Every now and then, a guy or girl comes along who’s truly different from the rest. It might be because he can make us laugh or he has the patience to listen to us vent about our day at work. It could even be because he notices the little things about us that nobody else has ever picked up on.
Whatever it is, it’s needless to say that there are certain qualities that make someone boyfriend material.
It can be tough to know when a guy has something special that’s worth holding on to versus when he’s no different from the rest. Luckily, we’ve done the leg work and come up with this list!
Check out these 20 signs he’s boyfriend material and we shouldn’t let him go.
20 He Notices The Little Things About Her
Bustle
It’s a good sign when a guy notices little things about you.
Whether they’re the small details you mention that nobody else seems to pick up on, or that you’ve changed your hair color, or that you wear a certain pink lipstick, someone who’s boyfriend material will notice. Lock him down!
19 He Doesn’t Try To Change Her
Esquire
When you’re in love with someone, you accept them the way they are. Sure, you might help them to improve when they want to, and encourage them to make the best decisions for them. But at the end of the day, you don’t try to change them.
That’s why he’s boyfriend material if he loves you as you are without trying to mold you.
18 He Has Values And Sticks To Them
PopSugar
Most people want someone who has some depth to them and has a set of values or beliefs according to which they live their life.
It’s a sign that you should lock him down if he has values and he sticks to them without giving in to peer pressure. He gets bonus points if his values are similar to yours!
17 She Can Talk To Him About Anything
Leap Year
It’s rare to find someone who will listen whenever you want to talk to them.
If you feel like you can talk to him about anything at all, and you don’t fear that he will judge you or get angry with you, you’ve probably found yourself a keeper. Hold on tight!
16 He Knows How To Give Her Space
Harper’s Bazaar
Space in a relationship is just as important as closeness and connection. It’s all well and good if you have a great time when you’re actually together, but you should also be able to give each other space.
Lock him down if he allows you to be you without always needing to be in the middle of it.
15 His Idea Of What A Relationship Should Be Is The Same As Hers
Good Housekeeping
The ideal relationship looks slightly different for all of us. The person you’re with should at least have a similar idea about how they want the relationship to be.
If one of you wants an open relationship and one wants to be exclusive, it won’t work. It’s a signal to lock him down if you’re on the same page with all of that.
14 He Gives Guidance Without Being Critical
Esquire
There’s a difference between giving loving advice and guidance and being a critical, judgmental tool. If he offers you advice and help when you need it, without tearing you down with criticism, hold on to him.
A partner like that will make life a lot easier than one who criticizes your every move.
13 His Finances Aren’t All Over The Place
Den of Geek
We tend to reach a certain age where things like finances and professional ambitions become more important than what he’s riding in and who he’s hanging out with.
He doesn’t have to be a Rockefeller, but it’s a sign that he’s boyfriend material if he has at least some steady money coming in and he’s smart about saving it.
12 He’s Unconditionally Loyal
Esquire
Loyalty should be non-negotiable in a relationship, and yet, it’s a lot rarer than you’d think. It’s definitely a sign to lock him down if he’s unconditionally loyal to you.
There’s nothing more attractive than a guy who’s always got your back and is always there for you, no matter what.
11 Committing To Things Is Natural For Him
Who Magazine
It’s a good sign if he has no problem with committing to things, whether they be vacation plans a few months down the track or dinner next week. This shows that he’s not totally afraid of commitment (even if he’s a little afraid!).
Someone who can’t make any promises about anything probably isn’t great boyfriend material.
10 His Ex Is Out Of The Picture
Esquire
A guy who is boyfriend material doesn’t just have loads of positive qualities—he’s also available, physically and emotionally. Even if a guy is single, he won’t make a good boyfriend if he’s still attached to his ex.
Ensure that it’s completely over between him and his ex, and him and anyone else, before you consider making him your boyfriend.
9 He Has Ambitions For His Own Life
Time Out
Most of us want someone we can live our best lives with as equals, rather than someone without any passions or ambitions of their own.
It’s a promising sign that you should lock him down if he has goals set for his own life and he’s doing things to turn them into reality.
8 She Feels Happy When She’s With Him
Vanity Fair
This is probably the most important point. A boyfriend has to enhance your happiness, so if you feel happy when you’re with him, it’s a good sign.
He doesn’t make you happy, because only you can make you truly happy. But he should improve things and make them even better. He’s the cherry on top!
7 He Supports Her In Everything
Time Out
A guy who is boyfriend material will be your top supporter in everything. When you go for a job interview, he’ll be there to practice with beforehand. When you need to cry after a long day at work, he’ll be there to lean on.
Whatever life throws at you, he’ll be right by your side to tackle it with you.
6 Saying Sorry Isn’t Impossible For Him
Vogue
Nobody is perfect, which is why we all need to be able to say sorry when we mess up. Still, a lot of people have trouble with this!
Lock him down if he isn’t afraid to admit that he made a mistake and apologize for it. That right there is a keeper!
5 He Can Make Her Laugh
The Vore
Never underestimate someone who can make you laugh! Laughter connects us and helps us grow closer. Plus, you’ll want to spend time with someone who can make you laugh like crazy, even after the honeymoon stage when some of the physical passion starts to fade.
This is a sure-fire sign that he’s boyfriend material.
4 Her Friends And Family Approve
ScoopWhoop
The opinions of family and friends don’t mean absolutely everything—it really depends on what sort of family and friends you have!
But generally, it’s a good sign if the people who care about you approve of a love interest. This means they can see that he’s got your best interests at heart.
3 She Can Trust Him To Follow Through With His Promises
Seventeen Magazine
Being able to trust your boyfriend to keep his word is a huge deal in a relationship. There’s not much point in promising yourself to someone whose word means next to nothing.
You should always be able to trust what your boyfriend says, so it’s a sign that he’s boyfriend material if he’s trustworthy.
2 He’s Happy To Compromise
The Top Ten
All healthy relationships require compromise. If he’s happy to meet you halfway, then there’s a good chance that he has what it takes to be your boyfriend.
He shouldn’t be a doormat or a tyrant—he should be willing and able to meet you in the middle so both of your needs are met.
1 He Is Patient And Understanding
Esquire
Patience and understanding are important qualities in a partner. It’s a sign to lock him down because he’s boyfriend material if he shows patience rather than insensitivity, and understanding rather than judgment.
This suggests that when you face issues in your relationship, he’ll approach them the right way, with compassion and empathy.
Sources: Bolde, Elite Daily, Your Tango
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