15 Real Signs Your Relationship Is Over or On the Verge of Ending

Not all love stories are meant to last forever. That’s okay. But usually, you can see the signs your relationship is over. What do you need to do next?

When you enter a relationship, you’re usually not thinking about the day when you will go your separate ways. Everything’s going great, until one day… things start to slow down. Maybe you argue more often, or the connection is fading. And if you haven’t experienced this before, then you may not know what to do. Understanding the signs your relationship is over will give you clarity.

Maybe this is just a phase, or maybe it’s the end of the road for your relationship. That’s the tough part. When I was in my first serious relationship, deep down, I knew it had to end, but I did whatever I could to keep things going.

Of course, it worked for a short period of time, but eventually, it gives out. Usually, what makes us try to keep a relationship together is the fear of being alone. But that isn’t something you should worry about.

15 troubling signs your relationship is over even if you’re not ready for it

If you’re not happy in your relationship, and you’ve tried everything, then maybe it’s time to consider throwing the towel in and calling it a day. If you’re struggling to accept whether or not the relationship is over, it’s time you look at the signs your relationship is over.

Once you see the signs, then you can’t avoid them. You know what’s going on and need to do something about it. So, let’s get started and show you the signs your relationship has come to an end. Remember, sometimes, good things come to an end.

#1 You feel it. We’re humans, not robots. But many of us try to suppress our feelings and ignore them when really those are the feelings you should pay attention to. If you feel your relationship has come to an end, then you’re probably right. You know your partner better than anyone, and you know yourself. So, why are you ignoring your intuition?

#2 You’re not a priority. One of the clearest signs your relationship is over is when you’re not important to them anymore. You were once a priority to your partner. If you needed anything, they would go out of their way to help you out. You were one of the most important people in their lives. That’s what being in a relationship is about. But things have changed. You’re no longer a priority anymore; you’re just someone they see to fill in time. 

#3 They’re using odd phrases. You would never hear them talk in metaphors, but now, they’ve suddenly become poets and are using weird phrases when talking about your relationship. If you hear, “maybe we’re not meant to be” or “ if you love someone let them go,” well, they’re subtly trying to let you know that this relationship will be coming to an end, they just don’t know how to go about it.

#4 They don’t ask about you. They used to ask you about your day or listen to the drama you had at work, but that’s all come to an end. It’s not that they’ve lost their memory and have forgotten you have a job or are going to school. They just don’t care anymore. Getting to know more about you isn’t what they’re interested in.

#5 The sex is less connected. When you had sex, there was connection and intimacy. And yes, you’re still having sex, but it’s less frequent, and it’s just not the same. It feels like you’re having sex with someone you don’t know, a complete stranger. If you’re feeling that, well, they’re feeling the same as you.

#6 They’re slowly pulling away. When you’re in an intimate relationship, you can sense this right away. You know exactly when someone is pulling away. Maybe they stop texting you so frequently or calling you cute nicknames. Though they probably think you don’t notice, you do. You’re just not calling it out because you know the consequences.

#7 You’re being ghosted. Maybe they’re not fully ghosting you. But, they answer your texts or phone calls hours after your send or call them. When they do answer you, the messages aren’t very inspiring. They’re usually a couple of words and nothing more. Your partner doesn’t suggest hanging out. Instead, they just hope to fade out of the relationship.

#8 They feel far away. When you sit beside them, they don’t feel close to you. Instead, they’re thousands of miles away. Once you feel that emptiness and distance, it’s a sign that they’re no longer emotionally connected to you as they once were. Your conversations aren’t as deep, they’re not interested in what you have to say, and you feel lonely when next to them.

#9 They love to argue with you. All of a sudden, they’ve become passionate arguers. This wasn’t the old them, but something they’ve developed. Your partner isn’t as patient as they used to be, and when they get the chance to show their frustration and anger, they show it. If someone wants to end a relationship but is struggling to do so, they’ll direct those negative emotions onto you.

#10 You feel they’re going to dump you. I don’t know exactly how to describe the feeling, but there’s a heaviness in your stomach. You feel that they want to dump you; you’re constantly wondering when that’s going to happen. And if you feel that, well, then this is one of those pretty good signs your relationship is over already, something is going to happen, and you knew it all along.

#11 You’re emotionally suffering. Whether you’re next to them or not, your emotional health is suffering. You don’t feel good about the relationship; you’re constantly wondering where you stand with them, and whether or not they even want to be with you. Those aren’t positive feelings and signs of a healthy and loving relationship.

#12 You don’t trust your partner anymore. You used to have full trust in your partner, but things have changed. There’s something inside of you that’s telling you not to trust your partner. This instinct isn’t one you should ignore. If your body is telling you something isn’t right, that’s because it’s true.

#13 They don’t spend time with you. Listen, some people are just busy, and that’s one thing. But if all of a sudden, they’ve become so busy they can’t spend one minute of their time with you something is up. If your partner isn’t investing time into the relationship, ask yourself if they even want to be in the relationship.

#14 They don’t make any plans with you. Regardless of the season, your partner isn’t making any upcoming plans with you. Though you want to travel, your partner isn’t saying much, and that’s probably because they don’t want to make any plans with you. Who knows how long they think the relationship will last.

#15 You don’t see the future with them. Before, you could see your future with your partner, but when you picture yourself in five or ten years, they’re not in the picture. If you can’t see them in your future, that’s really not a good sign. Think about this relationship.

 

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5 Things Men Must Give Up To Be With The Right Woman

Be the man you know she deserves.

As we get older, we find more things changing around us without any real warning. Our priorities shift, our goals shift, our desires for what to do on the weekends shift.

Suddenly, you realize your priorities are changing — and you have to change, too. Change is hard because it requires losing people and things from our lives, oftentimes people or things that have been a big part of our existence for a long time.

But the funny thing is you eventually realize you’re not really losing or giving up anything at all; you’re simply shedding the skin of your life which no longer serves you.

Here are five things men need to “give up” when learning how to find love. Because to find the woman of your dreams, self-improvement plays a huge role.

1. Your bad habits

Maybe you’re terrible at saving money. Maybe you’re a poor communicator. Maybe you don’t eat as healthy or workout as often as you should.

The point is, to be with the right woman, you’ve got to work to become the right man. It’s true that the right woman will love you for who you are, but it’s also true that she’ll hold standards for herself and the man she allows into her life.

2. Your need to be right

No relationship is sunshine and rainbows all the time, despite the vision you may get from some of my other articles. There will be disagreements, there will be arguments, and there will be, above all, compromise.

When these situations arise, flexibility is key. You cannot always have things your way and expect a relationship to operate smoothly. It requires give and take from both people.

If either teammate feels the need to constantly be right, they’ll be closed off to hearing and adjusting to their partner’s opinions, and the relationship will implode.

3. Your ego

When we’re in our early 20s, we’re invincible. We don’t need anyone. We’re the crème de la crème. But with maturity comes the realization that nobody’s perfect and we have a lot to learn.

Subsequently, we understand that many of these learning experiences come from the woman we will fall in love with, as she brings a fresh perspective to our lives. But in order to open ourselves up to these experiences, we must leave our ego where it belongs: in the past.

4. Your immaturity

Maybe your avoidance of commitment or aversion to romance served you well when your weekends were full of bars and clubs, but when you’re building a foundation for a future with a mature, established woman, you must adjust your approach.

Successful couples learn and grow together. They mature as individuals and as a team. To be part of this team, you need to understand that growing up, women didn’t dream of men who gave them a mediocre effort. Give her your passion, love, honesty, and energy.

5. Your short-term thinking

When we’re younger, it’s natural to think a little less about the future and a little more about the present.

The right woman will understand that it’s difficult to plan a future with someone who has no future plan for themselves. She’ll only want to commit to someone who will pledge to not only support her while she pursues her goals but who pursues his own as well.

It won’t fly to just “see where things go.” She’ll want a man who she can count on as her teammate in life and in love.

The best part about giving up these things is that you aren’t really losing anything at all.

In fact, you’re gaining: wisdom, maturity, and the potential for a more fulfilling happiness than you’d find if you held onto these limiting habits. What are you really giving up? You’re giving up the boy you were to become the man you were always meant to be.

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How to Tell if Your Boyfriend Loves You: 16 Sure Signs He’s Smitten

You’re madly in love, but sometimes you catch yourself wondering how to tell if your boyfriend loves you too. By looking at the signs, you’ll know.

He loves me… he loves me not… wait, he probably loves me… he has to love me, right? I know exactly how wondering how to tell if your boyfriend loves you feels. And it’s a nerve-wracking experience.

You’re there giving him everything while at the same time, you’re wondering if he even feels the same way. Deep down you know how he feels. When you start looking at the signs and paying attention to your intuition, you know what’s going on.

How to tell if your boyfriend loves you

When it comes to people, specifically men, you can never really know what they’re thinking. A guy can tell you he loves you and not mean it or not tell you anything and secretly love you for years on end.

Ideally, just ask him how he feels about you, but I know how scary that can be. So, instead, why not look at how to tell if your boyfriend loves you?

There are only so many signs a person can give you to show that they love you. All you need is to look at the right signs for a hint about what’s going on in their mind.

It’s time to find out how to tell if your boyfriend loves you.

#1 He told you. Of course, some people just say ‘I love you,’ when they feel any positive emotion. And they may not necessarily mean it. But, if he says it and you truly feel that it’s genuine, then you’re not wrong. You have your intuition and trust me, you should listen to it.

#2 He checks up on you. Listen, when it comes to the human race, we’re pretty selfish. We put ourselves first and make sure we’re taken care of. But, when we’re in love, things change. Yes, we’re still a priority, but now, there’s someone else who’s equally as important. If he’s checking up on you throughout the day, it’s because he cares and worries about you.

#3 He lights up when he sees you. When he sees you, his face completely changes. It’s like you instantly bring sunshine into his life.

And you know what, that’s because you do. Love is pure joy and happiness. When he looks at you, he can’t help but smile. If you see his eyes light up when he looks at you, it’s because he loves you.

#4 He sends you good morning text messages. Not a morning goes by where he’s not sending you a good morning text message. If he’s doing this, he’s completely hooked on you. Love is intense; it’s an obsession and not necessarily a bad one. If you’re the first person he thinks of when he wakes up, he’s in love with you.

#5 He gets into your life. He’s in your life. He knows all your friends and family, he goes to every dinner, he even will attend your brother’s soccer games on the weekends. In other words, he’s making sure he has a strong presence in your life. If he’s making this much effort, it’s not just to get in your pants.

#6 He goes out of his way for you. Maybe he already had plans or has been busy at work, but he’ll rearrange things around just to get a chance to see you. Whether he sees you for a couple of hours or minutes, he will go out of his way to spend as much time with you as possible. What do we call that? It’s love, baby.

#7 He treats you as a priority. We usually put ourselves first before other people. And, let’s not be naive, he still puts himself first, but he also prioritizes you. When he’s making decisions, he includes you in them, making sure you are on the same page. This is because he loves you. 

#8 He genuinely listens to you. When he asks you about your day or any question regarding your feelings, he listens. He doesn’t just ask it to fill time, he’s asking you because he genuinely wants to know how you’re feeling. A man who loves a woman is a man who cares about her feelings and all the small details happening in her life.

#9 He doesn’t give up. It’s normal for couples to argue and disagree on things, but that doesn’t mean the relationship is supposed to end. Whatever problems you’re having, he doesn’t throw the towel in and call it quits. He puts 100% into the relationship every single day and never doubts that you two are going to make it.

#10 He asks for your opinion. But not only on simple questions like “does this shirt look good on me?” or “should I get the new iPhone?” I’m talking about real questions, questions regarding his job, family, or friends. If he consults you before making a decision, he respects your opinion and values what you have to say.

#11 He’s there when you need him. If a guy didn’t love you or at least wasn’t interested in you, he wouldn’t be there when you need him. But if he loves you, no what you need, he’ll go out of his way to make it happen. Whether your car broke down or you’re sick and need soup, he’s there. Now that is what we call love.

#12 He introduces you to his family. Let’s not ignore this one. Okay, if you met his family once, then don’t assume he’s madly in love with you. But if you see other signs and notice he’s taking you more to see his family, then he’s clearly developing some strong feelings for you. He wouldn’t be bringing you into his close circle unless he felt you were the one.

#13 He makes sure you’re in the loop. He is always making sure you’re updated on everything going on in his life. Even if it’s something you didn’t need to know, he makes sure you’re informed. When a man loves you, he wants you to be a part of his entire life, not just a piece of it. 

#14 He sees you. When a guy doesn’t love you, he doesn’t really see you. Okay, he sees you in the literal sense, but he misses the small details like the way you laugh or the face you make when you’re sad. When a man is in love with a woman, he notices everything. And when I say everything, I mean everything.

#15 He misses you when you’re not around. Whether it’s for five minutes or a couple of days, when you don’t see each other, he’s sad. Typically, men fall in love with a woman when she’s not around. You know the saying, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

If he’s always texting or calling you when you are apart, he probably can’t get enough of you.

#16 He focuses on making you happy. What could say love more than this? If his main goal is to make you happy, he clearly loves you. No man would waste their time making sure someone is happy unless he truly cared about the person. If you’re doing something that makes you unhappy and you tell him, he’ll change it right away.

 

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4 Mantras To Recite Before Breaking Up With Someone, So You Can Let Go

There are few things harder than making the decision to end a relationship, especially when your partner doesn’t see it coming. Regardless of what your reasons might be for the breakup, you may catch yourself second-guessing and questioning your decision. What if you’re making the wrong choice? What if you’re not as happy without them? Dwelling on these questions may make you spiral, so in order to keep your head above water, it’s helpful to have a few mantras to recite before breaking up with someone.

Now that cuffing season is officially in full swing, it can be easy to get caught up in the idea of being in a relationship. Having a special someone to come home to and marathon cringeworthy Hallmark movies with can provide a huge source of comfort during the holiday season. However, this time of year, some people may feel more inclined to stay in a relationship that they know deep down isn’t totally fulfilling them. If you fall into this category, you may be dragging your feet when you know your connection is at a dead-end, and sometimes, you just gotta rip the band-aid off. To help you do that, here are some mantras to keep in mind.

I fully trust myself and my instincts.

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If you’ve been going in circles trying to decide whether or not to break up with someone, it can feel almost impossible to get out of your own head and look at things objectively. There’s always going be what-ifs and unanswered questions, but the key is to have faith in yourself and your instincts. This is especially important to keep in mind if the breakup isn’t mutual, and your ex-partner tries to convince you that things are better with them than without them.

Nicole Richardson, a licensed counselor and marriage and family therapist, recommends taking a step back and remembering why you wanted to do this in the first place. “It is important to have a list of all the reasons you broke up,” she tells Elite Daily. “And remind yourself when your brain starts to play the tape of all the ‘good ol’ times.’”

I’m focused on prioritizing my happiness.

Pain is a given after any breakup, and if you had deep feelings for each other, it may not be an easy transition at first. Because feelings don’t just fade away the day after a breakup, getting to a point where you feel OK again may be hard on both of you. If you’re someone who’s prioritized your partner’s feelings instead of your own in the past, try to switch mindsets and focusing on your own happiness and well-being. Take some time to really think about what makes you happy, whether it’s hanging out with your friends, trying a new workout class, or eating your bodyweight in double-stuff oreos (all three are equally valid options, IMO).

It’s OK to care about someone and move on without them.

This mantra can be the hardest to internalize. When you’re so used to having your life intertwined with someone else’s, it can be extremely difficult to imagine yourself moving on without them, especially if there’s no bad blood between the two of you. Just because you want to go your separate ways doesn’t mean you don’t still care about each other — it can just means that you’re ready to start a new chapter in your life and figure out who you are as an individual.

I deserve to be in a relationship that fulfills me.

We’re all tired of hearing the cliché: “there are plenty more fish in the sea”, but sometimes, it really can help put things in perspective. Currently, there are over 7.5 billion people on this planet, so your odds of finding a relationship that’s fulfilling, exciting, and uplifting are fortunately pretty high. Keep reminding yourself that there’s probably someone better out there, and that you deserve to love and be loved unconditionally.

 

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Is My Partner In Love With Me? 9 Unconscious Things They’ll Do If They Are

It can be fun to look for signs your partner is in love, especially if they aren’t really the type to say it out loud. Not everyone, after all, feels comfortable expressing those three big words — “I love you” — or sharing their feelings. And that’s OK.

These can also come in handy at the very start of a relationship, before you both come out and say how you feel. There might be clues that mean your partner is in love, including the little unconscious things they’re likely do and say throughout the day.

Whether it’s the way they look at you, the questions they ask, or the ways they help you out, it can all point to love. You can still confirm it in other ways, however, if you’re wondering how they truly feel, in order to ensure you’re both on the same page regarding the status of your relationship.

“It’s always fine to ask what your partner is feeling in a relationship, especially if you are reading signs, but receiving very little direct communication,” Jonathan Bennett, relationship and dating expert at Double Trust Dating, tells us. Sometimes, you just need to say it out loud so you both know. But until then, keep an eye out for the unconscious things your partner might do if they’re in love, according to experts.

1. They’re More Affectionate

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“A partner who is truly falling in love might unconsciously be more affectionate in very tender ways,” Dr. Carla Marie Manly, PhD, a clinical psychologist, relationship expert, and author of Joy from Fear, tells us. “As defenses are reduced by emotional connection, physical displays of affection often naturally — and unconsciously — increase.”

They might lean in for kisses more often, tenderly brush your hair back from your face, or even wipe food off your lip. And you’ll probably feel compelled to do the same. These gestures show you’re comfortable around each other, and want to make each other feel secure and happy.

2. They Like To Be Close

In a similar vein, you might notice that they look for ways to be closer to you physically, in sweet ways. “This isn’t just during sexual contact, but even casually and subconsciously, like holding your hand while sitting, putting an arm around you when walking, and so on,” Bennett says.

If you two kept some distance before — possibly by walking side by side or feeling nervous about holding hands — you might be more into the idea of closing that gap, simply because you both want to.

3. They Help You Out In Small Ways

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You know someone’s in love if they suddenly want to run boring errands with you, just because it means spending time together. But the same can be true if you notice a shift from your partner focusing solely on themselves to focusing more on your needs, too.

“Love can be unconsciously displayed through increased awareness of the other person’s needs — both emotional and physical,” Manly says. “True love for another person unconsciously changes one’s orientation away from the self and toward the other person, and this results in thoughtful actions that are reflective of loving awareness.”

Instead of just making coffee for themselves, for example, they’ll begin to unconsciously pour two cups. Simple moments like these can reveal a lot.

4. They Start Saying “We”

“Love often translates unconsciously into inclusive, couple-type actions that generate more of a sense of ‘we’ rather than ‘I’,” Manly says. So if you notice that your partner starts speaking about you as a unit, take it as a sign.

“Vocabulary may unconsciously shift accordingly to reflect an orientation toward partnership,” Manly says, “such as ‘Maybe we can plan on going camping this fall?’ or ‘Wouldn’t it be great if we could find a dog to adopt someday?'”

This shows they’re thinking about you as a duo as well as looking towards the future, which is a path you’ll be way more likely to head down as a couple, if you’re both madly in love.

5. They Make More Eye Contact

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Eye contact can be pretty intense between two people who love each other, so if you notice your partner staring deeply into your eyes, there’s a good chance they’re in love.

“This can include making eye contact, but also simply looking at you randomly,” Bennett says. “If your partner can’t stop looking at you and even can’t seem to help staring, it’s a clear sign of intense attraction and love.”

You might catch them gazing at you from across the room, even when you aren’t doing anything particularly interesting. If they have feelings, their eyes will naturally settle on you more often, without them even realizing it.

6. They Prioritize Hanging Out

People want to hang out with those they care about, Bennett says, so if your partner wants to be around you more often — even if it’s just to do nothing — that can be a sign of love. And the same is true if they start choosing to hang out as a couple over other activities.

While it’s always good to have your own lives and hobbies going on outside the relationship, being in love can mean wanting to spend all your time together and prioritizing the relationship, especially in those early days.

7. They Call With Big News

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Whether it’s good or bad, it shows you mean a lot to your partner if you’re one of the first people they call with big news, and that’s because it’s a sign “they feel connected and safe to be vulnerable with you,” Christine Scott-Hudson, MA, MFT, ATR, a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in creative healing and art therapy, and owner of Create Your Life Studio, tells us. “If your partner makes you and your relationship a priority and treats it as such, they likely value you and what you have together.”

8. They Ask Lots Of Questions

You might also notice a shift in the conversation leaning more towards what you want and what you think. And that can be yet another sign your partner is focused on you, wants to know more about your inner world, and that they’re making you a priority.

“If your partner wants to know everything from your favorite color to your deepest secrets, it’s pretty clear that they can’t get enough of you,” Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, tells us.

9. They Light Up When They See You

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“Whether or not your partner realizes it, the way they react to seeing you walk into a room says a ton about the way they really feel about being around you,” Trombetti says. “It can be something as big as a hug or as simple as a smile. All that matters is that they show some enthusiasm to see you.”

Without even realizing it, your partner may start to do these things as they fall in love, and as your relationship grows. Holding hands, making more eye contact, and putting you first can all point to how they feel, even if they haven’t said it out loud.

You can, however, always confirm your hunch by asking, as well as talking about where your relationship is going, in order to make sure you both share strong feelings — and want the same things.

 

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