Every guy dreads hearing these two words one after another, possibly more than any other phrase while chasing after a girl.
While most guys will joke about being in the “Friend Zone” or try to pretend it could never happen to them, a majority of guys have experienced the Friend Zone at least once in their life.
And quite possibly, they are in denial about it at this very moment!
Or these guys simply weren’t aware of all the signs.
Some girls are upfront and nip the thought of a relationship with a guy instantly.
However, many other girls are much more subtle, and they try to be kind and let you down easy.
18 signs you’ve been friend zoned by the girl you like!
So how can you tell if you’re being thrown to the curb gracefully by a girl, even when she doesn’t use the words and tell you straight that she isn’t interested in dating you?
Let’s take a look at the 18 telltale signs that you are most definitely in the “Friend Zone”.
#1 You’re so unfunny! Even as friends, most girls will laugh at a guy’s jokes. This is just a completely normal social interaction. If your crush laughs hysterically at your jokes, do not immediately jump to the conclusion that they are crushing back on you.
But on the other hand, if your lady friend NEVER or hardly ever laughs at your jokes, now would be the time to start worrying that you might not even be on a friend’s level. Maybe more like acquaintances.
#2 Asks you about other women. If your dream girl is constantly asking you about other women when you hang out, there are two basic trains of thoughts here. Either she is trying to find out what kind of women you like to date, to see if she falls into that profile, or to know if you’re available at the time. However, this is probably the optimistic version.
Realistically she is probably trying to hint towards you to try pursuing one of these women. *Red flag alert: Asking you about other women is one thing, encouraging you to go talk to one of them is not a good sign for you, buddy!*
#3 Addresses you as a ‘friend’. Both of you may spend all day together everyday, yet the way she introduces you to her parents or her friends is a huge sign of her thoughts about you on a romantic level. Any introductions like “Matt is such a good friend” or “I absolutely LOVE John, he is my bestie”, and you should probably accept your fate in the Friend Zone.
#4 She avoids being seen with you. While out, she avoids being seen with you so people don’t get the wrong idea. Maybe you’re wondering to yourself why you see so much of her throughout the day, but never at night. She is always busy when you ask her to the mall, or to grab a bite to eat.
But the next day in class or at work, she is Miss Chatty Box with you again. At least you know, she’s yours only till it’s time to leave for the day.
#5 She talks about her hookups. Possibly the worst part of being in the Friend Zone, is having to hear all about the other men she is totally digging, while you are not one of them. Knowing these guys aren’t right for her (obviously you should be the one with her) doesn’t matter, because she can’t see past the nice car, that ripped body, or that gorgeous smile.
#6 Three’s not a crowd. If you invite her somewhere, she brings along a friend. If this happens once, maybe it is a coincidence, if it happens again then there is no doubt where you stand in terms of friendship versus exclusive relationship.
You invite her to a movie, or to a dinner, or basically invite her anywhere that is remotely private, and somehow it ends up turning into a group event without your knowledge. This is just another tactic women use to say “Sorry, I’m not interested” without ever uttering the words.
#7 She’s drunk, and still no signs! You finally got her to the bar, you have her alone in public *just the 2 of you* and after a few drinks she still wants nothing to do with you! No slip ups about how crazy it would be if both of you started dating. No inching closer as the drinks flow to get closer into your arms. Not looking good, man, not looking good at all!
#8 There is no physical contact between the two of you. A hug does not count here, what are we, 12?! If you hug each other every time you see one another, you cannot realistically believe she is interested. I’m just moving on to the next point, I hope you get the hint.
#9 She’s so casual. You can tell that she isn’t making any attempt with her appearance when you see her. Both of you head out to grab a bite to eat, she walks up to your car in sweat pants and a pullover jacket with no makeup or earrings? Again, not looking too promising here, friend.
#10 You watch a whole movie! The worst thing that can happen when watching a movie with her is the ever-subtle movement of her placing her head on your shoulder. That move just SCREAMS Friend Zone! If you are more of the direct type, try placing your arm around her back, or making a gesture to reach for her hand. Any movement away from you should let you know where you stand.
#11 Brother from another mother? As stated in an example above, being referred to as a “bestie” is a terrible situation for you to be in. But being referred to as “the brother she never had” is even worse, because who in their right mind would ever think about a “family member” in a dating scenario?
#12 Shopping time. Does she ask you to go shopping with her on a regular basis? Now let me clarify, if you’re being invited to do some lingerie shopping, this may be a great opportunity for you. But shoe shopping, handbag shopping, carrying her purchases through the mall while following her around like a puppy dog, that is where things start to look grim.
#13 Oh-so-cute nicknames. What is more emasculating than letting a woman you love call you “Mikeypoo” in public? That is a cruel, cruel way to have your heart delicately ripped out of your chest.
#14 She needs your advice. She asks for tips on what guys are looking for in a woman. She isn’t asking that to woo you, I can promise you that. She clearly has her eyes on another guy, and is wondering how to make him notice her. But if you want to keep telling yourself she’s talking about you, go ahead, whatever helps you sleep at night!
#15 Sharing a bed. You have shared a bed with this person and yet, did not take part in any type of physical activity. You finally get her alone in your room and she is “too tired” or “so exhausted from the long day” and wants to head right to bed. If you are bold, try and initiate something once both of you get into bed, but you are mostly likely looking at a much more direct rejection taking place within the next few seconds!
#16 She tries to set you up with her friends. If she is constantly tell you how perfect you are for this friend or that friend, what she really is trying to say is you are not perfect for HER!
#17 You always end up doing favors for her. You remember the last time you covered for her during work? Traded shifts? Helped her study for her final exam at the expense of your own studying? Giving her rides from place to place without being invited to these places. Wake up, man, wake up!
#18 You’re her shoulder. The worst way to realize you are most definitely in the Friend Zone is when you end up consoling her each time she has a breakup. Right after every breakup, who is the person she comes crying to? The person who she wants to sit on a couch with, share a gallon bucket of ice cream while crying the whole time wondering where things went wrong?
Just book yourself a one-way ticket to the Friend Zone already and no, there is no need (or way) to buy a return ticket.
Now obviously some of these signs and indicators are definitely worse than others, but if you can even check off a few items on this list, it is time to come back to reality.
She just is not interested in you in the way you wish she was, and the faster you come to this realization by using these 18 clear signs you’re in a girl’s friend zone, the sooner you can move on, or stay just friends without any secret agendas.
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