What It’s Like to Be a Cam Girl When Everyone’s Self-Isolating

“I do a lot more wellness check-ins in between nudes.”

Model Indi Rossi has noticed a shift in tone during her private shows on ImLive.

“Before coronavirus, guys would gush about how hard they came during my show, but now their orgasms seem to be less intense,” she says. Instead, she’s finding more men just want to vent about their lives amid self-isolation during the coronavirus pandemic.

As COVID-19 spreads across the globe, cam girls say business is booming. Their customers don’t just want sexual release; they’re also alone, depressed from being laid off, craving social interaction, and anxious about the state of the world. Porn doesn’t offer that, but cam sites do.

On cam sites, users can log on and watch models perform live via webcam (hence the name “cam site”). Features vary slightly from site to site, but most have options to chat with cam girls via messenger and tip them if they’re doing something you like. Customers can also pay for one-on-one sessions with their favorite models.

“There’s not a doubt in my mind that a huge percentage [of viewership] is from social distancing,” says a model who goes by The_MILF_Becca. “People are bored, nervous, lonely, you name it. They are looking for distraction and entertainment. Enter cam models.”

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The_MILF_Becca (link NSFW), 30, says she’s seeing about three to five new clients per shift and about an 11% increase in revenue per hour. “What I didn’t expect were the number of old members who I haven’t heard from in years,” she says.

Since the spread of coronavirus, model Indi Rossi, 23, has noticed “quite a few names” on her ImLive channel that are unfamiliar. “I think social distancing is definitely affecting my business [positively],” she says.

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Model HottyTeen69 isn’t seeing as many new clients, but she’s noticed that a lot of her regular clients are noticeably spending many more hours online. She reports an increase of around 40-50% in earnings. “Of course people are turning online due to social distancing,” she says. “I’ve connected with a lot of new members who stay online for many hours because they feel alone, which is a natural effect stemming from isolation.”

Cam models say they’re seeing more business at all hours of the day, and from many places across the globe. HarperMadi, 25, who models on MyFreeCams, has noticed a huge rise in business from states that have set laws closing down gyms, nightlife, restaurants, and bars. However, as more states adopt stricter and similar “lockdown” regulations, there may be less of a difference in viewership by state.

“I’ve been taking more shows with people who just want to commiserate about the situation.”

Coronavirus has also changed how these models interact with their fans. While it was common before coronavirus for clients to take a private show with Rossi “just to talk about life,” there’s been even more of that since the pandemic.

“I’ve been taking more shows with people who just want to commiserate about the situation,” she says. These men aren’t seeking sexual stimulation as much as a shoulder to cry on. They’ve lost their jobs, they’re bored, they’re lonely, and they need someone, explains Rossi.

One of the most noticeable changes Rossi’s seen is that people ask if she’s feeling okay. When she ends a private show, both she and her client will tell each other to stay safe. “Our pleasantries are different than normal,” she says.

HarperMadi will ask if everyone has food, if they’ve been laid off, how they’re taking everything, and so on. “They worry a lot about me and will check on me throughout the day on social media to make sure I’m okay,” she adds.

The_MILF_Becca, really sums it: “I do a lot more wellness check-ins in between nudes.”

There’s a sense of solidarity among the viewers, too. That’s why The_MILF_Becca says her style of cam show has “completely changed.” She now does a lot more goal-oriented shows, encouraging everyone in the channel to work together. (Example: If you all tip me 1,000 tokens, I’ll take off my top.)

She says it fosters a sense of community.

 

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5 Ways To Attract True Love Into Your Life (Starting Today!)

Are you attracting love the right way?

There is plenty of dating advice out there but if you want to specifically know how to find love and attract a potential relationship in your life, you need to know if you’re doing the right thing.

Ask yourself: are your actions attracting love or blocking it from your life?

The Law of Attraction states that we all have “the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on.” So, if you’re attracted to a person and want them to feel the same way, you can.

However, finding love requires some inner work.

Here are 5 important ways to find and attract love.

1. Love yourself

This may seem cliche but it is so important when you’re dating and looking for love. If you don’t love yourself or are always putting yourself down, you will only attract those who won’t truly love you and who will also put you down.

How you treat yourself will be directly reflected in who you attract to you. Learn to admire yourself and be confident! Be in love with yourself!

Don’t compare yourself to others — love your amazing qualities! Confidence attracts love. Think about it, do you want someone who is insecure and down on themselves all the time? No, you want someone who is confident! If you aren’t confident in yourself, no one else can be either!

Work through any insecurities you have and know that you are exactly who you should be. Love is attracted to fun and confident. Let down the walls you have built up, love yourself, and have some fun!

2. Don’t be overly focused on finding love

Unfortunately, love only comes when you least expect it and aren’t really looking for it. When you are desperately looking for love, an energy of desperation comes through and that can never attract love.

Focus on finding happiness within you first and put your energy into that instead. Happiness can only be found within yourself.

3. Let go of the past

You cannot be holding on to an ex or stuck in the past and expect to also move forward with love. So really look back and be sure you have fully moved forward. Work through and close any past chapters so you can be free to move forward.

You can never move forward if part of you is still stuck in the past. Look into all areas of your past, not just relationships.

Are there emotions you haven’t dealt with and things you haven’t faced yet? Really focus on settling those things so you can free yourself up for love!

Holding onto the past only takes up the space where love goes. Empty that space so you are really ready for love!

4. Express your true self

Be yourself! Let your true self free! Hiding or being secretive can never attract true love. That only attracts more secretiveness and attracts those who can’t be attracted to your true self which always ends badly.

Always speak up and say how you feel, never push anything under the rug or ignore any red flags. You must be your authentic self to attract authentic love.

5. Don’t ever look for someone to save you

Don’t ever go into a relationship thinking you need to be saved. To really find love, you need to be whole in yourself first then love is the cherry on top.

Looking for someone to save you will only turn into an unbalanced and unhealthy relationship. Remember only you can save yourself no one else can do that for you.

These dating tips may sound simple but they require your full attention and effort. And when you’ve done them, you’re finally ready to love and attract the right person to your life.

 

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9 Reasons To Never Chase After A Guy – No Exceptions

Chase after your dreams instead.

So, you find yourself having a crush. It makes you as crazy as it does happy. One moment you think all hope is lost, and then there’s that one text message that means it’s back on. You scheme and you plot (because we all do it) on how to play the game.

You vent about hating the game, but we all know that if we were truly as forward as we’d like to be, it would seem far crazier than our hidden agendas.

So, we pretend and we over-analyze everything. Absolutely everything. From punctuation marks to the time it takes to respond, it all means something to us when, in all likelihood, it meant nothing at all.

Instead of religiously following dating advice and seeking out love, here’s why you should absolutely stop chasing your crush and focus on more important things in life..

1. Chasing someone that isn’t pursuing you gets you nowhere except running circles around your own heart.

When you meet the right person, you won’t need to run after them, because you’ll both want to walk together the moment you see eye-to-eye. Your worlds will change and the only direction left to go will be forward.

Otherwise, you wind up wasting time conspiring on how to make someone fall in love with you.

2. You start to forget about the people who aren’t in your life just temporarily.

You miss out on treasured memories with your friends and family while trying to force forgettable memories with infatuation.

3. You offer your heart to someone who doesn’t deserve you.

The one who does will woo you, court you and kill to be with you, because what would life be without you?

4. You waste your energy on something that’s fleeting.

In its place, you should spend your time focusing on your date with destiny, rather than your date with the flavor of the week.

5. You start to forget the things that were and are important to you.

You dreamed of something different and hoped for something better, but you’re settling for 2 AM phone calls.

6. You make yourself insane.

That iPhone text bubble is your worst nightmare, as well as your best friend. You think you’re playing the game, but they’re just playing with your heart.

7. You’re chasing a human being instead of just letting life happen.

Stop analyzing every drunken text message and let fate takeover. Let the real moment come that needs no explanation because it is the explanation.

8. Having a crush can be fun, but it can also be straight-up exhausting.

Every time your phone goes off, you’re praying that it’s them. When it is, you get that goofy look on your face that won’t go away.

9. When it isn’t, you sulk for an hour and read articles like this.

Then, when time goes on and there’s no text and you were the last one to say something, it’s literally torture to know you cannot/should not/society says do not send a second text to an unanswered one.

But you do anyway. It probably fails and you go back to sulking until they like your Instagram picture — then it’s back on again.

The fact of the matter is, you shouldn’t chase after someone’s heart. You shouldn’t have to chase a person. Stop chasing butterflies and start chasing your ambitions.

Chase your promotion. Chase your bucket list. Chase your dreams. Chase the sunrise. Chase your friends in flag football. Chase the spring. Chase the winter. Chase laughter. Chase the vodka with tonic. Chase memories.

Stop chasing love, and let love find you.

 

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Liz – Chapter 3 – First Date

I was at Cavanaugh’s in Rittenhouse having lunch and still debating why I was meeting Liz for a date. But I was off that day and if nothing else, it was just an opportunity to hang with someone new and have a drink.

My phone is in it’s charger up at the bar, and I decide that I should go check in with Liz and make sure this is really happening.

Since she’s been reluctant to give me her phone number, I have to go into the Coffee meets Bagel app and message her.

“Are we still good to meet at Marathon at 5:30?”

Within minutes she gets back to me with a yes.

So, it’s on.

I get to Marathon a half hour before her just to have a glass of wine and take the edge off. I’m chilling at the bar, and there’s a mirror behind the bar and I figure I can see her when she comes in.

That was the plan, but that didn’t execute.

I’m sitting there sipping chardonnay rocks when Liz suddenly appears behind me.

She looks great. Fit and better than her profile photos. I’m happy to meet her and she looks nice.

I open with my usual personality. Outgoing and friendly. I ask if I can give her my background and story first. She says she’s more of an introvert so she’s happy that I go first.

I “run the program” as I call it. I give her my basic bio about my life, history and family.

It goes very well.

She tells me she has a 20 year old son. She and his father were never married but that he’s a good father to her boy.

She works for the police department in IT. She has a Masters degree in that field, so good job. Doesn’t matter to me, but shows stability.

I like that.

Based on my history with girlfriend Cherie, this seems like a trend with black women. They never marry them but simply knock them up and deal with the aftermath.

I don’t really care. Liz seems nice and I kind of like her.

The date goes really well and she yields her phone number and agrees we should meet again.

She has to go after an hour and a half, and I’m fine with that. I can only do short bursts with people these days.

We discuss future dates and we both agree it went really well.

She leaves and I have a renewed faith in dating.

I’d definitely go out with her again.

 

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Special Report: Prepare For The Ultimate Gaslighting

You are not crazy, my friends

*Gaslighting, if you don’t know the word, is defined as manipulation into doubting your own sanity; as in, Carl made Mary think she was crazy, even though she clearly caught him cheating. He gaslit her.

Pretty soon, as the country begins to figure out how we “open back up” and move forward, very powerful forces will try to convince us all to get back to normal. (That never happened. What are you talking about?) Billions of dollars will be spent on advertising, messaging, and television and media content to make you feel comfortable again. It will come in the traditional forms — a billboard here, a hundred commercials there — and in new-media forms: a 2020–2021 generation of memes to remind you that what you want again is normalcy. In truth, you want the feeling of normalcy, and we all want it. We want desperately to feel good again, to get back to the routines of life, to not lie in bed at night wondering how we’re going to afford our rent and bills, to not wake to an endless scroll of human tragedy on our phones, to have a cup of perfectly brewed coffee, and simply leave the house for work. The need for comfort will be real, and it will be strong. And every brand in America will come to your rescue, dear consumer, to help take away that darkness and get life back to the way it was before the crisis. I urge you to be well aware of what is coming.

For the last hundred years, the multibillion-dollar advertising business has operated based on this cardinal principle: Find the consumer’s problem and fix it with your product. When the problem is practical and tactical, the solution is “as seen on TV” and available at Home Depot. Command strips will save me from having to repaint. So will Mr. Clean’s Magic Eraser. Elfa shelving will get rid of the mess in my closet. The Ring doorbell will let me see who’s on the porch if I can’t take my eyes off Netflix. But when the problem is emotional, the fix becomes a new staple in your life, and you become a lifelong loyalist. Coca-Cola makes you: happy. A Mercedes makes you: successful. Taking your kids to Disneyland makes you: proud. Smart marketers know how to highlight what brands can do for you to make your life easier. But brilliant marketers know how to rewire your heart. And, make no mistake, the heart is what has been most traumatized this last month. We are, as a society, now vulnerable in a whole new way.

What the trauma has shown us, though, cannot be unseen. A carless Los Angeles has clear blue skies as pollution has simply stopped. In a quiet New York, you can hear the birds chirp in the middle of Madison Avenue. Coyotes have been spotted on the Golden Gate Bridge. These are the postcard images of what the world might be like if we could find a way to have a less deadly daily effect on the planet. What’s not fit for a postcard are the other scenes we have witnessed: a health care system that cannot provide basic protective equipment for its frontline; small businesses — and very large ones — that do not have enough cash to pay their rent or workers, sending over 16 million people to seek unemployment benefits; a government that has so severely damaged the credibility of our media that 300 million people don’t know who to listen to for basic facts that can save their lives.

The cat is out of the bag. We, as a nation, have deeply disturbing problems. You’re right. That’s not news. They are problems we ignore every day, not because we’re terrible people or because we don’t care about fixing them, but because we don’t have time. Sorry, we have other shit to do. The plain truth is that no matter our ethnicity, religion, gender, political party (the list goes on), nor even our socioeconomic status, as Americans we share this: We are busy. We’re out and about hustling to make our own lives work. We have goals to meet and meetings to attend and mortgages to pay — all while the phone is ringing and the laptop is pinging. And when we get home, Crate and Barrel and Louis Vuitton and Andy Cohen make us feel just good enough to get up the next day and do it all over again. It is very easy to close your eyes to a problem when you barely have enough time to close them to sleep. The greatest misconception among us, which causes deep and painful social and political tension every day in this country, is that we somehow don’t care about each other. White people don’t care about the problems of black America. Men don’t care about women’s rights. Cops don’t care about the communities they serve. Humans don’t care about the environment. These couldn’t be further from the truth. We do care. We just don’t have the time to do anything about it. Maybe that’s just me. But maybe it’s you, too.

Well, the treadmill you’ve been on for decades just stopped. Bam! And that feeling you have right now is the same as if you’d been thrown off your Peloton bike and onto the ground: What in the holy fuck just happened? I hope you might consider this: What happened is inexplicably incredible. It’s the greatest gift ever unwrapped. Not the deaths, not the virus, but The Great Pause. It is, in a word, profound. Please don’t recoil from the bright light beaming through the window. I know it hurts your eyes. It hurts mine, too. But the curtain is wide open. What the crisis has given us is a once-in-a-lifetime chance to see ourselves and our country in the plainest of views. At no other time, ever in our lives, have we gotten the opportunity to see what would happen if the world simply stopped. Here it is. We’re in it. Stores are closed. Restaurants are empty. Streets and six-lane highways are barren. Even the planet itself is rattling less (true story). And because it is rarer than rare, it has brought to light all of the beautiful and painful truths of how we live. And that feels weird. Really weird. Because it has… never… happened… before. If we want to create a better country and a better world for our kids, and if we want to make sure we are even sustainable as a nation and as a democracy, we have to pay attention to how we feel right now. I cannot speak for you, but I imagine you feel like I do: devastated, depressed, and heartbroken.

And what a perfect time for Best Buy and H&M and Wal-Mart to help me feel normal again. If I could just have the new iPhone in my hand, if I could rest my feet on a pillow of new Nikes, if I could drink a venti blonde vanilla latte or sip a Diet Coke, then this very dark feeling would go away. You think I’m kidding, that I’m being cute, that I’m denying the very obvious benefits of having a roaring economy. You’re right. Our way of life is not ruinous. The economy is not, at its core, evil. Brands and their products create millions of jobs. Like people — and most anything in life — there are brands that are responsible and ethical, and there are others that are not. They are all part of a system that keeps us living long and strong. We have lifted more humans out of poverty through the power of economics than any other civilization in history. Yes, without a doubt, Americanism is a force for good. It is not some villainous plot to wreak havoc and destroy the planet and all our souls along with it. I get it, and I agree. But its flaws have been laid bare for all to see. It doesn’t work for everyone. It’s responsible for great destruction. It is so unevenly distributed in its benefit that three men own more wealth than 150 million people. Its intentions have been perverted, and the protection it offers has disappeared. In fact, it’s been brought to its knees by one pangolin.

And so the onslaught is coming. Get ready, my friends. What is about to be unleashed on American society will be the greatest campaign ever created to get you to feel normal again. It will come from brands, it will come from government, it will even come from each other, and it will come from the left and from the right. We will do anything, spend anything, believe anything, just so we can take away how horribly uncomfortable all of this feels. And on top of that, just to turn the screw that much more, will be the one effort that’s even greater: the all-out blitz to make you believe you never saw what you saw. The air wasn’t really cleaner; those images were fake. The hospitals weren’t really a war zone; those stories were hyperbole. The numbers were not that high; the press is lying. You didn’t see people in masks standing in the rain risking their lives to vote. Not in America. You didn’t see the leader of the free world push an unproven miracle drug like a late-night infomercial salesman. That was a crisis update. You didn’t see homeless people dead on the street. You didn’t see inequality. You didn’t see indifference. You didn’t see utter failure of leadership and systems.

But you did. You are not crazy, my friends. And so we are about to be gaslit in a truly unprecedented way. It starts with a check for $1,200 (Don’t say I never gave you anything) and then it will be so big that it will be bigly. And it will be a one-two punch from both big business and the big White House — inextricably intertwined now more than ever and being led by, as our luck would have it, a Marketer in Chief. Business and government are about to band together to knock us unconscious again. It will be funded like no other operation in our lifetimes. It will be fast. It will be furious. And it will be overwhelming. The Great American Return to Normal is coming.

From one citizen to another, I beg of you: Take a deep breath, ignore the deafening noise, and think deeply about what you want to put back into your life. This is our chance to define a new version of normal, a rare and truly sacred (yes, sacred) opportunity to get rid of the bullshit and to only bring back what works for us, what makes our lives richer, what makes our kids happier, what makes us truly proud. We get to Marie Kondo the shit out of it all. We care deeply about one another. That is clear. That can be seen in every supportive Facebook post, in every meal dropped off for a neighbor, in every Zoom birthday party. We are a good people. And as a good people, we want to define — on our own terms — what this country looks like in five, 10, 50 years. This is our chance to do that, the biggest one we have ever gotten. And the best one we’ll ever get.

We can do that on a personal scale in our homes, in how we choose to spend our family time on nights and weekends, what we watch, what we listen to, what we eat, and what we choose to spend our dollars on and where. We can do it locally in our communities, in what organizations we support, what truths we tell, and what events we attend. And we can do it nationally in our government, in which leaders we vote in and to whom we give power. If we want cleaner air, we can make it happen. If we want to protect our doctors and nurses from the next virus — and protect all Americans — we can make it happen. If we want our neighbors and friends to earn a dignified income, we can make that happen. If we want millions of kids to be able to eat if suddenly their school is closed, we can make that happen. And, yes, if we just want to live a simpler life, we can make that happen, too. But only if we resist the massive gaslighting that is about to come. It’s on its way. Look out.

 

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