How to Recognize Your Soulmate – 4 Sure Fire Ways to Know

For most people, finding love is the first reason for living.

We spend our whole lives looking for that one person, and when we find our soulmate, we experience the kind of joy that is all too rare.

It’s painful to think that some people might meet their soulmate and not even know it.

For that reason, it is vital that we know how to recognise our soulmate when we meet them.

Luckily, with it being such a central part of life, the signs are quite easy to spot.

1. You Have Instant Chemistry

When you meet your soulmate for the first time, you will be struck by how easy it is to talk to them.

Meeting most people begins with a little bit of awkwardness.

It always comes from apprehension, not being entirely sure of their motives or their attitudes.

With a soulmate, you will immediately be at the same level.

A soulmate will get your references, and you will get theirs. You will share interests and primary goals for life.

In fact…

2. You, Will, Have A Scary Amount In Common

Soulmates usually come from very similar backgrounds in terms of their childhood experiences.

The reason for this is that soulmates need a bedrock of shared experience to create the magic of soulmate relationships.

It breeds understanding between you.

In practice, you will find that you understand where they are coming from and why they think a certain way – and the same is true the other way around!

3. Your Body Will Tell You – And Everyone Else!

The physical effects of meeting your soulmate are sometimes the most obvious ones at the start.

While you might want to hide your feelings when first meeting your soulmate – after all, that’s quite a natural reaction – your body has other ideas.

Unless you have superhuman self-control, your body will give the game away.

Think uncontrollable smiling and laughter, blushing and butterflies in the stomach.

The nature of embarrassment means that you will notice these in yourself straight away – more interesting is to see if you can spot the same things in your soulmate.

4. They’re Excitingly New… Though Strangely Familiar

Meeting your soulmate is an incredibly exciting experience that can leave you reeling for days, awash in a sea of new feelings that you feared you might never experience.

Though the novelty is exciting, when you meet your soulmate, it will be the familiarity that strikes you.

Your soul connection has meant that you have had a connection for your entire life, perhaps many lives before.

In fact, soulmate relationships often develop over the course of many lifetimes.

It has a strange side effect. Many people, when meeting their soulmates for the first time, swear they’ve met them somewhere before, or have known them in a past life.

It is no coincidence and is often more accurate than they think.

And remember, if you are still waiting for your soulmate and are scared they’ll never show, know this:

Everyone has a soulmate out there, and everybody is hard-wired to recognize them when they see them.

Yours is just a little further down the road and will explode into your life. It will always be when you least expect it.

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Tales of Rock – 29 Secret Backstories You Don’t Know To Hit Songs You Do

Songs have a way of worming themselves into our brains and lives in subtle ways, without us giving a single thought to how they arrived in our ears. And as it turns out, most songs have really interesting histories.

So we asked our plasticians to come up with fascinating facts about well-known songs, that you can worm into your brain alongside that catchy melody. Here’s what they came up with:

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

29 Secret Backstories You Don't Know To Hit Songs You Do

 

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The 6 Biggest Mistakes Women Make When Going on a First Date

And how you can avoid them!

First dates can be pretty scary. What should you wear? Where should the date be? What should you talk about?

Wardrobe woes and awkward silences aside, a first date can also quite literally be a scary experience. Especially in today’s modern dating world, it’s so important that a woman take the necessary measures to protect herself and be alert and aware of any possible dating red flags.

And this is even more crucial when it comes to online dating or meeting a man from a dating app like Tinder, which is a common way for snagging a date these days.

So what are some of the biggest mistakes women tend to make when going on a first date?

While a first date will, of course, never be perfect, here are some of the biggest mistakes that a woman can make, and some dating tips for avoiding them.

1. Leaving yourself defenseless

In this day and age, it’s safety above all else, ladies. This is especially true when you’re meeting a guy from a dating app or online.

We cannot stress this enough – you must always, always be prepared to protect yourself.

Taking a self-defense class is one great thing you can do so that you’re able to rely on and defend yourself in case a situation arises when you’re alone with your date. And besides the incredible safety factor, self-defense classes are also extremely empowering and can give you a great sense of strength.

An easier option is to carry something with you at all times that you can use to protect yourself, such as a personal alarm, like this one from SafeSound (get 50% off.) You won’t need any training to use it, it’ll fit in your purse, and best of all, it will give you peace of mind when you’re meeting up with that random dude from Tinder.

2. Not having anything to talk about

The whole reason you’re even going on a date is to find out more information about this person and decide if you’d like to see them again, right?

So if you’re going to go on a date and sit in silence the whole time, then you may as well have just stayed home and continued your Netflix binge.

Now, we’re not saying that you should sit down and divulge your entire life story, but you must come prepared with conversation topics or there’s really no use going at all.

And while it’s good to know the standard things, such as what he does for a living and what the name of his cat is, it’s also important to dig just a little bit deeper so that you can find out more about the kind of man he is.

3. Talking way too much

Have you ever been to a restaurant and overheard an awkward date? You know the one — the girl (or the guy) won’t stop rambling on, and the other person never gets in a word. They sit there twirling their straw, staring off into space, leaving you to wonder why they don’t just excuse themselves to the bathroom and never come back.

Trust us, you do not want to be this person – especially on a first date.

He doesn’t need to know everything about you, your childhood pet, and about your dear Aunt Judy on the first date. You’ve got to leave a little bit of mystery, you know!

Besides, it’s very important that he does the talking, too. That’s where those conversation topics come into play.

4. Forgetting to share your date details with friends or family

So, you met someone and you’ve arranged a date with them. Exciting, right?

However, this is where so many women make a huge mistake.

Before you even start celebrating, find your contacts. Now pick someone you absolutely trust and tell them where you’re going, when you’re going, and who you’re going on the date with.

It doesn’t matter if it’s your mom, your dad, your best friend, or better yet, all of them. It’s critical that you let someone know that you’re going to be on this date. This is especially true if the person you’re meeting is from the internet.

And hey, do you have friends who are active on the dating scene? Maybe you can be that trustworthy friend for them. Better yet, you can ask them to share their location with you via their phone, or buy them a personal alarm to keep in their purse.

5. Using a cell phone

We don’t know about you, but one of the most uncomfortable, depressing things is seeing two people who are out on a date and they’re both sitting there looking down at their phones.

These days, it’s hard for people to become disconnected from the online world. We feel like we need to be physically attached to our phones 24/7 as if our very lives depend on it.

You know how you’re always complaining to your friends about how you wish you could go back to the good old days and have an old-school type of romance? Well, guess what they didn’t have in those good old days? That’s right! A phone. Yes, you actually had to make eye contact and speak with another person.

Think about it like this: what if it was the other way around and the person you were on a date with took out his phone and started ignoring you? Would you consider going out with him again? We didn’t think so.

Put down the phone. Your followers can wait.

6. Not meeting in a public place

A first date should always, always be in a public place.

Don’t ever meet someone in a setting where you are alone with them.

Always pick somewhere that you know will be a place with a lot of people.

However, you should still always be prepared and look out for yourself by taking all of the other necessary safety precautions as mentioned, carrying something with you for protection, and informing your friends and family where you are.

Dating can cause a lot of mixed emotions. And it’s completely normal to feel all of these things at the prospect of a first date!

It’s important to have fun with dating, but it’s even more important to look out for yourself and protect yourself when venturing out into the modern dating world.

 

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BELOW THE WHEEL – The Artist, The Artwork and The Marketing

Pictured: Kellie Stiles – Artist

When I published Angel with a Broken Wing last summer, I needed a cover for the book. I thought long and hard about what the image should be. I thought about the leading female character Jill standing in the desert in Palm Springs with Christian. There was that moment before he kisses her for the first time. Before she takes off her sunglasses and looks off to the horizon.

It suddenly struck me. I drew a picture like that my senior year in art major class in 12th grade. I still had the original artwork. It’s won awards in art shows and got me an A+ in that class.

I thought it would be perfect even though the image was 40 years old. It worked beautifully. The title and my name are on the kindle version but are not on the cover of the paperback. I figured let the artwork grab people’s attention rather than the title. The image was strong enough. Just a simple pen and ink in my signature style.  Let’s have a Beatles White Album, Led Zeppelin IV moment, and just go with artwork only cover for my first work of fiction.

I had already published Phicklephilly, Phicklephilly II, Crazy Dating Stories, and the notorious and lurid, Sun Stories: Tales from a Tanning Salon. This was my first work of fiction to be published. Like every aspect of my life, I needed to make it cool. No name and no title. Just leave it on the spine of the book.

Sales were robust thanks to the great following on my blog and fans from my previous non-fiction work published years before.

But for my second work of fiction, (and maybe my last!) I wanted to do something different. Below the Wheel had a totally different vibe and tone from Angel with a Broken Wing. It held darker subjects inside its heart.

During covid in 202o, the only woman I saw, other than my sisters and daughter was my daughter’s friend, Kellie. She’s a great girl and a dear friend of my daughter’s, so we sort of think of her as a part of the family after 2020.

One day, she presented us with a little painting she did of an Ewok from Star Wars. I like how she took a well-known character from popular culture and kind of gave him a psychedelic vibe he never had on Endor. I really liked it, and we hung it up in our gallery of other artwork in the living room. He was in good company with Jeff Buckley, George Carlin, Paris Hilton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Britney Spears, Christine Aguilera, Alessandra Ambrosio, and several other famous people we’ve met over the years.

Here he is.

He’s got crazy eyes and a Clutch Cargo mouth, and it looks like this little dude is on some kind of mushroom trip.

I liked it, and having no idea what the cover of my next book should be, I asked Kellie if she was interested in maybe doing the cover for a book I was working on, called Below the Wheel.

She liked the idea of the story and the opportunity to create something new. I gave her a synopsis of the story and sent her some images I found on the internet that seemed to capture the imagery of the book I was writing.

I didn’t know how it would turn out but was happy I could work with a friend of the family who could paint. I had looked at the work of some other artists I knew but their work just didn’t seem right for what I wanted and lacked any voice.

This was back in the Fall of 2020 when we talked about this work. So, this has been cooking for a while.

I toiled away with the writing, editing, clean-up, cutting, and production of my next book.  The Winter passed, and as we came into Spring of 2021, Kellie was close to completing the cover.

I thought maybe she would do a little painting the size of a comic book. But Kellie actually painted a 3-foot by 2-foot painting in oil on a canvas.  The real deal. A painting you could hang on your wall.

An actual work of art.

I was worried that the size and scope of what she was trying to create was just too big a task for her. But 3 weeks before the deadline, she pulled up in front of my house in Rittenhouse and hauled out this giant painting from the back of her truck.

I was blown away at the sheer size and detail of what she created. At first glance at the painting, I realized she had captured what I saw in my mind of what the cover should look like for this book.

I never gave her tons of details, but she was somehow able to capture what I saw in my mind. A dark city street with a lady of the night soliciting a motorist on Broadway in Camden, NJ. (She used special reflective paint for the car’s finish) The darkness that falls over the scene cut only by the streetlights. The sad cityscape beyond that image. City Hall slightly bent just like the government in Camden that no longer cares for the people of that dying city. The last orange light of dusk before darkness falls on the city and consumes it and its denizens of the night.

Plus, she left space at the top and bottom for the title and my name, so yea… great composition! Well done, Kellz!

Easter egg: If you look closely, there’s a little guy standing on the roof of one of the buildings. Cool detail!

So, after 8 months we have the cover of the book. Below the Wheel is now a reality. I’m happy that Kellie will now have her work on the cover of a published book, copyrighted, and registered in the United States Library of Congress.

You can find her at thelookofkellz on Instagram. Follow this talented lady!

Stop by, follow, and check out her artwork. She’s an amazing lady I’ve written about on occasion in this blog.

We’re happy Kellie’s in our lives. Whether she likes it or not, we’ve sort of adopted her as our own. Our home is full of sunny smiles when she and my daughter are here together.

I’ll miss them both when my daughter moves out in a few months.

Here are the posts I wrote about Kel last year. (I always use fake names and avatars to protect people’s rights, but for this post we want people to know the artist!)

Trivia: I named her after Jodie Foster’s character, Iris in the film Taxi Driver.

Iris – Quarantine Girl

Iris – Happy Birthday, Papa Squirrel

Here’s Kellie! Hire her for your next artistic endeavor!

The Painting

We’re going to find a special place in our home to hang this up! Thank you, Kellie!

The Marketing

I’m no stranger to Instagram, but I’m new to making Stories. I only recently sort of figured it out. But I think I was able to come up with some compelling images to promote the new book.

I worked in advertising and marketing for 10 years here in Philly, and only learned how to write good copy in the last year of my time at Philly Weekly. It really paid off! I think a few of these look really cool!

I ran all of these on social media during the two weeks leading up to the publication of Below the Wheel.

I hope you like my latest offering. It’s a hard-boiled, crazy detective story full of twists and turns. This will be the last book I ever write like this.

The next two books will be historic pieces from my youth growing up in Philly and my summers in Wildwood.

 

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5 Signs You’re Not Over Your Breakup Yet, So Give Yourself Time

It’s no secret that getting over a breakup takes time, regardless of who ended things. If you just got out of a relationship — especially if you were together for several years — it’s only natural to need a minute (or, you know, a few) to heal and move on. Understanding the signs you’re not over your breakup yet and recognizing them in yourself might help you realize you need a little more time, and there’s nothing wrong with that. After all, moving on doesn’t happen overnight.

While it would be nice to have an exact timeline for when you “should” be fully over someone, that’s not always realistic. Everyone is different. “This truly depends on a couple of things,” Chris Armstrong, founder of the relationship coaching company Maze of Love, previously told us. “If your ex was the one to break up [with you] and you did not see it coming, it could take several months.” On the other hand, “If you broke up with your ex and you had been mulling it over for a bit, it may only take a couple of weeks to a month,” Armstrong said.

If you recognize any of the following signs or behaviors within yourself, it might mean you’re not over your breakup just yet. Don’t be too hard on yourself, because everyone’s different. Trust that you will get there when you get there, and everything will fall into place.

1. You didn’t grieve the end of the relationship.

Dmytro Bilous/ Stocksy

You can’t truly move on from a breakup if you don’t let yourself feel sad, mad, or upset for a while. “Let yourself feel all the emotions,” dating coach Diana Dorell previously told Elite Daily. “Denial is a part of the grieving process, and the end of a relationship really can feel like a death of sorts. Trying to skip over how you feel or distracting yourself from your feelings is only a temporary solution.”

2. You still want to reach out to them.

It is so tempting to text your ex after a breakup, no matter how things ended. So, if you still feel yourself reaching for the phone, there’s a good chance you probably aren’t over the breakup. “Even if you and your ex aren’t communicating, give yourself a timeframe, [during] which you will commit to not reaching out to them in any way,” Dorell said “Once you get to that point, re-commit for another round,” she continued. “You may find that you don’t even have the desire to reach out.”

3. You still check their social media.

Studio Firma/ Stocksy

Social media can make breakups even harder. Being able to see what your ex is up to on a daily basis can make it harder to forget about them. “If you are following your ex on social media, be careful to not stalk their account and do check-ins with yourself to make sure you are not feeling sadness or anxiety from checking their social media pages,” Marline Francois-Madden, LCSW, psychotherapist, and CEO of Hearts Empowerment Counseling Center previously told Elite Daily.

At the end of the day, it might be best to hit that “unfollow” button.

4. You’ve held on to physical mementos.

You probably aren’t over a breakup if you’ve been holding onto something that belonged to your ex. A shirt, book, or blanket can hold too many memories to allow you to really move on. “Have a simple ritual to honor the relationship, and then release any objects that remind you of them. Donate, sell, throw away,” Dorell said.

5. You haven’t taken time for yourself.

In order to get over a breakup, you might need to take some time to love yourself. “One of the most important things to remember during a breakup is that heartbreak affects your physiology and your neurochemistry,” Elle Huerta, CEO and founder of breakup recovery app Mend, previously told Elite Daily. “Going through a breakup feels like going through withdrawal, so it’s really important in the early days to take extra care of yourself — make sure you’re walking or getting a little bit of exercise every day to get happy hormones flowing.”

There’s no real way to rush your way through a breakup, so don’t stress too much if you aren’t completely over the relationship just yet. It takes time and effort. Remember: Try not to reach out, hit “unfollow” if you can, and take care of yourself. Be patient and kind with yourself. Heartbreak is no joke, but with some patience, you’ll get there.

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