People Divulge Their Worst ‘Sh*t, I’m Dating A Crazy Person’ Experience

You guys ever stop and take a long look at your relationship and suddenly realize you REALLY need an eject button? Don’t sweat it, it happens to the best of us… aaand literally everybody in this article.

Personally, I once dated someone who habitually broke into my house to “surprise” me with gifts that I didn’t want or like. Coming home to twelve dozen roses sounds romantic … but it really hits a nerve when you have repeatedly explained that you don’t like roses. That’s especially true if that nerve is frayed because you have asked your partner repeatedly to not enter your home without you, you didn’t give them a key, and you have no idea how they keep getting in.

It’s hard to see something as romantic when it feels designed to remind you that your boundaries are meaningless, you’re not safe in your own home, and your partner doesn’t actually care what you like – only what they have decided you should like.

Reddit user x_Smokey asked:

So many reddit users have experiences with abusive, narcissistic, and just plain strange partners … and that’s to say nothing of the person who totally stole a car but didn’t seem to understand why that was wrong because they were just “borrowing” it – without permission.

Speaking of cars, those of you curious about how things ended with the Rose Bandit … when I broke up with him his mother tried to guilt my parents into paying her a few hundred dollars to cover the cost of breaking off some arranged marriage he allegedly had. Also, he airbrushed my name across the front of his car – months after we split up.

Yeah. That was a doozie; so are all of these stories.

When Dad Gets Involved

Compared to the more hilarious things, mine is a little more serious and depressing. My first serious relationship was in college and at first she treated me well. After a while things turned emotionally abusive but me being naive and also easy to manipulate, I didn’t see it. She turned me against a lot of my friends and family.

Side note but important: my dad has been through some terrible relationships in the past including my mom. He’s usually a very quiet person and usually lets me figure out my mistakes on my own.

My real wake up moment was when I was on the phone having a fight with her, and she was literally berating me and my dad stomped into my room and shouted loud enough for her to hear “this is NOT what you deserve and she isn’t worth it!”

I left her about a week later once I was able to get all my sh*t from her apartment. When my calm, collected father gets involved I know something isn’t right. She ended up getting into another relationship like two months after I left, and looking back on everything, she probably had some seriously unresolved PTSD from her childhood. I hope she got the help she needs, but I sure hope she isn’t abusing her current significant other.

Pat Pat

I realized it as I was sitting on the windowsill of the 2nd floor wondering if I would die if I hit the pavement.

Thankfully, I snapped back to reality and realized that I shouldn’t sacrifice my happiness for a manipulative douche that forces me to work while he had no job, clean his house, and made me do humiliating things … like dry him off after he takes a shower. He insisted I try him by saying “pat pat” and patting him with a towel. He seriously got pissed when I told him I wouldn’t do it anymore and said it was a sign that I loved him and he would think I didn’t love him anymore of I didn’t do it.

I started planning my escape since my parents lived a 12 hr drive away. I told them to get me 4 months from the time I texted them because it would give me time to get out of there to a safe place and I would send the safe address to them when they were ready to leave and drive to me. I waited till he fell asleep 3 days before they would be there, threw all my stuff into trash bags and threw it off the back porch where a friend waited below with a van and I booked it. I shut my phone off for the next week and when I turned it on he asked where I was and I said far away from you.

Dodging A Silver Bullet

She legit thought she was a werewolf and broke up with me because Valentines Day was on a full moon, I didn’t find out she thought she was a werewolf until after we broke up. My best friend knew the entire time but he “forgot.”

Her friends also thought they were really a fairy. There were more in their group but I forget what they thought they were. Pretty sure I dodged one hell of a bullet

Highlander

Dated a girl who was convinced that she was an immortal (Like the Highlander) and that she was a part of a secret society who “rode the lighting” and that she would show me her powers one day soon.

So…I figured out that it was time to peace out ASAP and man; did it get weird and clingy for like 2-3 weeks.

Definitely a yikes in retrospect lol

Hmmmmm

Was living in an east Asian country about 10 years ago

Used to hook up with this older woman from time to time. One time want back to her place and she said I could just live with her. hmmm.

Then she said since I was handsome she wouldn’t like me going out, so I can just get my stuff and stay with her forever. Hmmmmmmmmm.

Then she said, with full sincerity, that I could wear a little collar and just be like her pet.HMMMMMMMMMM

Pennies

We had gone out a few times and he was such a gentleman. He was really handsome and was always saying the right thing at the right time.

I did see him turn red a couple times over insignificant things, but I thought it was nerves. No biggie.

He kept a 32oz cup full of pennies in the cup holder of the car. I commented on it, he just laughed and said that it was his catch-all.

One night we went out for a little bit and a few small things happened…like he hit his elbow, the waitress knocked over a glass nearby, a car passed too close as we walked, he dropped the keys trying to open the car… etc. Eventually his mood got worse and worse til he was boiling and driving like a maniac.

Another driver made him mad, so my date quickly switched lanes to pass the car on the right. He then reached down and grabbed a handful of pennies and threw them at the other car.

We were going 65 on a bridge.

Elite Child Militia

This wasn’t a date but it was a friendship. Had a classmate that I got along with fairly well and I had his number so I could get notes and whatever. We started texting back and forth and he starts calling me. It started innocent but got really weird really quick. We both have issues with depression and he said he was in a rough spot. Okay, yeah been there so I tried giving him someone to listen to.

He started telling me about his time in this elite child militia that worked for the secret service. How he was dealing with ptsd from his trips to get biological weapons out of the middle east. He was an elite soldier apparently, taught in ninjustu and Krav Maga. He was a one man killing machine and his old captain was trying to get him back in the field.

He freaked me out, started telling me I was the only person that understood him and that he could rely on me. He was seconds away from confessing love. Keep in mind, he knew I was engaged. I got off the phone, deleted his number and never contacted him again.

Grazed

I dated a guy who lived about three hours away. We had visited each other’s towns and as mature adults, this was an acceptable setup.

Until he showed up in the middle of the day on a Tuesday (he had a m-f 9-5) and demanded that I pack my stuff and come with him because society was getting ready to collapse. I had horses and dogs and he told me to leave them behind because when the food supply went they would just be eaten anyway.

He told me he had a bunker prepared with three years worth of food, supplies and ammunition.

I went into the other room and called the police to come and take his crazy *ss out of there. I ended up with a restraining order and I eventually moved because he wouldn’t stop.

I wouldn’t say I dodged a bullet; I was definitely grazed.

One Direction

I dated this guy who clearly seemed insecure mostly of his looks after this situation. So, I was obsessed with One Direction at the time, in their fetus phase. I had posters all over my walls, even on the ceiling, a few in the locker, some on my notebooks, eh you get the point.

Anyways, we were FaceTiming one night and he saw all the posters and started just going OFF about how they’re “so much better looking than him”, and “I love them more than him,” and “you’re probably gonna go marry them one day instead of me,” or “you probably wish you’d lose your virginity to them instead of me.”

He then proceeds to demand I rip every poster off my wall and tear it up in front of him to ‘prove my love’ for him and if I didn’t he’d ‘kill himself’. He was bawling his eyes out, the kind of crying where it’s like you have the hiccups and it’s hard to breathe.

I was shocked and when I refused to do the things he wanted me to do, he stood up and punched a huge hole in the wall next to his bed. At the end of the whole conversation that night, he said he forgave ME and then he loved me and acted like nothing happened the next day. He had/probably still has anger management problems to this day. I’m not sure if he’s ever going to get help for it.

All For Attention

We dated for about 6 months before I broke up with him for hurting himself for attention.

He would cut himself so deep that fat poked out and then show me. When he didn’t outright show me, he would hint that he cut again “oh ouchhhh” *grasping arm* then would look at me and hope I noticed. When I would make him show me (to make sure he was okay, no infection etc) he would refuse and refuse but eventually give in and then crack a little smile while showing me.

He’d do this kind of stuff for attention all the time. But I was so “madly in love” that I didn’t notice. It hit me when he called me (FaceTime) and “tried to hide” that he had just attempted to hang himself. I realized this was all for attention right about that moment.

I pretended not to notice the marks on his neck but he kept trying to find ways to flaunt them, like showing off collared shirts, leaning in close to button them. Applying lotion to the area, rubbing over and over etc. when I continued to pretend not to notice for like 45 mins he eventually got mad at me and told me that I wasn’t giving him attention.

That’s when I went ballistic.

I told him everything that I’d noticed ending with “I think it’s time to end this, I’m breaking up with you” he told me that he’d kill himself if I broke up with him. I said “okay please don’t do that but this is over” and hung up. Probably not a good idea in hind sight.

After checking up on him through a mutual friend (he’s fine) I learned that he had been cheating on me with someone I’ll call P. Now P and him were dating. But now he’s cheating on P with someone called D. He and P broke up and now he’s dating D I have no idea if he’s cheating on D or not but whatever.

I talked to P and P broke up with him for the same reasons. I’m glad that ended and I wish it was sooner.

Horror Film Headlights

When I was driving back home from visiting my father and my long-distance boyfriend was in his car at the gas station down the road. As soon as I had passed, he pulled out and followed me to go home.

We had been dating since I was old enough to date. I met him through one of my online friends who lived in the same state, but she was way up north while I was in the Southeastern part. (I’m an adult now, but we started when I was just 13.) He loved the chase as he flirted with other women and left me begging for it to just be me. A sick teenage relationship.

But the more he cheated, the crazier, more jealous, and more possessive he got. It started by him saying, “Let’s just get rid of our social media, that’ll help tremendously.”

Then it went to, “I prefer if you left me on speaker when you’re with friends and I’ll just mute my end.”

So as a high school girl, I had a solid clique of girls I hung out with, and they were forced to hang out with me with my phone on call with my boyfriend at ALL times. Even while we slept. Again, still didn’t ring a bell in my head that “hey, this guy’s a little off.” Stupid teenage in love me.

We were old enough to drive at this point, so any time I wasn’t answering my phone as much as I did the day before, he’d show up at my house. (We lived 3 hours away from each other). Literally any time my texts even changed mood in the SLIGHTEST.

At this point, he was ATTACHED and did not have a single care in the world about anything except me. Life seemed great in my book, because if he’s so focused on me, he’s not paying attention to others right? Wrong. I developed a habit of going through his phone after all the times he’d done things behind my back and bingo! Found another victim in his cycle; he was cheating again.

So after I had found out, he made us download Life360. It’s a popular app for parents to locate their children with their phones. I was to get the app and join his “circle” and he labeled all the points where I should be. This is when I started to feel a little off, I didn’t think he was crazy. But again, what the hell red flag didn’t I miss so far?

After months of him tracking me, and getting numerous calls when I went to a destination that wasn’t labeled, I went to visit my father. That was another unknown location that we had forgotten to label because I didn’t visit my dad’s much. You’re able to see if it’s a house or business location by zooming in, and that’s exactly what he did.

We were arguing that day so I decided to stay off my phone and enjoy time with the family. Hours had passed, and it was around 10 pm, so I headed out to go home. No biggie. Still didn’t check my phone.

I was about two minutes away from home when I saw the gas station… and then my heart started racing when I saw his car. He was just sitting there, watching and waiting. It was like a horror film, he had his lights directed towards the road and was ready to leave as soon he saw me. I checked my phone in fear, and I had over 30 missed calls from the dude. About 50+ texts. This is all from ONE DAY.

That. That is when I realized. Oh sh*t. I’m dating a crazy person.

You Stole The Car

I had been dating this guy from work for a couple of weeks. He seemed nice and pretty put together. He told me he needed to go pick up his sister from another state and would be out of town for a weekend. Several days later he calls and says he may not be back for awhile because he had been arrested for stealing a car.

“The car you have driven ever since I’ve known you?” which was a couple of months. Yes, he says, but it’s a misunderstanding. He starts telling me a nutty story about how he had been given the keys to drive the car “for a little while” and he just hadn’t gone back yet because he had been busy and he just thought of that as “borrowing” the car??? For months???

I asked him if he had paid a deposit or had arranged anything with the dealership. No he says, why should he? While I am digesting all this I realize some red flags about certain behavior I had noticed but dismissed when I had been riding in the car with him; he was nervous in heavy traffic, round about routes, freaked out when spotting a cop car, etc.

There was also the fact that he still had the dealer tag, expired, on the car(he said he had moved and hadn’t updated his address).

I told him,”You stole the car.” He starts going no no no and giving a convoluted excuse that I couldn’t even understand. Long story short I told him I never wanted to see him again and to never call me again. He never even came back to work.

Sushi Date

Calling it “dating” would be stretching it as it only lasted about one date, but I took a girl out to sushi and 24 hours later I heard from a friend that she had already named our children and planned out our future. Suffice it to say, I got the f out of that relationship in a flash.

Darth Plushie

In eighth grade, some guy had a massive crush on me. However, he only talked via a Darth Vader puppet and called it ‘Darth Plushie’. He thought it was hilarious and great, and even put that thing around the corner of the girls bathroom whenever I was getting out. It was… interesting…

If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/

 

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Exactly What Men Want To Hear From Women (But Would Never Admit)

“It is the differences between men and women, not the sameness, that creates the tension and the delight.” – Edward Abbey

Men and women are, undeniably, different. While these differences are something to be celebrated, it can make communication a challenge. It takes empathy and a desire for connection to break through these barriers.

You can’t routinely expect a man to want to hear the same things as you do. What makes you feel happy and loved is not always going to be what does the equivalent for him.

If you’re feeling a little lost about what your man wants to hear, here’s a list of suggestions to get started.

1. Compliments

It’s a well-understood fact that women appreciate compliments. After all, it’s more common for a man to tell a woman she looks beautiful than for a woman to tell a man he looks handsome. But while men often present a tougher exterior, they feel the same desire to be complimented.

Don’t think you’re going to embarrass your man by recognizing his qualities. If he gets a new haircut, tell him you think it looks super flattering. Comment on how sexy he looks in those jeans. You can even just take a moment on an average day and say, “Wow, you look great today.”

Men need this self-esteem boost just as much as women, but it’s less socially acceptable for them to admit it. Make your guy’s day by complimenting him genuinely.

2. That you appreciate him

“Women need to feel loved, and men need to feel needed.” – Rita Mae Brown

Men are hardwired to want to feel useful to you. This can be in something as simple as helping you with an odd job around the house, but it can be deeper than that, too. If you look relieved or immediately pleased when he walks in the door, he’ll feel like you truly crave his presence.

Always thank him for the little efforts he makes to assist you, but go further than that. Let him know that you appreciate his mere existence, who he is as a person. Give him a big hug or kiss as soon as you see him. At the end of the day, straight-up saying, “I appreciate you” can have a profound effect.

 

3. What you like

You’re reading this article because you’re aware of the differences between how men and women communicate. Just like you weren’t born instinctively knowing what a man needs to hear, a man needs help understanding what a woman wants.

Women tend to pick up on the subtler cues in facial responses or conversations faster than men. For this reason, you may need to be more direct than you would with a woman when expressing yourself. Don’t drop a sly hint about what you want for your birthday and expect him to decipher your meaning. If you say “I’m fine” in a tense tone, he’s probably just going to take your words at face value.

This kind of miscommunication builds wildly unnecessary resentment between the two of you. Save yourself some grief by telling him bluntly what you want and how you feel. Maybe you think he should just “know,” but he doesn’t, so don’t set him up to fail.

4. Transparency

A man feels safe with a woman who is honest. This builds trust. If you play mind games or try to manipulate him, he’s going to feel on guard around you. That kind of relationship is not one that will last.

A man wants to come home to someone who is reliably on his side. If he has to jump through hoops to figure you out, being around you will be a chore instead of a reprieve. Be his beautiful confidante by being truthful and trustworthy at all times.

Occasionally it’s hard to be honest with the person you love, but if they are important to you then you have to find a way to do it.

5. That you accept him

Every human craves acceptance. Conditional love that comes with strings is not real love.

If you constantly criticize him, he’ll never be able to relax. He may try and change for you, but he’ll feel terrible about himself. There’s always going to be resentment lingering under the surface. If you always feel the need to change him, you’re probably not with the right person.

A real, loving relationship will not include one person trying to change or “fix” the other. There’s nothing wrong with having the ambition to become a better version of yourself, but the right person will make you want to do that without saying a single word.

 

6. That everything’s cool

You have to learn to choose your battles. If something isn’t that big of a deal, don’t make it one. If you’re constantly on the verge of hysterics, he’ll feel like he’s walking on eggshells. That’s no way to thrive in a relationship.

Try to be easy going. This doesn’t mean you should be a pushover if something upsets you. It just means that you shouldn’t sweat the small stuff. If you can laugh about something instead of getting wound up, that’s always the best option. This isn’t just to put him at ease – it will make you a more content person as well.

Like I said earlier, men move toward what feels good. If he senses drama in the vicinity, he won’t want any part of it. I know it’s fun to be dramatic, but men don’t bond over drama the way a lot of women do. Men bond when everything is cool and there are no problems.

7. Be real

You can try to fake parts of your personality, and it may work for a while, but it’s never going to pan out long-term. People have an innate ability to sniff out insincerity. Something about you will seem “off.” It’s going to be exhausting for you, too. The superior approach is to just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may.

Speaking honestly and authentically is key to a healthy relationship. Passive aggressive or snarky comments will get you nowhere. Before you begin a conversation, think about what your goal is. Speak with that target in mind. This will help you avoid pointless conversation circles that succeed only in draining both of you.

8.That you respect him

Having legitimate respect for a man doesn’t mean you are being submissive to him. Respect is a crucial part of any real relationship, including non-romantic ones. It has to be mutual, and it has to be sincere.

This means that whatever his ambitions, opinions, or needs are – you treat them with dignity. Regarding his thoughts with patience and kindness doesn’t mean you have to agree with them. It does mean that you never mock or belittle him for them. Be careful of doing this even in jest, because it would be easy to accidentally wound his ego if you went even a little too far.

9. How he’s different

This is another area where people are quick to recognize a woman’s need, but are dismissive of a man’s. If you don’t point out how he is valued and different in comparison to other men, he’ll feel like he could be replaced.

Have fun making him feel irresistible. Fuss him even if he acts like he doesn’t need to hear it. Observe his specific quirks and delight in them. Even if he doesn’t outright confirm it, this will make him feel special.

Men want to feel chosen because of how great and amazing and special they are, not because you were lonely and he’s a dude with a pulse. So let him know what he’s the man that captured your heart and stood out from all the rest.

 

10.That you admire him

Nothing is more motivating to a man than hearing: “I admire the man you are.” Compliments and admissions of love are great, but being admired ranks at the top. It means you are proud of him.

Showing him your admiration in private is one thing, but it’s even better to also show it publicly. You can do this by praising him in front of your friends. If you’re at a family dinner, brag about his recent accomplishments. He might shake his head or roll his eyes, but inside he will be thrilled that you are so proud of him.

11.That he enhances your life

Any time you observe a way your man adds to your life, tell him. He might be doing it absent-mindedly, or he may not even realize you noticed. Giving him credit for the way he enriches your life will be beneficial to both of you.

Making a habit of expressing yourself in this way will also encourage him to do the same. Two people who feel free to openly describe their adoration for each other are two people in a very satisfying relationship.

A man doesn’t always know that just his presence makes you happy, so tell him!

12.That you feel safe with him

It might sound cliché, but a man craves feeling like your protector. This can manifest itself in multiple ways. For example, it’ll feel good if you have faith in him defending you against physical dangers.

But it’s also meaningful when you indicate that you feel emotionally safe with him. If you seem on edge and guarded, he’ll feel like he is coming up incomplete. He’ll probably feel like he still hasn’t proved himself to you. When you demonstrate your comfort and security in him, he will be able to relax as well.

13.That you believe in him

There’s just about nothing worse than feeling like someone who you care about doesn’t believe in you. When this kind of attack comes from a stranger, you can use it as fuel to prove them wrong. But you never want that kind of skepticism to come from the woman you love.

Assuring your man that you have full confidence in him will change the way he carries himself. He’ll wear that loyalty like a badge of honor. Knowing that you support him no matter what will make him feel equipped to reach his full potential in life.

I hope this article helped you better understand what men want to hear and what really activates him and reaches him deeply. But there is more you need to know. There is one defining moment in every relationship that determines if it will last, or if you will be left heartbroken. At some point, he will ask himself: Is this the woman I want to commit myself to? The answer will determine whether the relationship deepens or ends. Do you know how a man decides a woman is girlfriend or wife material?

Here is another big problem most will face: He seems to be losing interest, withdrawing, or going cold. Do you know what to do? If not, read this next: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…
In summary…

What Men Want to Hear:

  1. Compliments
  2. That you appreciate him
  3. What you like
  4. Transparency
  5. That you accept him
  6. That everything’s cool
  7. Be real
  8. That you respect him
  9. How he’s different
  10. That you admire him
  11. That he enhances your life
  12. That you feel safe with him
  13. That you believe in him

what men want to hear from women

 

Sun Stories: Trinity – Chapter 3 – Dopamine Overload

I was working at the salon. It was Saturday. We’re firmly ensconced in the busy season and killing it. I’m on my own, but the cash register is singing and I’m having an amazing day.

I’m texting a potential girl for a lunch date this week, when my phone buzzed.

I thought it was the girl I had been texting with a final word. (Brooke again trying to catfish me?)

But I got a sudden text from Trinity.

It got my strict attention.

“I’m seeing a lot of legs!!! You must be so happy lololol”

I’m shocked and astounded. Here’s a girl I really like, that ghosted me, but suddenly lights me up. I need to be cautious,…. or I need to be… ME.

You know who I’ll pick.

“Hi, Trinity. It’s been a total leg show here at the salon all day. Finally finishing up the day.”

“That’s wonderful!! Lol It’s a total leg show out in the street too!! I feel overdressed lolo!

I love that the girl I really like that ghosted me for a week has suddenly contacted me and is discussing my favorite fetish and is now online!

“What are you up to? I could go for a post work cold beer”

“I’m in your neck of the woods! Where should I go?

So this is the girl I really I want to hang out with and a week ago I was angry because she blew me off. The gods must be smiling upon me for bringing in over a thousand dollars into the salon today.

This is my moment with Trinity…..I pull the trigger.

“Meet me at Happy Rooster in 15 minutes.

 

Holy Shit. Is this really happening?

I finish up at the salon and lock the door. I light a celebratory cig and walk down Walnut street to 16th. Happy Rooster is a block away.

I’ve chosen well.

Prey is in range, and the lion is on his way. I’ve worked in sales my whole life. When the client is ready. You must strike.

I’m excited. I haven’t heard a word from Trinity in over a week since we last tried to meet up. I thought it was dead and gave up. But after a great day at the salon and the 80 degree weather, the planets are lining up and I’m ready to unfold with the universe as usual.

This shouldn’t be happening, but it IS!

It so reminds me of when I was courting Michelle. (See: Michelle – A Brand New Day) That energy. That unsure, off balance vibe, that’s always going to right itself once you see her. Just be you. That charming guy at the salon that she feels safe with.

I’m not worried, I can only think of the smell of the cigarette I’m smoking right before I sit next to her in Happy Rooster.

I head over there, puffin tuff. I have to do it. This is destiny. Who gives a shit. She has a boyfriend in Boston, and she’s just texted me.

I have to be me.

The city is awash with people. The weather is unseasonable warm and it’s a preview of what the city looks like all summer. A non-stop sea of lovely young women in various stages of undress.

I traveled two blocks and it was a non-stop pageant of bare legs. It was magic for me. But I love that not only did Trinity realize the exposure, she connected it to me and reached out.

That’s huge. She remembers what I like, and took the time to text me on a special day.

Let’s put a cap on this extraordinary money day at the salon with a beer with a pretty girl.

“Just arrived.”

I toss my cig and head in.

Trinity’s at the bar and there’s surprisingly plenty of room.

I like that. The bartender, Chase is a raven haired beauty with tattoos in all of the wrong places that will assure she’ll never work a job where she has to pay taxes.

Her bar back is a very pretty, young baby with hair like chocolate and a face that’s made for a painting.

I enter and Trinity’s at the bar sipping a beer and very happy.

I’m stunned that I am in her presence.

A week ago I was so pissed that she ghosted me and I was doing my usual dopamine withdrawal, but she has no idea.

“Hey, Charles… sit where you want. On either side of me.”

“I sit to the right.

I tell the bartender (Hot Chase) I’d like a Yards, Pale Ale. ( I haven’t had a beer in 6 months because I’m not into beer and I figure that would work.

“When does Victory Summer Love Happen?”

“I have it now.”

“Oh God… I want that…”

I am overjoyed that Happy Rooster has my favorite summer beer and I’m sitting next to the object of my desire. (For the moment)

Chase places the ice cold bottle in front of me on the bar and I’m stupid happy to be in this moment.

I turn to Trinity and we toast. I feel the click of the necks of our bottles and then we both tap the bottles on the bar. We sip. “To new friends.”

We both sip from our beers and after the day I’ve had, I describe the taste of Summer Love as kissing the face of God.

I tell Trinity about how I wanted to text her after she ghosted me. How I wanted to say, “This is why you have no friends… you don’t ever get back to them!”

Trinity loved this and laughed saying her friends in Boston say the same thing.

There was much laughter and I could feel our amazing connection.

Trinity was constantly doing all of the things to me that I write about in this blog. Touching her face, grabbing my arm, touching me, etc. Just text book attraction.

I love this.

I just want to hang out with Trinity, and get free drinks at Square with her. I don’t want to hurt her relationship with the boyfriend in Boston.

Ever.

Not cool.

“I’m sorry I ghosted you but my job is so intense i just get so focused on it I forget everything else. I’m sorry. My friends in Boston tell me the same thing.

“You have friends?”

We laughed over that.

I won’t do that to you ever again.”

No worries. I’m happy to have you in this moment. Trinity.”

“I have to go soon.”

“Okay.”

“I have to go meet my boyfriend at the bus station. He’s coming into town in an hour and then we’re going on vacation.

“Finally. You’ve been working your ass off, Trinity.”

Yea. We’re going to Austin and then I’m leaving him and going to see a friend in Colorado. She’s been wanting to see me, and if I’m in Austin I have no excuse not to jump and see her.

I love all of this intrigue. How strong can their relationship be if they are so far apart? Then she leaves him in Austin and sees her friend.

This makes me think back to when Michelle was trying to get back with her ex Dave and was making all the effort and I clipped her because I was present here in the city.

If I got super cranky when Trinity didn’t get back to me after I invited her out for free drinks. that tells me the vibe is on. I love the dopamine vibe.

We walk outside, and smoke cigarettes together. It’s so warm out. A rare day this chilly Spring.

I feel such a strong connection to Trinity and I hope if anything at my age I just get to hang with her again.

I’m literally at that point in my life.

Just to go to the movies would be amazing. Kill some dinosaurs at Dave and Buster’s would be terrific.

I’ve isolated my prey and I really like her.

We flick our cigs and she goes in for the hug.

I like that.

“When I get back from all of this we’ll go to Square and do that thing we talked about.”

“Yes. It’ll all be free.”

“Cool. see then, Charles.”

I tell her the bus station from Boston is in Chinatown.

I watch as Trinity walks away knowing that even though her legs are wrapped in denim they are magic beyond words.

I need to drink with her at Square.

I’ll just flirt with all of my favorites at the salon until Trinity returns.

And compartmentalize the rest of my life as usual.

Welcome to phicklephilly.