You Need This Relationship Advice Tailored To Your Zodiac Sign

If you think you’re the perfect partner, then I have some bad news for you: There’s no such thing. It is possible, however, to be the best partner you can be. No one is without their quirks and flaws (yes, even you, Leos), and being in a healthy relationship challenge you to find a balance between your ~true self~ and your idealized self. Should you change for anyone? LOL, no. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have room for improvement. Depending on your zodiac sign, the relationship advice that’s hardest to hear is oftentimes the advice you need the most.

Some relationship advice is helpful for anyone to keep in mind: Don’t harbor resentment. Don’t put yourself down. Don’t hog the covers in bed. Some advice, however, best applies to people born under a certain zodiac sign. After all, your sign can reflect your positive attributes as well as your shortcomings, both personally and romantically. Maybe your relationship could benefit from you speaking your mind more often. Maybe it would be helpful if you spent less time speaking and more time listening. For those looking to reach their full partner potential, this relationship advice tailed to your zodiac sign may just help.

Aries (March 21-April 19): Know When To Let Things Go

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Fierce and fiery Aries never back down from a challenge, but when the person they’re facing off against is their partner, Aries should try to pick their battles. Because of their competitive nature, rams have a tendency to consistently one-up or shut down the people around them. It’s tough for Aries to concede, but being a good SO means accepting you can’t always get your way.

Taurus (April 20-May 20): Try New Things

For Taureans, predictability is always preferable to the unexpected. As a fixed earth sign, the bulls of the zodiac aren’t ones for shaking things up, because why fix what’s not broken? Unfortunately, what feels comfortable to Taureans can feel a little stale for their partners. Stepping out of your comfort zone is hard for anyone, but a Taurus looking to keep their relationship feeling fresh shouldn’t be afraid to break from routine.

Gemini (May 21-June 20): Be Present

As social butterflies, Geminis love to feel engaged and connected at all times — which means they’re distracted 24/7. The twins of the zodiac can oftentimes be found scrolling through Instagram, contributing to six group chats, and watching TikToks all at the same time, which can leave their SO feeling a bit neglected. With their boo, Geminis should practice putting their phones away and giving their partner their undivided attention.

Cancer (June 21-July 22): Trust Your Partner

Beneath their hard shells, Cancers tend to be sensitive, vulnerable individuals who are quick to feel offense and easily bruised. A crab who is hurt never forgets that pain, which is why earning Cancers’ trust is usually a challenge. Until a Cancer opens their heart and believes their partner’s intentions are good, they’ll never be able to show that SO all the love they have to offer.

Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): Share The Spotlight

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Leos are used to being the stars of the show, but when that Leo is in a relationship, they need to accept they can’t always be in charge. The lions of the zodiac are natural-born leaders, and leading the pack is a responsibility they happily take on. Even if their SO is fine with letting them take the reins, Leos should make sure their partners’ opinions and ideas are always taken into consideration.

Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Embrace Your Partner’s Quirks

Ambitious Virgos hold themselves to high standards, and sometimes, they can’t help but project their personal expectations onto their SO. Those born under Virgo love helping out the people they care about, but they should remember there’s a difference between “encouraging” and “fixing.” While there’s nothing wrong with being a cheerleader, Virgos should learn to accept their partner for who they are, not who they could be if they reached their “full potential.”

Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Speak Up

As lovers of balance and unity, Libras will do pretty much anything to avoid conflict with their SO. However, in trying to satisfy their partners’ desires, those born under Libra can forget they have opinions and needs of their own. To avoid a one-sided relationship, these easygoing individuals could benefit from asserting themselves when they don’t agree with their partner. Conflict isn’t always a bad thing — having disagreements can actually be healthy.

Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Look On The Bright Side

Moody, broody Scorpios have a tendency to see the glass as half-empty, and that attitude can end up sabotaging their relationships. Rather than holding on to grudges and enacting self-fulfilling prophecies, Scorpios may want to try focusing on the positives. Yes, things could potentially go wrong. But a Scorpio can never know a relationship’s potential unless they open themselves to the possibilities.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Think Before You Speak

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One of the best things about Sagittarians is their honesty, but being honest to a fault is also one of the archers’ worst traits. Sags have approximately zero filters, which means they tend to blurt out whatever they’re thinking without ever considering the consequences. Don’t get me wrong-a good partner should be truthful and open. But there’s a fine line between honest and tactless, and Sags should take care not to cross it.

Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Accept The Unexpected

Life doesn’t always go according to plan, but for Caps, having their plans derailed is kind of a nightmare. When things go awry, Capricorns struggle to adapt to the change, and that can put a major strain on their romantic relationships. Goats can get so focused on the plan they forget to enjoy the moment. For them, learning to relinquish control and roll with the punches will spare both them and their SO a lot of unnecessary stress.

Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Practice Empathy

Aquarians have a reputation for being a tad unfeeling, and it’s because they spend so much time in their heads that they often fail to register their partners’ emotions. As inquisitive and intelligent as they are, an Aquarius can neglect to check in with their partner, and when their SO does express themselves, this sign tends to look for a rational explanation rather than offer support. For Aquarians, learning to listen and empathize can make a big difference.

Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): See Your SO For Who They Are

Pisceans are romantics, and these dreamy individuals can’t help but see the world through rose-colored glasses — especially while looking at their partner. A warning to all fish: Idealizing your SO doesn’t do either of you any favors. A Pisces who creates a romanticized version of their SO in their head will only find themselves let down by the real thing, and those born under this sign would benefit from seeing and loving their partners as the imperfect people they are.

You can’t control a relationship, but you can take control of who you are in that relationship. Small improvements make a big difference, friends.


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Your Worst Dating Habit, Based on Your Sign

Gemini, do NOT send that fourth text.

No matter what your Sun sign is, we can all agree that dating is hard. It’s even more challenging when you realize that one of your quirks (which you can blame on astrology, of course) is annoying your crush—without even noticing. The first step to fixing our bad dating habits is realizing what they are. Then, we can hopefully change the vibe on our next date (fingers crossed). BTW, we apologize in advance for the astrological dragging.


Your fiery nature makes your emotions erratic. In the course of one date, you can act super into your boo and then quickly turn standoffish. This yo-yo can make them unsure of how you ~really~ feel. Try meditating before going on your date so you’re de-stressed and chilled out.


You can get a little too flirty with people other than your date (while out with your date!), even though you’re just being your sweet self. However, this means you can sometimes be seen as though you’re not into your potential boo, even if you are. Try to focus on the one you’re with—you can still make a mental note to chat up the cute delivery driver the next time you order in solo.


Face facts, Gemini: You love to express yourself! But this can be an issue when you turn into a constant texter. The nonstop communication can make your crush feel overwhelmed. Word of advice: Put down the phone for a sec and save some stories to talk about on your date.


Here’s the tea: You can get too wrapped up in your emotions, which makes you want to stay in your shell rather than face the real world. Translation: You flake on dates if you’re in a mood, making them think you’re not into them.

Real talk: You tend to one-up your date, creating a competitive vibe. If they tell you a story about drama from high school, don’t immediately tell them an even more dramatic story from your high school days. Let them own their narrative and just listen.


You’re super intellectual and you have a lil bit of a snobby side—which can make your date feel like they don’t measure up. We all know you’re super smart, but you don’t have to quote Sartre on a date. Try to find common interests with your boo-to-be instead.


The problem with your dating style, Libra, is that you always have someone on the back burner—and your date can tell you’re not all in. So don’t make a backup plan. Be optimistic before hanging out and give them your undivided time and attention.


At times, you can be a tad obsessive about your exes, even if you’re sooo over them—which means you sometimes talk about them too much with your potential boo. This will either annoy your date or make them think you’re not ready to commit to a future.


You can’t keep yourself from crushing on two or three people at a time, which results in an overbooked schedule. Committing to one person is hard, especially when the world is one big party—but you can start by making definite plans for one date.


You want to date only those who are ~on your level~, so you can be a bit hard on the people you go out with. Try focusing on how much fun you have with them rather than quizzing them about their past GPA.


When you’re not feeling a person, you cut them off without explanation—and if your crush says something wrong, you’ll go cold in the middle of a date. This can result in confusion from your boo, who’s having a rad time. You’d rather not waste time engaging with people you’re not into, and that’s fair—but if it was a minor slip-up, try giving them a second chance.


Before you meet up in person, you do an internet deep dive to suss out their vibe…which means that when you’re on your date, you’ve already heard all their stories because you saw five years’ worth of their tweets. Oops. Try to limit your sleuthing to a quick Google so you’re able to get to know them IRL.


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Where You’ll Meet Your Next Casual Hookup, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Who says a meet-cute needs to lead to a long-term relationship? Whether you cross paths with a cutie at an open mic night or reach for the same Twilight bath bomb at the downtown Lush, when it comes to knowing where you’ll meet your next casual hookup, the options are truly endless. And if you’re looking for some extra celestial guidance in your search for your next hot and heavy hookup, following your zodiac sign can be super helpful.

From a karaoke dive bar to a dusty used book store, your next casual hookup may be out there, just waiting to be found. Of course, no matter your sign, the most important part of a hookup is discussing consent and boundaries before turning up the heat. Although a casual thing can be fun and flirty for all, making sure everyone is on the same page is always the first step to getting to it. There’s nothing cute about ghosting or miscommunication, no matter when you were born. But if you’re both clear about what you’re looking for, a casual hookup can be just what the love doctor ordered.

Here is where you’ll meet your next hookup, based on your zodiac sign.

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Aries (March 21–April 19): A Party

If you want to know where the party’s at, ask an Aries. A trendsetter and live wire, this fire sign is likely to meet their next hookup at a party, while dancing on a table or fighting over the AUX cord.

Taurus (April 20–May 20): A Lush Store

Ah, Taurus. The bull has a taste for the finer things in life and loves nothing more than to pamper themselves. From bath bombs to body balms, Taurus is likely to meet their next hookup at a Lush store, bonding over the latest luxe product.

Gemini (May 21–June 20): A Singles Mixer

This talkative air sign lives to flirt and will make it a point to get to places where they know there will be singles. An event centered around meeting new cuties? Count Gemini in.

Cancer (June 21–July 22): A Used Bookstore

Sentimental Cancer loves tradition and history. Intuitive and emotional, this crab isn’t often one for “casual hookups,” but will likely meet their next date at a used bookstore with lots of dust and a wise old man behind the counter.

Leo (July 23–Aug. 22): Doing Karaoke

Leo loves the limelight. Whether they’re doing a Spice Girls song with all of their friends or a Beyoncé solo performance, they’re likely to meet their next hookup at a karaoke bar, when all eyes are on them.

Virgo (Aug. 23–Sept. 22): The Grocery Store

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Virgos like to make a list and check it twice. Analytical and structured, they’re likely to meet their next hookup in the organic aisle of the grocery store, looking for fair trade vanilla and not straying from their lists.

Libra (Sept. 23–Oct. 22): A Nightclub

Lively Libra likes to hit the town with their friends. Charismatic and social, they’re likely to meet their next hookup dancing at their favorite club or waiting in line to get into the newest hot spot.

Scorpio (Oct. 23–Nov. 21): An Indie Movie House

Artsy Scorpio is intense. Poetic and sensual, they’re likely to meet their next hookup at the indie movie house they went to alone in the middle of the day (where they go to really sit with their thoughts).

Sagittarius (Nov. 22–Dec. 21): Literally Anywhere

When you look up “casual hookup” in the dictionary, you probably see Sagittarius. A free spirit and adventurous soul, this archer likes to go wherever the wind blows and loves to meet new cuties along the way. They’re likely to meet their next hookup literally wherever they go.

Capricorn (Dec. 22–Jan.19): On Tinder

Ambitious Capricorn doesn’t like to waste time. This earth sign is likely to meet their next hookup on Tinder, as they’re editing their resume and looking over their five-year plan.

Aquarius (Jan. 20–Feb. 18): Waiting For Your Uber

Quirky Aquarius dances to the beat of their own drum. One to talk to strangers and find themselves in new neighborhoods, they’re likely to meet their next hookup while waiting for their Uber home from somewhere they wandered to.

Pisces (Feb. 19–March 20): An Art Show

Dreamy Pisces is creative and imaginative. Drawn to art and cultural events, they’ll likely meet their next hookup at an art show or opening for an edgy new sculptor or avant-garde digital filmmaker-turned-oil-painter.

Whether you cross eyes at the supermarket or bump into each other at a bar, Your next casual hookup could be right around the corner.



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All About Leo: The Good, the Bad, and the Glamorous

They’re famous for being famous.

You already know: Every sign of the zodiac has personality qualities and archetypal traits associated with it. Let’s get into some vibes we often associate with Leo—the good, the bad, and the glamorous—shall we?

(Pause for a quick disclaimer: Before reading on, please remember the first astrological commandment, *thou shalt not astroprofile*, and know that literally any sign can have any personality quality. These are simply the ones most commonly associated with our Leo friends—those born July 22 to August 22. Also, the ways these qualities get expressed vary from person to person. I’m a Leo, so I know.)


As the Sun-ruled lion of the zodiac, Leo is the ruler of the jungle…and the office. Think about the Sun’s position in the sky—all the planets revolve around it as they receive its light. So it tracks that Leos are famous for…well, being famous. Wherever they are, they *shine*. And when you’re on their team at the office, it can feel like the light of the Sun is right on you when they offer attention. Your Leo coworker is fiercely loyal, always has your back, and is a pro at spotting natural talent—they’re a leader through and through. People naturally look to Leo for direction, energy, and warmth. The dark side of all this sunny generosity? Leo casts a big shadow and sometimes has to be reminded to move over so that others can have their turn in the spotlight.


Your Leo lover is 🔥🔥🔥. They’re a fixed fire sign, so we’re talking about a slow and steady fire that just keeps going (unlike fellow fire sign Aries, who is more in danger of burning out). For a Leo, romance, passion, and love (Leo rules the heart, BTW) are nonnegotiable. Like the Sun that rules them, Leo is endlessly generous with their love and attention—and expects the same in return. The lion’s kingdom is filled with reverence and adoration. The danger of dating a Leo? They can be easily disappointed when their partners don’t live up to their expectations.


When a Leo steps into the room, heads turn. Leos are known for their loyalty to those they care about, and your Leo friend will fiercely protect you and your whole crew. At its best, friendship with a Leo can feel like you’re seated on a throne too. Whether at a large group hangout, an intimate dinner party, or a one-on-one coffee date, Leo brings the party. The beauty of a Leo friendship is that you’ll always feel important. Leos love to point out how famous, talented, brilliant, and beautiful their friends are. They’ll compliment you on your successes and support you through your failures. The dark side of a Leo friendship usually has something to do with their notorious stubbornness—it’s Leo’s way or the highway.


Party hard, work hard, play hard, rest hard—Leo famously requires loads of energy. Checking in on a Leo at home can mean getting a glimpse into their need to recharge and relax in luxury. Leo, like the lion, generally does well living in groups as opposed to solo. If they’re not living with their partner, they’ll probably have a slew of roommates. In either situation, their pure Leo energy means they’ll typically take the role of house leader, with everyone in the pack syncing up to the king of the jungle. Even the shyest Leos have a hint of royal energy, and you’ll find bright gold, purple, and red in their decor as they waltz around in an Instagram-ready bathrobe.


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How Each Zodiac Sign Sabotages Their Chances Of Finding Love, According To Astrology

Love like you’ve never been hurt.

Love can really feel like a losing game. There’s no way to truly predict the outcome of a relationship. It’s not even uncommon for people in relationships to be unaware of what they want or think they want, only to realize they don’t actually want it at all.

Let’s say you end up getting the guy and the relationship you want. That doesn’t always mean it’s going to last. There could be a lot of unforeseen obstacles that result in a breakup. Past heartbreak, lack of trust, cheating, and red flags — all can lead to breakups.

We can’t always prevent breakups, but we can always learn from them. Unfortunately, each zodiac sign in astrology can sabotage their chances of finding lasting love.

Rather than asking yourself, “Will I ever find love?” don’t look at your past breakups as failures. Instead, look at them as experiences that are bringing you one step closer to learning what you want and deserve in a relationship.

Breakups make us aware of how we can become better partners in our next relationship. When we are aware of the characteristics we have that sabotage our love lives, we can start to improve upon them. Awareness is the key to having a better love life.

When you’re aware of your faults, don’t beat yourself up. Everyone makes stupid decisions when they’re blinded by love, so work towards not allowing your past mistakes to occur in your future partnerships.

If you’ve ever wondered if your zodiac sign plays a factor at the end of your relationship, it’s important to look at zodiac compatibility. Astrological compatibility is a good indicator of the likelihood your relationship will succeed.

ARIES (March 21 – April 19)

Aries want what they want — and they want it now. Compromise and patience are not their strong suits. In a relationship, these two factors are vital to its longevity. A relationship works around the needs and wants of two people, not just Aries. This “me first” mentality sabotages the whole relationship.

Aries needs to learn how to manage their anger. They cannot get upset with their partners over the smallest things. Erratic spells of anger can make the other partner feel unsafe because they are never certain how far Aries’ anger could escalate. This creates an unsafe environment.

TAURUS (April 20 – May 20)

Taurus can be very possessive in a relationship. They need to understand that they don’t own their partners. Their partner is a person, not an object. Both partners are individuals, even if they are in a committed relationship. Taurus’ possessive nature makes their partner feel trapped.

The jealousy that comes with the objectification of a partner never ends well. Too much jealousy is not a good thing in a relationship. Taurus’ partner will feel as though their partner doesn’t trust them.

GEMINI (May 21 – June 20)

Geminis can be really co-dependent. These social beautifies love to be in the company of others and enjoy being the center of attention. It’s great to spend quality time with your significant other, but you both should have your own lives. Gemini’s partner might feel smothered if they constantly want to hang out.

Geminis are extremely loyal, so if their partner isn’t the same, this will definitely cause a problem. They want to belive their partner is just as loyal as them. Any instances of disloyalty will cause Gemini to question their partner and the relationship, and they won’t be able to trust their partner after.

CANCER (June 21 – July 22)

Cancer’s manipulative characteristics ruin relationships for them. No one wants to feel as though their partner is pulling wool over their eyes. This will cause Cancer’s partner to question everything they say. The lack of trust that results from Cancer’s manipulation is the reason for the end of a relationship.

People want to feel that their partner has their best interest at heart. Cancer tends to have their own best interest at heart and often takes on the victim role. They don’t take responsibility for their wrongdoings.

LEO (July 23 – August 22)

Leos have very strong personalities. Their assertiveness can really be a turn-off because they don’t want to compromise. Leo’s confidence can turn into cockiness very fast, where they aren’t willing to hear their partner out or consider their opinions.

Leos like things to go their way. When they don’t, it doesn’t go well with them. They are stubborn people who don’t want to change their minds. Trying to get a Leo to try something that makes them uncomfortable is almost impossible.

VIRGO (August 23 – September 22)

Virgos are complete perfectionists. They want everything to go as planned. When it comes to relationships, things are hardly ever perfect. People make mistakes, so Virgo’s need for perfection can cause unnecessary conflicts. If they want their relationship to last they have to stop being so analytical.

Since Virgo is a perfectionist, they can be very critical of their partner. Being overly critical makes their partner feel self-conscious and not good enough. Virgo’s judgment is what makes it hard for them to have successful relationships.

LIBRA (September 23 – October 22)

Libra’s indecision can ruin relationships because they might not be sure how serious or chill they want the relationship to be. Mixed signals can be cute for a little bit, but they don’t sustain long-term relationships. Knowing where you stand defines the relationship’s tone, and Libra’s inability to make a choice can potentially cause them to lose great partners.

Libra’s struggle to open up also makes their partner feel distant. They never want to express their true emotions to maintain the harmony of the environment. Their obsessive need for balance can be the very cause of the demise of their relationship.

SCORPIO (October 23 – November 21)

Scorpios are very independent. They want to solve everything on their own. This can make their partner feel as if they don’t want them to truly be part of their lives. Scorpios struggle with making their partners feel unneeded. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t make them feel wanted.

Since Scorpio is also secretive, they don’t want to share their business or be vulnerable. Part of being in a relationship is being able to share your life with someone, and this zodiac sign struggles with making room for their partner.

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 – December 21)

Sagittarius overthink way too much, and overthinking kills relationships. Overthinking makes you come up with problems that don’t even exist or causes you to think the smallest problems are unsolvable. Sagittarius tend to stress themselves out over non-existent problems, which creates problems with their partner.

Sagittarius’ need to know everything doesn’t help a relationship either. People don’t want to feel forced into opening up, so Sagittarius has to learn how to allow people to open up on their own terms.

CAPRICORN (December 22 – January 19)

An important aspect of a relationship is forgiveness. You have to be willing to “forgive and forget” the wrongdoings of your partner. Unfortunately, Capricorns are not even close to being the most forgiving zodiac sign. When they get hurt by their partner, they don’t speak up to solve the problem. Instead, Capricorn acts as if nothing is wrong and continue to harbor resentment towards their partner.

When Capricorn bottles up all their emotions, this results in them not being able to be vulnerable with their partner, which makes them come off as distant. Emotional distance in a relationship is seldom good because your partner should be the first person you call when you’re at your highest and lowest moments. Capricorn’s partner will feel this emotional rift and start to feel inadequate.

AQUARIUS (January 20 – February 18)

Aquarius are not ones to express their feelings. They would much rather look at things from a logical perspective. Having a partner who can see things for what they truly are is great, but if they’re always thinking with their heads, they won’t be as sympathetic.

It’s hard for an Aquarius partner to relate to the emotional hardships their partner is dealing with because they’ll approach everything with logic. Sometimes when your partner tells you something, they just want to know that you hear and understand them. A solution isn’t always needed.

Aquarians aren’t much of commitment people either. They would much rather enjoy the freedom that comes from their independence, than feel trapped in a relationship. Aquarius can be perceived as detached in romantic relationships because they put their needs first.

PISCES (February 19 – March 20)

Pieces tend to come off as overly emotional. As you can imagine, that’s a turn-off for a lot of people. No one wants a significant other who cries because their ice cream cone fell or who can’t take constructive criticism.

In a relationship, it’s inevitable that your partner will do stuff that upsets you, and the only way to fix that is to say something about it. But when you’re dating a Pisces, it’s so much more difficult to be transparent about your dislikes because you’re worried about your feelings.

Pisces being overly sensitive makes their partner feel as though they have to walk around on eggshells. No one wants to have to tip-toe around tough topics with their significant other out of fear of them overreacting. This will definitely cause an emotional rift in the relationship if not resolved.


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