I’ve come to a revelation lately. The older I get, the wiser I become. I remember thinking and saying to my dad how smart he was. He would just say, “I’m just older, son.”
He was right.
He knew he wasn’t better or smarter than anyone else, he simply knew he’d been around for a bit and learned some things along the way.
He was absolutely right.
Although there were certain aspects of my father’s persona he never addressed, he still was a man who had developed cognitive intelligence along the way through experience and through books he’d read.
Socially he was a master and really perfected the art of charming people through manners and diplomacy.
My dad was a great actor and politician.
He knew it, and used it to his advantage.
I’ve met so many people along the way in my journey, and because I’m a giver and sensitive to the human condition, I give people a lot of chances.
Too many chances.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that, but there’s a moment when you have to draw the line and decide to let go of certain people.
If not, you’re continuing to evolve but still have some human detritus in your cache that need to be jettisoned.
They’re not bad people, but they just aren’t a match for your life anymore.
It isn’t an event, or a day when it happens, but you just sort of have a feeling that these people don’t have a place in your life anymore.
You have nothing in common with them, and no longer align with their lifestyle or mindset.
You’ve acquired them on your journey, sometimes by accident or by choice, but there comes a point when you realize as you continue to grow, you have no use for them anymore. They’re stuck. Probably stuck when you met them. You just didn’t notice.
Again, they’re not bad people, but you can no longer carry them in your life.
You continue to evolve and move forward with your life, but sadly realize they are so far behind or stuck they can no longer be in your life.
It’s hard. And if you’re kind you’ll actually think about them for a while. But happily in time… they’ll fade away.
I wanted to cut this person off over a year and a half ago, but I knew they would only stalk me at my job. But now is the time to finally cut the very last toxic person out of my life.
Cut them loose with no remorse. You’ll feel an incredible sense of relief they can no longer live in your mind rent-free.
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