4th of July Date Ideas (That Won’t Break the Bank)

Here are a bunch of fun ways to ignite some sparks of your own.

1. Plan an outdoor picnic. We know, it may sound a little clichéd, but grab an American flag blanket at a cheapie store (c’mon, show your patriotism), a bottle of wine, and some American fare to share with your guy. You can bring along a Frisbee or Nerf ball to toss around after lunch. Outdoor eating can be much more relaxed and romantic (not to mention more affordable) than your typical dinner and drinks.

2. Hit up a rooftop bar with your guy. You’ll get to enjoy cocktails in the breezy summer weather, and you might even be able to spot a nearby fireworks show — minus the crowds and mobs of children.

3. Go on a romantic “getaway.” Almost every town has its appeal on the 4th, so head to your local tourist hot spot. Breaking your usual routine and taking advantage of what your town or city has to offer will make you feel like you’re on a mini vacation. Plus, experiencing new activities with your guy is exciting.

4. Bake a 4th of July cake. Don’t go all Betty Crocker on your guy, but baking a festive cake with him can be a flirty, fun way to get some one-on-one time. Top the cake with whipped cream, blueberries, and strawberries. Hint: If you happen to buy too much whipped cream, you can always find, um, other uses for it.

5. Head to an outdoor concert. A lot of cities host 4th of July concert and firework shows (what’s not to like about two-for-one dates?). Check out your local paper to see what’s going on nearby. Don’t feel like springing for tickets? You can usually mingle your way close enough to the concert stage, but outside the seat parameter, to listen to the live music for free.

6. Host a BBQ. We all know guys like to barbecue, so let your man be manly as he grills up the hamburgers and ribs. A casual cookout can be a great way to break the ice and introduce him to your family or friends. Don’t forget the festive cocktails!

7. Do something historic. Google your town or city to find out what local American memorials or museums you can visit. You’ll both learn a bit about the past and get a renewed appreciation for your heritage.

8. Get wet. When we think of July we think beaches and bikinis. If you don’t live near a beach, find a friend with a pool or buy a day pass to a public pool. Upload summer tunes to your iPod and have your guy rub you down with sunscreen and cocoa butter. You two can even sport those corny American flag bathing suits if you feel so inclined.

9. Have a movie night. If you’re far away from the beach and fireworks, invite your guy over for a movie night, 4th of July style. Pick out a few festive flicks and cozy up in front of the TV. Some suggestions: Born on the Fourth of July, Independence Day, and The Patriot.

10. Bond over a bonfire. You could always forgo the fireworks and curl up around a campfire with him. Bring along sparklers to get into the spirit.

 

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The Most Unattractive Online Dating Mistakes Women Make To Cause Men To Swipe Left

Avoid these as much as possible.

Online dating and dating apps are all the rage these days. You no longer need to write long-winded paragraphs about yourself and your dream fantasy person.

Nowadays, if you want to go on a date, all you need to do is go to Bumble, Hinge, Tinder, and the countless other dating sites and just write a few sentences about yourself, do four or five photos, and off to swiping we go.

Brilliant.

You don’t have to read anything.

But — and here’s the big ‘but’ — those few sentences could also be enough to turn off the majority of men. I’ve seen it happen so many times.

What you say in those few sentences on a dating site can determine whether a man swipes right or swipes left. It can determine whether or not he wants to get together with you at all.

Women often make these 3 fatal mistakes in online dating — and they’re usually all in the same profile.

1. Saying you’re career-driven

As a man, I don’t need to know that. Do you know what the phrase “career-driven” triggers in a man?

He thinks, “She’s going to take charge of the relationship. She’s career-driven. She’s forgotten how to be feminine.”

Or, “She’s not a nurturing type of woman. She’s going to work late all the time and not really be feminine in a relationship.”

Career-driven — writing that alone triggers those kinds of thoughts in a man.

Most women desire a king. The king doesn’t care what you do, he cares about how you treat him.

Career-driven triggers the wrong things. How you formulated your career or how you make your money — men don’t need to know that. It doesn’t matter.

This is dating, not an interview. When women say career-driven, it shows me that you’re still in the interview process. You’re treating dates like interviews instead of romance.

2. Saying you don’t need a man

Usually, this comes after career-driven — “I don’t need a man in my life, but I would like one.”

Men like to feel needed and desired.

Nobody needs a man. And I don’t need a woman.

But, what I need and desire in a partner.

When someone says they don’t need a man, what that says is that you’re bitter. You’ve had bad relationships so you don’t need a man.

You had a dominating mother who castrated your father right in front of you and told you that men suck and you can’t rely on them.

So that one statement tells us that you’re not going to be feminine in a relationship. You don’t need us so you’re not going to fall for us. We’re not going to be able to romance you.

3. Saying, “My life is full of adventures. I live life to the fullest”

You’re telling us right then and there that you have no idea how to be vulnerable.

Living life to the fullest means that you have filled your life with other things besides romance and intimacy.

You have filled your life with toys and games and trips and everything else.

You’re telling us you really don’t need a man, you’re career-driven, and you live life to the fullest. It tells men — plain and simple — that you don’t get what being vulnerable and intimacy are all about.

Just three statements but they’re fatal.

They are so simple but women say them consistently.

Are you looking for love? Create a profile that attracts quality men that are desperate to date you by using language that triggers men in a positive way.

 

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