importantly — a clever breakup Instagram caption. And if you’re a little distracted at the moment, don’t worry — I’ve got a few suggestions.

The perfect post-breakup caption doesn’t necessarily have to be petty. You can complement your first single lady pic with a quote that’s empowering or wise or even funny, depending on what you’re feeling and what sort of message you want to send. If you and your boo ended on bad terms, go ahead and give them a little sass. If the split was amicable, use your caption to demonstrate there’s no bad blood. Even if you’re not totally A-OK yet, these clever captions might just make you feel a little better — and they’ll definitely show everyone else that you’re ready to move on.

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  • “I’m done with great love. I’m back to great lovers.” — Sex and the City
  • “I don’t need anyone. Because I can do every single thing that a person in a relationship can. Everything. Even zip up my own dress.” — 30 Rock
  • “I mean sure, I have my bad days, but then I remember what a cute smile I have.” — Friends
  • “Maybe I won’t get married, ya know? Maybe I’ll do one of those ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ things.” — The Mindy Project
  • “I make no apologies for how I chose to repair what you broke.” — Grey’s Anatomy
  • “I am OK. I may not seem OK, and I may not be OK now, but I am, like, OK.” — Girls
  • “Revenge fantasies never work out the way you want.” — How I Met Your Mother

Movie Quotes

  • “By the way, I faked every orgasm.” — The Naked Gun
  • “I’m in love. I’m having a relationship with my pizza.” — Eat Pray Love
  • “No, I’m no one’s wife. But, oh, I love my life.” — Chicago
  • “I’m enjoying a relationship with two men simultaneously. The first called Ben, the other Jerry.” — Bridget Jones’s Diary
  • “You can go shave your back now.” — Mean Girls
  • “If he were feeling what I’m feeling then he would know how it feels.” — My Best Friend’s Wedding
  • “If you’re going to let one stupid prick ruin your life, you’re not the girl I thought you were.” — Legally Blonde
  • “The thing about being single is, you should cherish it. Because, in a week, or a lifetime, of being alone, you may only get one moment. One moment, when you’re not tied up in a relationship with anyone.” — How to Be Single

Song Lyrics

  • “Call it a curse, or just call me blessed, if you can’t handle my worst, you ain’t getting my best.” — Nicki Minaj, “Marilyn Monroe”
  • “I can’t believe that every day and every night, it’s getting better with you out of my life.” — Calvin Harris feat. Kelis, “Bounce”
  • “I know my place, and it ain’t with you.” — Kacey Musgraves, “Space Cowboy”
  • “My ex asked me, ‘Where you movin’?’ I said, ‘On to better things.'” — Drake, “10 Bands”
  • “We were a match, but not a fit. We were a dream, unrealistic.” — Katy Perry, “Miss You More”
  • “Thanks for the memories even though they weren’t so great.” — Fall Out Boy, “Thnks fr th Mmrs”
  • “Don’t you ever stress the ‘could haves.’ Baby, if it should have, it would have.” — Jordan Bratton, “Danger”
  • “I’ve been movin’ on since we said goodbye.” — Dua Lipa, “IDGAF”

Literary Quotes

  • “Like some wines, our love could neither mature nor travel.” — Graham Greene, The Comedians
  • “Failed relationships can be described as so much wasted makeup.” — Marian Keyes, Watermelon
  • “I like my relationships how I like my eggs. Over easy.” — Jarod Kintz, It Occurred to Me
  • “One day they’ll realize they lost a diamond while playing with worthless stones.” — Turcois Ominek, Masquerade
  • “I cannot compromise my respect for your love. You can keep your love, I will keep my respect.” — Amit Kalantri, Wealth of Words
  • “It was the beginning for me and the end for you.” — Nikki Rowe, Once a Girl, Now a Woman
  • “I’m proud of my heart. It’s been played, stabbed, cheated, burned, and broken… but somehow still works.” — Alcatraz Dey, The Serpentine Scrolls

It’s never easy to announce a breakup, but the right caption will show everything that you’re doing just fine — and it might even help you heal a little in the process.

 

 

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Rebecca – Chapter 10 – A Rare Bird – Part 1

“I couldn’t believe my good fortune. Would she simply be another beautiful bird who would perch beside me temporarily only to fly away?”

I met Rebecca 3 years ago on a date. Rebecca has recently made an appearance in my life so I thought I’d re-run this series so everyone won’t have to go back and search for her series to catch up. Enjoy!

Fall of 2016

It’s been a couple of weeks since my last date with Rebecca.

We both have very busy schedules, (Here we go again! See: Cherie) I set up a casual meet up at my favorite bar, Square 1682.

I was really looking forward to seeing Rebecca again. There was just something enchanting about her that I hadn’t encountered with any of the other women I’ve had in my life.

I arrived at Square around 5:15pm. My favorite bartender, Roman was on shift and he gave me a warm greeting and my usual drink. Chardonnay with a side of ice. I was actually feeling a bit nervous about seeing Rebecca again. But it was a good energy. More like anticipation and excitement mixed with apprehension. I haven’t been nervous on any of the other dates I’d been on but like I said, Rebecca has that certain something I find so intriguing.

I hit my wine hard and Roman set me up with a second. This should do the trick. Just a little extra to knock the edge off.

I waited, looking at my phone, and checking out the people that came and went from the neighborhood and the hotel attached to this bar. Seems like I’m always early and waiting for someone. Mostly women. The only person I know who is on point with the clock is my buddy Church. (See: Church – Brand Ambassador) He’s always on time or early. I love that about him.

I hate waiting for people who are always late for everything. We have more technology than ever to be punctual and navigate the world around us and no one can get it together. All of the technology is in their pockets and they still fuck it up. It just shows all the technology in the world doesn’t make people better, if anything, it makes them lazy.

My dad drilled punctuality into me as a youth and it has stood well with me to this day. Your word is your bond. Be on time. It shows that the person you’re meeting matters to you and their time is valuable.

I hate waiting so much I named my band in California, Haytwayten, because I hate waitin’ for people!

But I digress as usual. Rebecca is a lovely young girl worth waiting for, and wait I will. *sigh*

But, my wait is short lived because I hear the revolving door to the bar spin behind me. My heart beats faster because I’m expecting to see her lovely visage dressed in her usual skirt and heels.

But the girl who approaches me has her hair tied back in a pony tail, no makeup and is wearing blue hospital scrubs.

“Charles!” She hugs me as I rise from my chair. She feels good in my arms like an old friend. “Sorry I’m late, it’s been crazy. As you can see I just came from the… well, you know.”

“No worries. You look fine.” (I’d totally let this nurse give me a sponge bath.) “Thank you for coming out to meet with me!”

“Likewise, Sir!”

“How are things at the hospital?”

“The usual grind. 12 hour shifts and lots of overtime.”

“Sounds a bit like my life, but I’m sure not nearly as exciting.”

“Yea, but you don’t have to deal with a bunch of perverted old guys. You’d think if they’re in the hospital, they’d behave themselves. I mean, they’re old but they still look and make their little remarks. Some old coot pinched my butt the other day!”

I smiled. “I’m sorry to laugh but I think if you were my nurse you’d be my favorite, no matter how old I was. But I can imagine how that can be annoying on a daily basis, but I have to think… even if these old guys can no longer do anything they still have the ideas.”

“I suppose, but come on!”

“I know. What are you drinking?” (Roman appears on cue)

“I’ll have a Moscow Mule.”

 

It was so good to see her. She looked great. Fresh and pure. I liked seeing the stripped down basic Rebecca model. Still beautiful without any glam. The witty repartee, the laughter. The way she’d throw her head back and giggle at things I say and stories I’d tell. The way she’d touch my arm to tell me something, or moments when she’d sustain eye contact with me longer than necessary.

Or the way she’d gently sway to the music and smile.

Just a lovely soul.

I couldn’t believe my good fortune. Would she simply be another beautiful bird who would perch beside me temporarily only to fly away?

I was just so happy in that moment to sit beside her and chat. That was enough. I had no other plan. Just talk and laugh and drink with her. This is always the best part.

It was just so easy to be with Rebecca. The conversation simply flowed. I think some of us have had the honor to meet people in our lives that just fit.

Rebecca feels like that girl.

I think tonight I’m going to tell her that I’m having real feelings for her and I’d really like to go forward with some sort of relationship with her. 

We’d been hanging out for about two hours when she came out with this:

“I have to tell you something.”

“Oh awesome. I think I have something too.”

“You go first.”

“No. Ladies first, Rebecca.”

(Fingers crossed! Could this be a mutual moment for the both us?)

“Charles… I have an opportunity to go abroad and be a nurse to help out impoverished countries.”

Bombshell.

I hope Rebecca couldn’t see all of the color draining from my face.

“Wait…what?”

“Yea. It would be an awesome opportunity for me career-wise and these countries really need help. I want to take what I know and help people.”

“Ummm… awesome. Where?”

“Paraguay!”

“South America?” (Me, still stunned and feeling that old searing in my chest left over from my ex girlfriend, Annabelle when verbal bombs are dropped)

“Yea… that country really needs nurses. It’s an amazing opportunity.”

(Fuck. I could lose her again) “Do you know much about the country? Who else is going? Is is definite?”

“If I get it, I’ll be down there with one other girl I know from the hospital.

I’ve done a bunch of research. Although land-locked, Paraguay has the advantage of two major river systems that provide abundant water for energy, industry, and agriculture. For 35 years one of the most brutally oppressive military dictatorships in South America, under Alfredo Stroessner, severely limited education and human rights, with far-reaching effects that continued even after a democratic government began in 1993.

“That sounds dangerous, Rebecca.”

“Dude…twelve years ago, Paraguay was only slightly less lacking in professional nurses than Haiti, but has the advantage of a growing economy and a very young population eager to become take advantage of educational opportunities. Although the most recent statistics are several years out of date, that number has now risen significantly.”

“Are you sure you want to do this?”

“Yes! It’s an incredible opportunity to make a difference. Health care provision has improved as more and more professional health care workers are required to do internships in areas that are lacking medical care. Paraguay has two official languages: Spanish and Guarani. The latter is spoken much more frequently than Spanish in rural areas, but basic health care and education can be provided in Spanish, although less effectively. I speak fluent Spanish, as you know… Other ethnic groups, including German, Korean, Japanese, and indigenous groups local to Paraguay provide opportunity for international nurses who want to be able to speak at one language when they arrive.

“Yea but is it safe?” (Me… still shell shocked)

“Yes! The flora and fauna of Paraguay make it a beautiful country for both short term and longer engagement. Populated with warm and friendly people, it’s a good place to make a difference professionally. The fucking ratio is a thousand people to one nurse! They need my help!”

“Wow… Ummm, that’s amazing news, Rebecca. I’m speechless. I’m so proud of you. (Fuck!) How long?

“Oh… only three to six months.”

“I see. When do you find out if you get picked?”

“Like in the next two weeks! Isn’t it incredible? It’ll get me out of here and give me a chance to see a different part of the world and culture.”

“Well, I think that’s great news, Rebecca. Travel can be so broadening for a young person. Do it now while you still can.” (Dying inside)

Rebecca clasped my hands. “Chaz. I’m so glad you’re happy for me. I didn’t know how you’d take the idea.”

“I think it’s wonderful!” (Bold-faced lie) “I’m really proud of you, Rebecca. Go for it.”

Rebecca hugged me and kissed me quickly on the lips. “Thank you so much! I’ll let you know if I get it!”

“Yea, awesome.” (Ready to kill myself)

“Oh what did you want to tell me?”

 

“I don’t remember.”

 

 

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