Here’s How To Bond With Your Partner While Quarantining Together

The coronavirus outbreak has made life feel troubling and uncertain, and now, more than ever, it’s important to seek out the silver linings. One nice thing about social distancing is that it offers a unique opportunity to bond with the people you love, whether they be friends, family, or your partner. If you’re not sure how to bond with your partner while quarantining together, it really just comes down to turning quantity of time (because, truthfully, it feels like there’s no shortage of time these days) into quality time. And with the heightened emotions most people are experiencing right now, Cherlyn Chong, a dating and breakup recovery coach for professional women, calls this an ideal time to reinforce your connection.

“Both of you have the same circumstances now and are probably feeling the same way about it. That already bonds you in a way,” Chong tells Elite Daily. “Not to mention that now, your priorities have shifted and work isn’t as important as health and loved ones. Being homebound forces you to make the most of this time, and it’s never been a better time to connect with your partner.”

If you and your partner are holed up together, take this opportunity to grow even closer. Here are some ways the experts suggest you can bond.

Ask Each Other Deep Questions.

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Life gets busy, which can make it hard to slow down and have a deep conversation with your partner. Quarantine means you probably have nothing but time to have the kinds of conversations that lead to closer bonds and a better understanding of one another. Julie Spira, online dating expert and author of Love in the Age of Trump: How Politics is Polarizing Relationships, suggests approaching the subject by asking your partner the 36 questions created by Arthur Aron for his experiment in creating closeness in interpersonal relationships (made famous by The New York Times).

“This list is known to help couples fall in love, and you’ll learn more about your partner based on their answers. In short, it’s a bonding exercise. To make it more interesting, take turns asking the questions,” she tells Elite Daily.

Have Fun In The Kitchen Together.

Being in quarantine puts a damper on dining out, so embrace cooking at home by creating a meal together or baking a treat to share, suggests Chong. “[It] can be a lot of fun, especially if it’s a recipe you haven’t tried before,” she says. “Decorating the cookies might just allow you to unleash your creative sides together, not to mention all the licking of cookie dough!”

Play Together.

When times are frightening or stressful like they are now, having fun with your partner is not only good for your emotional well being, but a great way to reinforce your bond. Chong’s advice is to play games together. “Any game, from a classic deck of cards to Xbox, will do, as long as it evokes laughter and competition,” says Chong.

Exercise Together.

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If you want to feel closer to your partner, Spira suggests getting your endorphins flowing with a workout for two. “Just because you’re housebound, that doesn’t mean you should stop working out,” she says. “Climb up and down the stairs together if you’re in a multi-story property, set up a make-shift gym, join an online workout class, and put it on your calendar to stream daily together.” If it’s possible to go outside, she suggests taking advantage of that, safely. “Take a walk to get some fresh air, while maintaining the proper distance and wearing rubber gloves,” she says.

Meditate Together.

“Taking care of your mind, body, and spirit is crucial now, especially with the news cycle reporting additional cases of COVID-19 daily,” says Spira. Consider meditation as a way to bond and release tension. “Use Amazon’s Alexa Skills to request a meditation that you can do together, or download the Calm app on your mobile phone, where there’s an abundance of meditations to add to your daily schedule.”

Being under quarantine is certainly far from an ideal situation, but at least by putting some focus and energy into your connection with your partner, you’re taking a challenging time and turning it into a win that can last long past the social distancing order is lifted.

 

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How To Be Happy Being Single — Even If You Dream Of Finding Love

There has to be some underlining reason this chick can’t keep a man…

You owe it to yourself to enjoy your life now — without shame. Here’s one from one of my female subscribers.

We all want to know how to be happy in our life, whether we’re single or in a relationship.

However, somewhere around their mid-20s, single women start feeling ashamed about their relationship status.

Since the ripe age of 22, I’ve been asked about marriage at each and every family function. Family members and strangers would greet me with “You’re next!” every time I attended a wedding — even when I was entirely single with no boyfriend in sight.

For the most part, I was very happy and content with my life as a successful career-oriented woman.

But, whenever I spent time around family, I struggled with this tug-o-war between the career expectations I had for myself and the shame I felt for not reaching the wedded expectations that my family had for me.

It seems I’m not alone in this struggle.

Whether it stems culturally, socially, or is self-inflicted, shame is very present for all women. One study found that 96 percent of women feel ashamed or guilty at least once per day about their friendships, relationships, work, and body.

And though this research seems in direct conflict with current facts about women and marriage — statistically, today more women are likely not to marry until later in life (if at all) than ever before — doesn’t mean we don’t experience shame about it.

Shame isn’t about the action we take, it’s about what we believe we’re not doing. Shame is the guilt we feel over what we feel we “should have” done, what we’re “supposed to do,” and the expectations we set for ourselves.

The expectation of the modern woman is to have it all. We’re told we’re “supposed to” achieve and effortlessly maintain a superwoman identity, at all times.

Society expects us to uphold our image as independent and career-driven women while being a sexy wife and a Pinterest-perfect mother.

When striving for this impossible standard, you ultimately feel shame when the goal isn’t achieved.

So, how can you let go of shame and live a fulfilled happy life you love regardless of your relationship status? Can you learn how to find happiness while looking for love?

Being single can be some of the happiest times in your life if you do these 4 things.

1. Let go of “shoulds” and embrace what is

You have to stop living your life based on what you or others believe “should” happen or who you should be. Instead, begin to unapologetically live into your current reality.

Comparing yourself to others or trying to live up to other people’s expectations only breeds self-judgment and guilt. There is no ideal version of your life. Instead, accept that everything in your life is exactly on track.

It’s OK to love your life now and move toward your future at the same time. That acceptance will give you peace.

2. If you don’t like how it is, do something about it

Maybe you’re feeling shame because being single isn’t what you want. It’s OK to want a relationship. But, instead of beating yourself up about it, do something about it.

Figure out a vision for your life, ask yourself who the person you want to end up with is and seek him with determination.

Set goals in your dating life and take action. Finding happiness in life and love only happens through action in order for things to change.

3. Have amazing relationships with everyone

The key to a fulfilling and happy life is often tied to a relationship and most people believe that relationship is only found in marriage.

Research shows that having strong and profound relationships in all areas of your life is what ultimately leads to fulfillment and happiness.

So, nurture your relationship with your bestie, take your mother out to lunch, spend more time with the co-worker you adore — do whatever it takes to be happier so you can have amazing relationships, platonic or otherwise.

4. Surround yourself with empathy

The struggle of being single is very real, so you may as well surround yourself with people who understand. There’s comfort in talking to someone who can say, “Me too.”

Make sure to spend time with your other single and positive friends. I stress positivity because you want your friends and relationships to inspire you and bring joy into your life.

Letting go of shame takes practice.

Happy people notice when they talk down to themselves so, instead, they are much kinder to themselves. And so should you.

There’s no shame in being single and there is no ideal. There is only how we choose to perceive our experiences.

You can be a happy person by reaping the benefits of being single.

 

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Phicklephilly Weekly Horoscope: Sunday, April 19, 2020

All Signs

An astrology chart looks like a pizza cut into 12 slices. The planets “fall” into different slices (according to when you are born), and this describes who you are. Some people like to stay at home. Some sleep at home, but mostly they pop in and out to get things or change clothes. Some identify with their job and get their sense of self-worth from their work. Some are active with friends and enjoy involvement with organizations. Some love to entertain at home. Some want to travel; they live on the road. Some are house proud and buy things to feather their nest. We are all different, which is why we all have different challenges staying in isolation. We have different likes and dislikes! How else can you explain your in- laws?

Aries (March 21-April 19)

For the next four weeks, your world is about cash flow, earnings and assets. At the end of this week, something unexpected might happen with your earnings or something that you own. You’re a pioneer and a warrior. As a warrior, you expect your queen or government to provide you with your horse and kit so you can do their bidding. It’s always been this way, which is why you need security. Fear not! If your future looks uncertain, you only have to meet it one day at a time. Who is more resourceful, brave and resilient? Your future has not fallen flat – it’s just different. Share your ideas with others. The drastic changes taking place will create vacuums that need to be filled by those who act fast!

Taurus (April 20-May 20)

No matter what obstacles you face in the next four weeks, know this: You have the advantage of having the Sun in your sign, which happens only once a year. This gives you power and boosts your confidence! It attracts good fortune to you as well as influential people. It not only gives you an edge to deal with what you face – it also gives you the chance to recharge your batteries for the rest of the year. You will attract money to you (and many will buy pretty things). Mars at the top of your chart, arouses your ambition, which gives you the get-up-and-go to accomplish what you want to do. Bravo!

Gemini (May 21-June 20)

Keep a low profile for the next four weeks. (Not usually your style.) By nature, you’re curious, active and busy cultivating your adoring peanut gallery. But since your birthday looms ahead, it means your personal year is ending. The Sun is “hiding” in your chart before it steps forth on your birthday. This means the next four weeks are the perfect opportunity to think about your future and what you want for your new year ahead. Ideas? Incidentally, you will charm anyone you encounter because fair Venus is in your sign. This is a good week to buy wardrobe items, which is always challenging if you do this online, unless you wear a toga.

Cancer (June 21-July 22)

In the next four weeks, something will happen that makes you appreciate friendships and the people in your life. This appreciation might also apply to a group. You will welcome a chance to use a friend as a sounding board for your ideas about your future. If you’re involved in a group, you might flex your muscles and exert your influence in a leadership role. However, next weekend, something unexpected will happen. A friendship might end or someone might do something that surprises you. Or you might find yourself involved with someone who is different and unusual. (Could be interesting.)

Leo (July 23-Aug. 22)

Oh wow! For the next four weeks, the Sun is at the top of your chart. (This happens only once a year.) This means you will be thrust in the spotlight of the Sun, and this light flatters you! Expect to be asked to take on increased responsibilities, even if you don’t do anything special. Yes – good lighting is everything. (“Are you ready for your close-up, Miss Garbo?”) Nevertheless, by the end of the week, something unexpected will happen that triggers your feelings of independence. You might want to rebel! Meanwhile, although Mars makes you impatient with partners and close friends, fair Venus makes you charming and diplomatic with others, including people in organizations.

Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)

The next four weeks are challenging and refreshing. The challenging part is that you want to get outta Dodge. You want to travel and expand your world to discover adventure and be turned on by life! However, most of us are staying at home for the benefit of ourselves and others. This puts the kibosh on travel. But hey, you can still explore new ideas, study, learn or travel online by seeing exotic places and fascinating cities. Something unexpected, perhaps a surprise need to travel or news from afar will occur at the end of the week? Meanwhile, keep plugging away because bosses and parents are impressed with your efforts. (They really are.)

Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)

You will explore your emotions and psychological makeup in the next four weeks. Perhaps it’s all this extra time? The solitude of home isolation? Perhaps it’s triggered by thoughts of impermanence and your own mortality. Whatever the cause, you will be passionate and intense in the next four weeks! You will want to experience life at a feeling level not just an intellectual grasp of things. You might encounter a teacher or a set of circumstances that provokes this inner exploration. Focus on finances, shared property and inheritances. You might try to get a loan. You cannot deny that there are strong psychological compulsions that lead to a change of behaviour within you that you might not understand. Ready to knock on the doors of perception?

Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)

The Sun is opposite your sign for the next four weeks. (This occurs only once a year.) This is actually a wonderful opportunity for you to learn more about yourself through your one-to-one relations with others. Examine your relationship with your spouse or partner to see how it does or does not fill your needs. Are you happy? Are you unhappy? How do you fill their needs? This is your chance to be more aware of what’s going on. Intimate relations look good now because Venus favours sex and romance. Nevertheless, Mars at the bottom of your chart might make you behave in petty and irritable ways. (Whaaat?) Yes, it triggers domestic tension, especially with parents. You win some, you lose some. It was ever thus.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)

You’re in work mode for the next four weeks. Not only will you check your immediate surroundings to see what needs to be done, you will also strive to be better organized and more efficient. This is your quest! You will set such high standards for yourself that in addition to wanting to be better organized, you will want to be healthier as well. “I want it all!” Great! Motivation is everything. Be aware that you will also want to work on behalf of others. Fortunately, Venus opposite your sign makes you cooperative and diplomatic. Fear not you’re no pushover because Mars makes you identify with your ideas and encourages you to speak up! Oh yeah!

Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)

Oh joy! For the next four weeks, the Sun will be in the most fun-loving part of your chart. This means your focus on home and family will shift (although you might still be at home); nevertheless, you will feel freer to express yourself and be who you really are! You will want to get out and have a good time but you will figure out ways to amuse yourself at home. (You’re smart.) You will feel lighter than usual. Dare we say happier? (We did.) Enjoy playful times with kids. You can expect your relationships to be more lighthearted because you are happy to be in your own skin. (Likely, you will spend more money.)

Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)

Even if you’ve been staying at home, in the four weeks ahead, you will focus on home and family more than ever. (Go figure.) For many, this is because you’re involved with a parent more than usual. You will feel good being in familiar surroundings because you want to establish a base for your activities. This doesn’t mean you won’t live up to the demands of your outer world because you will. Nevertheless, you welcome any chance to be by yourself to contemplate life and meditate. Memories of the past will come up. In fact, this will help any psychological self-evaluation that you might explore. (It’s easiest to train children when they’re Jung, and easily Freudian.)

Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20)

In the next four weeks, it will be challenging to stay at home because, you’re restless! Because you want to learn and explore new ideas, you’re eager to reach out to others and enlighten them about your thoughts. This is why you will talk to siblings and neighbours more than usual (via Zoom, Skype, whatever). Note: It will be easy to write, study and learn something new! Your challenge is that you can’t travel, which is what you really want to do. Fortunately, Venus will pave the way for warm family relations. Meanwhile, Mars encourages working alone or behind the scenes. It’s all good.

 

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How to Flirt by Touch Without Making It Obvious at All

A flirting touch is exciting and intimate, and yet, it’s harmless and casual. Find out how to flirt by touching and understand the world of body language flirting right here.

It’s not easy to flirt, especially when you can’t get to spend some time alone with the special someone.

But you can still get your message across with a flirting touch, and without overdoing it.

Learn the secrets behind how to flirt by touching without saying a word.

The secret of a flirting touch

Ever felt a tingle of excitement rush up your spine when a good looking person of the opposite sex brushes your arm for no apparent reason?

Well, you’re not alone. An unexpected touch can be warm and fuzzy to just about anyone, and it’s always a great way to show that you have something more than ‘just friends’ in mind.

Another person’s touch (we’re talking about the opposite sex here!) is always soothing, and yet, at the same time, leaves us feeling flushed and slightly uncomfortable. But, one can’t help but want more.

How to flirt by touching

A guy who gets touched by a girl in the middle of a conversation can’t help but connect to her sexually, and a girl who feels the palm of a guy guide her lower back unexpectedly can’t help feeling the tingle rush down her spine.

It happens naturally, doesn’t it?

There may have been times when you are in the middle of a sleepy conversation while this friend just drones on and on about the problems they’re having with their third aunt’s great grandmother. But then, when this friend grasps your palm gently and asks you for an opinion, you can’t help but slip up a bit, and pull yourself together.

It’s not because you were touched by the boring story, but because you suddenly warmed up to this friend, and just for that instant, you actually realized that your chat-mate is a member of the opposite sex.

And just for that one moment, thoughts of more than just holding hands flash across your mind. Yeah, yeah… I know you’ve felt that. You don’t need to squirm and protest. And the surprising fact about it is that, it happens to everybody! Irrespective of how good looking or charming either of you are. But yeah, it can get creepy if the touch lingers too long!

Why do we get excited by a flirting touch?

So why does this happen? Why do we (even if it is for just an instant) get attracted sexually to this friend all of a sudden, just because of a simple unexpected touch? Well, you see, it’s all in our head. Our minds are programmed in such a way that a human touch triggers a positive feeling within us.

Real life flirting touches and emotional connections

And this makes a huge impact on who we get attracted to. The impact of touch is a lot stronger than our senses of sight, smell, or sound. Let’s just contemplate over this thought.

Now why do you think people find it a lot easier to open up while partying? And why is it that it’s so easy to kiss someone on the dance floor, even if it’s just friends? No, it’s not the booze and the music (though they do play a small part). It’s actually all in the power of playful touching. Our sense of touch is so strong when it comes to attraction of the sexes that it overpowers all other senses put together, albeit momentarily, or until one of you get back to your senses.

That means you can simply touch a member of the opposite sex the right way and attract them, better than you would have been able to do in any other way.

The sense of touch in humans is so sensitive because of today’s society. When someone whom you know as “just a friend” holds your hand accidentally, it comes as a surprise. Can you remember the last time you were in a situation where another person of the opposite sex touched you flirtatiously? You sure can’t forget that person, can you? The fact that you can remember that flirty person so easily just demonstrates the power of flirting touching.

The real art of flirting by touching

Flirting by accidental touch doesn’t mean manhandling and pawing at the other person. It’s the subtle art of drawing a person closer to you with your lingering touch. But this form of flirting is never easy, and there’s a lot more chance of you being labeled slutty or horny rather than a cool cat.

Some people touch all the time, which makes decoding these signs all the more harder. But if you know how to go about it the right way, and compliment your accidental touches with your tone and body language, you won’t just get the message across, you’ll have your date all over you!

Learn the art of flirting by touch and learn to flirt and seduce someone into liking you in no time.

 

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Tales of Rock: Mick Jagger Seduced Me When I Was 15

As she opened the front door, she instantly recognized the swaggering figure before her with his tousled hair and ‘rock star grin’.

‘You’re cute,’ said legendary Rolling Stones front man Mick Jagger – to which she cheekily replied: ‘You’re cuter.’

It was the moment the 33-year-old rock idol met 15-year-old budding actress Rae Dawn Chong, who last night sensationally revealed she and Sir Mick had a two-day fling in 1977 while he was still married to first wife Bianca.

Rae Dawn, best-known for her role in the 1985 action film Commando, met the womanizing rocker during a trip to New York.

After their brief introduction, he whisked her to a recording studio before the pair spent the night together.

In an exclusive interview with The Mail on Sunday last night, Rae Dawn, now a thrice-divorced, 58-year-old grandmother, said: ‘He never asked me how old I was and I never told him. It never came up. I remember thinking he was really cute. He had tousled hair. I thought, ‘Oh man, he is beautiful.’

‘He said, ‘What are you doing right now?’ I said, ‘Nothing really.’

‘He grabbed my hand and we jumped in his limo and went straight to a recording studio. The Stones were there, I was in the background. I remember being in there for hours and hours.

‘Then I slept over at his apartment. I knew what I was doing. I was experimenting with Mick. I was having fun.’

Rae Dawn, who says Jagger did not know her age, recalls waking to find Jagger’s band mate Keith Richards staring at the pair.

Raunchy: Jagger gets close to Rae Dawn Chong in the video for his 1985 track Just Another Night. She later complained that he was ‘licky’ on the shoot

Raunchy: Jagger gets close to Rae Dawn Chong in the video for his 1985 track Just Another Night. She later complained that he was ‘licky’ on the shoot

But that didn’t deter them from spending another day together – first back at the recording studio and then at a Fleetwood Mac concert at Madison Square Garden, where Jagger and Richards were mobbed by fans.

Sitting down with The Mail on Sunday last night in a hotel overlooking the bright light’s of LA’s infamous Sunset Strip, the B-list actress insisted Jagger should not be vilified because their fling took place ‘in a different era’ to today’s #MeToo culture.

She says she is only speaking out to ‘own’ the story after accidentally blurting out during a podcast that she had sex with Jagger when she was two years under the age of consent. The podcast is due to air today.

Speaking on tape to showbiz ‘bible’ The Hollywood Reporter, she was asked how she landed the Commando role: ‘I got it because I’d been in a Jagger video and then they asked me how I knew Mick and before I knew it I’d blurted out that I’d had sex with him when I was 15. It just slipped out.

‘I feel incredibly bad about it. It’s me and my big mouth. My family and friends knew about it but it’s not something I have ever dined out on.’

Last night, Sir Mick declined to comment.

No victim: Rae Dawn is pictured as she is today. She says she is only speaking out to 'own' the story after accidentally blurting out during a podcast that she had sex with Jagger when she was two years under the age of consent

No victim: Rae Dawn is pictured as she is today. She says she is only speaking out to ‘own’ the story after accidentally blurting out during a podcast that she had sex with Jagger when she was two years under the age of consent.

Feisty and, at times, embarrassingly honest about why she chose to have underage sex with a rock icon, Rae Dawn insists that the fling was consensual.

For our interview she is dressed demurely in an understated black dress with an elegant double-string of pearls around her neck – but she freely admits to having a wild past.

She says that her own family will be ‘disgusted’ by her decision to go public and believes Jagger himself will be angry and devastated: ‘He’s probably going to lose his s*** because I was a minor. He’s going to be so mad at me.’

Rae Dawn brings with her a black leather journal from 1977 in which she recorded her liaison with Jagger in childish handwriting which reads: ‘I got to experience being a groupie. Not that being a groupie is worth experiencing. I just had to go and be wild. Well I did it. I got to live with Mick Jagger, John Phillips, Mackenzie and Ron Wood… it was fun and full of excitement.’

John Phillips was the singer in The Mamas & the Papas and Mackenzie his daughter, and Rae Dawn’s best friend.

Months before meeting Jagger, Rae Dawn had lost her virginity to a boy her own age, and had many sexual encounters before him. She is pictured above in her youth

Months before meeting Jagger, Rae Dawn had lost her virginity to a boy her own age, and had many sexual encounters before him. She is pictured above in her youth

It was at their home that she met Jagger. Ron Wood is, of course, Jagger’s Rolling Stones band mate Ronnie Wood.

In her journal, Rae Dawn lists in green ink Jagger’s phone numbers and home address, along with numbers of other men she was acquainted with, including comedian Steve Martin and Hollywood actor Ryan O’Neal.

Born in 1961 in Canada, Rae Dawn is the daughter of Tommy Chong, an American comedian dubbed the Pope of Pot.

He and his comedy partner Richard ‘Cheech’ Marin made millions in the 1970s and 1980s from films about marijuana counter-culture, known as ‘stoner movies’.

Rae Dawn was the result of a one-night stand between Chong and a Canadian woman called Abigail.

She describes herself as a ‘free range’ child whose parents were constantly working. She had traveled to New York to try to get discovered as a model when Jagger turned up on the doorstep.

‘Mick was very beautiful, very shy, very self-absorbed,’ she recalls.

‘He had great lips, he was a great kisser. He wasn’t that much older than me in my brain. He was 33 and young and gorgeous with a nice body. It wasn’t a bad thing, it was fabulous. Totally rock ‘n’ roll. He didn’t make me do anything I didn’t want to do, but he was very vain, always looking in the mirror.’

The age of consent at the time was 17, but Sir Mick cannot face criminal charges as the statute of limitations for reporting second-degree rape is 20 years – not that Rae Dawn would ever want him to be prosecuted.

 

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