Dating a Latino? Here are 7 Things You Must Prepare Yourself For

If you are dating a Latino man today, you might have spent a long time knowing each other. This is especially true for couples who came from different cultures.

Dating a Latino is not a walk in the park. You also have to prepare yourself for the challenges or differences that may arise from your relationship. Aside from their sense of style which is very important, it is also vital to know more about their culture, food, their love for dance, and most particularly their passion for music.

You might find dating a Latino challenging, that’s why we laid out this list to help you. Here are things you should know in dating a Latino, according to Day Translations:

1. You will hate the things you loved

Latinos are known as family-oriented. It is not a surprise anymore if the Latino that you are dating always talks about his mother. What will drive you more crazy is if you found out that at the age of 30, sometimes it is still their mother who is buying their underwear! Sounds totally made-up, right? Not if you’re dating a Latino.

2. You will dread your mother-in-law

As mentioned above, Latinos are most of the time, dependent on their mothers. Do not get surprised also once you marry a Latino that your mother-in-law will always have a say with everything around your house from the color of your sofa to the food that you serve. It might feel like an invasion, but that’s just how tight-knit their families are.

3. You will celebrate Christmas at night

This is a very common tradition for Latinos. Once you are invited by a Latino to celebrate Christmas with them, you have to expect lots of greetings through hugs and kisses. Latinos typically celebrate Christmas at midnight on December 24, also known as Buena Noche. It might seem exhausting, but on the bright side, Christmas is one of the most festive seasons of the year in Latino culture.

4. You will eat your dinner very late

Once you are dating or living with a Latino, you have to expect that you will be eating your dinner late at night. This can happen most especially if your mother-in-law visits your house. She will be sharing lots of things with you to the point that you will have your dinner at 10 in the evening, but hey, better late than never, right?

5. You will arrive late everywhere

Once you are about to meet a Latino, do not expect that you will meet him at the exact time that you scheduled. Most of the time, they don’t have a sense of punctuality, so get ready in adjusting your own schedule to fit theirs. Their 8 a.m. is sometimes 8:30 a.m. or even more than one hour late.

6. You will understand the meaning of jealousy

Latinos, just like most passionate lovers, are very affectionate to the point that they will have bouts of jealousy. Don’t look at it as a flaw, rather see it as his expression of love for you. But after he has expressed his feelings of jealousy, get ready because he will be extra sweet and romantic.

7. You will dress more conservatively

Remember number 6? Latinos don’t like it when their ladies get ogled at in public. Yes, you have to dress more conservatively because they don’t want you to get disrespected by other guys. It does not mean that you have to cover every part of your skin, they just want you to be more formal and look respectful.

 

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Scarlett – Sexy chica de tamaño más – Part I

Another tale of one man’s journey navigating his way through the dating scene in Philadelphia.

I recently went down my list of all of the people I have ever chatted with on Tinder. I may not have spoken to them in a while. I just wanted to touch everyone to simply say, “hello” but mostly to keep feeding this blog with new material. Life once fed the art, but now that I’m meeting so many women, the art is now feeding life. When I started this blog I made a list of over 20 women I had met over the last 10 years and decided they should be a part of this tome. I thought I’d simply write about them all, and maybe a couple other people as they entered my life during the time it took me to cover them all. But I’ve been meeting so many people I can’t keep up with them all! As a writer it’s become a wonderful problem to have.

Like the days when I was in a band or even before that when I was into drawing, I only made art for myself. The pictures I drew were of things I loved and the songs I wrote and our band played were for us. This blog is about my expression. I haven’t written anything in years. (Unless copy for award-winning advertising campaigns counts!) I am happy to say I am writing again. The best compliment you can pay someone is to copy them or try to be like them. I am putting words and stories where there were none before. I feel closest to my creator when I create.

One of the women I said hello to that responded was Scarlett. So we start chatting and she responds with: “Hey! Sorry, I’m rarely on here. Just saw your text.” But then I get a regular text from her on my phone, not Tinder. I’m confused, but who knows? Maybe alcohol was involved. I don’t remember talking to her or exchanging phone numbers. She asked how I’ve been and how we had a whole conversation. She starts going into this story about how we talked when she had just moved back to the US  from the Dominican Republic.  She says she is currently living in University City. I tell her my neighborhood and she says she spends a lot of time down there. I ask her to meet me for a drink. I also provide her with days I’m available. Then she drops this bomb:

Scarlett: “Why should I give you a shot after all this time that has passed?

Me: “That is a choice only you can make.” (I just thought I swiped, she swiped and nothing happened)

Scarlett: “Well of course. But are you planning on making up for lost time?”

Me: “What? What lost time? We’ve never met!”

Scarlett: “Because you stood me up.”

Me: “That is simply not true.” (I’m thinking she’s crazy at this point)

I send her a screenshot of our last conversation on Tinder. I told her that was our last conversation on Tinder, then I never heard from her again. Then we spoke again today.

She then sent me a screenshot of our last conversation, but it was from October 2014. Two years ago! It was me texting her and telling her I had to go meet with a client so I couldn’t have lunch with her that day. I remember now I just didn’t feel like it, so I bailed.

So I obviously apologized. But I did explain to her I technically didn’t stand her up, I cancelled. She said I did it last-minute, but whatever, I don’t remember. But she accepted my apology and decided to give me another chance. But it’s been two years! She said it seemed odd because I was such a gent. So we decided to meet for drinks on Monday.

Stop back in 2 weeks to see what happens on our date.

 

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Maria – Chapter 2 – Amor en Vano – Part II

Another tale of one man’s journey through the dating scene in Philadelphia. Searching for true love.

In our last episode, our hero was meeting with Maria at a coffee shop to find out why she had been let go from her job. But does he have ulterior motives?

Maria stated that it was one incident on a Saturday night where she did one shot with a table of people. But she said some of the other servers said she was drinking all night long, and that simply wasn’t true. (I believe her) I was just happy that she was talking to me and meeting with me over coffee. I asked her what was she going to do now and she said she had already gotten another job at a nicer restaurant. I was surprised it happened so fast but in that industry there is always turnover, and they always need experienced help. (And because she’s smart and understands the hospitality industry) Maria lamented that she’d have to learn a new menu but other than that it was a decent gig. I had been to the new place when it opened and I thought it was a great spot in a good area. The food was good, so she’d probably do well there.

And that’s when I said the following. “Maria, I have something else I need to share with you.” She crossed her arms. I’m really good at reading people’s body language so I tried to put her at ease. I told her that I had real feelings for her. You have to be willing to take risks like this if you want the better rewards in life. But I will tell you, sometimes you roll the dice and your number doesn’t come up. Maybe on a later roll, but sometimes you leave the casino alone and broke.  She said she didn’t want to be misconstrued on how she was when she would serve us at the restaurant.

I understand if a server is sweet and a little flirty it helps garner bigger tips. It’s just human psychology. I told her she was just being friendly and that it was her personality that shone through. I told her all of those times we came into the restaurant all I wanted to see was her. The weekends I would spend at my office working on ad copy. I would text her and say “I’m burning so many calories banging my head against the wall trying to come up with an idea for this ad campaign it’s making me hungry. Should I come see you and have some delicious sliders?” That was the sort of thing I would do but it was all about wanting to see her.

She responded, “Do you think we’d be compatible?” And I said, “We went to the flower show, that was great and you don’t know if you’re compatible until you spend time with someone.” I simply told her how I felt about her. I think she was surprised, but at least I know it’s out there now and I’ve said it. I know she’s sporty and I’m more of the arts guy but who knows? Stranger things have happened. (Please continue reading this blog each week and you’ll know!) She was on her way to the new job when she met me, so I bid her farewell and told her I’d stay in touch. We hugged and she was gone. At least now she knew what I felt for her.

I told Maria that me and my colleague were going to boycott the old place for firing her by never going there again, but that clearly wasn’t happening. The food is delicious there and we still love the lunch hostess, Mary (See: Mary – Unexpected Table for Two) and a couple of the other servers there!

Tune in tomorrow for the conclusion!

 

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