So That’s Why They’re Called Hookers!

Workers in the world’s oldest profession have been called many things, but why hookers? Source: (history.com)
There are a surprising number of nicknames for the oldest profession in the world—call girls, streetwalkers, strumpets, ladies of the night—but the term you’ve probably heard the most is “hooker.” Unlike other terms, however, it is not easy to see how the euphemism connects to the activity. How exactly does sex work relate to hooks? Whatever it is, it sounds painful. On the contrary, however, it all goes back to a Civil War major, a rowdy New York seaport, and medieval pickpockets.

Major General Joseph Fighting Joe Hooker was a Union general who liked to have a good time. Source: (professorbuzzkill.com)

THE FRAT BOY GENERAL

In the early days of the American Civil War, the Union Army was led by Major General Joseph Hooker, who earned the nickname “Fighting Joe.” Hooker may have had commanding skills as a military leader, but his camp was in somewhat more disarray. Drinking, partying, and all-around debauchery was rampant under Hooker’s command. This type of behavior eventually led to Fighting Joe’s demotion, as his men were often too drunk, hungover, or sleep-deprived to be effective soldiers. After a few costly defeats, Hooker was replaced as leader of the Army of the Potomac.

The ladies of ill repute who followed the soldiers from camp to camp were called Hooker’s Division. Source: (photo by: bildagentur-online/uig via Getty Images)

HOOKER’S DIVISION

A common sight in Hooker’s camp, alongside the discarded vessels of liquor, were large numbers of prostitutes hoping to earn a few coins by keeping the lonely soldiers happy. Although there is no hard evidence to prove that Fighting Joe enjoyed the company of these “fallen doves” himself, he definitely allowed his men to partake of their services. The prostitutes who followed the troops from camp to camp were referred to as “Hooker’s Division.” Though it’s doubtful that this phenomenon alone is responsible for the term, it was a coincidence that certainly helped to spread it. A more likely origin point is …

This well positioned point on Manhattan’s Lower East Side was once called Corlear’s Hook. Source: (en.wikipedia.org)

A ROWDY SEAPORT: THE “RESORT FOR THE LEWD”

Another story claims that the word refers to a place, not a person. In New York’s Lower East Side is a point of land that juts into the East River that was known as early as the 1600s as Corlear’s Hook after an early plantation owner, Jacobus von Corlear. The man, by all accounts, was an upstanding fellow. His land, however, was a prime location for seafaring activities around the island of Manhattan.

Grover Cleveland frowned upon the large concentration of brothels in New York City. Source: (vox.com)

NEW YORK’S MOST NOTORIOUS RED LIGHT DISTRICT

By the turn of the 19th century, Corlear’s Hook was home to shipbuilders and a naval yard, and the influx of sailors to the area brought troves of business-minded women seeking to cater to their needs. Within a few decades, Corlear’s Hook was New York City’s most infamous red light district, boasting more than 85 brothels. One newspaper of the time wrote that the areas was “a resort for the lewd and abandoned of both sexes with its streets abounding every night with preconcerted groups of thieves and prostitutes.” The most notorious residents of Corlear’s Hook became known as “hookers.”

Medieval prostitutes often banded together to pick the pockets of their johns. Source: (daily.jstor.org)

MEDIEVAL PICKPOCKETS AND RIFF RAFF

Most of the prostitutes in the medieval era had particular sets of skills. In addition to the tricks of the trade, they were also petty criminals and pickpockets, and they were just as creative in this endeavor as they presumably were in their primary occupation. They used long poles with hooks on the end to snatch purses, satchels, and other valuables from their unsuspecting victims. It was often a collaborative effort, with one team member keeping the victim occupied while another used the hook to steal away his coin purse. The obvious nickname for this half of the team was hooker. Soon, the word “hooker” was just synonymous with “prostitute,” which must have been very annoying to the more pedantic members of the trade.

A hooker from the 1800s. Source: (bu.edu)

A HOOKER BY ANY OTHER NAME

“Hooker” is still a common term for a sex worker, but many bristle at it. Although the lines are somewhat blurry, there’s a definite hierarchy in the trade, and each rung has its own preferred terminology. The word “prostitute” itself is rather clinical. A “call girl” implies a high-end sex worker. A “lady of the evening” has a slightly old-fashioned and even romanticized connotation, while “streetwalker” conjures images of a desperate woman who has turned to the oldest profession due to unfortunate circumstances. But a hooker … now that implies a person belonging on the lowest rung of the hierarchy. It is a name associated with the loose women that frequented the Civil War camps, the soiled doves of the shipyards of New York, and the wicked thieves of medieval England. No, thanks.

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ANGEL WITH A BROKEN WING: Inspiration and Behind the Scenes – Part 4

I decided to go back in my memory and try to remember all of the inspiring moments in my own life that helped bring this book to life. I published Part 1, 2 and 3 the last three Mondays, so you can check them out to gather more insight into the book. Anyway, here’s some more stuff…

Rhonda Severino: I once read that if you bring a third person into a scene it creates a different dynamic between the main characters. When reading the story, I think you can see Christian’s growing frustration in regard to his relationship with his traveling partner, Jill.

Enter Rhonda, the sexy hitchhiker. She’s one of my favorite characters in the book. I dig her raw sexuality and tough exterior. Like the rest of the characters in the book, she’s already damaged goods long before she meets up with Chris and Jill. She’s a good person who’s been dealt a shitty hand in life and compounded her problems with a series of bad decisions. That all comes from low self esteem and naivety.

Bringing Rhonda into the story created tension between Jill and Christian. I think she showed Jill that she wasn’t the only chick in Christian’s world, and her throne could be threatened. She really pushed the story forward. I love her!

The inspiration for her came from a real girl I met who worked at a dry cleaners back in Woodbury, NJ. I remember back in the 90’s I was just beginning to do some writing and I told her a piece I was working on. She said she wanted to be a character in my story. She certainly fit the profile for someone I would write about. When I asked her what she wanted her character to be she replied, “I want to be portrayed as a hot slut, who has lots of sex and then gets murdered.” At the time I thought that wasn’t much of a departure from who she already was. I never forgot her, and knew she’d be perfect for the role of Rhonda!

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Things that changed: In the original draft for Angel with a Broken Wing, there were certain elements that were removed or changed in later edits. When I first drafted the original treatment for the book, I just went balls out, accelerator to the floor on my writing. There was tons of profanity and even some racist moments in the dialogue. There was also graphic, gratuitous violence and nearly pornographic/erotica sex in the book. As I edited it, I realized as my first work of fiction to be published, I didn’t think it was necessary to go that hardcore to tell the story.

So I cleaned up the language, and only let my characters curse when it was absolutely necessary to punch up the dialogue. Pepper their speech, don’t drown it in hot sauce. The violence was over the top, and in the final edits… simplified. You can kill a person without violating them sexually for no good reason. Also the sex was way too dirty. I find that action sequences are so much easier to write than sex scenes. Action and violence must come naturally to people, because I really struggled to make the sex tastefully done in Angel. In the original draft you would have felt like you were there. In the final version, maybe you just saw it through an open window. It was quite a challenge, but it needed to happen.

One of my favorite things that changed in the published version of Angel is that I got to play God a little bit. In the first draft there are two characters that both died horrible, violent deaths. But as I edited it I really started to like them, and saw their value. I could have easily killed them both off, no problem. But I liked the story so much better when I let them both live. I had to change two separate scenes, and even wrote an additional chapter a month before publication to accommodate the survival of one of them. By letting them live, it allowed me to return to them in a possible sequel where they get to continue on with their lives. I feel extremely satisfied with the way it worked out for the story.

Can you guess which two lived?

Audra Connelly: This character is based on a girl who used to come into my bank branch when I worked in South Philly back in the 90’s. She worked in sales for a payroll company and was always trying to get me to switch over to her services at the bank. She was also a customer, so sometimes we’d simply hang out together. Like the character, she has extraordinary bright blue eyes. She also loved to play volleyball, so her body was lean and muscular with calves that could stop a bullet. I don’t know what ever happened to her, and I can’t find her on Linkedin, but I hope she’s healthy, married and happy.

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The band at the bar in Palm Springs: My dad listened to a lot of National Public Radio. He turned me on to Chris Isaak, and a band called Big Lazy. He would literally come down the hall and get me from my room to come listen to these artists. I ended up buying their records and becoming a huge fan of both. I was listening to a bunch of Chris Isaak and Big Lazy when I was writing this book, so their sound is incorporated into the story. If it ever becomes a movie or a series, I could literally hand the director the soundtrack. Southern Culture on the Skids, Chris Isaak, and Big Lazy, all have that kind of open road sound. Please check out these artists. It’s perfect music to listen to while reading Angel with a Broken Wing.  I decide to give Big Lazy a plug by making them the house band at the bar in Palm Springs.

The Bayside Motel: That was the first motel that my friend Frank and I stayed in back in ’82 when we arrived in Los Angeles. I liked how Christian looks at the gun and the bottle of booze and sees the parallel to his old life and job at the finance company. He could pay off the loan instantly with a bullet, or by making installment payments over time by drinking himself to death.  I just love the hopelessness of that scene.

Santa Monica Pier: I believe it’s flourishing now, but I’m pretty sure it was closed down for quite some time in the late 80’s and early 90’s. It just seemed like the perfect location for an exciting scene in LA. that was a well known landmark.

Christian’s Dreams: The inspiration for his dreams are from images I felt when I listen to the song, In Spite of Me, by the band Morphine. That song always resonated with me and still does to this day. Just brilliant!

 

I think that’s all I can reveal without giving away the story. I hope you enjoyed reading this mini series as much as I enjoyed writing it!

 

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Secret Signs a Woman Wants You

You probably already know about the obvious signs that a girl wants you such as laughing at your jokes and playing around with you. But there are more subtle signs that you may not be fast to notice.

Kezia Noble is a known dating expert for men and we got the secret signs that a woman wants you from one of her expert videos. Check them out below:

1. She seeks your validation

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If a woman is always seeking your approval, and may be altering what she had said earlier in order to be in your line of standards, then she wants you. If she had stated swimming as her hobby, she might change or say that she also likes going for movies if it’s one of your hobbies.

2. You have her full focus

We are living in the age where people pay more attention to their phones than to what the other person is saying to them. If you are talking to one of those girls who are always glued to their phones but they focus all their attention on you, Kezia notes that this is a good sign that the girl is interested in you.

3. She tries to resurrect the conversation

Couple talking

We’ve all been there and it feels awkward when you have nothing else to say to each other. According to Kezia, “If she is trying to resurrect that conversation, she is trying her best to stop the fizzle from happening, that’s another good sign.”

4. She is always hanging around you

It’s not just a coincidence that you find her around you every now and then. If you think it’s just a coincidence, try looking for more signs and you might be surprised that she actually wants you.

5. She is distracted by you

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She could be talking to other people but once in a while, she is stealing glances at you. This a sign that she probably wants you.

6. She extends a compliment

If she tries to challenge your compliment or seems like is trying to gauge it genuineness, no doubt she is interested.

7. She excuses your bad behavior

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This is not an excuse to go acting like a jerk. But if a girl doesn’t seem to mind your bad behavior or even giggles about it, she could be interested in you.

8. She responds to your lazy text messages  

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Especially if you just met her and you send her a basic ‘hi’ or ‘how are you doing’ text message, Kezia says this is a very good sign that she is interested.

 

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Here’s How To Have Safe FaceTime Sex

Sexting and exchanging nudes is fun, but it’s not always enough to get you off when you and your partner can’t be together IRL. More than sexy Snapchats — and even more than tried-and-true phone sex — FaceTime sex is the closest you can get to enjoying the real-time thrills of sex IRL, and it’s not just for committed couples. FaceTime sex with a casual partner can always be an option if you want it to be. But, like with in-person sex, safe FaceTime sex should always be a priority — especially when you’re doing it with someone you don’t know too well.

In a long-distance relationship, you and your SO already have an established foundation of trust. Partners can nurture intimacy for months, or even years, before going long-distance. But that trust might not exist with someone you’ve only known for a few weeks, or with someone you’ve never actually met IRL at all. That’s why it’s important to take safety precautions during sex — no matter what form it takes — just like you would with IRL f*ck buddies, flings, and one-night stands.

Keep these pro-tips in mind if you’re curious about how to have FaceTime sex safely.

Be Selective About What You Show

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Approach FaceTime sex the way you’d approach sending nudes. For one, don’t include your face in the frame. “Keep in mind that tattoos can also be big signifiers, so try to avoid having any of them in nude photos, too,” Gigi Engle, certified sex coach and SKYN Sex and Intimacy Expert, tells Elite Daily.

Along with your face and tattoos, you’ll want to leave certain personal items or decorations out of the shot, too. “Whether FaceTiming or sending photos of any kind, be sure not to reveal identifying details in the background,” Alison Falk, a cybersecurity professional and president of Women of Sextech, tells Elite Daily. “It’s extremely easy to determine the location of where people live and work, when even the slightest details are exposed.”

If your cyber-sexual relationship develops beyond a one-night stand, you may not have to worry about hiding your face or tattoos in the future, but that might take some time. “Trust needs to be built before you engage in higher-risk sexting,” Dr. Chris Donaghue, a certified sex therapist and SKYN Sex and Intimacy Expert, tells Elite Daily.

Discuss Screenshots

While STDs, STIs, and pregnancy aren’t concerns that come with digital sex, it does pose its own risks: screenshots, screen recordings, and your partner possibly posting these nudes without consent. “These are things that don’t need to deter you, but you should discuss this possibility and talk about how violating it would be,” Engle explains. “It is sexual assault, as far as I’m concerned. Be open and honest that this would be completely not OK with you, and make sure they feel exactly the same way about it.”

No federal, anti-revenge porn law exists, says Falk. “So do everything possible to protect yourself legally.”

Forgo Alcohol & Other Substances

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Make sure your mind is clear while engaging in FaceTime sex. If you enjoy indulging in some wine or other substances to take the edge off, consider abstaining prior to your cyber-sesh, says Engle, as they can impair your judgment and lead you to reveal more than you’re actually comfortable with. Especially if it’s your first time having FaceTime sex, leave the White Claws and weed behind.

Get Cryptic

When it comes to digital sex, privacy should be top-of-mind. “Do your homework first and be sure to use the right apps,” Falk says. “Everything is hackable. There is no bulletproof way to ensure 100% privacy with anything in our digital lives.” One encrypted app she recommends as an alternative to FaceTime or Zoom is Signal, which does have a video call feature. While you do still need to be wary of screenshots, Signal’s encryption protects you against hacking.

Make Sure You’re Comfortable

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With both cyber sex or sex IRL, trust is the name of the game. But discerning whether your dating app match is trustworthy can be tricky. “This isn’t someone you know very well, so you can’t make that kind of call,” Engle says. “There is no special formula for accessing whether someone is a creep or not.”

Likewise, while Donaghue acknowledges the benefits of online sexual expression, he urges against having FaceTime sex with people you’re not super comfortable with. “Emotionally, you want to be able to let your guard down and really enjoy the eroticism and arousal.”

Even though there’s no real way to tell whether your digital f*ck buddy is someone you can trust, you can ask all the right questions to make that judgment to the best of your ability. Discuss what they’ve done with screenshots during other forms of cyber sex, like sexting. “Ask them what they did with pics they have been sent in the past from others, and if they ever share them,” Donaghue advises. “If they explain that they sext ethically and therefore delete after the sexting goal has been achieved — or the relationship ends — then that’s a good starting point.”

When you’re embarking on your sensual FaceTime adventures, remember that the same way dental dams, condoms, birth control and frank conversations can help put you at ease, so can taking proactive steps toward safe FaceTime sex.

 

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How To French Kiss Better Than Anyone Else (Yes, Really!)

Follow these tips and put your tongue to good work.

Learning how to French kiss your partner is one of those intimate things that you absolutely must learn if you want keep things hot and fun.

By following the tips below, you’ll learn exactly how to make French kissing (i.e., kissing with tongue) a fun experience for each of you.

First things first: Before you even begin to think about kissing your partner, make sure that you have enticing, kissable lips. That is arguably the least romantic kissing tip you’ll read today, but it’s also one of the most important.

If you have chapped, dry lips, make sure to regularly moisturize them to keep them soft and kissable. (And if you have cold sores, avoid kissing until they’re completely done or you’ll spread the virus to your kissing partner!)

Before I get to the actual “how to French kiss” part, you must know how to initiate French kissing with your boyfriend (or girlfriend).

Lunge toward him and plant your lips on his if you like, but honestly, that’s usually not the smoothest thing to do. Often, doing that will just freak him out, especially if you take him by surprise.

Instead, during conversation, make a lot of eye contact. Every once in a while, glance from his eyes towards his lips for a few seconds.

Very quickly, he will realize what’s on your mind and know what to expect, so that when you do actually lean in for the kiss, he won’t be caught off guard.

Now that we have that covered, here’s a step-by-step guide on how to French kiss (and use your tongue like a pro).

1. Create a build-up.

Rather than going straight to massaging your partner’s tongue with yours, it’s nice to have a little build-up. Start by tilting your head to the side just a little bit so that your noses are not in the way.

Then, gently squeeze your partner’s upper lip between your lips for a few seconds, and then do the same with his lower lip. You can alternate between the upper and lower lip for a few seconds, or even a few minutes.

2. Use your tongue.

Next, it’s time to start using your tongue.

From squeezing his lips between yours, tilt your head slightly further to the side and open your mouth a little more so that you can massage your partner’s lips a little bit with your tongue. If he seems to like this, then continue to use your tongue more and more.

Next, try to extend your tongue a little more so that you can massage his tongue with it. If your partner is enjoying it, he will naturally be inclined to reciprocate and return the favor.

Just make sure not to extend your tongue too far, otherwise your partner may find it uncomfortable.

While French kissing your partner, you can put a number of additional tongue kissing techniques to use:

  • Make a slow, circling motion around his tongue with yours.
  • Slowly and gently press against his tongue with yours.
  • Softly use your tongue to lick and tease his lips.

Alternate between all three of these techniques to add some variation to your French kissing repertoire.

3. Ease out of the kiss slowly.

When you want to stop French kissing your partner, the easiest thing to do is just pull away from them and stop, but that can be a little abrupt.

You may find it nicer to stop using your tongue and go back to the start by squeezing his upper or lower lip between yours before you pull away.

Repeat all of the steps above as you both desire.

Now that you know these basic guidelines for how to French kiss, don’t forget about these two additional tips:

First, when French kissing someone, don’t forget about your hands.

Sure, you can just wrap them around your partner and leave them there, but there are tons of other, really great things you can do with them, too. The easiest thing to do is to run them up and down his body, but don’t stop there. You can also run them through his hair. The back of the scalp is one of the most sensitive and erogenous zones on the body, so make sure to use your nails and fingers to scratch it gently.

Putting a hand on his cheek as you change the side you are kissing them on is another hot, somewhat dominate thing to do while kissing them.

The second and final tip to remember is that you should never forget this: kissing someone more slowly is far hotter and more sensual than faster, washing machine-type French kissing.

 

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Woman, 23, reveals she’s made thousands from dating sugar daddies who she sees as ‘mentors’ to guide her through life – but makes them sign a ‘no sex contract’

Anastasia Robertson from Greater Manchester, has ticked off her bucket list
The 23-year-old became a sugar baby through the website Seeking Arrangement
She has dated sugar daddies in exchange for expensive gifts and holidays 
She also earns a modest £16,000 a year from her day job as a care worker

A woman who proudly dates sugar daddies in exchange for lavish gifts and holidays worth thousands of pounds, has revealed their generosity has enabled her to tick off her bucket list.

Anastasia Robertson, 23, from Salford, Greater Manchester, who is a sugar baby, dating older men for gifts and or money, started stepping out with sugar daddies she met through the website Seeking Arrangement two years ago.

She asks all dates to sign an agreement saying their relationship is purely platonic, and her suitors have, so far, ranged in age from their 30s to their 50s, although she says she would see men in their 70s.

The care worker who is completely open about being a sugar baby, has enjoyed everything from paragliding to staying in exquisite hotels. And despite earning a modest £16,000 a year from her day job, she gets far more from her dates than just treats and money.

Anastasia Robertson (pictured in Spain), 23, of Winton, Salford, Greater Manchester, turned to Seeking Arrangment to become a sugar baby two years ago

Anastasia Robertson (pictured in Spain), 23, of Winton, Salford, Greater Manchester, turned to Seeking Arrangements to become a sugar baby two years ago

The care worker (pictured) who bought a four-bedroom house in 2016, has ticked off her entire bucket list

The financially savvy singleton, who bought a four-bedroom house in 2016, explained that some of the men she dates are like mentors to her.

She said: ‘I find older men have more insight on life, I learn a lot from them, and they give me good advice.

‘Some of the men I date I see more like teachers who can guide me through situations in life.

‘All the men I meet are high-powered or have had really good careers, so I would definitely ask them to help career-wise later down the line too.

‘And I’ve had some amazing experiences and been able to tick things off my bucket list, thanks to them. I’ve been flown out to Spain on an all-inclusive holiday and I went on a yacht trip and paragliding.

‘A sugar daddy once paid for me to spend the night at Hotel Gotham – which is a really posh hotel in Manchester that I’ve always wanted to stay at, and another paid for me to get a dragon tattoo on my back.

‘I’ve had around £3,000 worth of presents as well. I’ve got a beautiful necklace, a leather rucksack, leather shoes and a bracelet too.’

Anastasia (pictured on holiday in Spain) said some of the men she dates are like teachers, guiding her through various situations in life

Anastasia (pictured on holiday in Spain) said some of the men she dates are like teachers, guiding her through various situations in life.

 

The 23-year-old (pictured) counts an all-inclusive holiday, yacht trip, paragliding and gifts worth around £3,000 among the lavish exchanges she's received from sugar daddies

The 23-year-old (pictured) counts an all-inclusive holiday, yacht trip, paragliding and gifts worth around £3,000 among the lavish exchanges she’s received from sugar daddies.

 

Anastasia has also been given a necklace (pictured), a leather rucksack, leather shoes and a bracelet from wealthy older men

Anastasia has also been given a necklace (pictured), a leather rucksack, leather shoes and a bracelet from wealthy older men.

A self-professed ‘thrill seeker,’ Anastasia also sees her dates with sugar daddies as adventures.

She said: ‘Sugar daddies aren’t just walking, talking ATM machines – they’re still people.

‘For me, being a sugar baby is a hobby and going on dates breaks up my mundane weekly routine.

‘It’s just a fancy more exotic way of dating – and it’s nice to go on dates with men that will take you to fancy restaurants in exchange for your time

‘The oldest man I’ve dated was in his 50s, but I’m more than happy to go on dates with men in their 70s, too.

‘Even if they are old enough to be my granddad, it’s purely platonic and it’s a good experience with stimulating conversation. I find younger guys can be emotionally unavailable and financially unstable.

‘And even if I don’t have a connection with a sugar daddy, at least I’ve had a new experience and met someone new.’

Anastasia (pictured on holiday in Spain) met a previous boyfriend on Seeking Arrangement, who offered to fly her to Spain while he was there working

Anastasia (pictured on holiday in Spain) met a previous boyfriend on Seeking Arrangement, who offered to fly her to Spain while he was there working

Speaking about the satisfaction that comes with sugar dating, she continued: ‘At the end of the day it’s mutually beneficial.

‘The sugar daddy is usually earning more money than he knows what to do with and would rather play the field than demand commitment – and I feel the same.’

Anastasia who has had arrangements with eight men, with professions ranging from a doctor, an engineer and a CEO so far, even met a previous boyfriend on Seeking Arrangement.

She said: ‘My ex-boyfriend was in his thirties, so he was quite young to be a sugar daddy.

‘We started chatting online and we just hit it off immediately.

‘He told me he was working as a musician in Spain and offered to pay to fly me out there.’

Throwing caution to the wind, she agreed, and a romantic relationship soon blossomed.

‘I know it sounds quite dangerous to fly to a foreign country to meet a stranger, but sometimes you just have to take the plunge,’ she said.

‘I went out to Spain as a sugar baby and we had a pre-agreed arrangement in place.

Anastasia (pictured in Spain) admits she doesn't think there's anything wrong with sugar babies sleeping with sugar daddies, however she's not happy to do it

Anastasia (pictured in Spain) admits she doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with sugar babies sleeping with sugar daddies, however she’s not happy to do it.

 

Anastasia went to restaurants every day with her sugar daddy who became her boyfriend, however their spark fizzled out after they became intimate

Anastasia went to restaurants every day with her sugar daddy who became her boyfriend, however their spark fizzled out after they became intimate.

‘But I really started to fancy him, and he did me, so we decided to make our relationship official.

‘I don’t think there is anything wrong with a sugar baby sleeping with her sugar daddy, but personally, I don’t want to demoralize myself like that and I’m not happy to do it.

‘Because we made it official, we did sleep together, and I put a stop to all my other sugar daddy arrangements.’

Despite their financial arrangement ending when their romance began, Anastasia’s sugar daddy-turned boyfriend still treated her to the finer things in life.

She said: ‘He bought me a beautiful necklace and paid for me to have a dragon tattooed on my back and we went out to restaurants every day.

‘He just really enjoyed spoiling me.’

However, three months after they became intimate, their love fizzled out and they parted earlier this year.

The 23-year-old (pictured paragliding in Spain) revealed she's still open to meeting someone through SeekingArrangement, although her previous relationship didn't work out

The 23-year-old (pictured paragliding in Spain) revealed she’s still open to meeting someone through Seeking Arrangement, although her previous relationship didn’t work out.

 

Anastasia (pictured in Spain) who also goes on dates using Tinder, said no one has liked her any less because she's a sugar baby

Anastasia (pictured in Spain) who also goes on dates using Tinder, said no one has liked her any less because she’s a sugar baby.

‘Looking back we weren’t compatible, and we didn’t know each other well enough,’ she said.

She continued: ‘When the holiday was over and we were back in the UK, he didn’t want to tell anyone how we really met – and that was a bit of an issue for me, as I believe in honesty.

‘I suppose it was more of a holiday romance – we both just got caught up in the moment.’

Despite her love not lasting, Anastasia is still open to meeting someone through Seeking Arrangement if the right man comes along.

She added: ‘Right now I still go on dates with men I’ve met on Tinder or through friends, too.

‘I always tell them I’m a sugar baby and none of them have liked me any less because of it.

‘And if I met a sugar daddy who I have a genuine connection with I’d give it a go.’

Anastasia (pictured) has been warned to steer clear of salt daddies, men who make promises that are always too good to be true

Anastasia (pictured) has been warned to steer clear of salt daddies, men who make promises that are always too good to be true.

Anastasia admits not all sugar daddies are sweetness and light, she’s been warned to steer clear of ‘salt daddies’.

She said: ‘A ‘salt daddy’ is obviously the opposite to a sugar daddy. Salt daddies promise you the world and what they’re saying always sounds too good to be true.

‘Sometimes they are fake people and sometimes they are just men that love to play the field and make promises to loads of girls at the same time.

‘They love getting girls’ hopes up and then letting them down.

‘The trouble is they can get away with it because on these websites there’s just too much choice,’ she said.

Anastasia keeps her wits about her by being open with friends and families about her side-line as a sugar baby.

‘I’m really close to my mum and dad, so I told them,’ she revealed.

Anastasia (pictured in Spain) believes her parents aren't any more worried about her going out as a sugar baby than when she goes on dates with conventional men

Anastasia (pictured in Spain) believes her parents aren’t any more worried about her going out as a sugar baby than when she goes on dates with conventional men.

She continued: ‘It’s nothing to be ashamed of and my mum and dad fully support me, as long as I’m happy and keep to my morals.

‘My parents trust me to make the right decision, and I don’t think they’re any more worried about me going out as a sugar baby than they are going out on dates with a conventional guy.

‘I think it’s important to live in the moment and mix life up a little bit. I like excitement in my life, and I don’t like being stuck in a routine.

‘I enjoy being a sugar baby for the experience. I have fun dates and get to meet new people.

‘I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.’

 

 

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Here’s How To Maintain Intimacy If You’re Quarantining Away From Your Partner

During the coronavirus outbreak, social distancing and quarantine make it easy to feel isolated and lonely. This is especially true if you and your partner have taken up residence separately in your family homes. Experts predict the pandemic will continue for the next few months, so it’s essential to stay connected to your loved ones for the sake of your emotional health and well-being. If you’re down to get creative, it’s totally possible to maintain intimacy if you’re away from your partner for the foreseeable future.

Thankfully, technology makes it possible to connect for FaceTime dates and happy hours — something you’re probably already doing with your partner and friends. Candice Smith, intimacy consultant and founder of Tango couples’ kits, tells Phicklephilly that setting a routine will help you and your SO stay in regular contact. “Set a time for virtual hangout sessions, like a virtual Netflix-and-chill or a call before bed,” she suggests. Video or phone sex is totally an option, too — but when you’re living in your parents’ house, that option might feel a bit tougher to pull off discreetly.

To help you make the most of this challenging period of long-distance dating, Smith outlines her best tips for staying emotionally connected to your partner, even when you’re miles apart.

1. Get Creative With Video Date Nights.

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You’re probably already having regular FaceTime calls, but you don’t have to sit around in your sweatpants every night when you talk to each other. “There are myriads of couples’ fun date night ideas, from drawing each others’ faces while the artist cannot look at the paper, to playing Mad Libs, to karaoke, to learning how to cook a new meal together,” Smith says. “There are literally thousands of different activities online — challenge yourselves to get creative.”

2. Find Ways To Be Playful.

The news can feel super overwhelming right now, and it’s easy to feel anxious. To distract yourself and have fun with your partner, Smith suggests playing games together — board games, online games, even get-to-know-you games. “Not only is it a fun way to connect with your partner, it’s a good escape from focusing on the news of the world around us,” she says. Try to simply enjoy each other’s company and laugh a little, even through a screen.

3. Send Sexy Texts & Photos.

If you’re uncomfortable having sex audibly over FaceTime, use texting to your advantage. Send your partner flirty messages throughout the day, and (if you fully trust them) take some nude photos. “Make time for sexual intimacy together, whether you’re sexting, sending nudes, or hopping on a video call,” Smith says. “Though you may not be physically touching, staying sexually connected will be emotionally fulfilling for you both and keep the flirtatious spark going.”

4. Talk About How You’re Feeling.

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Of course you want to keep the mood light when you spend virtual time together, but another important part of intimacy is being vulnerable about your emotions. Smith recommends implementing a practice called the “Intimacy Huddle” to check in on your relationship health. Set aside 30 minutes or so every week or twice per month. “Talk about your goals,” she says. “Congratulate each other: What are ways you have been a supportive partner? Give constructive feedback: What are ways you could be a better partner?” Tell your SO what you need to feel supported during this time, and be sure to ask what they need, too. “Having these little check-ins will keep you both on the same page as a team,” Smith says.

5. Reminisce.

You can’t be together in person at the moment, but you can think back on all the memories you’ve shared and make plans for more adventures in the future. Smith remembers how this worked for her during a long-distance stint in her relationship. “When we were separated for Valentine’s Day for business, my partner and I spent a full day texting our ‘greatest hits’ back and forth, reminiscing about the time we went to Montreal and ate in a pitch-black restaurant, laughing over inside jokes, and otherwise loving each other up,” she says. “We may have been apart that day, but I felt as if he was there with me.”

6. Send A (Thoroughly Cleaned) Care Package.

Is there a special gift you’d like to surprise your partner with, like flowers or a meaningful book? Send it through the mail — as long as your partner makes sure to thoroughly disinfect it upon arrival to minimize the chance of contamination. Smith also suggests checking out a company that creates care packages. Uncommon Goods and Small Packages are two of her favorites.

This will be a new experience for your relationship, but if you’re committed to making it work, many positives can come of it. Maybe you’ll even learn to communicate in meaningful new ways. It sucks that you can’t be with your partner IRL, but rest assured that your relationship can still bring you comfort in this time of uncertainty. Plus, a little sexting might be just the thing you need to spice things up.

 

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The Quarantine Has Given Us Time To Create

Nobody saw this coming.

But this unprecedented event has given us one thing we’ve all been complaining that we don’t have.

That thing is TIME.

You know longer have and excuse as to why you can’t start or finish anything.

Now you have nothing but time.

So in that time, I decided to gather every crazy dating story I’ve ever written into some sort of order.

This has yielded the following:

 

 

 

 

If you don’t feel like buying each volume, I’ve gathered all three volumes into one neat Anthology.

These are the craziest, most insane, hilarious, raunchiest, and most heartbreakingly embarrassing dates I’ve ever been on in my entire life.

After writing the book, Phicklephilly, this has been a labor of love to compile this crazy collection of stories from my life.

It’s been a joy to reread and edit these tales for your enjoyment. I appreciate your support and for reading this blog and reading my books.

You’ll laugh, you’ll cringe, and you’ll repeat these stories to your friends!

 

You can buy them all on Amazon now!

You will not be disappointed!

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What It’s Like to Be a Cam Girl When Everyone’s Self-Isolating

“I do a lot more wellness check-ins in between nudes.”

Model Indi Rossi has noticed a shift in tone during her private shows on ImLive.

“Before coronavirus, guys would gush about how hard they came during my show, but now their orgasms seem to be less intense,” she says. Instead, she’s finding more men just want to vent about their lives amid self-isolation during the coronavirus pandemic.

As COVID-19 spreads across the globe, cam girls say business is booming. Their customers don’t just want sexual release; they’re also alone, depressed from being laid off, craving social interaction, and anxious about the state of the world. Porn doesn’t offer that, but cam sites do.

On cam sites, users can log on and watch models perform live via webcam (hence the name “cam site”). Features vary slightly from site to site, but most have options to chat with cam girls via messenger and tip them if they’re doing something you like. Customers can also pay for one-on-one sessions with their favorite models.

“There’s not a doubt in my mind that a huge percentage [of viewership] is from social distancing,” says a model who goes by The_MILF_Becca. “People are bored, nervous, lonely, you name it. They are looking for distraction and entertainment. Enter cam models.”

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The_MILF_Becca (link NSFW), 30, says she’s seeing about three to five new clients per shift and about an 11% increase in revenue per hour. “What I didn’t expect were the number of old members who I haven’t heard from in years,” she says.

Since the spread of coronavirus, model Indi Rossi, 23, has noticed “quite a few names” on her ImLive channel that are unfamiliar. “I think social distancing is definitely affecting my business [positively],” she says.

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Model HottyTeen69 isn’t seeing as many new clients, but she’s noticed that a lot of her regular clients are noticeably spending many more hours online. She reports an increase of around 40-50% in earnings. “Of course people are turning online due to social distancing,” she says. “I’ve connected with a lot of new members who stay online for many hours because they feel alone, which is a natural effect stemming from isolation.”

Cam models say they’re seeing more business at all hours of the day, and from many places across the globe. HarperMadi, 25, who models on MyFreeCams, has noticed a huge rise in business from states that have set laws closing down gyms, nightlife, restaurants, and bars. However, as more states adopt stricter and similar “lockdown” regulations, there may be less of a difference in viewership by state.

“I’ve been taking more shows with people who just want to commiserate about the situation.”

Coronavirus has also changed how these models interact with their fans. While it was common before coronavirus for clients to take a private show with Rossi “just to talk about life,” there’s been even more of that since the pandemic.

“I’ve been taking more shows with people who just want to commiserate about the situation,” she says. These men aren’t seeking sexual stimulation as much as a shoulder to cry on. They’ve lost their jobs, they’re bored, they’re lonely, and they need someone, explains Rossi.

One of the most noticeable changes Rossi’s seen is that people ask if she’s feeling okay. When she ends a private show, both she and her client will tell each other to stay safe. “Our pleasantries are different than normal,” she says.

HarperMadi will ask if everyone has food, if they’ve been laid off, how they’re taking everything, and so on. “They worry a lot about me and will check on me throughout the day on social media to make sure I’m okay,” she adds.

The_MILF_Becca, really sums it: “I do a lot more wellness check-ins in between nudes.”

There’s a sense of solidarity among the viewers, too. That’s why The_MILF_Becca says her style of cam show has “completely changed.” She now does a lot more goal-oriented shows, encouraging everyone in the channel to work together. (Example: If you all tip me 1,000 tokens, I’ll take off my top.)

She says it fosters a sense of community.

 

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Coronavirus Quarantine Erotica Is Thriving Right Now

Already burn through the internet’s impressive supply of coronavirus porn? Why not check out something a little more mentally stimulating? After all, we’re currently in the golden age of coronavirus erotica.

According to the Guardian, these are boom times for literary smut with a pandemic twist, with erotic writers rushing to bring you titillating tales of quarantine hookups, horny hand-washing and forbidden lockdown love set against the backdrop of the rapidly evolving virus.

Current titles already available for your quarantine perusal include: Covid-69: An Erotic Coronavirus Quarantine Story, Sex During the Coronavirus Pandemic and Love in Lockdown, as well as more eyebrow-raising tales such as Quaranteen: Step-Sibling Love in the Time of the Coronavirus and The Physical Manifestation of Washing My Hands Gets Me Off, which appears to be an experimental work of magical realism in which a woman begins a sexual relationship with the concept of hand-washing.

Sounds weird and vaguely unsettling? Well so is the world right now, and this growing collection of hot-off-the-presses pandemic erotica is a prime example of art imitating life.

None of this is terribly surprising. We’re all bored and horny, and the usual rules governing online expressions of that horniness appear to have gone out the window. These are horny, lawless times, of course pandemic erotic is thriving. So if your quarantine resolution was to start reading more, you’re in luck. Tonight, you can stay in with a good book and get off to it, too.

Or… You can purchase my Crazy Dating Stories series on Amazon!

 

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