18 Clear Signs You’re in a Girl’s Friend Zone!

Do you think you’ve been friend zoned by the girl you really like? Use these 18 signs you’re in the friend zone to know if it’s time to give up!

Every guy dreads hearing these two words one after another, possibly more than any other phrase while chasing after a girl.

While most guys will joke about being in the “Friend Zone” or try to pretend it could never happen to them, a majority of guys have experienced the Friend Zone at least once in their life.

And quite possibly, they are in denial about it at this very moment!

Or these guys simply weren’t aware of all the signs.

Some girls are upfront and nip the thought of a relationship with a guy instantly.

However, many other girls are much more subtle, and they try to be kind and let you down easy.

18 signs you’ve been friend zoned by the girl you like!

So how can you tell if you’re being thrown to the curb gracefully by a girl, even when she doesn’t use the words and tell you straight that she isn’t interested in dating you?

Let’s take a look at the 18 telltale signs that you are most definitely in the “Friend Zone”.

#1 You’re so unfunny! Even as friends, most girls will laugh at a guy’s jokes. This is just a completely normal social interaction. If your crush laughs hysterically at your jokes, do not immediately jump to the conclusion that they are crushing back on you.

But on the other hand, if your lady friend NEVER or hardly ever laughs at your jokes, now would be the time to start worrying that you might not even be on a friend’s level. Maybe more like acquaintances. 

#2 Asks you about other women. If your dream girl is constantly asking you about other women when you hang out, there are two basic trains of thoughts here. Either she is trying to find out what kind of women you like to date, to see if she falls into that profile, or to know if you’re available at the time. However, this is probably the optimistic version.

Realistically she is probably trying to hint towards you to try pursuing one of these women. *Red flag alert: Asking you about other women is one thing, encouraging you to go talk to one of them is not a good sign for you, buddy!* 

#3 Addresses you as a ‘friend’. Both of you may spend all day together everyday, yet the way she introduces you to her parents or her friends is a huge sign of her thoughts about you on a romantic level. Any introductions like “Matt is such a good friend” or “I absolutely LOVE John, he is my bestie”, and you should probably accept your fate in the Friend Zone.

#4 She avoids being seen with you. While out, she avoids being seen with you so people don’t get the wrong idea. Maybe you’re wondering to yourself why you see so much of her throughout the day, but never at night. She is always busy when you ask her to the mall, or to grab a bite to eat.

But the next day in class or at work, she is Miss Chatty Box with you again. At least you know, she’s yours only till it’s time to leave for the day.

#5 She talks about her hookups. Possibly the worst part of being in the Friend Zone, is having to hear all about the other men she is totally digging, while you are not one of them. Knowing these guys aren’t right for her (obviously you should be the one with her) doesn’t matter, because she can’t see past the nice car, that ripped body, or that gorgeous smile.

#6 Three’s not a crowd. If you invite her somewhere, she brings along a friend. If this happens once, maybe it is a coincidence, if it happens again then there is no doubt where you stand in terms of friendship versus exclusive relationship.

You invite her to a movie, or to a dinner, or basically invite her anywhere that is remotely private, and somehow it ends up turning into a group event without your knowledge. This is just another tactic women use to say “Sorry, I’m not interested” without ever uttering the words.

#7 She’s drunk, and still no signs! You finally got her to the bar, you have her alone in public *just the 2 of you* and after a few drinks she still wants nothing to do with you! No slip ups about how crazy it would be if both of you started dating. No inching closer as the drinks flow to get closer into your arms. Not looking good, man, not looking good at all!

#8 There is no physical contact between the two of you. A hug does not count here, what are we, 12?! If you hug each other every time you see one another, you cannot realistically believe she is interested. I’m just moving on to the next point, I hope you get the hint. 

#9 She’s so casual. You can tell that she isn’t making any attempt with her appearance when you see her. Both of you head out to grab a bite to eat, she walks up to your car in sweat pants and a pullover jacket with no makeup or earrings? Again, not looking too promising here, friend.

#10 You watch a whole movie! The worst thing that can happen when watching a movie with her is the ever-subtle movement of her placing her head on your shoulder. That move just SCREAMS Friend Zone! If you are more of the direct type, try placing your arm around her back, or making a gesture to reach for her hand. Any movement away from you should let you know where you stand. 

#11 Brother from another mother? As stated in an example above, being referred to as a “bestie” is a terrible situation for you to be in. But being referred to as “the brother she never had” is even worse, because who in their right mind would ever think about a “family member” in a dating scenario?

#12 Shopping time. Does she ask you to go shopping with her on a regular basis? Now let me clarify, if you’re being invited to do some lingerie shopping, this may be a great opportunity for you. But shoe shopping, handbag shopping, carrying her purchases through the mall while following her around like a puppy dog, that is where things start to look grim.

#13 Oh-so-cute nicknames. What is more emasculating than letting a woman you love call you “Mikeypoo” in public? That is a cruel, cruel way to have your heart delicately ripped out of your chest. 

#14 She needs your advice. She asks for tips on what guys are looking for in a woman. She isn’t asking that to woo you, I can promise you that. She clearly has her eyes on another guy, and is wondering how to make him notice her. But if you want to keep telling yourself she’s talking about you, go ahead, whatever helps you sleep at night!

#15 Sharing a bed. You have shared a bed with this person and yet, did not take part in any type of physical activity. You finally get her alone in your room and she is “too tired” or “so exhausted from the long day” and wants to head right to bed. If you are bold, try and initiate something once both of you get into bed, but you are mostly likely looking at a much more direct rejection taking place within the next few seconds!

#16 She tries to set you up with her friends. If she is constantly tell you how perfect you are for this friend or that friend, what she really is trying to say is you are not perfect for HER!

#17 You always end up doing favors for her. You remember the last time you covered for her during work? Traded shifts? Helped her study for her final exam at the expense of your own studying? Giving her rides from place to place without being invited to these places. Wake up, man, wake up! 

#18 You’re her shoulder. The worst way to realize you are most definitely in the Friend Zone is when you end up consoling her each time she has a breakup. Right after every breakup, who is the person she comes crying to? The person who she wants to sit on a couch with, share a gallon bucket of ice cream while crying the whole time wondering where things went wrong?

Just book yourself a one-way ticket to the Friend Zone already and no, there is no need (or way) to buy a return ticket.

Now obviously some of these signs and indicators are definitely worse than others, but if you can even check off a few items on this list, it is time to come back to reality.

She just is not interested in you in the way you wish she was, and the faster you come to this realization by using these 18 clear signs you’re in a girl’s friend zone, the sooner you can move on, or stay just friends without any secret agendas.

 

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Maria – Chapter 7 – Ghosted

Hello phicklephilly followers. This is Maria’s story about what happened to her dating her boss.

I have the greatest respect for my my muse that inspired phicklphilly. I am just happy just to have lunch with her, but here is her tale of one of her romantic encounters.

We’ll leave it at that. I’m honored the one woman that inspired me to finally start writing again after 10 years was cool enough to share with me a dating story.

I think what this guy did to Maria is really shitty. Sad how one man’s inspiration can be another man’s folly.

This week, we have Kristin* (Who is my Maria the muse that inspired me to write phicklephilly) who was ghosted by one of the owners of the restaurant she works at after they’d been seeing each other for a month:
Hmmm… where should I begin?
I had started a new waitressing gig in Philly, and I was super excited abou…
— Read on www.elitedaily.com/dating/ghosted-dating-month-boss/1807692

 

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Trish – Unexpected Visit

After my fun evening at Square 1682 I head home. I get a text from my neighbor Trish. (See: Trish – The She Wolf) She says she wants to hang out with me soon and watch something on Netflix. I tell her that I would love that.

“Sweet! You let me know when! I’m chillin’ now if you’re in a sociable mood. No pressure though!

“Hey”

“Heyo!”

“Just got off the phone with Church.” (See: Church – Brand Ambassador)

“Do you want to come up and watch Netflix? Our usual fare?”

“Aw, how’s he? Okay I hope. Let’s watch it when we can laugh at them together.”

“Ok come up.”

“Yay! Let me grab my necessary belongings.”

“Door’s open.”

Trish pops in and she sits on the floor. She always sits on the floor. She just likes to be there. I’ll come home sometimes and she’ll be sitting on the floor chatting with my daughter Lorelei.

She has her blunt an ashtray and lighter. I’m half in the bag from my busy day. I’m still sipping chardonnay smoking cigs and chilling.

I start the program and we’re digging the show. It’s called A B C’s of Death. The producers gave random letters of the alphabet to 26 directors and let them make any kind of crazy short film about death. It’s really good. Trish and I like it because the state of mind we’re in when we watch it, (high or drunk or both) it’s easy to pay attention to each one because they’re so short.

So we’re watching it and I don’t remember when we stopped watching it but the next thing I know is I’m headed to the bedroom to get my bottle of coconut massage oil.

Don’t know why and don’t know when. I’m browning out. But Trish for some reason wants me to rub her neck and back. I do remember putting the oil on my hands, rubbing them together to warm it and went to work on her. She pulled her shirt over her head and she sat on the ottoman clutching her shirt to her breasts while I massaged her neck and back.

Crazy right? Trish isn’t into me. I’m her neighbor. I’ve known her for years. I wonder if her legs are feeling stiff because I would LOVE to give her a good leg massage. Trish has spectacular legs that I’ve always admired.

So I’m really going to town on her. Digging in and giving her a deep tissue massage. I’m massaging her neck and back. I feel like I’m really good at this. Maybe because I care about her. I really want her to feel better and not be in pain. I’m really enjoying this. I’ve always been attracted to Trish and this is a pretty intimate situation with my neighbor. She’s really submissive at this moment. I like it. I move her every which way and she just lets me do it. It was great and not sexual or weird in any way. But it was really nice to touch her body like that. It was like an exploration of her flesh.

You hear these stories of guys inviting girls back to their apartments for “Netflix and Chill.” They just want to have sex with them. Classic move: Guy offers said girl a neck or back massage and tries to turn that into a sexual encounter. It’s awfully cliché.

But nothing happened! She’s my neighbor!

I don’t remember much after that. I probably just went to bed.

UPDATE: Nothing happened but a great massage an she was back in my apartment hanging with my daughter Lorelei having dinner and it was like nothing had happened! So we’re cool. I’d still like to give Trish a leg massage just to make sure she is okay though….

 

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Francesca – Monday Feels Like Friday

I’ve been working a lot lately.  But it’s always good to schedule some time with friends you haven’t seen in a while.

I pack up my laptop and head out on Monday and go to Cavanaugh’s in Rittenhouse. The Monday special is half off all cheese steaks. That’s with fries or tater tots. It’s a great deal. I always sit in the back at my favorite table because it’s quiet and I can work on my computer or write this blog.

Karina took Ann Marie’s place on Mondays. I love Ann Marie and miss seeing her sweet face. (See: Ann Marie – 2015 to Present – Rose Among Thorns) I thought things wouldn’t be the same after Ann Marie left. But it’s been quite the contrary. Karina does everything that Ann Marie did to ensure the level of hospitality I so love…and more! Normally the person you love that works at a bar or restaurant leaves and it’s just never the same. But Karina nails it every time.

Says my name when I come as she greets me. Immediately brings me a glass of ice water to my table. Knows the exact way I order my cheese steak without me even having to tell her. Brings my glass of diet coke out when the food comes out. Checks on me regularly but not too much. Just the right amount of attention I need. After lunch she asks me if I will be having my usual cocktail later. At 3pm she brings a Manhattan to me neat with a cherry. I don’t want the cherry so she stopped doing it. She also brings me a side of ice. Perfect.

I sip that one drink for an hour. I’m happily typing away and around 4pm the lovely Karina returns and asks if I’d like another. I do, and she makes another one. Ann Marie would do this same ritual, but the drink she made was spirit forward but not a Manhattan that I know of.

Oh, and Ann Marie always charged me full price for everything. The drinks were always eight bucks a piece. Karina on the other hand only charges me $5! She makes a perfect Manhattan with Bulliet Bourbon. So although I do miss cute Ann Marie, times truly are better now on Mondays than ever before.

Around 4:30pm in rolls my dear friend Francesca. I haven’t seen her in over eight months. She’s 5′ 9″ Brunette, Boobs paid for by her dad, and legs for days. She loves everything pizza, and loves to drink wine. She’s attractive so she’s great to take to events and she can handle her cocktails so she’ll never embarrass you. I’m surprised I’ve never written about her before this but it just hasn’t happened. (Maybe we were having too much fun!)

I met Francesca back in 2014 through my friend Alice. (See: Alice – 2012 to Present – The Cute Recruiter) I was invited to lunch by Alice and she said her friend would be joining us. I immediately took a shine to Francesca during that lunch. She said she Francesca formerly worked at the same recruitment firm. Francesca now worked for the liquor company Jacquins at the time, and I worked at the wine publication, so we had a lot in common. I told her we should meet up and she could go through my account list to help her find some good bar clients to whom she could sell her products.

She’s dressed appropriately for a woman I haven’t seen in eight months. She looks beautiful and is wearing a barely there little black outfit. It’s just a light top and what appears to me little shorts. I’m suddenly happy it’s such a hot day. Francesca has gorgeous long legs and this may be the most I’ve ever seen of them.

We head over to Square 1682 at 17th and Sansom. We sit at the bar and she has a cosmo and I switch over to chardonnay with a side of ice. Roman the bartender is there and as always, he’s on point.

Francesca says she’s no longer with her boyfriend. There was a guy before him who we all thought was gay, but she swears no. Then there was this guy and now he’s gone too. Apparently he had anger issues. He never hit her, he would just get really angry about things all the time. Too angry for whatever was happening. I know Francesca is a chill chick, so this dude had a problem. She also goes on to say that he was jealous. Even of my texts to her. Which is ridiculous because I usually just send her crazy pizza pics because she loves pizza.

She had worked for a payroll company and recently she and a few of her coworkers were laid off. Good news is, they’re paying her a few months of severance. She’s been interviewing with a medical supply company. I think she’d be great at that. All those medical reps are usually hot girls. Maybe she’ll meet a doctor!

It was great seeing my lovely friend, I think in a week or so we’re going to meet up again and rip into some brick oven pizza!

 

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