20 Things All Men Want Their Girlfriends To Stop Doing

When you get into a relationship, you start noticing your boyfriend’s habits, both good and bad and massive and small. The fact that he always forgets to turn the dishwasher on or he keeps buying more sparkling water when there’s a ton in the fridge? Those are two pretty small things and not a big deal at all. But there are other aspects of his behavior that are a lot more important, like how he feels about committing to you.

Just like you want your BF to be nice and have positive habits, he wants the same for you. The truth is that men have a list of relationship grievances that they would really prefer not to see on a regular basis.

Here are 20 things that all men want their girlfriends to stop doing.

20. Texting Your Friends While Hanging With Him

When you’re hanging out with your boyfriend, he really doesn’t want you to be on your phone… and he really, really doesn’t want you texting your friends. This is one of those things that literally everyone seems to do since it doesn’t seem rude.

But it is pretty rude, right? It’s no wonder that guys aren’t big on this.

19. Complaining All The Time

Does anyone like a complainer? No, definitely not, but guys especially don’t enjoy having girlfriends who complain all the time.

You could feel that you have totally legit reasons to be negative, like that one friend who never shows up for dinner plans on time. But to your BF, this is frustrating, and he doesn’t want to hear such negativity.

 

18. Taking Two Hours To Put On Makeup And Do Your Hair

Of course, it’s fun to put on makeup and attempt a new hairstyle (or the same hairstyle and lipstick that you always go for). Is it fun for your boyfriend to have to wait two hours for this beauty magic to happen?

Not so much… which is why this is something else that all men want their girlfriends to stop doing.

17. Bugging Him To Propose Already

It can feel frustrating to watch the months and years tick by and realize that you still don’t have an engagement ring on your finger. However, bugging a guy to propose isn’t going to work.

Men also want their girlfriends to stop asking when they’re going to pop the question and generally bringing this up in an awkward way.

16. Two Words: Couple Selfies

To you, couple selfies are the most adorable thing that you could post. You want to see the positive comments and show that you have such a cute boyfriend.

To your boyfriend, these are annoying. And not something that he wants to be a part of. All men want their girlfriends to stop taking and posting couple photos. They would really love for these selfies to disappear.

15. Two More Words: ‘It’s Fine’

All men definitely want their girlfriends to stop saying “I’m fine.” This is a cliche statement that doesn’t really work.

While it’s tempting to say this in the middle of an argument, it’s not going to deliver the results that you want. Instead of convincing your BF that everything’s cool, he’s just going to be mad that you’re not being honest with him.

 

14. Spilling Secrets (And Anything Else) To Your BFFs

It’s awesome to have a close group of friends, and of course, your BFFs are the people who you want to share so many things with. The problem is that while you have no problem spilling your boyfriend’s secrets (and anything else about your relationship), he’s not that comfy with this. All men want their girlfriends to keep these things to themselves.

13. Calling Him Bae Or Other Annoying Slang

Relationship slang like “bae” has gotten super popular over the past few years, so much so that you honestly think nothing of using these terms.

While you love them and think that they’re adorable, your boyfriend isn’t quite on the same page. When it comes to what men would love for their girlfriends to stop doing, using slang is on the list as well.

 

12. Social Media Oversharing

Your social media followers don’t really need to know every detail of the relationship that you’re in. And yet some people honestly don’t even think twice about oversharing on these platforms.

It’s safe to say that guys aren’t into these kinds of posts and really wish that their girlfriends would refrain from doing this.

11. Inviting Him Out With Your Friends

In super rare cases, a guy will be happy to go out with his girlfriend and her group of friends. It’s much more likely that he doesn’t want to do this at all.

It’s just like how you don’t want to head out with him and his friends. You just don’t get along or you don’t have enough in common, and everyone feels awkward or left out.

 

10. Saying His Mom Doesn’t Like You

Men don’t want their girlfriends to say that their mom dislikes them. It might be the truth. She could be so rude to you. But you should honestly never bring this up.

It’s important to have a good relationship with his family if you’re going to be with him forever, and yet you can’t really convince him that his mom isn’t the nicest person unless he tells you that himself.

9. Getting Angry That He’s Not A Mind Reader

All men would love for their girlfriends to stop expecting them to be mind readers. This happens a lot during fights or when you want him to understand what he did to make you so upset.

Many couples would love being able to read each other’s minds. It would definitely make things a lot easier. Unfortunately, that’s just not a thing. Sure, you don’t want to spell things out for him, but in this case, you totally should.

 

8. Buying Clothes For Him

You could find the nicest hoodie ever, buy it, bring it home, and your boyfriend could still shake his head and say that you shouldn’t have gotten it for him.

A lot of guys don’t want their girlfriends to buy clothing for them since it makes them feel like they’re incapable of doing that themselves. No guy wants their girlfriend to be their personal shopper.

7. Being In A Bad Mood For No Reason

It’s true that sometimes, you’re just not in a good mood. You can’t shake it, you can’t explain it… but you can stop moping around the house and annoying your BF.

The truth is that when you spend all day long being super unhappy, it changes the energy around you and it doesn’t make your boyfriend very happy, either. He would love for you to stop being in a bad mood for no reason at all. It just confuses him.

 

6. Nagging Him And Wishing You Could Change Him

Men don’t want to be changed by the women who they are dating. What’s something that they dislike even more? When their girlfriends nag them to change.

Sure, it could be true that he should dress better or stop using his phone so much. But he doesn’t want to hear these things from the person who loves him. It’s just all kinds of awkward and makes him feel bad.

5. Saying That You’re Bored

Sure, everyone gets bored. But everyone also finds it totally annoying when someone tells them that they’re bored.

Guys want their girlfriends to stop saying that they’re bored, and if you’re in the habit of this, it would definitely be good to stop (and find something interesting to do instead of repeating this over and over again).

 

4. Wanting Him To Stop Seeing Certain Friends

You have a right to dislike some of your boyfriend’s friends. Do you have a right to tell him to stop hanging out with them? Not really.

You wouldn’t love if he told you the same thing about your own social circle, so it’s probably best to steer clear of this type of conversation. Just don’t hang out with them and everything should be fine.

3. Texting Him Too Much When He’s At The Office

There’s a time and place for texting. It can be great to text your boyfriend so you can keep in contact with each other during the day (and maybe say some super cute things to each other, too).

But guys don’t enjoy their girlfriends texting them when they’re busy at the office and have a ton of deadlines and tasks on their plate.

 

2. The Silent Treatment

If men want their girlfriends to stop saying “I’m fine” then they definitely want to stop getting the silent treatment.

What seems like a smart and effective thing to do during an argument is actually super immature and even kind of silly. It doesn’t accomplish anything. Guys would be happy if their girlfriends would stop doing this, that’s for sure.

1. Moving Too Fast

Men also want their girlfriends to stop moving too fast. It’s hard not to want to do this when you like someone so much and if you’re a hopeless romantic.

But guys know that sometimes, moving fast can mean not seeing what’s actually going on or not getting to know each other enough. If girlfriends could stop doing these 20 things, relationships would be a lot smoother (but, of course, you could say that there are things that boyfriends do that aren’t the best).

 

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Tales of Rock: Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated

This list features information on Nikki Sixx’s dating history. He’s the legendary bassist of Motley Crue, so there’s certainly been a lot of Nikki Sixx relationships. Most of the Nikki Sixx girlfriends have been actresses or models, but some of his romantic interests have also been musicians.

Who has Nikki Sixx dated? Nikki Sixx married his wife Courtney in 2014. In January of 2019, the couple announced that they were expecting their first child together. Sixx has four other children from previous relationships. Baywatch babe Donna D’Errico and Playboy Playmate Brandi Brandt are just two of the many Nikki Sixx exes. Marion Raven was also rumored to be a former Nikki Sixx girlfriend.

Nikki Sixx and Denise Richards dated briefly in late-2010 to early-2011. Other famous women Nikki Sixx dated include Kat Von D, Jenna Jameson, and Vanity.

Did you know that Nikki Sixx had such an impressive dating history? Take a look at this list to learn more about the Nikki Sixx dating history.

Courtney Sixx is listed (or ranked) 1 on the list Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated
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Courtney Sixx

Nikki Sixx and his wife Courtney have been married since 2014.

In January of 2019, the couple announced that they were expecting their first child together. Sixx has four other children from previous relationships.

Age: 30

Birthplace: Santa Monica, California

Denise Richards is listed (or ranked) 2 on the list Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated
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Denise Richards

Nikki Sixx and Denise Richards dated briefly in late-2010 to early-2011.

Denise Lee Richards (born February 17, 1971) is an American actress and former fashion model. She has appeared in numerous films, including Starship Troopers (1997), Wild Things (1998), The World Is Not Enough (1999) as Bond girl Christmas Jones, Valentine (2001), and Undercover Brother (2002). From 2008 to 2009, she starred on the E! reality show Denise Richards: It’s Complicated. In 2010 and 2011, she was a series regular on the comedy Blue Mountain State. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 48

Birthplace: Downers Grove, Illinois, United States of America

Kat Von D is listed (or ranked) 3 on the list Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated
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Kat Von D

Nikki Sixx shared images from his relationship with Kat Von D in his book This Is Gonna Hurt: Music, Photography and Life Through The Distorted Lens of Nikki Sixx.

“I felt that being nice and kind to the relationship was important, and I know all things come to an end eventually, and when it did, I didn’t feel that it was my job to point fingers,” Sixx said in a 2011 interview with Us Magazine.

Katherine von Drachenberg, best known as Kat Von D, is a Mexican-born American tattoo artist, model, musician and television personality. She is best known for her work as a tattoo artist on the TLC reality television show LA Ink, which premiered August 7, 2007, in the United States and ran for four seasons. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 36

Birthplace: Montemorelos, Nuevo León, Mexico

Melissa London is listed (or ranked) 4 on the list Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated
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Melissa London

In 2010, Nikki Sixx was photographed on a date with Melissa London.

Melissa London is an actor and a film score composer. …more on Wikipedia

Marion Raven is listed (or ranked) 5 on the list Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated
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Marion Raven

Marion Raven was rumored to be dating Nikki Sixx after they collaborated on her solo debut.

“We ended up writing two songs together that will be on the album,” she said in 2004.

Marion Elise Ravn, known as Marion Raven, is a Norwegian singer-songwriter. She was one-half of the now-defunct pop duo M2M, along with Marit Larsen. Raven was later signed as a solo artist by Atlantic Records with the release of her solo debut album, Here I Am in 2005. In 2006, Raven was signed to the indie record label, Eleven Seven, and re-released her debut album with a few new songs, Set Me Free, in 2007. In 2012, Raven began production of her second album titled Songs from a Blackbird, which was released in her home country, Norway on 8 April 2013. Raven has also written tracks for other artists such as Pixie Lott. She has also lent her voice for the Norwegian version of Tangled. In 20… …more on Wikipedia

Age: 34

Birthplace: Lørenskog, Norway

Jenna Jameson is listed (or ranked) 6 on the list Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated
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Jenna Jameson

Jenna Jameson is often listed among the names of Nikki Sixx’s rumored past girlfriends.

Jenna Jameson is an American entrepreneur, webcam model and former adult movie actress, who has been called the world’s most famous adult-entertainment performer. She started acting in adult videos in 1993 after having worked as a stripper and glamor model. By 1996, she had won the “top newcomer” award from each of the three major adult-movie organizations. She has since won more than 35 adult-video awards, and has been inducted into the X-Rated Critics Organization and Adult Video News Halls of Fame. Jameson founded the adult-entertainment company ClubJenna in 2000 with Jay Grdina, whom she later married and divorced. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 44

Birthplace: Las Vegas, Nevada, United States of America

Samantha Maloney is listed (or ranked) 8 on the list Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated
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Samantha Maloney

Nikki Sixx was rumored to have cheated on his wife Donna D’Errico with Samantha Maloney, who drummed with Motley Crue during their New Tattoo Tour.

Samantha Maloney is an American musician best known for playing in the bands Hole, Mötley Crüe, Eagles of Death Metal and in Peaches’ live band “The Herms”. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 43

Birthplace: New York City, USA, New York

Donna D'Errico is listed (or ranked) 9 on the list Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated
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Donna D’Errico

In 2006, Donna D’Errico filed for divorce from Nikki Sixx after nine years of marriage.

Age: 51

Birthplace: Dothan, Alabama

Brandi Brandt is listed (or ranked) 10 on the list Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated
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Brandi Brandt

Brandi Brandt and Nikki Sixx were married from 1989 until 1996. They have three children together.

Brandi Brandt is an American model and actress, who was Playboy’s Playmate of the Month for October 1987. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 50

Birthplace: Santa Clara, California, United States of America

Lisa Hartman Black is listed (or ranked) 11 on the list Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated
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Lisa Hartman Black

Nikki Sixx reportedly went on a date with Lisa Hartman Black back in 1988.

Lisa Hartman Black is an American actress and singer. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 62

Birthplace: Houston, Texas, United States of America

Brie Howard

Nikki Sixx reportedly “rolled around with” Brie Howard when she was a back-up singer. He later married Howard’s daughter Brandi Brandt.

Brie Howard is an American musician and actress. She has also appeared or been credited under the names Brie Brandt, Brie Berry, Brie Darling, and Brie Howard Darling. Howard played in the pioneering all-woman rock band Fanny, the first all-woman rock band to release an album on a major label. She played drums for the high school band the Svelts, which included future Fanny members June Millington and Jean Millington, and played drums in Fanny itself toward the end of their run, around the time of their final album. She has also been a singer and percussionist with the American Girls, and the lead singer of the Boxing Gandhis. Howard starred opposite Klaus Kinski in Aaron Lipstadt’s sci-fi f… …more on Wikipedia

Age: 69

Cindy Rome

Nikki Sixx reportedly took Cindy Rome with him to Vince Neil’s wedding in 1988.

Age: 60

 

Dee Holland

Dee Holland has spoken about dating Nikki Sixx during the recording of the Girls, Girls, Girls album.

Age: 54

Vanity is listed (or ranked) 16 on the list Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated
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Vanity

“Our relationship was one of the strangest, most self-destructive ones I’ve ever had,” wrote Nikki Sixx of Vanity, in his book Motley Crue: The Dirt.

Denise Katrina Matthews, formerly known as Vanity and sometimes credited as Denise Matthews-Smith or D.D. Winters, is a Canadian former singer, songwriter, dancer, actress, and model who has turned away from performing to concentrate on evangelism. Vanity’s career lasted from the 1980s until the early mid-’90s. She was the lead singer of the female trio Vanity 6 from 1981 until it disbanded in 1983. The group was well known for their 1982 R&B/funk hit “Nasty Girl”. Vanity’s music career, also included two solo albums on Motown Records; Wild Animal and Skin on Skin, as well as the hit singles, “Pretty Mess”, “Mechanical Emotion”, and “Under the Influence”. She also had a successful acting car… …more on Wikipedia

Age: 60

Birthplace: Niagara Falls, Canada

Jane Dickinson

Nikki Sixx claims that he didn’t know that Jane Dickinson was married to Iron Maiden musician Bruce Dickinson when they briefly linked up.

Rita Rae Roxx

Rita Rae Roxx wrote about her encounters with Nikki Sixx – and other rockers – in her book Once Upon a Rock Star.

Lita Ford is listed (or ranked) 19 on the list Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated
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Lita Ford

Lita Ford wrote about her encounter with Nikki Sixx in her memoir Living Like a Runaway.

 

Lita Rossana Ford is a British-American rock guitarist, vocalist and songwriter, who was the lead guitarist for The Runaways in the late 1970s before embarking on a solo career in the 1980s. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 60

Birthplace: Europe, Eurasia, United Kingdom, London, England, + more

Lynn Pierre

Nikki Sixx and Lynn Pierre dated in the 1980s.

Laurie Bell

The Orchids drummer Laurie Bell was rumored to have dated Nikki Sixx.

Angie Saxon

NIkki Sixx’s ex-girlfriend Angie Saxon actually helped him come up with his stage name.

“I used to date this girl, Angie Saxon. I was going through her scrapbook and I saw a guy that she used to date named Niki Syxx in a band called Jon & the Nightriders. So I stole his name. I just liked it,” he said in a 2007 interview.

Sarah Hopper

Nikki Sixx dated Sarah Hopper when he was in high school. In his book The Dirt, her refers to her as “a fat, freckled girl with glasses, no cutoff shorts, and legs that looked more like pasty semicircles than golden arches.”

Dinah Cancer is listed (or ranked) 24 on the list Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated
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Dinah Cancer

Rumor has it, 45 Grave musician Dinah Cancer dated Nikki Sixx.

Dinah Cancer is the stage name of Mary Ann Sims, a vocalist, best known for her band 45 Grave, which helped found the musical genre known as “deathrock”. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 58

Birthplace: California

 

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How to Avoid the Friend Zone and Make Her Desire You

Afraid you’ll end up being just a friend with the girl you like? Use these tips on how to avoid the friend zone if you want to get into her pants.

The friend zone is a tricky place to fall in.

You may be trying hard to get close to a girl, close enough to tell her that you like her, but one fine day she turns around and tells you that you’re such a great friend, or worse, you’re just like a brother to her.

Ever been there?

I hope you haven’t.

Guys find themselves falling into the friend zone almost all the time.

It’s frustrating and demeaning, and at times, inevitable.

You may get really close to a girl with all the hopes of getting into her pants, but somewhere along the way, you may have taken a few detours that led you right into the friend zone.

What is a friend zone?

A friend zone is a happy place for a girl. It’s a place where she and a guy can sit together and talk about anything and get real friendly with each other.

For a guy, a friend zone is the worst place to be in, especially when he likes the girl who behaves like a friend.

In a friend zone, the two involved friends of the opposite sex are just friends and nothing more. They project no sexual interest towards each other and behave in a completely platonic manner.

But can any guy ever be friends with a girl he finds sexually attractive? Or course not. He can try to be a friend with the hope of getting an occasional cuddle or a warm boob pressing hug now and then, but he’s always going to be just be a friend while she dates every other guy in the yearbook.

How do guys end up falling into the friend zone?

A guy falls into a friend zone for very obvious reasons. He behaves like a friend. And he never lets the girl know that he has more than friendly intentions on his mind.

And soon enough, the girl loses all realization of the fact that this guy has a package down there. And he just becomes another sexless thing she hangs out with all the time as a platonic friend.

So why do some guys end up as friends instead of boyfriends or sex buddies? Here’s why.

#1 They get too close. Getting too close to a girl on platonic grounds will never help you. You may assume that it’s the easiest way to get a girl to know you better. She’ll definitely get to know you better, but only as a friend.

#2 No sexual chemistry. If a guy likes a girl, he has to make it subtly obvious that he’s sexually interested in her. If a guy behaves like a pushover and a doormat, no girl will feel even a tingle of sexual chemistry.

#3 The girl’s not attracted to the guy. This sucks, but this is the most common scenario. The guy’s probably creepy, annoying or just not good enough to be her boyfriend.

#4 The guy thinks she’s too good for him. At times, a guy may genuinely believe that the girl he likes is way too good for him. And instead of hitting on her, he secretly lusts for her, but gives up on pursuing her. Could you ever live with yourself by just being the friend of a sexy girl who dates every other guy but you?

#5 He plays the true friend card. It works in the movies all the time. The girl has a best friend who’s always there for her. She goes ahead and dates every single guy in the world, and finally, at the end of the movie she sees her true love in the form of her best friend. How touching! And that’s why they call it the movies. In real life, you can’t become a girl’s boyfriend just by behaving like a best friend.

How to avoid getting into the friend zone

It’s really easy to avoid the friend zone. All you need to do is drop a few hints now and then to let her know that you’re really into her. Use these easy tips to get the message across and get her to desire you while you’re at it.

#1 Be a friend without behaving like her other friends. Don’t talk nonsense for hours or spend time talking about her problems in life. Talk about places she visits, movies she’s watched, and her plans for the weekend. Talk date talk and she’ll sense the chemistry in the air.

#2 Try to talk to her when she’s alone. If her other friends are around, talk to her if you must or just avoid her. You can’t really hit on a girl when she’s surrounded by a bevy of friends.

But when you find her alone, make sure you turn on your charm and impress her. See her alone? Chat her up. And if one of her friends come by, grumble audibly in a funny manner and say something like “just when I thought I was going to get some alone time with you, this guy pops up out of nowhere!” and just laugh. She’ll be confused and wonder if you’re being serious or just joking.

But she’ll get the hint that you like spending time with her alone. Make it obvious that you like spending time with her in whatever way possible, but don’t ask her out or tell her you like her just yet.

#3 Compliment her when she deserves it. Flatter her pants off. If she looks good, tell her she looks hot. If you see a hint of cleavage and she catches you staring, just laugh, apologize and tell it you couldn’t resist it. Add a few funny sexual remarks and you’ll never get into the friend zone.

#4 Touch her and treat her like your girlfriend. But do it respectfully though. Clasp her hand while crossing the street and open doors for her when it’s just the both of you. Make her feel like a queen, and she’ll love the attention. But when her friends are around, don’t give her any preferential treatment. Let her realize that you’re special to her only when it’s just the two of you.

#5 Make her feel special and exclusive. Gift her something small and personal, but tell her to keep it a secret. When you create secrets, you build sexual chemistry and suspense which leads to romance.

#6 Ask her out and change the topic. When you’re talking to her for a while, ask her out for lunch or coffee. See how she responds. But within a second, change the topic. Don’t wait for her to answer. It’ll seem like a joke, but it’ll still make her wonder if you really do want to date her. Don’t make things awkward by waiting a while before saying something else. Keep it simple, keep it funny and yet reveal all the dirty thoughts in your mind, and change the topic immediately.

Wondering how to avoid the friend zone? Just understand these pointers and use these tips. You’ll never fall into the friend zone with any girl ever again.

 

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Reasons Why You Can’t Find a Decent Girlfriend

Let’s say you’re a good guy who knows his way around women. But for some reason, dating doesn’t go too well for you. Maybe you have it all: good looks, charisma, a nice job, and the natural ability to be a gentleman. And still, pretty single girls seem to flee from you. There are several reasons why this happens. And not everything is your fault here.

Let’s say you’re a good guy who knows his way around women. But for some reason, dating doesn’t go too well for you. Maybe you have it all: good looks, charisma, a nice job, and the natural ability to be a gentleman. And still, pretty single girls seem to flee from you. There are several reasons why this happens. And not everything is your fault here.

1. You seek for girls in wrong places

I doubt that a woman who wants serious commitment will go to a club to find a husband. The same goes for Tinder and similar apps. Yes, of course, there are some rare cases when people just happen to be in a certain location, for example, with friends. But you still need to change the tactics and start finding people in places you like to be in. For example, why don’t you meet girls at theme parties, festivals, or friends meetings?

2. You come across as too serious

Maybe you are aimed for a serious relationship, marriage, and kids, but there is no need to share it during your first date (especially if you don’t know each other that well). Don’t be that desperate and clingy. Don’t take it too fast. First, you need to get to know each other, then you can think about starting a family. Girls are scared of guys who want to get married on a first date and talk about kids. Paradoxically, but not only guys are afraid of commitment.

3. You seem stuck up

Maybe you are so serious and self-conscious that you want to compensate it by looking tough and snappy. But all people see is you being conceited. One thing is knowing your coolness, but projecting it on other people by intimidating them is another thing. Make sure you don’t come across as too self-absorbed, try to be simpler.

4. You seem too perfect

Girls can be scared of you by proximity. When you look and act perfectly, they can be intimidated. Girls are just scared you will reveal all of their insecurities, and after all, you’ll break up. They want to start a relationship as equal players and see a normal human being with mild flaws. If you look unattainable she will feel unworthy of this relationship and back down.

5. Your career is less bright

Yes, these are the small things that don’t matter that much. But still, some women want a man to be the main breadwinner, staying by the side and not taking so much responsibility. This works both ways because often guys don’t like girls who are too successful.

6. You have a type

Don’t you have a feeling all of your exes are somewhat similar? Maybe they behave or look the same? If the answer is positive than I know what is your problem. You just have a type. It’s neither good nor bad. You’ll just be stuck in a neverending circle of patterns that won’t leave you for years until you decide to break it and find an unexpected type. Try to date a woman who isn’t your cup of tea. Maybe you didn’t pay attention or were too scared to approach this type of girl? It’s a chance to take a risk.

7. You don’t know how to talk to women

Maybe you are rich, successful, and handsome, but just don’t know how to approach a girl you like. You don’t know how to make a woman interested, how to behave during a date, which courtesy moves to choose, what to tell her, what gifts to give. And, most importantly, maybe you don’t know when it’s time to stop talking.

8. You haven’t found your destiny

Yes, maybe you just haven’t found a girl who’s meant for you. I believe that we all have a soul mate in this life, waiting for us. Maybe the Universe tries to keep you away from mistakes and wrong relationships, saving that dessert for last. Anyway, it’s worth waiting for it.

 

 

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13 Signs Your Ex Is Confused about Your Breakup: What About You?

Breakups aren’t easy. Usually, we end up more confused after the relationship. What do the signs your ex is confused mean for you and your relationship?

If your ex is telling you they want you back, don’t rush into it. You need to take a step back and see the signs your ex is confused. That way, you’ll know what to do next.

After my long term relationship *four years!*, it took me a while to get over my ex. Throughout the relationship, I wasn’t sure if I wanted to be with him, and my emotions and self-esteem got the best of me. I didn’t think I could find someone who would love me the same way and make me feel happy, even though I knew my ex wasn’t the one for me. So, I stuck it out and stayed in the relationship.

But, eventually, it came to an end. Going through a breakup is really hard, and during the process, it makes you think about your ex in a different light. On the nights where you’re sad and lonely, you think about the good times you had—and it sucks you back in.

How to interpret the signs your ex is confused

My ex and I were off-and-on for a couple of months after the breakup. Even though we both knew the breakup must happen, you struggle with separating for good. This was someone you called your best friend; someone you shared laughs and memories with. I was definitely confused and highly emotional when wanting to go back to my ex.

And these emotions just made the breakup even harder for both of us. Don’t get played by emotions if it isn’t the right thing for you.

#1 What does your gut instinct say? When it comes to your gut instinct, your body knows when something isn’t right. If your ex gives you all the right words, but you feel something is off, then listen to your gut. If what they’re saying or doing isn’t making you feel good, then it’s not for you.

#2 They’re hot and cold. When you talk to them, they’ll be happy and flirty one day, and the next, moody and antisocial. They’re clearly confused with how they’re feeling about the breakup. They’re not sure what to do and struggling emotionally to make a decision.

#3 They mention how much they’ve invested in you. When you talk with them, they bring up how much they invested in the relationship. This could be seen as a positive, but also negative. If they feel they’re invested a lot, getting back together could be because they don’t want to waste what they put into the relationship.

#4 They’re angry. Anger is usually a common emotion after a breakup. If your ex feels indifference, then that’s a sign they’re over the relationship. But anger shows that they’re not over the breakup; they’re not over you. Although, it doesn’t mean you should get back together. 

#5 They don’t try to reconcile. It doesn’t matter who’s at fault for the breakup, the point is, they don’t push to reconcile. They won’t even bring up the reason why you broke up. If they’re not willing to work on reconciling the relationship, then they’re not ready to be in one. 

#6 They tell you they want you back. But when it comes to committing, they don’t jump right in. This is because they’re unsure about the relationship. They may tell you they want you back, but if they’re not ready to commit, they’re just confused.

#7 They make up reasons to talk to you. Your ex always has an excuse to talk to you. Even though they don’t directly bring up getting back together, they focus on talking about memories or things you like.

#8 They’re dating other people. Even though they’re casually dating others, how can they get back together with you at the same time? If they really wanted to be with you, they wouldn’t be dating other people too.

#9 You’re getting mixed messages. They’ll drop subtle hints about wanting to get back together with you, but then the next day they mention wanting to move on. And every day, it’s something different. The messages you get aren’t clear, if anything, you’re more confused now than you’ve ever been. Well, if you’re confused, they’re confused.

#10 They attempt to make you jealous. Your ex does their best to make you jealous, and sometimes it works. When you confront them on what they do, instead of taking action, they play games. See, they’re not really interested in getting back together with you; they just don’t want your attention to move from them to someone else.

#11 They keep communication open. When someone is ready to move on, they cut ties with their ex, at least, until they’ve moved on. But your ex still lingers around, liking your posts and chatting with you via text. They want to keep the line of communication open, just in case.

#12 They try to publicly humiliate you. When your ex tries to put you down in public, they’re hurting. This isn’t an excuse for their actions. All this shows you is their immaturity and they’re confused with their emotions.

They don’t know how to handle their emotions, so they put their anger onto you. If this happens, it’s a clear red flag.

#13 They tell you they’re confused. If you’ve confronted them about their actions, good for you! If you’re confused, talk to them about it and see how they feel. If they tell you they’re confused, you now know where they stand. And if they’re confused about their feelings for you, then they don’t want to be with you. They just don’t know how to move on.

Now that you know the signs your ex is confused, what do you think? Is your ex really confused or do they genuinely want to get back together with you?

 

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