A Logistician (ISTJ) is someone with Introverted, Observant, Thinking, and Judging personality traits.
ISTJs are some of the most organized and hard-working individuals out there. Out of all 16 personality types, the ISTJ is the most likely to be reliable and dependable in their everyday lives, and this includes their romantic relationships, where partners can always trust an ISTJ to stay loyal to them.
Yet sometimes this personality type known as the “Logistician” will face a certain set of relationship/dating struggles that are very specific to their MBTI. What are some of these specific issues that ISTJs face in their love lives? Scroll down to find out!
10. YOU AREN’T SUPER FIT FOR TODAY’S DATING WORLD
ISTJs are known for being traditional and conservative when it comes to their everyday lives, and this most certainly applies to their dating lives as well. Out of all the personality types, ISTJs are probably the least likely to go on frequent Tinder dates and they probably wouldn’t be super comfortable exchanging phone numbers with that random stranger at the bar.
If you are an ISTJ, you are classy and old-fashioned when it comes to your love life. Although this is an extremely admirable trait considering how high your standards are, it might be more difficult to find a partner in today’s day and age where most people are falling in love after swiping right on an app.
9. YOU CAN BE A BIT TOO UPTIGHT ON YOUR DATES
Although ISTJs can be a total blast when they are hanging out with the right crowd, if they aren’t fully comfortable with a date yet, they can easily go into “uptight mode” where they become a bit rigid and reserved during inappropriate times, such as date night or at a social gathering.
It is important as an ISTJ to figure out when it is necessary to let loose so you can make the people around you feel more relaxed. While being uptight can sometimes be a good thing because it means you are thoughtful and cautious, in the wrong setting, it can be a bit of a disadvantage, especially when it comes to your dating life.
8. YOU HAVE FORGOTTEN THE WHOLE PURPOSE OF DATING
When it comes to casual dating, there is one goal in mind — to have fun. Dating, especially in the early stages, is all about enjoying the other person’s company. During the first couple of dates you go on, your person of interest simply wants to see if you are exciting enough to hang out with again.
It’s important to remember that dates will only run smoothly if you are able to let loose and enjoy yourself. As an ISTJ, you can sometimes get so wrapped up in your own thoughts, that you might be overthinking things. This can cause self-doubt, and it will end up putting a damper on what should be a fun time.
7. YOU CAN BE TOO SERIOUS
You can save all of the serious stuff for school or the office. For now, go ahead and let your hair down! Dating is a drag when the two people involved are taking the night way too seriously. While being serious and using logistics will get you extremely far in life, if you are too careful and prim on your dates, your partner might be calling, “check please!” before they’ve even served the bread bowl.
While ISTJs are capable of being the life of the party when they are with their favorite people, it might be more difficult for them to be this care-free on their dates. If you are an ISTJ and you’re struggling to mellow out while on a date, there is a good chance you’re simply not with the right person. The right person will make you feel comfortable and relaxed no matter how nervous you might have been at first.
6. YOU CAN BE RATHER CONTROLLING WITHOUT REALIZING IT
If you are an ISTJ, there is a chance that you might have been labeled as a “control freak” at some point in your life. It’s not that you have any desire to control other people with malicious intent, because that is usually never the case for the ISTJ who has no desire for conflict. But you might end up controlling your partner without realizing it because, with your dutiful and task-oriented personality, you could very easily end up scolding your partner if they didn’t do something as simple as putting their socks in the right drawer.
5. YOU ARE STRUGGLING TO FIND A PARTNER WHOSE VALUES MATCH YOUR OWN
As stated before, the ISTJ personality type tends to be rather old-fashioned in comparison to most. They often honor a sense of structure as well as predictability when it comes to their romantic relationships. While it is possible to find a partner with similar values as you, in the year 2020, fewer and fewer people are taking the traditional route when it comes to their dating lives and this could be a bit of a challenge for the ISTJ personality type.
People are getting married much later, some don’t want to get married at all, and others want to be in a loving relationship with multiple people at once. This could make the ISTJ feel rather uncomfortable and out of place, so it’s important that you as the “Logistician” seek out a partner who shares the same set of values as you do.
4. YOU NEVER GIVE YOURSELF ENOUGH OPPORTUNITIES TO MEET PEOPLE
It’s a walk in the park for extroverts when it comes to meeting new people. All they have to do is stroll into their local bar and chat up that cutie who caught their eye, and voila, they have a date. In this modern world, it’s even easy for the shyest personalities to score a night out in the town with a person of interest because of all these dating apps.
Yet because ISTJs prefer meeting their potential partners in a more traditional setting and they are not super likely to go out to the local bars so they can “chat someone up,” they end up limiting themselves. It is a lot more difficult to meet “the one” if you don’t even allow yourself the opportunity to put yourself out there.
3. YOU PUT MORE FOCUS ON WORK THAN YOUR PARTNER
ISTJs tend to put their work before everything. This is why they make such brilliant students or employees because they are so dedicated to their assignments that they will put everything else in their lives aside in order to get the job done.
Sometimes this personality type runs the risk of neglecting their significant other for the sake of their one true love: their job. If you are an ISTJ and you struggle with this, it is important that you seek balance when it comes to your work life and your social life. After all, balance is always key.
2. YOU PREFER BEING ON YOUR OWN
Let’s be honest — the ISTJ personality type can spend days on their own and never feel like they’re missing out on much because they are so preoccupied with all of the brilliant thoughts that are working through their head. ISTJs often enjoy the comfort of being on their own and sometimes they don’t even feel as though they need a romantic partner to fulfill them because they are already perfectly fulfilled with their everlasting knowledge.
1. YOU JUST HAVEN’T FOUND YOUR IDEAL PERSON YET
The reason you are a single ISTJ may simply be due to the fact that you haven’t met “the one” yet. Once you find your perfect match, the love of your life will not see any of your common relationship struggles as flaws, but instead, they will regard them as endearing little quirks. It is important that you keep your head up high and remember that the perfect person is out there. All you have to do is allow yourself the courage to find them.
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