10 Key Flirting Signs from a Woman Every Man Should Recognize

Not sure if she’s showing you major signs of interest or just excessively friendly? How many of these flirting signs from a woman can you tick off?

Here’s another post from one of my female readers. I thought it was worth sharing. Take it away, Prudence!

Women are not as obvious as men when it comes to flirting. Of course, that’s a huge generalization, but on the whole, you can’t always be sure of the flirting signs from a woman.

I am a woman, so I feel well equipped to give you the reason why. You see, we think men can read our minds. Of course, it’s obvious! Why shouldn’t you be able to tell exactly what we’re thinking?

But it’s not that obvious. It can be confused with friendliness, coyness, and sometimes, depending on the type of flirting, downright disdain!

Flirting signs from a woman to look out for

Perhaps we should be a little more obvious when it comes to whether or not we’re flirting or simply being friendly. But on the whole, there are some flirting signs from a woman you can look out for and help you decide whether or not you’re reading the situation correctly.

#1 She looks at you, then she looks away. Is there anything more confusing than someone who looks at you and then looks in another direction? I mean, do they mean to look at you? Was it a mistake? Are they disgusted? What’s going on?

However, a woman who looks at you and then looks away, and perhaps sneaks another glance, is probably flirting with you a little.

#2 Playing with her hair. The twirling of the hair around the finger move is as old as time, but also generally playing with her hair and fidgeting a little. If you see this accompanied with any of the other flirting signs from a woman, it’s a pretty hard signal towards flirtation city!

#3 She tilts her head towards you and looks interested. Okay, so she could be genuinely interested in what you’re saying, but if you notice this sign and it’s accompanied by any of the others, it’s likely to be flirtation. She wants to show you that she’s fascinated by what you have to say. She’s flattering you with her attention.

#4 Mirroring your body language. If you sit with your legs crossed, she might do the same. If you lean against the wall, she will probably do it too. She’s mirroring your body language. This is a big subconscious move. It’s also one of the clearest flirting signs from a woman.

#5 She smiles in a coy way. Coyness means that she wants you to notice that she’s interested, but she’s not ready to go all out and show it clearly. She’s testing the waters and see if you pick up on the signs and reciprocate. It’s also likely that the coy smile move is accompanied by her looking at you and then turning away move. Classic!

#6 Biting or licking her lips. If she’s talking to you and looking at your lips or biting/licking her own lips, there is a very good chance that she’s flirting with you. She might be doing this on purpose or subconsciously. It’s a very flirtatious move. When you think about it, the lips are quite sexual, so she’s drawing attention to them and hoping that you show interest back. [Read:

#7 She angles her neck towards you. Again, this is likely to be a subconscious move, but the neck is a vulnerable part of the body. If she’s angling her neck in your direction, she’s actually flirting, especially if accompanied by any of the others on the list. If she’s biting or licking her lips when she’s doing this, well, she’s either a vampire or very interested!

#8 She playfully touches you. Light and playful touches are a great way to gauge someone’s interest in you. If she’s laughing and playfully nudges you, or you notice that she seems to be generally touching your shoulder or your arm and doesn’t do the same things to other people around her, it’s quite likely to be her flirting with you.

#9 She tries to find out if you have a partner. She might come right out and ask you. But if she’s inquiring about your relationship status, she’s flirting and trying to work out whether she can get in there instead! She might also ask your friends to find this information out. Of course, they’re also likely to tell you!

#10 She’s all over your social media. Are you new friends on Instagram or Facebook? Are you noticing that old photos are being ‘liked’ and she’s commenting or ‘liking’ your general posts a lot? This is a clear sign that she’s trying to figure you out and working her magic on you. When you notice any of the other signs alongside this one, it’s obviously flirtation with a capital F!

How many of these signs can you tick off? You might notice just one and still wonder whether or not she’s giving you signs. Of course, it’s best to say ‘yes to several signs before you come to a clear conclusion, but most of these are quite clear on their own too.

Most women won’t come right out and tell you that they like you. I wouldn’t. However, some will. If you have a girl around you who isn’t quite so forward, it’s down to you to try and figure out where you stand from the signs she’s giving you.

Some signs are obvious. Some are subtle. As I mentioned, she is likely to expect you to read her mind! So, work out how many of these signs are coming your way and figure out what you think about it.

What is your next move? If you like her back, show her some signs in return. Show her some attention and let her feel comfortable enough to really let down her guard. You might be lucky enough to have attracted a woman who really doesn’t mind letting you know that she’s interested. In that case, skip the flirtation and the ‘does she/doesn’t she.’ Simply figure out where you want to go.

The more likely scenario is that she’s going to make you do the work because she’s not entirely sure whether you’re flirting with her either!

Dating is confusing, and attraction before that part is even more of a mind-mess. We don’t want to come right out and say what we feel or think. We fear the other person will recoil in horror and run away. Of course, it’s unlikely, but it’s a risk we all take. Such is the joy of love and attraction!

If you’re not sure if a girl is looking your way with intent or simply glancing over your shoulder, look out for these flirting signs from a woman to figure out what she wants.

 

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10 Ways You Are Unintentionally Ruining Your Relationship

It is easier to ruin a relationship than to keep it. Sometimes, even without intending to, we are already ruining the relationship we worked so hard to keep. Not that it is really a great deal of hard work—because if you are working too hard then there must be something wrong—but keeping a healthy relationship requires time, emotional availability, sufficient privacy and individual space, and a great deal of maturity from the couple or anyone involved. Whatever relationship we have, be it friendship or life partnership, our habits and tendencies can ruin the good thing we have if we fail to notice the red flags. Sometimes, even with good intentions, we still end up pushing our partners away instead of luring them in and keeping them.

If you want to keep the relationship going, stop doing these things and you will surely have a lasting and healthy relationship.

1. Always Playing the Victim Card

Some people have a tendency to use “guilt trip” against their partner. For example, you have to do something you’ve never done before in the name of the relationship, like leave your comfort zone and meet people, or leave your family and go abroad and work a menial job that you wouldn’t normally do because, in your country, you are someone cut out for a corporate job or a job with higher pay-grade; Or you have to sacrifice your girl’s night out because you have to take care of the kids or when you have to decide to forego that beautiful dress because you still have unpaid bills. More often than not, we are guilty of playing the victim card just because things did not go our way. You blame your partner because if not for him/her, you wouldn’t have to do such a thing.

Playing the victim card just to make your partner/friend give in to what you want is not good. It is stressful. When you make your partner the bad guy and you the victim by blaming everything on them, you just push them away. Instead of pointing fingers, why don’t you appreciate what they are doing for you and stop complaining too much about your life because clearly your partner also had to forego some things in their life just for you. That is called compromise and instead of whining all the time, be grateful instead and try to work things out together by doing your part wholeheartedly. You are in that relationship because you are together and it means that you share both the good times and bad times. Both of you have your own responsibilities so do yours and don’t just rely on your partner to do everything for the both of you. If you have to clean your house and do the dishes and you never have to do that before because someone else was doing that for you (house help or sibling), you need to realize that you now have a different life and so you shouldn’t live the way you used to.

2. Walking Out of an Argument or Not Saying Anything at All

Arguments are normal. You are different people after all so normally you have different opinions and beliefs about some things. However, some people tend to avoid arguments for various reasons like they never win anyway, or the topic is nonsense, to begin with, or there’s just no way for the couple to agree. If that’s the case, instead of walking out or not saying anything at all, it is better to agree to disagree. You both have your points to make and so you hear each other out. DO not dismiss what the other has to say especially if it is about their emotion. Never ever argue with someone’s emotion especially if it is your partner. When you dismiss their feelings, you make them feel unloved or unimportant. If you are upset, say it. If you are mad, say it. Do not just leave or ignore your partner.

There are times, however, when it is easy to pretend we are busy so we don’t have to deal with the arguments but that is just wrong. If you know that you are incapable of talking it out at that time because you are upset, tell your partner that you are upset and that he/she should give you time to cool down, and then you can discuss afterward. Know when to walk away. When things get heated or words become too abusive or hurtful, then it is better to walk away than make matters worse. But in healthy relationships, a person doesn’t just slam the door in your face or leave you screaming on your own. They communicate. That is how mature couples do it and it works every time often ending up with make-up intimacy.

3. Sleeping Without Resolving Issues

Do not let it become a habit to sleep with unresolved issues. First, because it feels so constricting to sleep beside your partner without talking, second, it starts your next day on a negative light and it basically just ruins your whole day and the days after until you resolve the issue. The most important reason of all is that, one of you might not wake up the next day and the last thing you said to each other was hurtful or a painful silence. I know, it seemed too negative to even think about it and call me paranoid or what not but it is what it is. We live in a world where people die in their sleep and imagine how devastating it would be for someone left behind with nothing but that painful memory of their last moments together. It is utterly regrettable, right? So make sure to even things out before sleeping. It is extremely beneficial for both of you to have a peaceful sleep and a fresh new start the next day. If you start the day right, you will be more productive at work and just generally in life.

Conflicts are normal and sometimes we cannot help but sleep on unresolved issues because we are so tired or it is just too much for us at the moment, in this case, you need to tell your partner that you will talk about it in the morning and don’t forget to say “I am upset but I love you. Let’s talk in the morning”. There, it is not bad at all to sleep on that…because you both know you are willing to work on it and you still love each other despite the issue.

4. Being Emotionally Unavailable

When you are in a relationship, you need to be constantly emotionally available. You need to be involved emotionally because that is how you can connect with your partner. If you are always indifferent to what he/she says or feels, you make your partner feel unimportant. This pushes your partner away from you and don’t be surprised if one day, you discover they have moved on with someone else because you weren’t there all the time or you were there physically but you were unavailable emotionally. Sometimes, we become emotionally unavailable when we have a lot of things going on in our life. Work becomes a priority and we start to miss “family or couple traditions”. Or we are going through some difficult stuff and we don’t know how to cope and so we push others away because we don’t want to be vulnerable. Or you somehow lost the spark and stopped caring altogether. Whatever the case is, emotional unavailability is a recipe for disaster.

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5. Not Listening to Your Partner

When your partner requests you to do something like throwing the trash or fixing the toilet or buying something at the store on your way home, and you said yes without really hearing what they said and so you ended up not doing any of those, it gets annoying over time if you keep doing it. Another example of not listening is when you argue and you always cut your partner off insisting that you are right and what they have to say doesn’t matter. We are all guilty of not listening at times but if you constantly dismiss your partner, you are on the path to ruining your relationship. When your partner has to say something, listen. When you learn how to listen, communication between you are your partner becomes more fluid and you understand each other better. If you want to be in tune together, you need to listen to each other.

6. Constant Nagging

For the record, women aren’t the only ones capable of nagging. Men can also be naggers especially men who want to be in control of everything. If you have the tendency to nag and find faults in your partner, stop it. There are other ways to make your partner do what you asked of them and nagging is not one of them. For one, positive reinforcement is effective. Even if it seemed easier to confront your partner about coming home late or always forgetting to put the toilet seat down, don’t. Instead, use positive scripting and tell him how much you missed the times you share dinner together or how much you appreciate it whenever he remembers to put the toilet seat down (even if it only happened once in a blue moon). Positive reinforcement emphasizes love and not anger. This way you have a higher chance of making your partner change their bad habits slowly (by being more conscious of what they do and how it affects you) instead of them getting defensive and temperamental because of your nagging.

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7. Acting Suspicious and Being Jealous

You probably have read a ton of articles about relationship red flags and signs that your partner may be cheating on you, it is no surprise, after all you are a suspicious person. Whenever you see your partner being busy with his/her phone, you immediately suspect that he/she is cheating. When you see a nice comment from a girl in his social media account, you immediately get jealous and asks your partner to un-friend that person or you block the girl if you have access to your partner’s social media account. I’ve met this kind of people before and they are exhausting, really. They want to know their partner’s passwords and if their partner refuses, they will start to think that they are hiding something. This attitude is not healthy. It shows how insecure you are in yourself and in your relationship.

It is okay to be jealous sometimes because you are afraid to lose the person and a bit of jealousy is acceptable. What is not normal is demanding to know everything like passwords, the names of people your partner interacts with, having someone spy on your partner and sneaking in your partner’s belongings to find something and not allowing your partner to go to social gatherings without you with him. Being extremely possessive and unreasonably jealous and suspicious is incredibly annoying and before you know it, your relationship has ended. Give your partner space and respect his/her privacy. Trust in your partner. I get it, once you have been cheated on, it becomes difficult to trust fully again. But unless you really have strong evidence of him cheating on you, give yourself and your partner a break and breathe.

8. Bringing Up Past Mistakes Over and Over Again

Whenever an argument comes up, you like to keep enumerating the past mistakes your partner did to prove a point. Not only is it exhausting, it is also very unhealthy. If you resolve your issues, you need to realize that you start with a clean slate. You have to forgive and forget. It is not always easy to forget what they did in the past but if you keep bringing that up, you will never get anywhere. Even if your partner is trying hard to do better, if you keep bringing up the past mistakes on their face, they will eventually stop trying and just go back to their old ways since you do not see them trying anyway. Another reason why you should avoid bringing up past mistakes is it actually evokes resentment. People make mistakes and it is a fact we can never run from. If you keep reliving the past, you can’t move on and you can’t forgive. If you can’t forgive then there is no point for you to keep being in that relationship. It will only be toxic for you and your partner and the relationship will go nowhere. Finally, bringing up the past deviate both of you from discussing what the real problem is. You may think it may be connected with what happened in the past, but more often than not, the issue you should be dealing with is something right in front of you, at present. If you fail to address the real issue right now, then you will not get the issue resolved. Don’t dwell in the past. Instead, deal with what you have at present.

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9. Foregoing Intimacy and Compliments

Sometimes, being together for so long becomes a little bit too boring for others that they lose their intimacy eventually. Once intimacy is gone, the couple will start to drift apart. No matter how busy your life gets, always find time to cuddle, be alone and share an intimate dinner or go out on a date. You should hold on to your intimate moments, that way you never lose the “spark”.

Compliment each other and work on your romance regularly. It can be in a form of getting her flowers for no reason at all, or cooking something nice or his/her favorite meal, or giving your partner a massage. Even simple things like that can keep the intimacy going. Don’t forget to say, “I love you”, “thank you”, and “I’m sorry”. These words go a long way…

10. Forgetting to Take Care of Yourself

When you are in a long relationship, somehow your looks become insignificant to your partner, heck, you’ve seen each other’s worst look in the morning when you wake up and smelled each other’s fart. It is so easy to understand why a lot of people stop caring about their looks when they are happily in a relationship. However, this should not be a reason for you to stop taking care of yourself. You still need to go out there and work out so you keep fit. You shouldn’t always lie on the couch eating junk foods while enjoying movie marathon nights. You shouldn’t go out with your jogging pants and messy hair. DO not take yourself for granted just because you believe your partner will love you even if you gain weight or even if you stopped looking good. Keep yourself fit, dress appropriately whenever you go somewhere, eat and drink in moderation, treat yourself to a good pampering massage or hair treatment, wear something nice and style your hair. It may seem difficult when you have kids to take care of, but it is important to look and feel good about yourself. Try not to neglect yourself while taking care of your partner and kids. Not only does it keep the romantic flame going, but it also makes you feel good inside out.

 

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New Book: BELOW THE WHEEL – Behind the Scenes, Characters and Inspiration

After the success of my first work of fiction, Angel with a Broken Wing, I knew I wanted to do another book.

But, I wanted to do something different. I started writing the first draft for Below the Wheel. My first book was about a man running away from his life. He was miserable in his job and wanted to hit the road and be gone. I always loved the idea of writing a road story. I’ve driven across the United States so I understood the subject and the lay of the land.

Below the Wheel is a story about friends and relationships. Two guys who worked together for years and grew tired of the rat race. They open a detective agency in Camden, New Jersey, and the story goes from there.

I write from my heart and my gut. The first draft of Below the Wheel was a brutal piece of work. Laced with graphic sex and violence, and peppered with profanity. When I let an agent read it, she liked it but couldn’t take the violence and filth. It was just over the top. I learned from crafting Angel with a Broken Wing, that less is more. Rather than lay it all out there for the reader, I decided to take a different approach. Clean it up a bit. Let the reader picture what’s happening in the scene using their imagination. They’ll get it. You can say it without actually saying it or showing it. I’ve learned a lot from writing this book, but more from editing it.

Like Angel with a Broken Wing, I added a new chapter during the editing process. I always like to leave things a little open for the chance of a sequel. But, I felt like this book needed a little more resolution than I originally gave it. So, I added a nice twist to the story. It also fixed something I never felt completely satisfied with. I feel better about the story and the fate of the characters now. When you write you have to look after your characters. They belong to you. I’d like to someday write a follow-up to this book.

Where did the title come from? That’s a secret. If we meet in person I’ll reveal that to you.

The Admiral Wilson Boulevard.  You can read about it here:

https://www.inquirer.com/philly/news/new_jersey/20160218_Camden_s_boulevard_of_unfulfilled_dreams.html

It’s an interesting bit of history, but its portrayal in my book is accurate. In the 80s and 90s, it was a grey serpent littered with drug addicts, hookers, and vice. They only cleaned it up when the Democratic Convention came to town sometime after that. It’s all different now. Gone are the strip joints, short-stay- fleabag motels, and human detritus.

Alex Hunter: Like Christian Blackmore from Angel with a Broken Wing, they’re completely made up. I think writers sometimes base their main characters on themselves. I think that was the case here, but we always change things and add things that make them more interesting. I did quit smoking back in the 90s when my daughter was born. I didn’t want to be around my baby smelling like cigarettes. That sweet little head that smells like heaven. I just didn’t want to be the stinky smoky dad around her. I also thought of the health aspects that come from smoking cigarettes. I did use a nicotine patch to get me off the ciggies and it worked. It was rough going though. I’d get stressed back then or be fighting with my then-wife and really want a cigarette. So, I could relate to what Alex was going through in this story.

Alex also has a problem with alcohol. I like interesting characters with feet of clay. I always have. The underdog wants to do the right thing and save the world but struggles with himself. That’s why Batman is more popular than Superman. Batman’s parents were murdered right in front of him as a child. He’s got issues. But Superman was born Superman. He actually has to act like a wimp and a coward to fit in with us mortals. I like the imperfections in a character. It gives them life and relatability to the reader. Who wants to root for Joe Got-It-All? He’s probably a bore. I would much prefer to cheer for the underdog. The failure. The guy who has moments of greatness and yet somehow is undone by his own vices and devices. It just seems more real.

I hardly ever drink anymore. I just became bored with it. After so many years, it just didn’t make sense anymore. Why would I want to stand in a bar with a bunch of drunks? Why would I want to fry my liver and wreck my health? Don’t get me wrong, I still enjoy the occasional well-made Manhattan, but it’s just not interesting to me anymore. I certainly don’t need it to write like some authors. A clear mind will always prevail. But Alex still loves the bottle and struggles with it all the while trying to be a better person.

Scott Appel: He’s based on my real-life friend, Scott. I know most writers change the names of characters based on real people, but Scott’s my friend. We’ve been pals for over 20 years. When I told him the theme for this book he was enthusiastic about being in it with me. So we changed his last name and he came up with it himself. It didn’t mean much to me so I left it in. Why not write about what you know? It’ll make the characters more real. The banter back and forth between Alex and Scott is how we actually speak to each other. It’s all fun ribbing and slagging. That’s what friends do. Besides, Scott won’t sue me for using his name in my book. I’ve got too much dirt on him anyway!

Genevieve Bouchard: She’s the insurance agent with whom the boys share an office in Camden. This character is based on an actual girl I knew back in the 90s who sold insurance for a living. She was my agent for years. I didn’t know much about her, but she looked like the character in the book. Even though I was married back then, I always liked her. She just seemed like a cool, nice person who was down to Earth. She did have a common-law husband though. They never married and he did run a contracting business. But the Bruno Cartiglio character is completely made up. I never met her significant other. I just created him based on the biker types I’ve met in my life. He’s just a bad egg.

Dr. Ignatious Feeny: The coroner is based on a customer I knew back when I worked for First Union Bank back in the 90s. He looked like Iggy in real life. Right down to the teeth. He was an odd character. A little touched in the head. My father always taught me to treat everyone fairly. I had good customers and bad ones. But they all had money in my branch and deserved respect. This guy would always ask me if he could use the phone in my office. I let him because he told me his neighbors were listening in on his conversations. He was obviously nuts but a harmless person. Just because someone is different or weird doesn’t mean they don’t deserve respect. You’d be surprised how well people respond with a little kindness. So he gets to be the brilliant but weird coroner in my book!

Ezra Chambers: The Police Luitenant was completely made up. I just pictured Morgan Freeman in the role and he was born!

Otis Guth: I based him on this fat, slovenly guy I once worked with at a record store in the early 90s. He wasn’t like Otis Guth at all. But when I think of the character in my mind I see that guy. Just hard to look at and listen to. Otis’s history is all made up except for the bit about him pursuing the kids who stole the car. That happened to a police officer friend of mine.

Alyssa Ward: She’s completely from my imagination as well. But when I think about the character, I probably was inspired by the lovely Alycia Lane the former co-anchor at KYW-TV in Philadelphia. Google her, and you’ll see what Alyssa Ward looks like in my book. Quite the babe!

Robert Wick: He’s based on a manager I had when I worked at Security Financial Services in the mid-90s. He was a gruff hard-ass but I loved him. He was great at his job and a fair manager. I would put him in the top 3 of the best men I’ve ever worked with. He wasn’t as mean or as foul-mouthed as my character, but he had that same swaggering confidence. A brilliant guy.

Karen Moore: This poor thing was based on several drug-addled prostitutes and strippers I’ve met in my life.

Her daughter Luna, is completely made up. I just wanted to create a truly good and innocent person in this story. A victim of circumstances not of her own making. A good kid, who had great potential but had just been dealt a bad hand in the game of life. The only rose to grow in a garden filled with thorns and spent hypodermic needles.

Pastor Victor Dorath: I was once in love with a girl named Linda Bradley back in the 80s. She was from Philly and I lived in Wildwood at the time. I met her on the beach and was smitten. But I hardly ever saw her. She was a straight-A student and somewhat religious. I actually went to see a pastor in Cape May, NJ for counseling. I know it seems nuts now that I think back on it, but I just needed someone to talk to about my feelings. I based this character on that gentleman. He was really sweet and a kind ear at the time.

Darren Cain: He’s based on a manager I once worked for back in my Midlantic Bank days in the 80s. He had appeared one day from New York and seemed to have an evil streak to him. No one liked him because he was so intense. But he liked me, and I think he probably had a thing for me. (He was gay) When I think of Darren Cain I see Pete Rallo. A crazy, misunderstood guy that was drunk with power. Oh, he later died from AIDS.

Lisa Devlin: (A minor character but worth mentioning) She’s based on a girl I knew who actually did work at Gloucester County College. I was taking some night courses there back in the 90s when I was married. (Like Christian Blackmore in Angel with a Broken Wing!) My then-wife thought I should finish my education. (Her family was extremely collegiate) Lisa was this nice girl that helped me navigate my classes and credits. I ended up hanging out with her a few times at a bar called Rock Lobster that used to be on Deleware Avenue in Philly.

Did I leave anybody out? I think that’s it.

I hope you like reading Below the Wheel as much as I did writing it. I think my next book of fiction may be something different again. I was thinking maybe a music story about a kid who rises in the music business in early 80s Los Angeles.

I still would like to release a collection of stories from my youth in Philadelphia, and Wildwood, NJ. But we’ll see.

You can get it here on Kindle and Paperback:

This song is dedicated to my sister Jane.

 

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10 Date Ideas To Try In 2021 That Are 10/10

You’ve had date night on your Google Calendar for over three weeks, and you still haven’t figured out what you and your boo are going to do. You can’t watch another bad movie. You simply can’t eat takeout anymore. You’re ready to put on your sexy pants and paint the town with your flame. Of course, you need to find out what the heck is on the agenda first. If hindsight is 20/20, perhaps the year 2020 will be full of good ideas, wisdom, and learning from the past. In fact, these date ideas to try in 2020 will bring the excitement and the fun back to date night.

From dressing up like it’s 2002 and hitting up your childhood hotspots (Rainforest Cafe, ILY) to drinking some wine and getting crafty, there are tons of creative date ideas out there. Whether you turn off your phones and explore the city with disposable cameras or start a monthly movie club together to share your favorite flicks, getting out of your date comfort zone this 2020 is sure to be a 10/10 experience.

And if you’re looking to add some zest to your relationship, here are 10 date ideas for 2020 that are out of this world.

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1. Print Out Your Fave Pics & Make A Scrapbook

Go to a CVS or a RiteAid with a photo center, then print out your favorite pictures of you and your boo. Fashion them into a scrapbook, along with concert tickets, little notes, and any other small mementos you may find. It’s like an IRL Instagram feed, but of your relationship.

2. Have A DIY Date

Find a tutorial you like on YouTube (I live for TheSorryGirls and Lone Fox) and grab all the supplies you need at a dollar store or thrift shop. Load up on snacks, grab some wine or tea, and get to crafting!

3. Plan A 2002 Night & Watch A Reboot

Grab your butterfly clips and Juicy tracksuit, and get ready for a 2002-themed date night with boo. Maybe you both dress up like it’s the early 2000s and snuggle up to watch a reboot of an old classic or you hit the town by going to some OG fave spots, like the Rainforest Cafe or Johnny Rockets. Whatever you choose, the best way to celebrate 2020 with your date is to bring it back to 2002.

4. Start A Monthly Club

Planning a running date night to sit down and swap media recommendations can be a great way to start your 2020. Whether you switch off who chooses the movie or book or snuggle up to listen to some tunes together, making time to share your favorite things in 2020 is a great way to connect with your date.

5. Have A Disposable Camera Day

Sure, you have Huji Cam. Or maybe you had it, then deleted it for VSCO. Whatever the case, if you plan to have a romantic, retro 2020 date, hit up a drugstore for a literal disposable camera (yes, they still sell them) and turn your phone off for an entire day. Run around the city with your boo and take some sweet photos together on the camera, to commemorate the adventure.

6. Plan A Silly Scavenger Hunt

From hitting all the places you went together in 2019 to revisiting different memories from throughout your relationship, a scavenger hunt date can be a great way to revisit some old faves as you get into 2020. Run around the city, find clues, and get to the next spot. Then meet up somewhere that neither of you has been before!

7. Try A $5 Challenge

Meet up with your boo in a new part of a town. Then hand each other a crisp $5 bill. Select a set amount of time, then yell, “Ready, set, go!” When you reunite again, see who found the other a better present or the most things for under $5. Balling on a budget, but make it romantic.

8. Make Vision Boards Together

Sitting together and collaging about the future can be a natural way to kick off the “Where do you see this going?” convo. Maybe you talk about a city you’ve always wanted to visit, which leads to a conversation about traveling together. Or perhaps you can describe your dream apartment, then naturally bring up one day moving in together. Blast some tunes, pour some drinks, and start cutting up some old magazines.

9. Go To A Local Show

Find a local theater in your community and see what upcoming shows are coming to town. Is a local high school putting on Bring It On: The Musical (it’s a thing)? Is a community center holding a futuristic, space ballet performance? Supporting your local arts scene can mean connecting more with your date and your community.

10. Brainstorm Date Ideas For The Rest Of The Year

Write down all the things you want to do with your boo this year, as well as any exciting activities you’ve always wanted to try in your city. Mix them all up and place them in a bowl. The next time you’re wondering what to do for date night, pick something out of the bowl and commit! Having a bunch of ideas ready to go can nix any, “Well, what do you want to do?” boredom for the rest of the year.

 

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Tales of Rock – 5 Rock Concerts That Turned Into Hilarious Disasters

The greatest philosophers of our generation (AC/DC) once opined, “It’s a long way to the top if you wanna rock ‘n’ roll.” Starting out in the music business means a lot of crashing on couches, dining and dashing, and playing for “exposure” to crowds of 20 (including bar staff). Do things get easier when you make it big? Oh hell yes. But the disasters get a lot bigger too …

Authorities Thought Joy Division Might Be Actual Serial Killers

Joy Division was one of the biggest rock bands of the 1970s and ’80s. Even if you don’t recognize the name, you probably recognize their most famous work: this T-shirt.

It’s an image of <A TARGET=_blank HREF=https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unknown_Pleasures#Artwork_and_packaging>radio waves from a pulsar</A>. There, now you know more about this than 99 percent of people who own the shirt.It’s an image of radio waves from a pulsar. There, now you know more about this than 99 percent of people who own the shirt.

For a brief spell during 1979, the police were looking into members of the band for another crime wholly unrelated to fashion: the Yorkshire Ripper murders. Between 1975 and 1980, Peter Sutcliffe — an ex-gravedigger, which seems like a clue in hindsight — murdered 13 women in red-light districts across Northwest England. Police of the time tragically didn’t have access to Wikipedia, and thus did not know this information. In 1979, they turned their attention to a motley crew of musicians whose license plates were often recorded in those very same red-light districts.

As the band’s co-founder Peter Hook explained in an interview:

“What happened was that every club we played in was run by a dodgy promoter in some dodgy part of town. We managed to play in the red-light districts of Halifax, Huddersfield, Leeds, Manchester, and probably London as well. The police had asked the public to note down the license plate numbers of any strange cars in the area, so they could investigate them later. It was very frightening — they basically asked you straight out if you were the Ripper.”

Although Hook handled his interrogation fine, the band’s drummer, Stephen Morris, came off so suspicious that he was taken to the local police station for further questioning. It’s always the drummer, isn’t it?

 

Motley Crue’s Vince Neil Disabled Himself Over Mustard

Motley Crue is the biggest, baddest rock band to ever exist. They rubbed egg burritos on their junk to keep their girlfriends from finding out about the groupies they were banging! One of them had a lethal overdose in Slash’s shower … and started doing heroin the second he was revived! Another killed a dude while drunk driving- OK, there’s the line in the sand.

There’s one incident that they probably don’t like to talk about, however: that time they had to cancel a gig because their lead singer got BTFO’d by a jar of mustard. Prior to taking the stage at a show in Rochester, NY, the band was backstage fixing themselves some snacks when Vince Neil — famed hater of Grey Poupon — found a jar of the stuff on their catering table in lieu of his favorite brand. In a hangry rage, he threw it at the wall … at which point the jar exploded and shrapnel hit his hand, leaving him no choice but to run to the hospital before the hated Poupon could flavor his very bloodstream.

Can’t emit a sense of raw, sexy, no-rules rock 'n’ roll without the right brand of imported Dijon mustard.Elektra Records

Can’t emit a sense of raw, sexy, no-rules rock ‘n’ roll without the right brand of imported Dijon mustard.

In the end, his idiocy resulted in him severing a bunch of tendons, nerves, an artery, and almost an entire finger (he can’t stretch it out, even today). On the plus side, he never saw another jar of Grey Poupon backstage again, which seems like a minor win to us, but we’re no rock gods.

Pink Floyd Accidentally Toppled The Venetian Government

The Who was all about teenage angst. For Led Zeppelin, it was bizarre homages to Lord Of The Rings and pederasty. For Pink Floyd, it was rebellion and smashing the system — which the city of Venice learned all too well in 1989 after a gig by The Floyd caused the collapse of their government.

In 1989, Venice decided to expand its cultural horizons by inviting Pink Floyd to perform a free gig in the city’s historic St Mark’s Square. One problem: Historical preservationists argued that vibrations generated by the band could damage the city’s historic buildings. If only they had built that city on (something compatible with) rock ‘n’ roll.

As a compromise, the government moved the gig from the city center to a floating stage moored offshore. Why yes, it did look completely bonkers.

Sadly, no photos of the all-gondola mosh pit survived.

The gig, held on July 15, attracted over 200,000 fans to Venice (normal population: 60,000), and they did what rock fans tend to do and made a mess. Although the show didn’t knock any buildings down, the city was left with apocalyptic levels of garbage. Over 300 tons of the stuff, to be precise, along with 500 cubic meters of beer cans and bottles.

Once the city recovered, citizens demanded blood … or at least the resignation of the mayor, despite his protests that he was strong-armed into the deal by the local state-run television network. It was no good, however, and he was forced to resign — alongside the entire city council.

As revolutions go, it’s hard to top this one.

Alice Cooper is famed for his wild stage shows, featuring snakes, pyrotechnics, elaborate costumes, electric chairs, and the like. It is objectively and provably pretty bitchin‘. This kind of showmanship does have its drawbacks, however. When things go wrong, they go wrong in a fairly significant way. Case in point, that time he almost hanged himself during a gig.

We’re guessing this is a bit without a lot of room for mistakes.

While rehearsing for a concert at London’s Wembley Stadium in 1988, Cooper and his band were practicing that ol’ staple the fake hanging. After Cooper put his head into the noose and started play-acting strangulation, the piano wire that was holding him up broke, leaving him with the minor problem of actually being hanged … at least until a roadie realized he wasn’t just putting his all into the routine and cut him down.

As he admitted in an interview, the wire snapped because he never bothered to check or replace it between shows. “Everything has its stress limit and after doing so many shows, I never thought about changing the wire. You know, I figured it’ll last forever.”

Alice Cooper: Not the bastion of workplace safety we’d always assumed.

In June of last year, thousands of fans filed into Swansea, Wales’ Liberty Stadium and prepared for a mass Mr. Brightside singalong by drinking and drinking and drinking and then having a little drink to wash down all those drinks. Then it came time to use the bathroom, and it’s a soccer stadium, so that was no problem, right? Turns out concert organizers had taken it upon themselves to implement some kind of bizarre toilet-based class war, and the bathrooms were only available for fans sitting in the higher levels. If the lower levels wanted to relieve themselves, they had to leave the stadium and queue at a porta-potty in the parking lot.

Lines for those potties lasted upwards of 45 minutes to an hour. As you’d expect, fans started pulling a Pink Floyd and relieved themselves all over the stadium’s fences. The Killers finished their set and left the stage to discover the massive social media mess that their production staff had created, with some demanding full refunds on account of missing so much of the show.

 

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