No matter what your Sun sign is, we can all agree that dating is hard. It’s even more challenging when you realize that one of your quirks (which you can blame on astrology, of course) is annoying your crush—without even noticing. The first step to fixing our bad dating habits is realizing what they are. Then, we can hopefully change the vibe on our next date (fingers crossed). BTW, we apologize in advance for the astrological dragging.
Your fiery nature makes your emotions erratic. In the course of one date, you can act super into your boo and then quickly turn standoffish. This yo-yo can make them unsure of how you ~really~ feel. Try meditating before going on your date so you’re de-stressed and chilled out.
You can get a little too flirty with people other than your date (while out with your date!), even though you’re just being your sweet self. However, this means you can sometimes be seen as though you’re not into your potential boo, even if you are. Try to focus on the one you’re with—you can still make a mental note to chat up the cute delivery driver the next time you order in solo.
Face facts, Gemini: You love to express yourself! But this can be an issue when you turn into a constant texter. The nonstop communication can make your crush feel overwhelmed. Word of advice: Put down the phone for a sec and save some stories to talk about on your date.
Here’s the tea: You can get too wrapped up in your emotions, which makes you want to stay in your shell rather than face the real world. Translation: You flake on dates if you’re in a mood, making them think you’re not into them.
Real talk: You tend to one-up your date, creating a competitive vibe. If they tell you a story about drama from high school, don’t immediately tell them an even more dramatic story from your high school days. Let them own their narrative and just listen.
You’re super intellectual and you have a lil bit of a snobby side—which can make your date feel like they don’t measure up. We all know you’re super smart, but you don’t have to quote Sartre on a date. Try to find common interests with your boo-to-be instead.
The problem with your dating style, Libra, is that you always have someone on the back burner—and your date can tell you’re not all in. So don’t make a backup plan. Be optimistic before hanging out and give them your undivided time and attention.
At times, you can be a tad obsessive about your exes, even if you’re sooo over them—which means you sometimes talk about them too much with your potential boo. This will either annoy your date or make them think you’re not ready to commit to a future.
You can’t keep yourself from crushing on two or three people at a time, which results in an overbooked schedule. Committing to one person is hard, especially when the world is one big party—but you can start by making definite plans for one date.
You want to date only those who are ~on your level~, so you can be a bit hard on the people you go out with. Try focusing on how much fun you have with them rather than quizzing them about their past GPA.
When you’re not feeling a person, you cut them off without explanation—and if your crush says something wrong, you’ll go cold in the middle of a date. This can result in confusion from your boo, who’s having a rad time. You’d rather not waste time engaging with people you’re not into, and that’s fair—but if it was a minor slip-up, try giving them a second chance.
Before you meet up in person, you do an internet deep dive to suss out their vibe…which means that when you’re on your date, you’ve already heard all their stories because you saw five years’ worth of their tweets. Oops. Try to limit your sleuthing to a quick Google so you’re able to get to know them IRL.
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