14 Subtle Dating Tricks the Most Attractive Men Use That Have Women Falling at Their Feet

Do you understand exactly how attraction works?

Do you wonder why women may not be attracted to you? Do you want to know how to get a girlfriend?

It takes time to understand how to attract women and how to get a girl to like you.

So that dating advice about lousy pick-up lines, games, and not being who you are do little when it comes to attracting the right woman in your life, as well as getting her to want you more, sexually!

There are guys out there that walk into a room and girls just gravitate towards them. Then, there are also men who never worry about how to get girls.

Then there’s you, the man who wonders “Why can’t I get a girlfriend or get a woman to go on a second date?”

It’s because your character traits and personal attributes are not standing out in social scenes nor getting attention from the opposite sex.

The number one key to how to be more attractive to women is to be appealing to yourself.

You must see yourself in the way you want women to see you.

This is called inner confidence and you cannot fake inner confidence. As time goes on, it shows.

Women want to be dating a man who is highly desirable, and who also knows how desirable he is.

Women love to feel like they worked for something and won a prize and someone strong (like the way men feel like they won a prize too).

It holds more value to be in a relationship with someone who holds themselves of value.

Men often place women they date on a pedestal. But the only one that should be on the pedestal is you!

I’m not saying to disrespect women and not do great things for her when it comes to making life decisions.

But, respect flows and becomes easier when you see yourself in a respectable manner and not have to place anyone before you because you are enough!

In today’s society, it’s very confusing and challenging to identify yourself as a strong or confident man.

You have people telling you to hold your masculinity, to not be “unfit” in society’s eyes. But, all of that disappears when you stand in power to honor who you are and exactly what you want as a man.

Here are 14 dating tips that attractive men in relationships know when they want to get a girlfriend and get girls to like them.

1. Dress-up

Many women love when a man takes the time to invest in his appearance. When you invest in your appearance, it shows a woman that you have class and you like nice things in life.

Let’s be honest, we all do. This is not to say this woman will use you or just wants you for money, but she’s attracted to something that you can offer her.

Wearing a suit does not mean that you are rich and will attract gold-diggers, but it does say that you got your “stuff” together!

If it’s not a suit make sure you keep up and express fashion as a well put together man.

2. Have a passion

When a woman sees that she is not your number one priority but still a priority in your life, this helps with the attraction phase.

You don’t have to be rich you have to have a passion.

When you voice your passion with a woman, it can open up some personal deep level conversations with her which women are attracted to, emotionally.

After asking 300 women if they would rather have a man that has a passion or no passion and just money, 91 percent said a passion. That’s pretty high!

3. Walk with confidence

This means stand straight up. Chin up, shoulders back, chest out, tuck your stomach in, make eye contact, and smile.

This gives you a sense of stability and pride in others. All these attributes go a long way, especially with first impressions.

4. Be positive

Energy is how you become attractive to women and people! Women are addicted to men who have a positive outlook on life.

It shows that you have no attachment to drama and you will do what it takes to have a happy life. It also shows that you have done a lot of personal work and people want in.

It’s like an unsolved mystery that everyone wants. Mastering this will give you so much more control.

5. Pay attention to your conversations

Want to know how to get girls? Don’t talk about your flaws or your down points. Talk about positive things in life and not the ex-girlfriend that cheated on you. Who really needs to know this, honestly?

It’s not always healthy to talk about past relationships. Start this new one with a clean slate and don’t downplay your qualities when attracting a woman.

6. Call the shots

If you want to take her out on a date, call it a date! Call her when you say you will. Tell her you are busy today but free tomorrow and would like to get a drink together at 7 pm.

Call the shots to show you’re busy, but also show that you are making time for her.

7. Set boundaries and show the value

Never be submissive to your values in hopes to compliment hers. Set boundaries on what is healthy and what is not and if you see red flags, point them out right away so she knows what you will and will not tolerate.

Many men think this will push women away but it does the exact opposite.

8. Have a lasting impact

You think that by just showing up, you will attract a woman. But you aren’t trying to show your positive attributes and make a lasting impression.

Whether you’re just trying to play it safe, be nice, or are just lazy, stop it!

Strive to impact her all the time by keeping up with witty banter and saying “no” if you don’t want to do something or don’t agree.

Don’t be afraid to crack a joke from time to time and challenge her to show up for you.

9. Have a sense of humor

Women love to find a man that can make them laugh. This does not mean that you have to say a knock-knock joke, but it does mean that you have to let your positive personality traits shine through.

Be witty and show her humor. Make fun of her in a respectful light banter way.

10. Be carefree

Women find a sense of curiosity in a dangerous or “rebel” type man. If she’s asking you a complicated question that you don’t want to answer, just smile and wink. This isn’t up for debate.

Challenge yourself to solve things when it’s the right time and not only on her watch.

Also, try something that you want to do. Be spontaneous. Do something that scares you and invite her with you next time.

11. Master your “swag”

Control your conversations. Moments of silence show your confidence. Don’t always talk too much or try to over-speak her. Just be calm and relaxed around her.

Once you do this, you can use your “swag” to charm her by being relaxed and confident within your own self.

12. Be social and busy

Women like to know that you are making time for her, even when you’re busy. She will feel appreciated and this draws attraction.

13. Be thoughtful

Remember to pay attention to the things she says so you can surprise her with something thoughtful. Generosity is a form of attraction when it isn’t used often.

You don’t want to shower her with compliments and tell her she’s beautiful all the time, but you want to remember the things that she likes.

By delivering this, you score substantial attraction points! Find out her favorites dishes, activities, and hobbies and recreate these on a date.

14. Make the first move

It’s a win-win when you make the first move. Not only are you trying to take control of the situation but you’re getting your answer no matter what. Most of the time if you gauge it correctly, she’ll be into it too.

Once you change your mindset and hone this list of positive character traits, you will become more attractive to women.

Many guys think that attracting a woman means that you have to have a massive amount of wealth, success, beauty, or be famous. This is entirely not true!

Of course, being on top of your game helps but what stands out the most is being the best version of yourself. There is nothing more attractive to a woman than a man who represents himself as a man of power.

Power does not mean money or fame. Power means your personal existence.

This confidence and your inner well-being reflect how you act, and if you think that you are coming from a place of lacking, people will see you as coming from a place of lacking.

If you’re high on life, people will feel your energy and want to get more of it, and they will consistently want to find out more about you and be around you.

This shows that you truly know who you are and this gives off a sense of stability and security to women.

A woman with a healthy mindset wants a healthy relationship with a stable man who holds his own self-worth.

The women who aren’t in this healthy mindset will be the ones you have to stay away from. There are women out there who will use you for attention and/or affection, so they feel wanted, loved, or needed.

But here is the key point when you are in this healthy stable mentality as a man.

A man with a healthy and stable mentality can easily spot women who aren’t in a healthy mindset.

You can say “no” to giving them your heart because you’re putting yourself first.

And when you’re putting yourself first, you are going to see a flock of women or the woman you desire to chase you down.

Now that you have the tools to become the man you want to be, use them and implement them daily.

Remember: you hold the potential. You do not have to be the hottest guy, you do not have to have all your hair, you don’t have to be the tallest man, and you don’t have to be the wealthiest man.

But you do need to know how to control your mindset from focusing on the negative qualities and work on enhancing your positive personality characteristics.

Stop comparing yourself to others and stop beating yourself down about what is not happening for you at this moment.

Start thinking and working towards how you can make this happen. The key is within you.

Use your tools wisely and know that you can attract the woman you want into your life if you focus on not obsessing over her and instead of obsessing over yourself!

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4 Well-Kept Secrets Womanizers Don’t Want You To Know

What you don’t know might hurt you.

1. There’s a difference between players and cheaters.

There are two types of womanizers: players and cheaters. One should be respected and the other should remain despised.

There is an old saying, “Don’t hate the player; hate the game.” There is a lot of lighthearted validity to that adage.

I distinguish players from cheaters because players have multiple female sex partners, and they are upfront and honest with women about their desire to be sexually satisfied by more than one woman. This type of womanizer does not try to hide, deny or camouflage the fact that monogamy is just not his thing.

Always appreciate men who are honest with women about their promiscuous desires.

Cheaters interact sexually with multiple women under false pretenses. They present a facade of wanting to be involved in a long-term, monogamous relationship with one woman, but deep down they want variety in their sex lives.

I have no respect for liars, manipulative game players, adulterers, and cheaters. I simply do not like the idea of toying with someone’s emotions.

2. Most men are only as faithful as their options allow.

While I would not say that this assertion is 100 percent valid, it is valid more often than not. With that, I have three points to make.

First, if you are a woman and you think a man is handsome, sexy, charming, and worth dating, there is a huge chance that dozens, if not hundreds of other women feel the exact same way about him. Women will literally compete with one another to secure this man’s companionship.

Second, if a man develops a reputation for being very exciting and satisfying in bed with women, his “stock” is going to rise in the eyes of many women. No woman wants a man who is a “dud” in bed.

Third, it is very easy for a man to be faithful to one woman when he only has one woman offering him regular sexual companionship. But when a man has five, ten, fifteen, or twenty-plus women offering him sexual companionship, it is much harder for a man to remain motivated to have sex with just one woman.

3. The side chick rarely becomes the long-term girlfriend. 

Once you allow yourself to be relegated to the role of a man’s “mistress,” “woman-on-the-side,” “jumpoff” or “booty call,” there is a large chance you will never be upgraded to the role of “wife” or “long-term girlfriend.”

I just had this discussion with a female friend recently. There are a number of women who naively think if they start out as a man’s “play toy,” sooner or later they will earn the right to be “upgraded” to that man’s wife, or long-term romantic partner. That is highly doubtful… not impossible, but extremely rare.

As a woman, you must familiarize yourself with what is known as the “Madonna-Whore Complex.”

I always tell women that understanding this concept first developed by legendary psychologist Dr. Sigmund Freud is the absolute first step to understanding why many men choose some women as long-term monogamous sex partners while interacting with other women only as short-term non-monogamous sex partners.

Without getting too lengthy here, I will give you the very short version.

Most men want to date and marry women who remind them of their mothers. I cannot tell you how many men I know right now who are married or involved in a long-term relationship with a woman who has one or more similar attributes to that man’s mother.

If you remind a man of his mother, to one degree or another, that is when his conscious or subconscious mind places you in the category of “girlfriend” or “wife” material. If the primary quality that stands out about you is your sex appeal and nothing else, then, nine times out of ten, that man is only going to look at you as “casual sex” material.

If it is truly your desire as a woman to be a man’s future wife or girlfriend, then the worst thing you can do is start off being that man’s “mistress” or “woman-on-the-side” while he is currently involved with someone else. You automatically lose respect in that man’s eyes.

The chances of him ever upgrading you to the status of his number-one romantic companion are slim.

4. You can’t change a womanizer.

Do not ever fool yourself into believing that you can change a womanizer into a monogamous “boyfriend” or “husband” type. You cannot. 

So, from this point forward, stop telling your girlfriends, “I hate men! All of them are lying womanizers, cheaters, and dogs!” That is not the whole truth.

Accept the fact that if a man possesses a lot of highly desirable attributes, his romantic and sexual companionship is going to be in demand. The best thing for you to do as a woman is to ask him what his long-term desires, interests, and intentions are.

Remember: As long as a womanizer is honest with you about what type of sexual relationship he wants … don’t hate the player. Only hate the game-playing of liars and cheaters.

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5 Qualities Every Healthy Relationship Should Have

The term “healthy relationship” gets thrown around more than confetti on New Year’s Eve, but people tend to have vastly different ideas of what a healthy relationship actually looks like based on a variety of factors — including the relationship examples they grew up seeing and the values instilled in them from childhood. But despite these different ideas, most healthy relationships will have similar qualities that are important to seek out and strive for if you want a relationship that’ll make you feel stable and happy.

Psychotherapist Dr. Vassilia Binensztok defines a healthy romantic relationship as one that is “resilient” in the face of stressors. “Every relationship has ups and downs. Arguments will happen and problems will arise,” Binensztok tells us. “A healthy relationship is one that has been strengthened by both people so that it can weather rough seas.” Another way of conceptualizing what a healthy relationship looks like is to think about your relationship in terms of how happy and fulfilled you feel. “In a relational context, I like to focus on satisfaction,” Todd Baratz, a psychotherapist who focuses on sex and relationships, tells Elite Daily. Do you feel good about your relationship dynamic? Do you feel respected by your partner, and like you can be your truest self? Your happy relationship might not necessarily look like your best friend’s happy relationship, and that’s OK. What matters most is how you feel in your own partnership.

Binensztok and Baratz laid out five solid relationship qualities that the most basic healthy relationships should have. Other qualities, like your sex life or how much time you dedicate to each other, can be subjective. Again, you and your partner’s ideal might not be the same as someone else’s, but a physically and emotionally healthy relationship will usually have the below.

1. A Deep Knowledge Of Each Other

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Knowing your partner isn’t just about how many years you’ve dated them. It’s about having a deep sense of how they really are as a person. Partners who truly know each other “understand each other’s reasons for doing things, or at least strive to,” says Binensztok. “They know the other person’s experiences, inner world, dreams, and desires.”

While you and your SO might not necessarily agree on everything, Binensztok says, you understand where the other person is coming from when you do disagree.

2. Genuine Connection

Another quality a truly healthy relationship will have is authenticity in the couple’s interactions. In practice, this looks like you and your SO continuing to turn to each other for connection and conversation. Partners are “present and responsive, rather than dismissive or hostile,” Binensztok says. Baratz emphasizes emotional and physical safety (as well as fun) as important qualities in satisfying relationships.

3. A Fair, Equal Approach To Arguments

People in healthy relationships won’t usually fight dirty when faced with conflict. Instead, Binensztok says, “[Partners] try to understand and empathize with each other. They attempt to compromise.” This also includes neither party getting defensive when their partner confronts them with something uncomfortable.

4. Respect For Each Other & The Relationship

Mutual respect is crucial in healthy relationships, Baratz says. And according to Binensztok, partners in healthy relationships “don’t insult, mock, or diminish each other.” Sure, some roasting or spicy banter can be fine every now and then (if that’s the established dynamic between you and you’re SO). But it’s not OK to genuinely degrade your partner, insult them, or make them question their value.

5. Mutuality

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Last but not least, all parties must be willing to put in the effort necessary to make their relationship work. It’s a quality that Baratz calls “mutuality.” Respect, while important, isn’t the only value that has to go both ways. Each partner has to be committed to the relationship, and to the work, it takes to make it a safe, nourishing partnership to be in.

Yes, there will be ups, downs, and plateaus. But when a couple can accept that these are natural parts of a relationship, they will be more willing to work through them. “When we expect that work is part of the process, we become more open to doing the work,” Binensztok says.

What Do You Do If Your Relationship Lacks One Of These Qualities?

The good news is that your relationship isn’t doomed if you feel it’s missing one of these qualities. If your relationship seems to be missing intimacy, mindfulness, fair fighting in arguments, general respect, or the feeling that the other person cares, “do not freak out,” Baratz says. Instead, try to stop judging yourself or your relationship.”Learning is never a bad thing,” Baratz says. Think of this realization about your relationship as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Binensztok explains that these five healthy relationship qualities are all things that people can learn. “Partners can seek counseling, read books on relationships, and make an effort to improve areas that are lacking.” The only catch, she says, is that all parties have to be committed to the relationship as a whole, “rather than seeking only to get their personal needs met.”

Often, people may think that the existing dynamic between a couple is set in stone, but it’s normal for relationships to need some work. And while the nuances of healthy relationships may look different for everyone, at their core, all it takes is keeping patience, honesty, and kindness at the forefront of your thoughts and actions.

 

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If You Miss Using Dating Apps Now That You’re In A Relationship, Here’s What To Do

After all of that swiping, matching, chatting, and meeting, you’ve finally landed yourself a keeper. You’re in a relationship with a great person, but sometimes, you still miss using dating apps. You may be wondering whether having the occasional urge to swipe is something you should be concerned about, which is a totally valid question. It turns out that there are a number of reasons why you might miss dating apps. The explanation may be as simple as you’re easily bored and you miss having a mindless activity to distract yourself with, or it could be more complicated — and could potentially be an indicator that you’re unhappy with some aspect of your relationship.

I spoke to Dr. QuaVaundra Perry, a licensed psychologist who specializes in couples’ therapy and relationship distress. She explains that there are a few things to consider if you’re in a relationship but find that you miss dating apps. She provided a list of questions to ask yourself, which, when answered honestly, can help determine if there is an unresolved issue within yourself or your relationship. Before you start to panic, you should ask yourself the following four questions. Then, evaluate your answers based on Dr. Perry’s expert advice.

1. What is it about dating apps that you miss?

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This is the first and most important question to ask yourself, according to Dr. Perry. She explains that the specific type of dating app that you miss can help shed some light on your situation.

“If you miss being on sites aimed to connect people looking for long-term relationships, it may mean you are unfulfilled with respect to your partner’s goals and values,” says Dr. Perry. “However, if you miss being on dating apps that are designed to promote casual sexual hookups, it may indicate unfulfilled sexual desires in your current relationship or differing views on monogamy.”

Depending on which category you fall into, you may need to have a serious conversation with your partner about your needs that are not getting met, and how this could impact your future together.

2. When and why did you use dating apps?

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It’s also important to evaluate when and why you visited dating apps or sites in the past because that can help explain the reasons behind your current urges to get back on them.

“Do you notice that you browse the sites mindlessly out of habit when you are bored or do you visit the sites when you feel rejected and alone?” says Dr. Perry. The former isn’t as big of an issue as the latter and can be more easily addressed and rectified. Consider downloading a few games on your phone. That way you can still be entertained, but without any consequences in terms of your relationship.

3. Are you happy in your relationship?

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“Another issue can be taming the mindset of finding the one,'” says Dr. Perry. “Oftentimes people are happy in their relationship but may feel compelled to continue using dating apps in case they are missing out on the perfect mate. Do you find yourself browsing out of curiosity?”

This is a common obstacle to finding a relationship on a dating app or at least getting someone to fully commit. It’s not out of the ordinary to question whether there is someone else out there for you who might be “better” than your current partner. This question of “What if?” may explain your reluctance to stop swiping.

4. Are you secure with yourself?

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Finally, ask yourself whether you are secure and confident in yourself. How is your self-esteem? Do you tend to get your confidence boosts through compliments from other people, or does that love come from within? This may be the hardest question to answer honestly, but it’s so important.

“At times, you may find yourself missing dating apps because it gave you a sense of validation and attention, even if short-lived,” says Dr. Perry. “It may be worth exploring whether you are looking outward for comfort and praise that can only be fulfilled within.”

There are a number of possible explanations why you might feel the need to use dating apps even though you’re in a committed relationship. Before you act rashly, though, consider what is missing from your relationship — and whether your current partner is able to help meet those needs.

 

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5 Things Men Must Give Up To Be With The Right Woman

Be the man you know she deserves.

As we get older, we find more things changing around us without any real warning. Our priorities shift, our goals shift, our desires for what to do on the weekends shift.

Suddenly, you realize your priorities are changing — and you have to change, too. Change is hard because it requires losing people and things from our lives, oftentimes people or things that have been a big part of our existence for a long time.

But the funny thing is you eventually realize you’re not really losing or giving up anything at all; you’re simply shedding the skin of your life which no longer serves you.

Here are five things men need to “give up” when learning how to find love. Because to find the woman of your dreams, self-improvement plays a huge role.

1. Your bad habits

Maybe you’re terrible at saving money. Maybe you’re a poor communicator. Maybe you don’t eat as healthy or workout as often as you should.

The point is, to be with the right woman, you’ve got to work to become the right man. It’s true that the right woman will love you for who you are, but it’s also true that she’ll hold standards for herself and the man she allows into her life.

2. Your need to be right

No relationship is sunshine and rainbows all the time, despite the vision you may get from some of my other articles. There will be disagreements, there will be arguments, and there will be, above all, compromise.

When these situations arise, flexibility is key. You cannot always have things your way and expect a relationship to operate smoothly. It requires give and take from both people.

If either teammate feels the need to constantly be right, they’ll be closed off to hearing and adjusting to their partner’s opinions, and the relationship will implode.

3. Your ego

When we’re in our early 20s, we’re invincible. We don’t need anyone. We’re the crème de la crème. But with maturity comes the realization that nobody’s perfect and we have a lot to learn.

Subsequently, we understand that many of these learning experiences come from the woman we will fall in love with, as she brings a fresh perspective to our lives. But in order to open ourselves up to these experiences, we must leave our ego where it belongs: in the past.

4. Your immaturity

Maybe your avoidance of commitment or aversion to romance served you well when your weekends were full of bars and clubs, but when you’re building a foundation for a future with a mature, established woman, you must adjust your approach.

Successful couples learn and grow together. They mature as individuals and as a team. To be part of this team, you need to understand that growing up, women didn’t dream of men who gave them a mediocre effort. Give her your passion, love, honesty, and energy.

5. Your short-term thinking

When we’re younger, it’s natural to think a little less about the future and a little more about the present.

The right woman will understand that it’s difficult to plan a future with someone who has no future plan for themselves. She’ll only want to commit to someone who will pledge to not only support her while she pursues her goals but who pursues his own as well.

It won’t fly to just “see where things go.” She’ll want a man who she can count on as her teammate in life and in love.

The best part about giving up these things is that you aren’t really losing anything at all.

In fact, you’re gaining: wisdom, maturity, and the potential for a more fulfilling happiness than you’d find if you held onto these limiting habits. What are you really giving up? You’re giving up the boy you were to become the man you were always meant to be.

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