What Are Bedroom Eyes? How to Master the Art of Seductive Eyes

We hear about them all the time, but what are bedroom eyes exactly? Is it possible to learn how to master them for yourself for extra seduction power?

Okay, let’s get to the bottom of some great seduction power by answering, what are bedroom eyes?

What is your go-to seduction technique? Are you all about the words, or do you opt for a little subtle body language? It turns out that seduction isn’t all about the clothes you wear and the things you say, it’s also about how you look at someone with your actual eyes.

Yes, your eyes.

It’s nothing to do with cleavage-bearing tops, short skirts, muscle t-shirts, or skinny jeans, although let’s be honest, they sometimes help. No, it’s mostly about the way you present yourself and the body language you show, including your eyes.

Not only do you see through your eyes *obviously*, but you silently communicate with another person simply with a look.

Yes, the power of your eyes knows no bounds!

If you’ve ever done even a small amount of research into how to actually seduce someone, you will no doubt have come across the term bedroom eyes or come to bed eyes. They are one and the same. What are bedroom eyes exactly, and how can you get them?

The good news is, you already have them. You simply need to use the best parts!

What are bedroom eyes?

The term refers to an expression, often called ‘heavy lidded’ eyes. This means you’re looking a little like you’re dreaming, or your eyes are half-shut in pleasure, even though nothing is actually happening for you to feel that way. It communicates that you’re thinking about pleasurable situations with them in it, without even being touched.

Bedroom eyes are super-powerful. Learning to master them for yourself will certainly bring plenty of luck your way!

We tend to make bedroom eyes when we’re in the middle of an intimate situation, and we do it without even thinking about it. By learning how to do it outside of those situations, you’re making people think that you’re actually recalling rather dirty thoughts in your own mind!

We also tend to use bedroom eyes when we’re looking at someone we really want, someone we have a certain amount of sexual longing towards.

The good news? You can actually master this look with makeup alone!

There are also other body language cues that go alongside bedroom eyes to make up the entire effect. These include:

– Biting your lip

– Licking your lips

– Looking at the other person’s lips

– Looking at the person and then looking away, before turning to meet their gaze

– A coy smile

– Playing with your hair

– A certain amount of pouting

So, what are bedroom eyes for?

To basically tell the person you’re looking at that you want more than just a conversation! It’s a flirtation and education technique. It can also be a look that can be recreated with makeup in order to make heads turn your way while out and about.

How to recreate bedroom eyes with makeup

What are bedroom eyes if not easy to recreate with a few tricks!

For this, you’ll simply need whatever you normally use to make a smoky eye, such as mascara, eyeliner, and perhaps false lashes. The heavy look to your eyes is often easily helped with falsies, and you should go for the biggest you can manage on your own eyes. However, do be careful that you don’t go over the top and create a look that’s more drag than seductive.

It’s a good idea to avoid lining your bottom lash line as this may give the impression of smaller eyes when you want to open up the eye but half-close the lid. That is why heavy false lashes work a trick!

It’s a good idea to practice ‘winging’ your eyeshadow too. That means going for a slightly darker shade and creating a ‘winged’ look on the outer edges.

You should also make sure that you master your eyebrows. There is something about an arched eyebrow that makes you wonder what someone is thinking about, so if you’re asking ‘what are bedroom eyes, it’s about the brows too! Go for an adequately *but not overly* plucked brow with high definition. Add in the lashes and the darker eyeliner on the top, and you’re smoldering in a big, big way!

Bedroom eye body language

Of course, make sure that the rest of your body language isn’t completely going against what your eyes are telling the other person.

If you want to seduce that special someone, make sure you avoid the following:

– Crossing your arms over your body

– Sitting with your legs crossed over one another

– Avoiding eye contact

– Looking bored or uninterested

Crossing your arms or your legs over one another basically means you’re defensive and closed off. When you’re trying to seduce someone and giving them your best bedroom eyes routine, you’re going to confuse them by creating a barrier between you. Instead, sit or stand with your arms loose.

Avoiding eye contact is usually something we do when we’re nervous. It’s also a way of showing someone that you’re not genuine. Failing to meet someone’s eye is a clear sign of lying. If you’re showing them the bedroom eyes but not quite meeting their eyes at the same time, it’s not only confusing, but it’s showing that you’re not genuine either.

The best way to go about the whole bedroom eyes routine is to go with small glances. Then, look away in a coy manner, before repeating the process with a little smile. In that way, the person you’re showing your bedroom eyes will be in no doubt what you’re trying to communicate, albeit silently!

Finally, you might think that looking bored or uninterested is a way to show someone that you’re all cool and funky, but it’s actually confusing to the other person. You see models on runways looking seriously annoyed or not happy with life, and that’s supposed to be the look to go for.

It doesn’t work when it comes to seduction or flirtation!

A coy smile is the best way to go and is also quite disarming. It’s tailing down the effect of your bedroom eyes and making you a bit more approachable than you would otherwise be. As a result, if you’re seriously crushing on this person, your slight smile could be all it takes for them to come over.

Of course, we also have to state that it’s not only women who are great at bedroom eyes! Guys can inflict some serious bedroom eye power on those they have their literal eye on! A smoldering look complete with a slight smirk can be enough to drive the object of your desire crazy and wild. The same advice as above stands for guys too.

The power of your own bedroom eyes

Do you think your bedroom eyes are powerful? Whether you think you’re good at it or not, they certainly have some power!

Practice in front of the mirror and see how it looks. You might think you look ridiculous, but the chances are that if you did this in front of someone who you really had your eye on, the results would be quite impressive!


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‘You Can Love More Than One Person In Your Lifetime’: Dating After A Partner’s Death

Carole Henderson was only 40 when she lost her husband Kevin to skin cancer in 2006. As she struggled with the pain of her partner’s death, she found that her social life was beginning to disappear. “So many people didn’t know how to act around me or said silly, hurtful things.”

Eighteen months on, she was ready to start dating again. “I had reached the point where I loved Kevin, but was no longer in love with him,” she says. “I wasn’t looking for a husband, but I was lonely and wanted to enjoy male company.”

Having met Kevin when she was a teenager, however, she found jumping back into the dating pool a daunting experience. Many men were put off by the fact she had been widowed, too. She enjoyed a year-long relationship with another widower, but it wasn’t until 2012, six years after losing Kevin, that she started dating Ian, whom she has since married. They were friends before a relationship began to develop.

“Initially, I was so excited; I didn’t think too much about her previous relationship and how that could affect us,” says Ian. As his feelings for Carole grew, though, he had a few concerns. Seeing pictures of Kevin around the house was a bit intimidating, and he was nervous about meeting Kevin’s family, with whom Carole maintained a close relationship. “In the end, it turned out my imagination was far from reality. They were lovely, and I think they were just pleased to see Carole happy again.”

It helped that Carole was so open with him. Nothing was out of bounds. He quickly became comfortable asking questions about her past.

“When we started dating, I was divorced and I felt I had made a lot of mistakes,” he says. “Carole is very emotionally astute and she encouraged me to do some of the Grief Recovery Method. It helped me to manage my own insecurities and emotions much better.” Carole discovered this programme, which is designed to help people come to terms with loss, after Kevin died. She has since become a senior trainer and managing director of the UK team.

When their relationship became more serious, Ian moved in to Carole’s house, but he says he never felt entirely at home surrounded by the furniture and paintings that she had chosen with Kevin. After talking things through, they decided to move to create a home together.

“There are still pictures of Kevin in our house, but, although he’s a presence, I don’t feel threatened,” says Ian. “I’m grateful to Kevin, because it’s made Carole who she is. She wouldn’t be the woman I fell in love with if she hadn’t had that experience.”

But other couples find that accepting the past isn’t quite as simple. Joanna met her partner Colin (both names have been changed) on a dating website, 13 months after her husband died of cancer in early 2017. “When John was ill, he told me he wanted me to move on after he died so that I could be happy again. He said he wanted someone else to see my eyes sparkle.”

She and Colin hit it off from the moment they met, but she says he struggles to come to terms with the fact she has been widowed. “John and I had been together for six years and he was my soulmate. I think Colin felt like he was in competition.”

Social media has made life harder, as it brings up so many memories. “On one occasion, Colin came across some old Facebook photos, which really upset him, because it was evidence of how much John and I adored each other. He told me he wasn’t sure if he could live up to John – and that’s when his insecurities began to affect our relationship.” She says he has never felt comfortable meeting John’s family and didn’t want to visit her previous home, which she had shared with her husband.

Although it can be difficult, Joanna works hard to put herself in Colin’s shoes and talk to him about how he is feeling. “I care deeply for Colin. You can’t compare two relationships, because they’re two totally different people. It’s like having more than one child. You can love more than one person in your lifetime.” She says she is no less happy than she was – just “a different kind of happy”.

Respecting former and current partners is a balancing act for many widows. Carole says that while she celebrates Kevin’s memory on special days, she doesn’t talk about him all the time, because that would be disrespectful to Ian. As well as avoiding comparisons, she says it is important to remember your previous partner in a realistic way. “There’s a tendency to view someone who’s died through rose-tinted spectacles, which can be hard for a new partner. I loved Kevin deeply and he was a fantastic man, but he wasn’t perfect.”

When anyone starts a relationship, particularly later in life, it is not unusual for jealousy to surface. We all carry emotional baggage, whether or not bereavement is part of it. But Carole and Ian’s attitude proves it is possible to respect the past without comparing it with the present.

For Thomas Dowds and Moira Stockman, who married earlier this year, jealousy has never been an issue. When they met, they had both been widowed, which they say made it easier to talk about their former partners.

“My family and I were on holiday in Florida in 2016 when my wife Rhonda suffered a sudden cardiac arrest,” says Thomas. Although he attempted CPR and an ambulance was called, there wasn’t anything they could do. In the weeks that followed, he says, there was no opportunity for him to grieve, because he was trying to stay strong for their two girls, who were seven and nine.

After the dust settled and his well-wishers went back to their normal lives, Thomas sought counselling to help him to cope with his loss. He also joined Widowed and Young, a charity support group for widows and widowers in the UK. “I ended up making friends with Moira and it felt good to talk to someone who was in the same boat. She’d lost her husband to leukaemia several years before and had two children around the same age as mine.”

Following Rhonda’s death, Thomas’s girls were reluctant to talk about their mum, for fear of upsetting him. But meeting Moira’s children meant they were able to open up for the first time and talk about their shared experiences.

“When Rhonda passed away, I thought I’d never want to find love again. As well as dealing with grief, I was so scared of losing another person that I loved.” But after a month of getting to know Moira, those feelings began to change. “We had so much in common that it progressed naturally into a relationship and it felt completely right.”

Moira, whose partner Alastair died when her children were toddlers, says they were aware they needed to take the relationship slowly. Although the four children got on brilliantly, her eldest son struggled to come to terms with the idea of her and Thomas as a couple, because he was worried about losing his mum to him. “With lots of support and counselling, he came round to the idea of us being together. One day he told me that he knew Thomas was a good man, and I think that was a real turning point for us.”

The couple say that talking about their past relationships is an important part of their marriage and helps the children to understand where they came from. Rather than “Mum” and “Dad”, “his children call me Moira and mine call him Thomas, because we want to be respectful to Rhonda and Alastair,” says Moira. “They might be gone, but they’ll always be their parents.”

Thomas adds that being widowed has taught him to enjoy every happy moment and stop sweating the small stuff. It is a common philosophy among those who have experienced loss. Although he knows he and other widowers will always feel sad about the loss of their partners, finding love again has given him a new lease of life. “Our children are really happy for us, and it has helped them open up about their own feelings of bereavement. It feels like we’ve taken two broken families and made them whole again.”

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