To help you cope with the confusion of early love, it’s best to try and figure out where you stand. Of course, you don’t want to ask the guy outright. I’m not suggesting you do. Instead, look closely for signs he’s catching feelings. Then, feel your way from there!
The first few months of any new relationship can be confusing. Is it even a relationship? You’re not sure whether you’re exclusive, and you don’t want to ask. You’re not sure if this is going anywhere, but you’re terrified to even drop hints.
Do you ever want to fast forward past those first few months and get to the comfortable stuff?
Let’s be honest, as confusing as those first few months are, they’re pretty exciting too! Full of mystery, allure, can’t keep your hands off each other fun. Believe me, once you’ve been together a few years you might find yourself thinking back wistfully about those fun first few months!
Look 0ut! 12 signs he’s catching feelings
Some of these signs are more obvious than others. It’s important that you look for more than one; perhaps two or three signs and you’re on solid ground. So, how many of these signs he’s catching feelings can you tick off your list?
#1 You’re always catching his eye. Let’s be honest, you can’t catch the eye of someone who’s not looking at you in the first place! If he’s staring at you in a cute kind of way, that’s a clear sign this boy has budding feelings for you. Of course, there is cute staring and altogether weird staring. Hopefully it’s the former, and not the latter!
#2 His friends know small details about you. Hopefully, he’s not telling them anything unnecessary, but if you meet his friends and they know your job, favorite TV show, etc., he’s been gushing to them about how wonderful you are. Definitely one of the signs he’s catching feelings!
#3 You receive cute, random texts. If someone texts you, it is because they thought of you. It could be because they want to tell you something in particular. But, if you’re receiving ‘just because’ texts, that’s a sign that this guy can’t get you out of his mind!
#4 When he has spare time, he spends it with you. Let’s be honest, most guys have many friends. They only have to click their fingers and they come running. Now, if this guy is choosing to spend his spare time with you, that’s a great sign. Of course, he shouldn’t spend all his time with you, but if you’re noticing him spending more and more of his down time by your side, you’re onto a winner!
#5 He kisses you with meaning. There is a difference between kissing someone and really kissing someone. If there is definite passion behind his kisses then he’s trying to communicate his feelings non-verbally. If you feel the same, pick up the pace and show him how much you care in return!
#6 He touches you for no reason. Does he touch your arm randomly, play with your hair, stroke your face, etc.? He’s finding excuses to touch you because he just can’t believe his luck. If he’s pretty cuddly and touchy feely, that is one of the signs he’s catching feelings, for sure. However, don’t be upset if he’s not doing this. Some guys just aren’t tactile, and that’s fine too.
#7 He pays attention to small details. Did you tell him a funny, but insignificant story, about something that happened when you were a child? If he remembers it a few weeks down the line, that’s a great sign! Simply remembering small details about you means that he’s paying attention.
#8 He lets you know he misses you when you’re not together. When you’re apart for more than a night or so, he messages you simply to tell you that he misses you. A big sign he’s catching feelings! Someone who doesn’t care isn’t going to bother sending this type of text and will stick to regular chat instead. If he says he misses you, he’s got feelings coming his way!
#9 He shows others you’re with him. Now, I should point out that there is a difference between subtly showing other guys that you’re with him and controlling behavior. If you’re noticing him holding your hand when you’re out and about, standing a little closer when there are other guys around, and small details like this, that’s a great sign.
It basically tells other guys “this one’s taken.” On the other hand, if he’s being controlling and asserting firm ownership, you should probably let this one go and find someone a little more respectful.
#10 You’re the only one he’s talking to. Most guys are talking to a few other girls at the same time. This is normal for a single guy. However, if you’re the only one he’s talking to in a flirty kind of way, that’s one of the big signs he’s catching feelings.
What you need to think about now is whether you’re talking to anyone else or not too. Remember, it works both ways!
#11 He lets his guard down. If your guy is happy to be a little vulnerable from time to time around you, e.g. he doesn’t mind talking about his feelings a little, then he’s certainly serious about you. Generally speaking, guys don’t talk about how they feel with just anyone. They have to trust you first of all.
If his guard drops around you, even if it’s only occasionally, that’s a great sign. In this case, be sure to listen, don’t laugh, be supportive. Let him know that you’re there if he wants to talk about anything. Sometimes just listening and being a gentle presence in his life is enough to get him to open up even more.
#12 He mentions the future. I’m not suggesting he’ll talk about weddings and the like, but if you notice him talking about the future in any way, and reflects the two of you together, that’s a definite sign. It might be a comment as a joke or a serious comment. It doesn’t matter. The fact is, guys don’t mention the future with just anyone!
When a guy starts showing you signs he’s catching feelings, approach with caution. Let’s face it, not all guys find it easy to open up and be vulnerable. Looking for these signs means that you can feel your way and help you to relax into it, without constant need for clarification.
When these signs come your way, and you feel the same way, be sure to reflect them back and show your affection too. Putting up a wall because you’re confused about where you stand isn’t going to steer the relationship past these confusing first few months. Be open with your own feelings too.
The main signs he’s catching feelings might not be all that obvious at first. When combined together as a whole, it points to a relationship moving towards the comfortable stage.
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