I’ve just been notified by WordPress that after 2 1/2 years of writing this blog I’ve written a 1000 posts!!!
It’s been an incredible journey to finally be writing again. I started out in this life as an artist. Then a musician, and then a writer.
But life, marriage, a child, and a career removed me from all of that. Other people needed me and the bills had to be paid.
But after 10 years I decided to write again.
I created Phicklephilly in the spring of 2016 and then did nothing.
By the fall I asked myself, is this something you’re going to talk about in bars with your friends and never do? I had discussed the notion of writing a blog about my life with many of my friends. One who is a better and more visceral writer than myself.
But I started to write.
I published a post about a waitress I had been infatuated with for some time on a Monday.
I worried no one would read it or like it. I worried that I wouldn’t be able to come up with content every Monday.
But I did.
Then I started writing updates for a Wednesday release.
Once the wheel started to roll, I did what needed to be done.
Writing is a hard lonely existence.
It’s something that you have to push yourself to do. Especially in the beginning. But like anything you really want you push yourself to do.
You begin a fitness program and you stick with it. The muscles grow and the fat disappears. You keep at it and then it gets easier.
I started to write like mad. Cranking out content until I had something happening few times a week.
Then I found other things I liked and started to write about them. The Tanning salon, Tales of Rock, Crazy dates I’d been on in the past. Celebrities I’d met, and most of all, past relationships.
Some beautiful. Some bittersweet.
I’m not a great writer, but I kept at it. Like a pilot, I put in a certain number of hours until the plane called Phicklephilly soared.
And now here I am with all of you my loyal followers and readers after two and a half years of writing.
1000 posts and over 50,000 views!
I couldn’t be happier.
If you want to do something, don’t talk about it. Like Nike says: Just do it.
Push yourself. Who cares who reads it. Just create and express yourself.
I GUARANTEE you that if you start writing and keep at it, the rewards will be like pieces of gold falling into your lap.
When you write from the heart and tell the truth about everything in your life, (Not everything. Keep some of yourself for yourself. That belong to you.) You will find this liberating weight lifted from your shoulders.
Get it all out. The good, the bad and the ugly. Don’t be afraid. It’s just words. But it will lighten the load you’ve been carrying around your whole life.
Once you write it down and publish it… It’s gone but not invisible. But it’s out of you for the first time in your life. It’s now safely on the paper. You can understand what you’ve experienced so much better once you write about it.
You can look back on your work and your life and it’ so much easier to process, forgive and understand.
Writing Phicklephilly has been the most singular liberating experience of my adult life.
And there is so much more to tell.
I have so much more to say.
Knowing that these stories are now out on the internet forever. Even after I’m dead it is comforting.
Because they are no longer my responsibility. WordPress carries the weight for me now.
But by writing all of these stories guarantees my immortality.
I don’t need that, but it’s so much to live a simple, happy, and uncluttered life once you write.
I love most of what I’ve written. Everybody knows I hate writing dating and relationship advice but I found a way to keep it going for my readers who enjoy it.
I think my followers now know that I write Phicklephilly because of my simple love of creating. I’ve always been that way since I was a child. Drawing a picture. Sculpting something out of clay. Writing a song. Writing a book and a screenplay. Creating a comic strip.
I am an entity that apparently must always be creating and am happiest when I’m doing that very thing.
“If you live a life that is without the elements of who you really are you will not be happy.”
I feel happier than I have ever felt in my entire life.
I’ve lived a big exciting life. I’ve done a lot and experienced much. But it really comes down to a few simple components for me and please take heed if you wish.
- Your health is essential. You have that. you’re already winning.
- Surround yourself with good people. Whether they are friends, family or even some wonderful pet companions.
- Have something to do every day that you like to do. If you hate your job, find a better one that suits your life needs. It’s a third of your life, work. Why spend your day being miserable? Do something you don’t hate every day. It’s a short life. Enjoy yourself!
- To love and be loved. This is a tough one. Most people need this one. Love yourself and find someone else to love. If they love you back… Awesome!
- Have something to look FORWARD to. I don’t care what it is. Just have something. Brunch with a friend, a red envelope arriving from Netflix, a party, a day off, something you want to do that you made time to do.
The rest is just stuff and bullshit.
Focus on the top 5.
Thank you one and all for taking the time out of your busy lives to take the time to read my little blog about dating, relationships and a bunch of stuff from my life.
I wish I could throw a big party and invite each and every one of you and we could all hang out and really get to know one another.
I’ve had the joy to become friends with some of the other talented writers on WordPress and it has been an absolute delight.
So many great people on here.
I also really appreciate my friends who have read and have subscribed to Phicklephilly. I love knowing they are here with me on this journey of self discovery and I hope some of this will inspire them to push forward on their lives.
Two and a half years ago there was nothing. I decided to start to write and now this is here.
You can create anything you want. You just have to do it and do it every day.
Look what can happen if you put your mind to something.
I’m still going to try in 2019 to get a couple of books published on Amazon Kindle this year!
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!!!
Anything can be done, and you can do it too.
Please reach out to me for anything. I’ll always get back to as fast as I can.
My heart is full of love.
Life is good and my daughter Lorelei is healthy and happy, so that’s all I need.
Thank you one and all. This means the world to me and I hope you continue to enjoy the content I provide in 2019 and beyond!
There’s so much more to the story!!!
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