23 Sexy Questions To DM Your Crush That Really Bring The Heat

Let’s be real: No one ever wants to get hit with an unsolicited DM that reads, “Hey Hottie! Will you send me a sneaky pic?” IMHO, exchanging sexy messages over the internet can be like recreating Love Letters of Great Men, but for millennials. However, much like writing the perfect letter, penning a message that’s both sensual and not cringe-worthy takes some practice and finesse. If you’re looking for some inspiration, these 23 sexy questions to DM your crush are the perfect place to start.

No matter how long you’ve been crushing on someone, it’s important to be in tune with their comfort level and feelings before sending a sexy message. Consent is a necessary part of all sexual behavior — IRL, and, yes, in the DMs. While making the first move can be daring (and often appreciated!), ensuring everyone’s comfort and boundaries is also important. And whether you’re gearing up to exchange nudies or just want to have a flirty convo, asking your crush a sexy question in their direct messages can be a great way to open up your conversation.

Here are 23 sexy questions to DM your crush. Yes, they are categorized by Taco Bell sauce heat levels.

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Mild.

1. Let me just ask: How is it possible that you’ve gone so long without messaging me?

2. Should I start this conversation with a cheesy pickup line?

3. Be honest, how long have you been waiting for me to DM you?

4. When’s the last time you thought about me?

5. It’s been so long since we last hung out. Wanna change that?

Hot.

6. I’m making the first move with this DM. Can I expect you to make the first move when we hang out IRL?

7. If you have the time to “like” all my recent posts, how come you’ve never found the time to ask me out?

8. Miss me yet?

9. When do I get to kiss you again?

10. How about we move this convo to drinks?

Fire.

11. I’m not great at starting sexy conversations. Do you want to give it a try?

12. Do you mind that I’m DMing you from the tub?

13. If I asked you to come over right now, what would you say?

14. Want to skip the gym and come over for a different type of workout?

15. Do you like sexting?

16. If you could pick out my undies, what would you have me in?

Diablo.

17. I had a dream last night that we were sexting. Want to make my dreams come true?

18. Real tea: Did you think about me naked when you last saw my name in your DMs?

19. I just took some pics that are a little too hot for my main feed. Do you want to see them?

20. So, your place or mine?

21. What would you do to me if we were together right now?

22. What’s your sexiest fantasy?

23. Do you ever think about me when you’re touching yourself?

Whether you ask what they’re wearing or complement their recent post, sliding into your crush’s DMs can be a super flirty way to start a sexy conversation. Of course, it’s always imperative to ensure everyone’s comfort and well-being. If you think a message is a little too forward, or you’re worried about making your crush uneasy, start with something mild and build up to something hotter. At the end of the day, putting yourself out there (in a consensual and respectful way!) is the sexiest message of all.

 

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Can Men And Women Be Just Friends? The Truth About Platonic Relationships

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Are we just constantly crushing on each other?

Can men and women be friends? Like just friends — no strings attached? No romantic feelings? This question is an age-old one that, it seems, is difficult to answer, but I can give you the answer right now:

Yes. Men and women can be friends without any complications whatsoever. And it’s genuinely counterintuitive for society to pretend otherwise.

Every television show, popular novel, and movie these days refuse to allow their male and female protagonists peace in a platonic relationship. There are Otis and Maeve in Sex Education, basically every possible relationship combination on Friends, Ron and Hermione in Harry Potter (and Harry and Ginny for that matter), Miles and Alaska in Looking for Alaska … I could go on.

Apart from these storylines being incredibly overdone to the point of monotony, they’re also unrealistic and harmful.

I would be remiss not to at least mention the sexist connotations of the idea that men and women cannot be friends. It wouldn’t be a stretch to say that much of this concept comes from how society undervalues women.

Rather than being equal to men in a way that makes casual companionship a possibility, the overtone of this cultural phenomenon is that women can only exist in the male sphere through romantic or sexual means.

Obviously, contemporary media representations of strong female characters aim to dispel this kind of misogynistic thinking. However, with the continued nonexistence of full-stop friendship between men and women in media, the residue of this way of thinking is enough to make for discomfort in media consumption.

This relentless relationship building is also harmful to male representations — they perpetuate the narrative that men are only really after “one thing”, which is unfair to half the population, making men seem uncomplicated, aggressive, and unworthy of tenderness.

Apart from the obvious sexist significance of believing that men and women cannot be friends, this is also incredibly narrow-minded. Take into account how we treat children and young adults when they mingle across gender, for instance. Frankly, it’s embarrassing as a child to mention a new friend and immediately have your parents ask if that friend is a crush of yours. It’s intimidating.

As a kid, if my parents, siblings, or friends teased me about a boy I was spending time with, I instantly became unsure of where I stood with that boy. It made me nervous and kept me gridlocked in friendships with other girls. That’s not to say that having female friends is bad, but it would’ve been nice to be able to branch out a little more.

It wasn’t until high school that I started really expanding my horizons to include male friends who I never even considered potential romantic interests. In fact, I’m so comfortable with these friends that we joke about being together, both on the same page about how put-off we are by that idea.

Now, as a college student, half of my friends are guys. Turns out, we have more in common than divides us. Some of them have girlfriends who don’t seem to mind that their boyfriends are so close to their female friends. It’s really great, seeing as we get to talk about various world issues and concerns from two different perspectives. And understanding other perspectives is conducive to developing empathy and compassion.

In the end, gender lines are becoming a thing of the past, anyway. This distinction between male and female, femininity and masculinity, is no longer as viable a one to make.

Hopefully, that means that not as much weight will be put on gender in terms of friendship.

Sure, it’s okay to be romantically interested in one of your friends of a different gender, but these feelings also shouldn’t be taken for granted. Sooner or later, each of us has to figure out what kind of person we’d like to end up with romantically. Now, that doesn’t mean that anyone who doesn’t match that description gets the boot. Sometimes, you really are just better off as friends.

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15 Funny Questions To Text Your Crush When You Want To Make Them LOL

Getting a funny text from a crush can cause a surge of joy that puts a pep in your step for the rest of the day, especially if their texts are so laughable and cute, you end up re-reading them over and over again. But having a successful convo with your crush via text isn’t just about making them chuckle. It’s also about keeping the conversation going long enough to build a connection that could turn into a date. So, if you’re trying to shoot the perfect shot, having funny questions to text your crush on deck will help you make a great impression. Here are some funny conversation starters to get you off on the right foot.

1. “I thought happiness started with an H. Why does mine start with U?”

2. “If I were a triangle, would you say I was an ~acute~ one?”

3. “I had a dream that you asked me out on a date and I said, “No.” Can I please take it back?”

4. “How much money does a pirate pay for corn? A buccaneer.”

5. “Are you up for making a trade? How about a date for a kiss?”

6. “On a scale from one to 10, you’re a nine… So, will you let me be the one you need?”

7. “You’ve been everything I’ve been searching for… Hey, are you Google?”

8. “What did the rice say to the teriyaki chicken? Honestly, IDK, but would you be down to grab some this weekend and investigate?”

9. “What do you call an everyday potato? A commentator.”

10. “Well, here I am. What are your other two wishes?”

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11. “Hey, my name’s Microsoft. Can I crash at your place tonight?”

12. “I think there’s something wrong with my phone. Could you try calling it for me to see if it rings?”

13. “What do I have to do to get on your drunk dial list?”

14. “On a scale of one to America, how ‘free’ are you tonight?”

15. “What songs do you usually sing in the shower?”

Try not to take a flirty, friendly conversation with your crush too seriously. Enjoy the lightness that comes with witty, back-and-forth banter and see where it takes you. You never know — this could be the start of something great.

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How You Can Tell the Difference Between Infatuation and True Love

Is it the real thing? Or do you just have a crush?

What is infatuation? Infatuation is like an innocent fantasy that we imagine to be love. It’s when we’re in love with the idea of love. But can you tell the difference between love and infatuation?

This feeling starts at a young age with “puppy love” or a crush on someone and continues into adulthood. Infatuation tends to happen when we’re not in tune with reality — we see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear. We read more into what he says and does when his words, behaviors, and actions speak otherwise.

Infatuation causes us to pay more attention to a man’s superficial physical characteristics and less attention to his inner, deeper qualities. Almost all women have been or will be infatuated, confusing this with love or a deep like.

Don’t let your eyes cloud your vision of love. Are you infatuated or in love? In order to recognize infatuation vs. love, consider the following questions. If you answer “yes” to them, you’re prone to infatuation.

Do you…

  • Focus on external qualities (i.e., his looks, how much money he makes, the job he has, the car he drives, the house he lives in, etc.)?
  • Become consumed by thoughts of him?
  • Center your life around him by making him your priority?
  • Believe what he says when your intuition is telling you otherwise?
  • Have a superficial connection?
  • Not see any flaws in him?
  • Sit by the phone, waiting for his call?
  • Pay for a lot of his meals and activities?
  • Try to spend time where you think he may be, hoping to run into him?
  • Let yourself be his option or afterthought?

Infatuation is fleeting and less fulfilling. If your relationship is based on infatuation, you’ll compromise who you are, neglect what’s important to you, and never feel like a priority in their life.

Being disappointed and discouraged when relationships based on infatuation don’t work out is understandable. Realize that there are always good lessons to be learned from these types of relationships.

The overarching lesson is to let your heart choose who to love instead of letting your eyes choose.

Here’s how to know if your relationship is based on real love: You bring out the best in each other. You’re happier than not. He treats you with love and respect. Your life is better because he’s in it. There is no doubt — you just know he’s the right person for you.

 

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25 Open-Ended Questions To Text Your Crush & Start A Conversation

So, you’ve got a crush on someone new. OMG! Those nervous, excited feelings are fun, but they can also be kind of stressful. How do you make a good impression? How do you get them to see you as more than a friend? It’s time to step up the flirting game, and open-ended questions to text your crush will help you learn more about each other. Hopefully, you can start a meaningful conversation that eventually turns into something more.

Like a lot of people, you might have some extra time on your hands lately — the perfect excuse to put your energy into a new flirtationship. Texting your crush can be scary, but it’s also the first step toward building a strong connection with them. You’d be surprised at how easy it is to open up when you’re not face-to-face (hello, Love Is Blind!) And hey, you never know where this conversation could go. Before you overthink it, go ahead and send one of these open-ended questions to pique your crush’s interest and get them talking.

1. Who are you closest to?

2. How do you feel about [world event]?

3. What are you most proud of?

4. What are you like as a travel partner?

5. What’s one thing you dream of accomplishing?

6. What does a typical morning look like for you?

7. What’s one thing you’ll never do again?

8. What’s your favorite place in the world?

9. Who do you look up to?

10. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve done lately?

11. What’s the most surprising thing about you?

12. What’s something totally dumb that makes you laugh?

13. How do you deal with stressful situations?

14. What’s one thing you couldn’t live without?

15. How would you want someone to describe you?

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16. What would you do if you won the lottery?

17. What’s one controversial opinion you have?

18. Do you have any hidden talents?

19. What’s the last thing you listened to?

20. What skill do you wish you had?

21. What’s the luckiest thing that’s ever happened to you?

22. What book or movie has influenced you most?

23. What’s your biggest pet peeve?

24. If you could have anybody else’s life, whose would you want?

25. What’s your funniest memory from high school?

Before you know it, you’ll be engaged in a conversation you and your crush will both find super enlightening. It might help you realize things you have in common, which could lay the groundwork for even deeper life talks later on. Who knows? You could even have your own Lauren and Cameron love story in the works. You’ve totally got this!

 

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