5 Signs You’re Being Too Clingy in Your Relationship

Nobody wants to come off clingy, its just not attractive.

Nevertheless, we can be our own worst enemy and put ourselves in situations that make us appear insecure and needy. Read on for five signs youre being too clingy in your relationship.

You Ask to Partake in Friend Time

Your S.O. needs to recharge just like everybody else. Although spending time together can help them reboot, spending time with friends is also important. It doesnt mean your S.O. has more fun with their friends, it simply means they can spend their time differently. They can ask them for relationship advice or bounce around ideas about how to surprise you. If your S.O. is asking for friend time, give it to them! Trying to infringe on their relationships will only backfire and make you seem super insecure.

You Dont Like Doing Things Alone

If you find yourself planning your schedule around your S.O.s free time, you might need to take a step back. Its totally okay to like sharing your activities, but not being able to do things alone will start creating problems. Dont be afraid to spend time by yourself. Your S.O. will perceive you as independent and that will be attractive to them. If you catch yourself only planning activities with your partner, set an intention to spend quality time by yourself. Go on a long walk, chill out in your room, do anything to make sure youre taking care of the most important thing: your relationship with yourself.

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You Call and Text Multiple Times When Youre Apart

Checking in on your S.O. every few hours is normal, calling and texting off the hook when they are away from you is clingy. If you find yourself constantly initiating conversation (note: Continuing conversation for hours isnt clingy, but initiating conversations non-stop is) with calls and text, you may need to give your S.O. a bit of breathing room. Not only that, the group of people they are with (be it family or friends) will also be upset at the constant interruptions. Keep it cool and respect their outside activities.

Your S.O.s Friends Dont Seem Welcoming

If little by little you notice your S.O.s friends being less welcoming, it may be a sign that they feel youre being needy. Typically, your S.O.s friends will want whats best for them. If you noticed they were very welcoming at the beginning, but as time progressed, the friendliness dwindled, you may be perceived as a clingy person.

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You Feel the Need to Know Everyone in Their Phonebook

Clinginess level 10 can be reached when you feel the need to know every name that pops up on your S.O.s phone. If you constantly find yourself asking Who was that? or Why havent I heard of that person before? it may be a sign youre coming off as needy. Everyone should be allowed to have various friendships outside of their relationship. If you feel like youre constantly prying on those friendship conversations, it may be a sign that you need to back off and give them air.

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5 Smart Ways to Ask a Girl For Her Number (Without Sounding Creepy)

It’s a tricky business, isn’t it? Read on to find out how to get her number like a gentleman.

You know this woman. You like this lady. If you could, you’d send her cute puppy emojis all day long. Haven’t all of us been there? But here’s the thing: you don’t have her number. More importantly, you feel like it’s holding you back. If you could just have her number, you could make her see the charming person that you really are, and – in no time – you two would be going on dates, making love, and planning the names of the kids to come! But how to ask a girl for her number without sounding creepy? There are indeed smart ways to do that.

Okay, that might’ve been a stretch. But the point is that this distance of 10 digits is considered something that can make or break a potential relationship. Oh, and the dreaded question: “What if I come off as a creep?” Gentlemen, we have good news and bad news. The good news is that it’s actually not that difficult to ask a woman for her number. The bad news is that most of us have been terrible at something so simple, and that, coupled with the rampant abuse and harassment that women face because of men on a daily basis, has compromised their faith in us. Here are five enlightening points that’ll make your life easier!

5 Smart ways to ask a girl’s number

No really you don’t have to give the creepy vibes, or make yourself look like the stalker if you know the right way to ask her number.

1. Don’t try to use obligation

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All of us know at least one person like this. This is the ‘good guy’. This is the guy who, after a breakup, lists the number of things that he had done for his partner, cries about how ‘ungrateful’ she had been. To him, love is a bunch of business transactions! This is also the guy who will do the woman a number of favors before asking her for her number. And in case of failure, this specimen scurries along to his friends with more tales of ungrateful women! If you’re going to be a gentleman about it, never use obligation as a means to get her number.

2. Don’t go for her friends

If a woman had a rupee for every time some guy resorted to this method, she’d be a millionaire. From teenagers in tuition classes to adults in the workplace, getting a woman’s number from people who already have it is the most popular way to go about it. It’s also downright creepy, so don’t be surprised if she seenzones or blocks you. If you’re looking for her number, it might be tempting to get it from that male friend who already has it, but trust us: it will pass! Moreover, would you want the easy way to blow the chance of being with her that you might have had otherwise?

3. About WhatsApp groups

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Whether your daily routine takes you to classrooms or to offices, chances are that you’re a member of a WhatsApp group. And what if the woman you’re dying to talk to is part of the same group? It might be tempting, but don’t act on it just yet! Ask yourself if you know this woman, and if you do, do you know her well enough to approach her? Considering the fact that she gets countless messages every day from creepy men all around the country, you wouldn’t want your ‘Hey’s and ‘Hi’s to add to the problem! While there is no strict set of rules regarding this, ask permission before you talk to her, and always, always be polite!

4. Don’t be clingy

Take it from us. If she wants to give you her phone number, she will!

If she wants to give you her phone number, she will!

When asking for her number, slip your question in very casually between sentences. If she’s promised you her number but hasn’t sent it yet, give it time before you turn up your sad music! Reminding her every day is only going to make it worse, and, for all you know, kill whatever chances you might have had of getting it!

5. Be straightforward

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You might be thinking to yourself that this is the most obvious and intimidating way to go about it. But instead of coming up with an excuse to get her to give you her number, why not be honest? In this world of nameless and faceless Facebook profiles badgering women for their numbers, being straightforward has become a thing of the past. Instead, walk over to her, tell her how you feel, and be your most polite self when asking her if she’d mind giving you her number. Making the effort to have a conversation in person and not on some chatbox lets you stand out from the crowd. However, if she doesn’t know you, chances are that she’ll feel uncomfortable, and we couldn’t blame her. Note that interesting conversations and a foundation of trust can tip the scales in your favor!

The possibility of rejection is what keeps most people from asking a woman for her number. And while there’s no fail-proof way to go about it, follow these tips, and you won’t be deemed a creep!


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7 Painful Reasons Why Nice Guys Often Finish Last

The classic “Nice guys finish last” cliché has been proven false many times.

There are many men who are genuinely “nice guys” and are either in loving and committed relationships or have no issues in finding success with women. Ask nearly any lady, and she’ll tell you that gentlemanly qualities definitely help men get plenty of good points. However, the nice guys’ cliché of losing out on women is actually often true.

This doesn’t happen because women rather be with a “bad boy” or because gentlemen are out of fashion, but rather because there are nice guys who have the following 7 painful characteristics:


1. They’re not willing to make the first move


Now, we all know that modern society tells us that guys don’t really have to make the first move anymore. Many women out there are even getting frustrated of waiting around for guys to approach them, and they’d rather just approach a guy first and get it over with. But it’s alright to admit that most women enjoy it when a guy starts the ball rolling and makes the first move. After all, it’s a ton of pressure off a woman’s back! So whenever a man says, “Hey, can I take you out for dinner?” it can be a big relief. Nice guys, however really do hate making the first move. In their ideal world, they’d rather hang around and wait for you to confess your feelings for them.

2. They’re inexperienced

This is a correlation rather than a causation.

Guys who have not been in a long term relationship and gone through the heartaches that come with it tend to overcommit. They take it too far and do too much. This can be a real turnoff for women. A lack of experience is obvious and it usually implies a number of unattractive qualities: dryness, nervousness, and a weak sense of humor are some common examples.

Ladies want a man who is confident and interesting. Not someone who is staring at them unendingly.

3. They’re weak

There’s nothing worse than a weak man. After millions of years of evolution, a man’s purpose is to be the brave protector. Not the wimp who has turned into a vegan. It is what it is. Men are supposed to be hunters who provide for their family. So, naturally, women will be turned off by weak guys. They cannot help it, it’s millions of years of evolution.

There should be no messing around with these things. Men need to stay away from being weak nice guys and work on building confidence and inner strength. To that, women will respond differently.

4. They lack the qualities of a leader

The inability to lead means that a guy will always be at the back seat of life. He may want to be a leader, but never make the proper effort to take the initiative head-on. And he will never ask a girl out until it is too late and will then whine about how unfair life has been to him.

5. They’re too clingy

Women need their personal space. The nice guy’s idea of a relationship involves being at the hip to the girl he is in love with. In their youth, couples often think that giving each other space means that they are growing apart. However, once we get older, a realization kicks in that we absolutely need our own space sometimes. Failing to provide a person with that space means that sooner or later you’ll drive each other crazy. The weak nice guy, however, does not see it that way. At first, his obsession with spending time with his girl may come off as sweet, but in time, she’ll just start to feel as if she’s being suffocated and eventually will run for the hills. Hence, clinginess is a big red flag!

6. They’re easily intimidated

Weak nice guys get easily intimidated by stronger personalities. If an alpha male takes a liking to his girl and tries to flirt with her, the nice guy would not be able to gather the internal strength needed for taking a stand against it. Rather, he will cower away and mutter to himself in the corner of the room.

7. They’re immature

A mature guy who is truly ready dive into a serious relationship will be aware of his own flaws and actively work towards making himself a better man. And he’ll naturally seek a female who shares a similar mindset. However, these “nice guys” have not yet come to this point in their lives yet, and only God knows if they ever will. Some of them will definitely grow up and transform, but if you ask any grown woman, she will likely tell you that she still comes across guys like this from time to time. They just never seem to learn. They suffer from a bad case of the Peter Pan syndrome. They are unaware of how to treat a lady with the necessary respect because they are not even working towards improving their own lives. They haven’t set their priorities straight.

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